View Full Version : This girl wants me to trade "mixed cds" with her...
xvszero
08/02/06, 04:08 PM
I don't really get the concept. Am I trying to show her what I like most, or am I trying to show her the stuff I listen to that I think she might like, or am I just straight up trying to impress her, or what?
Cause she listens to mostly indie and lighter stuff, and I listen to mostly heavier stuff. Like, do you put Zao on a mixed cd for a girl? Probably not?
Also what do I do when I get her cd and inevitably dislike all of the music on it? Just do one of those "yeah um song number 4 was um... pretty... decent... yeah" I guess?
I kind of have an urge to just make it like 50% Thrice songs but that's probably not the best option.
Dylan Smith
08/02/06, 04:15 PM
My advice: Stop listening to Thrice.
xvszero
08/02/06, 04:30 PM
I'd take your advice and stop listening to Thrice, but I stopped listening to Canadians long ago.
skibagirl
08/02/06, 04:55 PM
put what you like, but at the same time, keep her interests in mind.
i like hearing what a guy is interested in listening to, but at the same time, if i can't stand it, i won't actually listen to it.
the best mixtapes i've gotten have tell a story or have a theme throughout all the songs, so it ends up being pretty cool.
boysdontcry17
08/02/06, 05:05 PM
My advice: Stop listening to Thrice.
shut up
boysdontcry17
08/02/06, 05:06 PM
put what you like, but at the same time, keep her interests in mind.
i like hearing what a guy is interested in listening to, but at the same time, if i can't stand it, i won't actually listen to it.
the best mixtapes i've gotten have tell a story or have a theme throughout all the songs, so it ends up being pretty cool.
that makes sense
xvszero
08/02/06, 05:06 PM
Tell a story? GEEZ, so much effort here. I already sent her an actual story I wrote (http://katametroid.livejournal.com/27514.html), that's much better than trying to tell a story through random song choices, right?
Though the story doesn't really bode well for the couple at the end per se. Hmm...
What's with everyone hating on Canadians? We're cool! ...
xvszero
08/02/06, 05:12 PM
I love Canadians.
But when someone says something stupid I tend to just insult them in the easiest way possible, whether or not it makes any actual sense.
If I didn't use the Canadian thing I probably would have just said Dylan sounds like a homosexual name or something like that.
skibagirl
08/02/06, 05:21 PM
Tell a story? GEEZ, so much effort here. I already sent her an actual story I wrote (http://katametroid.livejournal.com/27514.html), that's much better than trying to tell a story through random song choices, right?
Though the story doesn't really bode well for the couple at the end per se. Hmm...
that's the thing. mix tapes take effort. i mean, if you're actually interested in this girl, then it looks better if you actually put some effort into making it. if you don't really care, just hit random in itunes and burn the first 20 songs or something.
xvszero
08/02/06, 05:26 PM
I'm not even sure I get what tell a story means. And themes are too limiting, especially since there isn't even much music out there I actually like.
Besides, she knows I'm interested in her... because I told her. I tend not to play around with such things.
CROMagnon
08/02/06, 05:31 PM
no offense, but why are you asking a bunch of teenagers for what amounts to love advice?
xvszero
08/02/06, 05:41 PM
Love advice?
See that's the thing. Maybe to teenagers this has something to do with love. To me its just a quick and easy way to let someone know what music I'm into. I've only made one mixed cd before and it was for my cousin and I'm definately not in love with him. Me and this girl have already talked a lot, she knows I'm interested, I'm pretty sure she is interested, and I don't think either of us care enough about music taste to have this affect interest levels much at all.
I'm just wondering if I should try to cater it more to stuff I'm into that she might like. Otherwise she just listens to it once and tosses it, and that's a waste. Or would she rather know what I REALLY like regardless of whether she would like it or not. Hmm...
I love Canadians.
But when someone says something stupid I tend to just insult them in the easiest way possible, whether or not it makes any actual sense.
If I didn't use the Canadian thing I probably would have just said Dylan sounds like a homosexual name or something like that.
It is a homosexual name, so I would have gone with that. Unless Dylan is a girl's name, then it's kinda hot
CROMagnon
08/02/06, 05:47 PM
Love advice?
See that's the thing. Maybe to teenagers this has something to do with love. To me its just a quick and easy way to let someone know what music I'm into. I've only made one mixed cd before and it was for my cousin and I'm definately not in love with him. Me and this girl have already talked a lot, she knows I'm interested, I'm pretty sure she is interested, and I don't think either of us care enough about music taste to have this affect interest levels much at all.
