Problem with my gf and my parents

[alltimeGreg]

So my gf moved in around october, now i still live with my parents. She got kicked out of her grandmoms house and has no place to go. So tonight since we spend about all day everyday together she asked me if she could stay at a friends house. He is male and one of her old exes from a few years back but have been good friends ever since. Now tonight my parents freaked the fuck out saying she is using me and that she is obviously sleeping in the same bed as he is, its fucking crazy. If she isn't around me my parents think the worst of her and i dont believe that it is fair to me or her. So i come on pl to look for any kind of advice. I dont know what to do with my current situation and im stressing the hell out over here.

[PaperLantern]

Girlfriend going to live with ex boyfriend? Yeah........... I don't think I would have any of that.

Good luck with that bro.

[alltimeGreg]

Shes not living with him just staying one night over there.

[PaperLantern]

Oh. Well that's different. I'd still be suspicious, but I don't really know the entire situation so I can't comment.

[underatortoise]

She probably just needs some time away. People can get annoying after a while, not matter how much you like them. Maybe ask her if there is absolutely any other place she could stay. If not, pay for a hotel room. Girl sleeping at ex's is probs not good.

[danielineffigy]

This is fucking stupid.

Tell her no or she's out of your house.

[alltimeGreg]

Shes said she just need time away and this ex has been her friend since before i met her. I just cant take how my parents look at the situation

[AndrewIcex]

Um, why is this even a topic of discussion? Don't let this shit happen, ever.

[tkamB]

I wouldn't trust the guy tbh. Like was already mentioned, try to get her a hotel or something.

[apoemtothedead]

Quit being a pussy.

[HometownHero]

Lay down the fucking law. Its your house or no house.

[Whalejaw]

Why do you spend all day every day together? Don't either of you have work and/or classes to be at? She really shouldn't be spending the night at an ex-boyfriend's house. Your parents have good reason to be concerned. Girls can be very manipulative, and this situation just screams of her holding onto you since she's got no where else to go while she fools around on the side.

[Sic Transit Zeb]

hmm yeah, I mean....don't know all the details but it does seem weird. If she just needs time away aren't her friends a viable option?

[Reaver]

Why do you spend all day every day together? Don't either of you have work and/or classes to be at? She really shouldn't be spending the night at an ex-boyfriend's house. Your parents have good reason to be concerned. Girls can be very manipulative, and this situation just screams of her holding onto you since she's got no where else to go while she fools around on the side.
I completely agree with this.

[ReadyForAction]

You're as dumb as you look

[MegSo]

Why do you spend all day every day together? Don't either of you have work and/or classes to be at? She really shouldn't be spending the night at an ex-boyfriend's house. Your parents have good reason to be concerned. Girls can be very manipulative, and this situation just screams of her holding onto you since she's got no where else to go while she fools around on the side.

This. If I spent all day every day with my boyfriend, I think we'd kill each other.

Get her a hotel room, tell her to sleep on the couch. Does she not have any girl friends she can stay with? If she needs a night away from you, why is she going to spend it with a guy? Doesn't add up.

[Deadbolt23]

Ask her to stay with a different friend, and tell your parents to shut their traps.

[introduction]

definitely a big no-no. a BIIIG no-no.

[Sloth7]

Your parents are completely justified in acting the way they did. The act of sleeping over your ex's is completely unacceptable. I think she's manipulating you, so I can only imagine what your parents think. They let her in their house, I'm assuming they do provide her with food and use of their utilities too, and she goes to stay over her ex boyfriend's? That's crap. You shouldn't be standing for that either. Put your foot down man. Even if nothing happens, it's a matter of respect, and she clearly doesn't respect you if she's doing this.

[SomedayTheFire]

Seriously dude, she's just gonna fuck him all night.

[tottivillarossi]

5-some?

[overdrive91]

Just no. Nothing good can come out of this.

[cristinaa]

This is definitely really weird. If she needed time away couldn't she stay at a female friends house? Also, if she wanted to see her ex and if they're such good friends, why wouldn't they just hang out? There is no good reason why she needs to sleep at his house.

[Macbeth.]

This is definitely really weird. If she needed time away couldn't she stay at a female friends house? Also, if she wanted to see her ex and if they're such good friends, why wouldn't they just hang out? There is no good reason why she needs to sleep at his house.

This.

I mean I know you don't want to seem untrusting, but sleeping over is a little far especially with an ex

[And Hours Pass]

This is definitely really weird. If she needed time away couldn't she stay at a female friends house? Also, if she wanted to see her ex and if they're such good friends, why wouldn't they just hang out? There is no good reason why she needs to sleep at his house.
Here's your answer.

