Has anyone ever broken up with you this way?

[xohalezz]

Me and my ex have been together for a few months. I thought things were going really well..and he showed no signs of this happening. Last weekend, we were at a party, and we started talking about tough stuff in relationships. He told me it was kinda hard for him to let his walls down to let someone in. But for the last four months, it seemed like I was in. Everything was fine. Then Monday, he started acting really shady. Not talking to me, and acting annoyed if I talked to him. The same happened Tuesday too. Then finally, after school, he met me at my car. He said that he had to do this in person. He told me that he's been thinking about our conversation at the party, and that he can't do it anymore. He couldn't let his guard down around me because it felt weird for him. I felt shocked, as far as I knew everything was fine. I asked if it was something I did, or could've done differently. He said that no, I was perfect, and he just couldn't show emotion towards me, and that I deserved someone who could. Then he left me there in the parking lot with a hug good bye, and we haven't spoken since. Just a text from yesterday saying how sorry he was again. Some back ground info: he has only had 1 girlfriend before me, he can be really sarcastic to everyone he talks to, he claims that he can't feel emotions like pain or anger or love.


Soo this leaves me a little confused. Any advice or similar stories would help.

[terror_91]

I sure wish there was a thread specifically about breaks. I also wish that this thread was stickied.

What I wish for most of all though, is people learning to read.

[tottivillarossi]

He's probably having an affair.

[deFobbed14yrs]

maybe he's depressed. the whole can't show emotion thing

[davehennessy]

he claims that he can't feel emotions like pain or anger or love.



I find this kind of hard to believe. Everyone handles these emotions differently, but I don't believe there's a single person alive that doesn't feel one (or all) of these

[warstory]

maybe he's depressed. the whole can't show emotion thing
My thoughts exactly.

Depression isn't always just feeling sad. He could have some major issues going on.

Good luck to both of you! Sorry things didn't work out with him.

[fishguts182]

sounds like how my ex girlfriend broke up with me but she didnt really do it in person she did it over a text. Then a few weeks later I found out she cheated on me some gangster wanna be douche.

[malloryy24]

^Not if you take pills. Hahaha


But really, similarly this happened to me last week. We weren't official, but when we were together we were together. Anyways, we were like that for a month or so and everything was fine. Then last week he started acting weird, like not talking to me or texting me back. Then I flipped shit, which was bad because this happened before and it completely ruined a friendship between me and someone before and I didn't want to go through that again. So I stopped like freaking out and all that way before it got as bad as it would have gotten and stopped texting him. Then he finally texts me saying he needs to talk to me, he tells me that he really likes me but he just doesn't see himself being in a relationship with me or that we just need a little time. Yeah...this guy is more of a douche than this guy you're talking about because he's already talking to another girl. . . what's even worse is that our mutual friends new what he was doing, and I don't even fully know what it is. But it sucked cause I actually liked him. Anywho, I'm sure this guy is probably the kind of guy who doesn't pay attention to his emotions, like he feels them, but doesn't really acknowledge them. If that makes sense? I kind of get it 'cause I know people who are like that. I doubt he was lying to you, especially if he had the balls to do it in person.

[Mandee, darling]

maybe when dating his ex-girlfriend, he let his guard down for her and she broke his heart, which could make him decide to not want to go through that again, and keep his guard up to everyone else in his life. when something like that happens, it's really hard to trust that it's not gonna happen again.

[ThisIsNotDan]

does he have Aspergers? I'm being serious

[Homeless Donut]

Me and my ex have been together for a few months. I thought things were going really well..and he showed no signs of this happening. Last weekend, we were at a party, and we started talking about tough stuff in relationships. He told me it was kinda hard for him to let his walls down to let someone in. But for the last four months, it seemed like I was in. Everything was fine. Then Monday, he started acting really shady. Not talking to me, and acting annoyed if I talked to him. The same happened Tuesday too. Then finally, after school, he met me at my car. He said that he had to do this in person. He told me that he's been thinking about our conversation at the party, and that he can't do it anymore. He couldn't let his guard down around me because it felt weird for him. I felt shocked, as far as I knew everything was fine. I asked if it was something I did, or could've done differently. He said that no, I was perfect, and he just couldn't show emotion towards me, and that I deserved someone who could. Then he left me there in the parking lot with a hug good bye, and we haven't spoken since. Just a text from yesterday saying how sorry he was again. Some back ground info: he has only had 1 girlfriend before me, he can be really sarcastic to everyone he talks to, he claims that he can't feel emotions like pain or anger or love.


Soo this leaves me a little confused. Any advice or similar stories would help.