I'm just wondering if I should try to cater it more to stuff I'm into that she might like. Otherwise she just listens to it once and tosses it, and that's a waste. Or would she rather know what I REALLY like regardless of whether she would like it or not. Hmm...
the whole point of a giving a girl a mix tape is to say what you can't say
therefore, it should be songs that you like that she'll also like that have a theme, just like that other poster said
period
It's a complicated business...but your safest bet is to go with the stuff she'll like, but that you also like. When I recommend shit to girls...I go with the more mellow stuff that I can also dig. Unless she's a "Staci Slayer 814" girl.
skibagirl
08/02/06, 06:06 PM
the whole point of a giving a girl a mix tape is to say what you can't say
therefore, it should be songs that you like that she'll also like that have a theme, just like that other poster said
period
glad to see someone else knows the "art" of the mixtape. haha.
ForeverInADay
08/02/06, 08:18 PM
What's with everyone hating on Canadians? We're cool! ...
hahaha no we're not...
xvszero
08/02/06, 10:18 PM
the whole point of a giving a girl a mix tape is to say what you can't say
therefore, it should be songs that you like that she'll also like that have a theme, just like that other poster said
period
What you can't say how? I have a mouth.
Also I'm a writer. Sort of. I can say an awful lot with actual words.
For instance this would probably tell her more about me than trying to find a theme with music (http://katametroid.livejournal.com/11437.html)
No, the whole point of a mixtape to me is to force people to listen to what I liste... I mean um to expose someone to a lot of new music they might end up liking. It's just a matter of what music.
Anyway her favorite band is the Beatles so I'm screwed no matter what I do.
CROMagnon
08/02/06, 10:50 PM
What you can't say how? I have a mouth.
Also I'm a writer. Sort of. I can say an awful lot with actual words.
For instance this would probably tell her more about me than trying to find a theme with music (http://katametroid.livejournal.com/11437.html)
No, the whole point of a mixtape to me is to force people to listen to what I liste... I mean um to expose someone to a lot of new music they might end up liking. It's just a matter of what music.
Anyway her favorite band is the Beatles so I'm screwed no matter what I do.
let me amend what i said
the whole point of of giving a girl a mixed tape is to tell her what she's not listening to you say, b/c there is an awful lot of that going on
plus, she wants to see what you guys have in common
call it a creative exercise if you want, but that's the goal. i don't care if you're the reincarnated spirit of ernest hemingway, there are some things that are best said and more easily understood with music. it's that simple.
My advice: Stop listening to Thrice.
Whats wrong with Thrice?
xvszero
08/02/06, 10:54 PM
Sorry, I don't really buy that. Maybe that makes sense in high school or something before people learn how to talk to each other.
I think the idea mostly arose because we kept mentioning bands the other never heard of, not some attempt to communicate through alternate means.
CROMagnon
08/02/06, 10:56 PM
Sorry, I don't really buy that. Maybe that makes sense in high school or something before people learn how to talk to each other.
I think the idea mostly arose because we kept mentioning bands the other never heard of, not some attempt to communicate through alternate means.
i graduated high school seven years ago
it still works like that
she's trying to measure you up based on the time you put into the cd and how much of it appeals to her, plus she wants to enjoy new stuff; it all works together
xvszero
08/02/06, 11:02 PM
Maybe it works that way for people caught up in subcultures. Some people have a more casual interest in musical tastes.
For instance, I honestly don't care what she puts on hers. I'd prefer she just pick out stuff I might actually listen to instead of trying to tell me secret messages.
Maybe it works that way for people caught up in subcultures. Some people have a more casual interest in musical tastes.
For instance, I honestly don't care what she puts on hers. I'd prefer she just pick out stuff I might actually listen to instead of trying to tell me secret messages.
That was deep.
CROMagnon
08/02/06, 11:10 PM
Maybe it works that way for people caught up in subcultures. Some people have a more casual interest in musical tastes.
For instance, I honestly don't care what she puts on hers. I'd prefer she just pick out stuff I might actually listen to instead of trying to tell me secret messages.
it doesn't matter what you want or expect, you gotta consider what she's expecting out of this cd
it has nothing to do with cultures or subcultures, it has little to do with your interest in her musical taste
it has nothing to do with whether you handle words eloquently or awkwardly
it's about what what the woman is expecting from you, and if you think all she's expecting is a cd to broaden her musical horizons, i'd put money down on how wrong you are
xvszero
08/02/06, 11:13 PM
Perhaps you're right.