Your parentals only have your best interest in mind. Sleeping at an exboyfriend's house? That is not something I would agree to.

[Deevo]

She's completely manipulating you. Please do not let this happen.

[rhinitus]

This is one of those things where she promises you nothing is happening now, and when you find out she's cheating on you she turns it around on you and says something like "Well you should have known...I was sleeping over at my ex-boyfriend's house"

I know it sucks to hear...but even the fact that she asked is a glaring red flag. Or she's just really dumb. Either way you should check your current situation.

[bradsonemanband]

Why do you spend all day every day together? Don't either of you have work and/or classes to be at? She really shouldn't be spending the night at an ex-boyfriend's house. Your parents have good reason to be concerned. Girls can be very manipulative, and this situation just screams of her holding onto you since she's got no where else to go while she fools around on the side.

definitely this

[katiebobatie]

This is definitely really weird. If she needed time away couldn't she stay at a female friends house? Also, if she wanted to see her ex and if they're such good friends, why wouldn't they just hang out? There is no good reason why she needs to sleep at his house.

agreed. no reason they can't hang out as friends, but sleeping over is odd. does she have no girl friends? the bigger issue here is the fact that you two are spending every waking moment together and that is what is more likely to end your relationship than her ex boyfriend. you have to have your own lives too, otherwise you guys will get sick of each other or feel smothered. i really don't understand... she's living at your house for free and doesn't have a job?

[thechetearly]

So my gf moved in around october, now i still live with my parents. She got kicked out of her grandmoms house and has no place to go. So tonight since we spend about all day everyday together she asked me if she could stay at a friends house. He is male and one of her old exes from a few years back but have been good friends ever since. Now tonight my parents freaked the fuck out saying she is using me and that she is obviously sleeping in the same bed as he is, its fucking crazy. If she isn't around me my parents think the worst of her and i dont believe that it is fair to me or her. So i come on pl to look for any kind of advice. I dont know what to do with my current situation and im stressing the hell out over here.

No way brother.

If you want to save yourself heartbreak, break up with her man. But I honestly believe with stuff like this you DO have a gut feeling if she's screwing the other dude or not. I'd say take that and run with it.

But I wouldn't touch that girl in a hot second if she's staying with an ex, I don't give a damn how good of friends they are, that's fishy as hell.

[alltimeGreg]

All her girlfriends are away at college. It just fucking stressful, shes does work but shes also goes to school. Me and this other guy are essentially her only other friends right now. So thats why i just didn't want to seem untrusting

[Lycareth]

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on the serious side. Though some can always be friends with ex's and such. It's a simple fact that males and females can rarely stay JUST friends, or JUST have a living arrangement. I mean hell even the fact that the guy probably didn't even come to you to talk about it says something. It's whatever though, you get just be lucky and have a kick ass trustworthy girlfriend.

[Lloyd Christmas]

i think your parent's opinion is the last thing you should be worrying about.

[reformryan]

girls not worth your time

[apsterling]

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But seriously, probably not a good idea to let her do that.

[xcloud66x]

just her at her ex's? are you retarded? unless there are other people around there's obviously somethin going on

[Kill_the_radio]

your gf is an all time hoe!

[terror_91]

You're as dumb as you look
Haha

But yeah, she is fucking/desperately wants to fuck or has already fucked him

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[SouthernCross40]

You do realize that at this point it's like 40 posts of near consensus "ARE YOU STUPID!!??" right?

But yeah dude, go with your heart...butterflies and rainbows and behind your back buttsecks...

[davey666]

Are You Stupid!!??

[SLoT]

Simple. If you trust her, no problem. If you don't and she goes anyway, she's not coming back, and it's over. Either way...tell your parents to shut the fuck up.

[ripkarson]

If she really loves you, then she won't do anything. If she doesn't love you then....sorry buddy :[

[SouthernCross40]

Are You Stupid!!??

Thank you good sir

[EvilZeppelin]

she's fucking him.

[davey666]

It's lose-lose. You come off like either an asshole or a pussy. But at least you keep some dignity if you put your foot down. I'd tell her that I'm not forbidding her from going, but she might as well stay over there.

[kbi the crowing]

So my gf moved in around october, now i still live with my parents. She got kicked out of her grandmoms house and has no place to go. So tonight since we spend about all day everyday together she asked me if she could stay at a friends house. He is male and one of her old exes from a few years back but have been good friends ever since. Now tonight my parents freaked the fuck out saying she is using me and that she is obviously sleeping in the same bed as he is, its fucking crazy. If she isn't around me my parents think the worst of her and i dont believe that it is fair to me or her. So i come on pl to look for any kind of advice. I dont know what to do with my current situation and im stressing the hell out over here.