I bolded things that sound strange. Either he doesn't like you anymore and does the "it's not you it's me" excuse, or he really has something wrong with him.

[honkyg88]

Me and my ex have been together for a few months. I thought things were going really well..and he showed no signs of this happening. Last weekend, we were at a party, and we started talking about tough stuff in relationships. He told me it was kinda hard for him to let his walls down to let someone in. But for the last four months, it seemed like I was in. Everything was fine. Then Monday, he started acting really shady. Not talking to me, and acting annoyed if I talked to him. The same happened Tuesday too. Then finally, after school, he met me at my car. He said that he had to do this in person. He told me that he's been thinking about our conversation at the party, and that he can't do it anymore. He couldn't let his guard down around me because it felt weird for him. I felt shocked, as far as I knew everything was fine. I asked if it was something I did, or could've done differently. He said that no, I was perfect, and he just couldn't show emotion towards me, and that I deserved someone who could. Then he left me there in the parking lot with a hug good bye, and we haven't spoken since. Just a text from yesterday saying how sorry he was again. Some back ground info: he has only had 1 girlfriend before me, he can be really sarcastic to everyone he talks to, he claims that he can't feel emotions like pain or anger or love.


Soo this leaves me a little confused. Any advice or similar stories would help.
Maybe he's a robot.
But on a more serious note maybe he just doesn't want a girlfriend.

[tristabelle]

sounds like a copout to me, to be honest. a lot of people (guys AND girls) will just give you some BS, sugarcoated excuse that they THINK will make it easier on you. but it usually just ends up making them feel better and you end up feeling confused. sounds like you're better off. :thumbdwn:

[holybatmon]

maybe when dating his ex-girlfriend, he let his guard down for her and she broke his heart, which could make him decide to not want to go through that again, and keep his guard up to everyone else in his life. when something like that happens, it's really hard to trust that it's not gonna happen again.
This.

And I will never love again.

[RX XR]

I bolded things that sound strange. Either he doesn't like you anymore and does the "it's not you it's me" excuse, or he really has something wrong with him.

This

[tyramail]

he kind of sounds like a douche, honestly.

[spansen]

he's just a psychopath, no big deal.

[.invisible ink.]

that's horrible and i can say i've been in a somewhat similar situation but that doesn't make it any better. i agree with the person who said he was probably hurt in his past relationship but it sounds more like depression than just being afraid to love someone. give him time, just do what you're doing and try not to take it too personally (easier said than done). hopefully he'll come around once he realizes how much you care about him. *hug*

[zbrmike79]

dont deal with people like this. they aren't worth the time.

[terror_91]

Maybe he's a robot.
But on a more serious note maybe he just doesn't want a girlfriend.
I laughed a lot at that and I don't know why.

[kevinjordan]

Dude sounds DEEEEEEEEPPP. :thumbdwn:

[spunkmastaflex]

I find this kind of hard to believe. Everyone handles these emotions differently, but I don't believe there's a single person alive that doesn't feel one (or all) of these

i was just about to bold that statement cuz it brought me some lawls

[anamericangod]

Why are you talking about our relationship on here?

[phillipjacob]

the worst breakup excuse is you can do better then me/you deserve better.

now not knowing your relationship or the guy

but based on previous relationships for myself and for my friends.

i think it's an absolute bullshit excuse

because the person wants pity from you when they're the one that hurt you.

it's a possibility the guy's depressed
but it's also one that he likes another girl

so the best way is to either get over him

or ask him straight up what the fuck is up

[caged_love]