So what I do is, make the cd I would have made anyway.
And if she makes some retarded judgements based on that, then I dodged a bullet.
Everyone wins!
I would say the idea here is to share with her music that you like but also think she'd like. So, you may not put everything you listen to on there, but what you do put on there should still be stuff you like.
absentmindedx
08/06/06, 08:15 PM
Just put songs that you like on the cd. Maybe put a few she might like too. My friend's boyfriend made a cd for her (she wasn't really into his type of music), after a couple of listens she came to like it. Perhaps it will take the same effect.
ParadeInTheRain
08/06/06, 09:17 PM
I have to say that at this point it isn't about sending hidden messages in the songs, and while you might think it makes more sense to just have a conversation about musical tastes/etc, she is interested in doing it this way. When you talk about music a lot of times they will go on and on about what they enjoy, meanwhile the other person doesn't really have an idea about the sound in context. So, to be able to take this CD and listen to it on her own, it's a way for her to see how this music makes itself shown in your life... or how aspects of your life influence what you listen to on the side.
I don't think she's looking to be impressed by your CD, or is going to weigh the future of your relationship on it. Like most people have said, most of the CD you need to find songs by bands that you like (maybe somewhat important to you), but that you think she would like to. Sneak a couple songs on that you think will push her out of her comfort zone, and maybe find a few rare songs somewhere on your harddrive or in your catalog that aren't typical for your normal taste to show you reaching out of your normal zone to give her something you think she'll like, but she may not know of.
buysoap
08/06/06, 10:10 PM
here's a story for you: i started dating this girl right when it was her birthday so i had to get her a present right then and there. no idea what to fucking do, so i make her a mix of music i'm into at the time. nothing special or anything, just some cool songs. and she's into them. i mean, she listened to some ok stuff before, but her selection of music wasn't great. so i started introducing her to stuff. i had no idea what she would like, and she was a girl so i didn't know what was appropriate (this was in high school). so i gave her two actual CDs to borrow... one was murder by death because it was mellow and chill and i figured girls like that, and the other was the first silverstein disc because i was listening to that a lot then. and you know what happened? she liked silverstein more. and i didn't think she'd like that because shane screams and i thought girls weren't into that in high school.
so make her whatever and she'll surprise you.
xvszero
08/06/06, 10:30 PM
Yeah but like... this isn't some casual music fan who just hasn't been exposed to anything yet. She's diehard. She's getting her Master's degree in music. She plays the flute like 6 hours a day, she's in some band (or quartet as they call it) or something, and teaches music to kids on the side.
And the Beatles are her favorite band, as well as tons of "indie rock."
I don't think she will suddenly realize she loves Zao or anything like that.
ParadeInTheRain
08/06/06, 10:43 PM
You don't have to make her fall in love with Zao or anything else like that; it's more of showing her that there's something to that music, too. Just because some people (me for example) are really into music, and know a lot about a lot of bands, doesn't mean they actually take the time to really give most of it a listen. I overlook a lot of bands just because I don't see the reason I need to listen to them... you're kinda just giving her that reason (or something else akin to the idea) with this CD.
buysoap
08/06/06, 10:44 PM
i'd try it out. people were talking about a theme, your theme should just be "my favorite music." just pick out some music you really like, some of your favorite songs by zao, etc., and see what she thinks.
xbrokendownx
08/07/06, 11:25 PM
My advice: Stop listening to Thrice.
thrice > canada
preppyak
08/08/06, 06:26 PM
My advice: Stop listening to Thrice.
I'd take your advice and stop listening to Thrice, but I stopped listening to Canadians long ago.
haha...nicely played.
preppyak
08/08/06, 06:28 PM
You don't have to make her fall in love with Zao or anything else like that; it's more of showing her that there's something to that music, too. Just because some people (me for example) are really into music, and know a lot about a lot of bands, doesn't mean they actually take the time to really give most of it a listen. I overlook a lot of bands just because I don't see the reason I need to listen to them... you're kinda just giving her that reason (or something else akin to the idea) with this CD.
Yeah...it's an uphill battle though. I'm trying to introduce my girlfriend to music within the scene, and the only thing that is really translatable to her (A die-hard BSB fan) is pop-punk type stuff....and the more cliche stuff at that.
To many people, heavier music will always be "angry music", and it won't really have that appeal, regardless of the explanation.
ok for those of you that talk about using a theme or telling a story through your mixtape, could you post me a mixtape playlist alkong with the idea or theme behind it so I could have a good example of what your talking about?
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