If you trust her, then whatever.
If you don't, talk to her about it.

You pretty much gave to deal with your parents because you are living in their house. Not much you can do about it.

[Alex_supertramp]

This is fucking stupid.

Tell her no or she's out of your house.

this. have the ex bf to your house if she wants to see him THAT bad but stayin with him is not something i would go for.

[danielineffigy]

It's not a lose-lose. If you tell her "no", you aren't being unfair. Your parents let her stay in their house with you, and she needs time away so she goes to her ex-boyfriend's house for a night? Seriously?

Girls are only as manipulative as you allow them to be, and telling her you're ok with this makes you a fucking moron. You should probably just dump her now because no girl who has any amount of respect, decency, or gratitude would do this shit.

[mybreakingpoint]

wow, it's cool to be trusting and all, but letting her stay at her ex's house? that's, uh, pretty risky, i'd say...

[knorr45]

I guess if you're okay with her ex fucking her then there's no problem.

[justinjagged]

yeah dude, trust better be huge in this situation

[arizonahotrock]

I'm going to be the one that goes against the grain...

So, she's staying at a friend's house, who happens to be a guy, who happens to be her ex?

Yeah...so what?

He's her EX for a reason.

If she's done nothing previously to warrant any kind of mistrust, I don't think you have a reason to think that something sketchy is going to happen.

Afterall, if she really wanted to fuck him, she's probably not going to say she's staying there.

NOW...

As for your parents...I would just talk to them and say "Look, I know it seems shady and odd, but he's really her only friend in the area and she needs to get out a bit. I trust her, please do the same."

That should be the end of it...if not, there's probably underlying issues there that need to be addressed, and should be done when she's not around.


You're not stupid, don't let these jagaloons make you think that. Being able to trust someone isn't a bad thing.

[Whalejaw]

You have absolutely no idea why he's her ex though. Maybe she got dumped and still has feelings for the guy. Maybe she cheated on him. There's probably like a 1% chance that the break-up was mutual and there is no sexual attraction between them left.

Until the OP comes back with a lot more details about his situation the smart thing to do is play it safe, which means don't let her sleep over with her ex.

[arizonahotrock]

You have absolutely no idea why he's her ex though. Maybe she got dumped and still has feelings for the guy. Maybe she cheated on him. There's probably like a 1% chance that the break-up was mutual and there is no sexual attraction between them left.

I'm sure the OP knows why they aren't together anymore.

[Whalejaw]

I'm sure the OP knows why they aren't together anymore.

Yes, but we don't. So until he tell us it's really bad advice to just tell him to trust her implicitly.

[warstory]

It's cool that you trust her :)
I've slept at an ex's house without anything remotely sexual happening
I guess it depends on the people
but if I had a boyfriend I don't think I would ever leave his house to sleep with an ex.. if I were tired of him or needed a change of scenery I would find somewhere better than an ex's house to stay
I can definitely see why your parents would think she's using you
but that doesn't mean they're right

[arizonahotrock]

Yes, but we don't. So until he tell us it's really bad advice to just tell him to trust her implicitly.

OK...but, using that line of thinking...why is it any better advice to tell him he's stupid and he shouldn't even think of trusting her?

Clearly he wasn't upset about her going to spend the night at her ex's...He's more upset about his parents coming down on him for it.

I took that as trust not being an issue between the couple.

[cory-182]

You seem to put a little too much into this girl. That's never a good thing.

If you're nice enough to take her off the street and bring her in, she should know better than to sleep over at her ex's house. That's fucked.

[Whalejaw]

OK...but, using that line of thinking...why is it any better advice to tell him he's stupid and he shouldn't even think of trusting her?

Clearly he wasn't upset about her going to spend the night at her ex's...He's more upset about his parents coming down on him for it.

I took that as trust not being an issue between the couple.

I don't agree with insulting him because he's clearly pretty naive and if he could understand the situation he wouldn't have made the thread. That's why he should listen to my original reply :-)

[3wotkris]

i feel for the OP big time, sure I think its fishy and a bad idea but some of you posters are being fucking awful to him.

In fairness I honestly believe your girl might well be trustworthy, but if you even doubt it for a second you should call it out, plain and simple. And if she gets worked up that you're worried then she clearly doesn't give a shit.

[Whalejaw]

i feel for the OP big time, sure I think its fishy and a bad idea but some of you posters are being fucking awful to him.

In fairness I honestly believe your girl might well be trustworthy, but if you even doubt it for a second you should call it out, plain and simple. And if she gets worked up that you're worried then she clearly doesn't give a shit.