Well, I can kinda relate to this guy. I started dating a girl three and a half months ago and it was all fine and dandy, I couldn't have been happier. Now I have been sick a lot this year with everything from colds to flu's to mono. Now the mono thing is interesting because she doesn't have it and I have no idea where I caught it from...maybe shaking hands with people or something. Anyways, about the time that I caught freakin' mono I started getting tired and stressed and depressed. I couldn't feel emotions either, or at least not the ones that I had been feeling. Obviously this was quite hard on my girlfriend, I mean the guy that she thought was fun and happy was now boring, grumpy and seemed to avoid her.
Now I avoided her because I didn't want to do things (stupid I know, but I've never claimed to be intelligent, nor do I have a wealth of experience dating) that she wanted to do, like jogging, hiking or spending the whole day shopping. I blame this on the lack of communication between us and me not wanting to be vulnerable and looking weak. Pride I suppose you could say. Anyways, we talked about all of this and what could be causing it, but never came up with anything solid. We decided to wait it out and see what happens, because all relationships will get these "dead" spots scattered throughout them. This is due to cultures lack of understanding what love is and what it should look like in a relationship (that's my opinion).
Now we carried on like this for a month and a bit before I thought I couldn't handle it anymore, and I mentioned that to her. Yup, it was a mistake and she left crying, which obviously hurt me a bit (and rightly so). However, being the incredible person that she is, she came back and we talked some more, with me explaining that I couldn't handle hurting her anymore without being able to feel. However, she's stubborn and eventually we agreed to take some time apart and not talk to each other for three days, just focus and pray (We are both proud Christians).
I really think that this time helped, along with lots of little things like encouragement from friends and family. I also decided to sleep a bunch because I hear that it is good for mono to rest and I have definitely been feeling better and more "emotional" since we took those days off. I think we both realized we have been holding stuff back from each other and not being unselfish in our love, but rather selfish and immature. Now I can't say that your boyfriend had mono because he probably didn't, but he very well might be depressed in some sort of manner. He might have not fought through the dry spell, or maybe he stopped getting to know you, thus his love started to die. Maybe what he said was true and he didn't feel comfortable letting his guard down (I can relate), but I think that in this case it would be his own pride that would come into play. Regardless of why I think that this is a mistake on his behalf and not yours, or at least not from the short blurb you gave. Sorry for the rant, it wasn't very empathetic of me, but I thought it could be useful to mull over.

[caged_love]

Oh, by the way, I had been in a previous relationship where i made myself real vulnerable and got zinged pretty badly for it, hence the hesitation to trust (poor word choice) again. So I suppose that could be the guys problem, but it still comes down to a matter of letting things go and taking risks again. Like the saying says, "He who risks, wins"

[ReadyForAction]

Stop dating Edward Cullen and find yourself a real man

[BalancingacT]

Your description describes my friend Ty perfectly. I believe it. A lot of teenagers, at least in our little generation, are wildly cynical and really closed off because of it, but still good people at the core. So I'd say there might be actual legitimacy in what he said.

[BrennanHickson]

Your description describes my friend Ty perfectly. I believe it. A lot of teenagers, at least in our little generation, are wildly cynical and really closed off because of it, but still good people at the core. So I'd say there might be actual legitimacy in what he said.
How naive of you.

[musiclova]

i actuallt know how u feel. i knew a guy who believd he couldnt show emotion. just realise that he obviously cares about you but cant find a way to show u. hes probably been hurt before.

[Mandee, darling]

This.

And I will never love again.

Never is an awfully long time. Chin up, man. Don't let that girl get you down!

[whiterussian]

80% chance he's just a douche, and you're better off.

10% chance he's depressed and has been faking?

10% chance insert funny option

[zachff]

sounds like he just hates you and you aren't pretty enough

[allthewaysaid]

I found weird that as soon as I saw a thread about realtionships I assumed that it was a guy complaining haha
But yeah, getting back to your problem maybe the guy is fucked up, seriously those are the kind of people that do horrible things in life OR maybe he's going through depression

[Yellowcard2006]

Sounds like a weirdo.

[SincerelyMe]

Breakups like this are shitty. Go easy on yourself and don't over think it.

[roughroads]

Maybe he's a robot.
But on a more serious note maybe he just doesn't want a girlfriend.

But on an even more serious note... Maybe he is in fact a robot.

[.invisible ink.]

sounds like he just hates you and you aren't pretty enough

douchebag.

[barkingincision]

Me and my ex have been together for a few months. I thought things were going really well..and he showed no signs of this happening. Last weekend, we were at a party, and we started talking about tough stuff in relationships. He told me it was kinda hard for him to let his walls down to let someone in. But for the last four months, it seemed like I was in. Everything was fine. Then Monday, he started acting really shady. Not talking to me, and acting annoyed if I talked to him. The same happened Tuesday too. Then finally, after school, he met me at my car. He said that he had to do this in person. He told me that he's been thinking about our conversation at the party, and that he can't do it anymore. He couldn't let his guard down around me because it felt weird for him. I felt shocked, as far as I knew everything was fine. I asked if it was something I did, or could've done differently. He said that no, I was perfect, and he just couldn't show emotion towards me, and that I deserved someone who could. Then he left me there in the parking lot with a hug good bye, and we haven't spoken since. Just a text from yesterday saying how sorry he was again. Some back ground info: he has only had 1 girlfriend before me, he can be really sarcastic to everyone he talks to, he claims that he can't feel emotions like pain or anger or love.