What is wrong with you people? Even if she's completely trustworthy why would his girlfriend sleeping over at an ex-boyfriend's place ever be on the table? When you're committed to a person doing something like that is just a slap in their face.

[3wotkris]

What is wrong with you people? Even if she's completely trustworthy why would his girlfriend sleeping over at an ex-boyfriend's place ever be on the table? When you're committed to a person doing something like that is just a slap in their face.

Imo, it all depends on the circumstances of said 'ex', as in, how long were they together, how long ago, how it ended etc etc.

But yeah I never backed this idea at all.

[jeremyc]

hopefully some of these responses didn't ruin this dudes day

[arizonahotrock]

What is wrong with you people? Even if she's completely trustworthy why would his girlfriend sleeping over at an ex-boyfriend's place ever be on the table? When you're committed to a person doing something like that is just a slap in their face.

I think you are putting too much stock into the "ex" part of this.

He said that he was an ex "from a few years back" and they've been great friends ever since...

Believe it or not...it actually does happen that way sometimes. I'm good friends with an ex of mine, and my girlfriend counts one of her exes as a "best friend."

Sometimes people date, it doesn't work in that way, but they realize friendship can be had from it.

[timb89]

yeah thats a no. you gotta have some freedom in a relationship. but there are somethings a girl shouldn't ask of you.

[timb89]

I think you are putting too much stock into the "ex" part of this.

He said that he was an ex "from a few years back" and they've been great friends ever since...

Believe it or not...it actually does happen that way sometimes. I'm good friends with an ex of mine, and my girlfriend counts one of her exes as a "best friend."

Sometimes people date, it doesn't work in that way, but they realize friendship can be had from it.

yeah but if he is worried about he wouldn't be posting about it.

guys are dicks, i wouldn't be cool with it... unless i was the guy who's house she slept over at (point proven).

[Whalejaw]

I think you are putting too much stock into the "ex" part of this.

He said that he was an ex "from a few years back" and they've been great friends ever since...

Believe it or not...it actually does happen that way sometimes. I'm good friends with an ex of mine, and my girlfriend counts one of her exes as a "best friend."

Sometimes people date, it doesn't work in that way, but they realize friendship can be had from it.

It's actually very rare, and most of the time people that think they're friends with their ex are lying to themselves or unaware of unresolved feelings between them. In your situation, you and your girlfriend would both be completely okay with each of you spending the night with your exes?

[spunkmastaflex]

Lay down the fucking law. Its your house or no house.

amen brotha

[alltimeGreg]

alright down to the details between her and her ex. They went out for a few months, and they mutually broke up over unresolved issues and shit. The kid is a friend of mine and like other people in the thread have said, she hasn't done anything for me to distrust her.

[Fullblast]

With a name like "alltimeGreg", you don't deserve help. LOL pwnage

[Whalejaw]

alright down to the details between her and her ex. They went out for a few months, and they mutually broke up over unresolved issues and shit. The kid is a friend of mine and like other people in the thread have said, she hasn't done anything for me to distrust her.

Well then you don't really have any problems. You live with your parents and they're doing you quite a big favor by putting a roof over your girlfriend's head. There is plenty of reasoning as to why they have those thoughts about your girlfriend. Man up and talk to them or move out.

[Tiffany:3]

uh,why wouldn't she be staying at your house if your parents have a problem with her staying at different guys house?:unsure:

[arizonahotrock]

It's actually very rare, and most of the time people that think they're friends with their ex are lying to themselves or unaware of unresolved feelings between them. In your situation, you and your girlfriend would both be completely okay with each of you spending the night with your exes?

Yeah, I know for a fact I wouldn't care if she stayed with her ex. I'm trusting but I'm not naive, either. I'd know if she did something she shouldn't have. She's definitely stayed over at other guys' places before and I've had ZERO issue with it.

She may not enjoy or necessarily WANT me to stay at my ex's, but she wouldn't have any major issues with it if I said, "Hey, I'm going over to (ex's name's) and I'll probably be spending the night."

I guess we're weird?

The fact of the matter is that living with someone is a completely different animal. Sometimes you just need to get away from eachother, and she's clearly in the position of not having anyone else but this guy, who happens to be an ex, but a friend first. So she wants to go spend a night over his place hanging out and doing something different than what she constantly does? I really don't see the issue in this...maybe that's because I've been in a very similar situation before.

[tommy's ghost]

My girlfriend would be more than thrilled to be living with me. I have no clue how the idea of her sleeping over at an ex-boyfriend's house for no discernible reason other than being a bit tired of you is even remotely approximating acceptable.

[arizonahotrock]

yeah but if he is worried about he wouldn't be posting about it.

guys are dicks, i wouldn't be cool with it... unless i was the guy who's house she slept over at (point proven).

He is worried about dealing with his parents. Not that she's staying over at this guy's house.

Did anyone actually even read the OP?

[seventwenty3]

When she comes back tomorrow and is walking funny because she bumped into the coffee table you're going to believe that too right? I don't live with my girlfriend but I know for damn sure she wouldn't ever get the chance to sleep at a guys house and still have me as a boyfriend.

[PmCarlay]

Very odd situation...but obviously trust isn't the issue. I'd just tell her that even though you may not hacve a problem with it, your parents see it another way. Basically, she probably looks like a whore to them. She should be able to somewhat grasp their view and Definitely respect it because she IS living in THEIR house.

[arizonahotrock]

Very odd situation...but obviously trust isn't the issue. I'd just tell her that even though you may not hacve a problem with it, your parents see it another way. Basically, she probably looks like a whore to them. She should be able to somewhat grasp their view and Definitely respect it because she IS living in THEIR house.

This is a rational point.

It's definitely an awkward balance when your girlfriend is living with you and you are living with your parents. It's not the easiest, that's for sure.

[PmCarlay]

This is a rational point.

It's definitely an awkward balance when your girlfriend is living with you and you are living with your parents. It's not the easiest, that's for sure.
Exactly. If I were in that position, I would do everything in my power to tread lightly and suck up to the parents.

[fly_guy]

Wow, that is fucking ridiculous. You're letting her spend ONE night at her exes house? Just one? She doesn't have any friends that are girls? Come on man, you obviously like her enough to let her move in with you. Dont let her stay over there, haha.

[timb89]

He is worried about dealing with his parents. Not that she's staying over at this guy's house.

Did anyone actually even read the OP?

lol skimmed tbh

[Whalejaw]

He is worried about dealing with his parents. Not that she's staying over at this guy's house.

Did anyone actually even read the OP?

I think everyone read the OP and thinks he's an idiot for 1) thinking he has any say in anything while his parents are supporting him and his girlfriend and 2) not being bothered by his girlfriend spending a night with an ex when in 9 out of 10 cases it will end up with her being unfaithful.

[phil19]

totally would not want my missus spending the night at an ex's

[showmethefever]

Yeah, this just screams good idea. It's not like they are going to fuck each other or anything, let her do it.

[LoginBanned]

Yeah dude this is very suspicious. I hate to say your parents are probably right.

[LoginBanned]

You also can't tell your parents to shut up, they're letting both of you live in their house. They could easily kick you both out.

[arizonahotrock]

I think everyone read the OP and thinks he's an idiot for 1) thinking he has any say in anything while his parents are supporting him and his girlfriend and 2) not being bothered by his girlfriend spending a night with an ex when in 9 out of 10 cases it will end up with her being unfaithful.

I just don't think that's fair...

Why is she 90% going to sleep with her ex? Just because they dated for a few months doesn't mean they are going to have this insatiable urge to screw eachother if she hangs out for the night.

Hate to break it to most of you, but...ex-boyfriends don't have this mysterious chemical or odor they emit that makes an ex-girlfriend drop their panties for absolutely no reason.

And, I do think he has say, coming from someone with experience in a similar situation. His parents have good intentions, but, let's face it, they come from a different generation.

Like I said, he needs to talk with them, when she's not around, and lay things out. If they still have a major problem with it, then he should encourage her not to stay, but I can just see that causing more problems than just letting her go and stay at her friend's place for a single night.

[Maiaophilia]

Your parents are completely justified in acting the way they did. The act of sleeping over your ex's is completely unacceptable. I think she's manipulating you, so I can only imagine what your parents think. They let her in their house, I'm assuming they do provide her with food and use of their utilities too, and she goes to stay over her ex boyfriend's? That's crap. You shouldn't be standing for that either. Put your foot down man. Even if nothing happens, it's a matter of respect, and she clearly doesn't respect you if she's doing this.

this.

[Echo Park]

to be blunt. it sounds like your gf is quite trashy. Getting kicked out of her house shows the class of girl she, and maybe you are. Staying with an exboyfriend, im pretty sure she will be fucking him. If i was him, i wouldn't let her stay for free without doing me.

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fucking hoes

[terror_91]

fucking hoes
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[allthewaysaid]

What the fuck? Not cool dude.
What do youthink theyre going to be doing at his house? Sharing war stories? Drinking tea?
This is seriously not cool, theyre gonna be fucking all night.