Soo this leaves me a little confused. Any advice or similar stories would help.
i know you probably dont want to hear someone else's story but i think i can personally relate to him
i cared a lot about a girl, she meant a lot to me. we had mutual feelings and i cared about her, but i was going through so many personal issues with family and depression and anxieties about everyday things; long story short i never told her and it wasn't something i could express. it's hard to say, sometimes we just go through things behind the scenes that are left unsaid. they are personal. i wish it could have worked out with her because i still care for her, but to protect her and myself i essentially left her in the dark and squirmed my way around hanging out with her. yes, it was stupid of me to do so, but it's hard to explain anxiety to someone you haven't known for a really long time. and the worst part is i feel that she is perfect as well, but it's not meant to be right now. perhaps your ex was just going through some serious shit in his head, it's inexplicable and difficult but thats just how it is sometimes.

[CobraLucha]

R U D8ing Dr. Manhattan?

[ReadyForAction]

R U D8ing Dr. Manhattan?

correct answere

[Scrawns]

sounds like a copout to me, to be honest. a lot of people (guys AND girls) will just give you some BS, sugarcoated excuse that they THINK will make it easier on you. but it usually just ends up making them feel better and you end up feeling confused. sounds like you're better off. :thumbdwn:


this is true. oh and you are crazy style good looking

[codhoppers]

17 years old, what does it matter? It's one dude, who is clearly not all there, so he is right you do deserve better. Don't invest your time in someone who doesn't want to be with you.

[carnotaurhunter]

He's a serial killer. Run.

[robotscantlove]

maybe when dating his ex-girlfriend, he let his guard down for her and she broke his heart, which could make him decide to not want to go through that again, and keep his guard up to everyone else in his life. when something like that happens, it's really hard to trust that it's not gonna happen again.

mhmmmmmmm ^^ this

[oh...rly]

Could be a serial killer.

[zach26]

does he have Aspergers? I'm being serious

exactly what i thought. my brother has it and this sounded quite a bit like him. not a cruel person, just completely unable to show most emotion and acts almost like a robot.

[zachff]

douchebag.

person who takes herself too seriously

[xohalezz]

My thoughts exactly.

Depression isn't always just feeling sad. He could have some major issues going on.

Good luck to both of you! Sorry things didn't work out with him.


thank you anyways.

[xohalezz]

maybe when dating his ex-girlfriend, he let his guard down for her and she broke his heart, which could make him decide to not want to go through that again, and keep his guard up to everyone else in his life. when something like that happens, it's really hard to trust that it's not gonna happen again.



this could be a high possiblity. i've thought about it..

[xohalezz]

sounds like a copout to me, to be honest. a lot of people (guys AND girls) will just give you some BS, sugarcoated excuse that they THINK will make it easier on you. but it usually just ends up making them feel better and you end up feeling confused. sounds like you're better off. :thumbdwn:




thanks! i feel i am too. especially after reading some of these..

[xohalezz]

This.

And I will never love again.



aww why? & i find it hard to let myself love again after some things too.

[xohalezz]

that's horrible and i can say i've been in a somewhat similar situation but that doesn't make it any better. i agree with the person who said he was probably hurt in his past relationship but it sounds more like depression than just being afraid to love someone. give him time, just do what you're doing and try not to take it too personally (easier said than done). hopefully he'll come around once he realizes how much you care about him. *hug*




thanks for the hug :]

[xohalezz]

Why are you talking about our relationship on here?



gahh! sorry babee. hah.

[xohalezz]

^Not if you take pills. Hahaha


But really, similarly this happened to me last week. We weren't official, but when we were together we were together. Anyways, we were like that for a month or so and everything was fine. Then last week he started acting weird, like not talking to me or texting me back. Then I flipped shit, which was bad because this happened before and it completely ruined a friendship between me and someone before and I didn't want to go through that again. So I stopped like freaking out and all that way before it got as bad as it would have gotten and stopped texting him. Then he finally texts me saying he needs to talk to me, he tells me that he really likes me but he just doesn't see himself being in a relationship with me or that we just need a little time. Yeah...this guy is more of a douche than this guy you're talking about because he's already talking to another girl. . . what's even worse is that our mutual friends new what he was doing, and I don't even fully know what it is. But it sucked cause I actually liked him. Anywho, I'm sure this guy is probably the kind of guy who doesn't pay attention to his emotions, like he feels them, but doesn't really acknowledge them. If that makes sense? I kind of get it 'cause I know people who are like that. I doubt he was lying to you, especially if he had the balls to do it in person.



thanks for sharing your story. i'm glad i'm not the only one in a situation like this.

[showmethefever]

Multi-Quote please.

[xohalezz]

Stop dating Edward Cullen and find yourself a real man


I'm over this Edward Cullen. and there's no real man at my highschool. it's kind of a joke.
haha guess i'm on the prowl though.... hah.

[xohalezz]

Well, I can kinda relate to this guy. I started dating a girl three and a half months ago and it was all fine and dandy, I couldn't have been happier. Now I have been sick a lot this year with everything from colds to flu's to mono. Now the mono thing is interesting because she doesn't have it and I have no idea where I caught it from...maybe shaking hands with people or something. Anyways, about the time that I caught freakin' mono I started getting tired and stressed and depressed. I couldn't feel emotions either, or at least not the ones that I had been feeling. Obviously this was quite hard on my girlfriend, I mean the guy that she thought was fun and happy was now boring, grumpy and seemed to avoid her.
Now I avoided her because I didn't want to do things (stupid I know, but I've never claimed to be intelligent, nor do I have a wealth of experience dating) that she wanted to do, like jogging, hiking or spending the whole day shopping. I blame this on the lack of communication between us and me not wanting to be vulnerable and looking weak. Pride I suppose you could say. Anyways, we talked about all of this and what could be causing it, but never came up with anything solid. We decided to wait it out and see what happens, because all relationships will get these "dead" spots scattered throughout them. This is due to cultures lack of understanding what love is and what it should look like in a relationship (that's my opinion).
Now we carried on like this for a month and a bit before I thought I couldn't handle it anymore, and I mentioned that to her. Yup, it was a mistake and she left crying, which obviously hurt me a bit (and rightly so). However, being the incredible person that she is, she came back and we talked some more, with me explaining that I couldn't handle hurting her anymore without being able to feel. However, she's stubborn and eventually we agreed to take some time apart and not talk to each other for three days, just focus and pray (We are both proud Christians).
I really think that this time helped, along with lots of little things like encouragement from friends and family. I also decided to sleep a bunch because I hear that it is good for mono to rest and I have definitely been feeling better and more "emotional" since we took those days off. I think we both realized we have been holding stuff back from each other and not being unselfish in our love, but rather selfish and immature. Now I can't say that your boyfriend had mono because he probably didn't, but he very well might be depressed in some sort of manner. He might have not fought through the dry spell, or maybe he stopped getting to know you, thus his love started to die. Maybe what he said was true and he didn't feel comfortable letting his guard down (I can relate), but I think that in this case it would be his own pride that would come into play. Regardless of why I think that this is a mistake on his behalf and not yours, or at least not from the short blurb you gave. Sorry for the rant, it wasn't very empathetic of me, but I thought it could be useful to mull over.




understandable. it's good to hear a guys point of view through a story as well. thanks and it helps.

[xohalezz]

I found weird that as soon as I saw a thread about realtionships I assumed that it was a guy complaining haha
But yeah, getting back to your problem maybe the guy is fucked up, seriously those are the kind of people that do horrible things in life OR maybe he's going through depression



now that im rethinking everything..depression / emotional hang ups / issues all could be possibilities.

[showmethefever]

Multi-Quote please.

[xohalezz]

Multi-Quote please.








sorry.. just got a little carried away.
now people are probably angry with me. oopps. :(

[showmethefever]

One more thing, don't put so much space in between the quote and what you have to say.

[AndrewIcex]

At least you didn't find out they were an axe murderer, that shit sucks.

[xcloud66x]

I find this kind of hard to believe. Everyone handles these emotions differently, but I don't believe there's a single person alive that doesn't feel one (or all) of these

scientifically/medically speaking it is not that uncommon to have dulled emotions due to certain conditions or disorders.

however, this does not seem to be the case under these circumstances. considering the emotion of annoyance he was showing towards her, he is most likely just a kid coming up with excuses; I would assume either that she did or said something to trigger this in the first place and/or he's simply mentally unstable.

[davehennessy]

scientifically/medically speaking it is not that uncommon to have dulled emotions due to certain conditions or disorders.

however, this does not seem to be the case under these circumstances. considering the emotion of annoyance he was showing towards her, he is most likely just a kid coming up with excuses; I would assume either that she did or said something to trigger this in the first place and/or he's simply mentally unstable.

Dulled emotions, perhaps, but completely without emotion? I don't think that's possible

[Farva2]

I had something like this happen to me a month ago , me and this chick werent official but we were togethter for a few months everything was really good. Then the weekend came and as of friday things were good and then saturday she started getting all shady and not txtin me or talking to me, she only said "im not really talking to anyone really, got alot on my mind..." so i was like ahh shit. Then a few days later she has a mutual friend txt me (wtf? this isnt the 6th grade) saying its over with a typical "its not you its me" excuse. What a crock of shit. She sent me a txt later saying shes not ready for a relationship because of her abusive ex boyfriend that she cant seem to fucking get over. It sucks because we work together and im her superior so shit is always awkward now. Im still pretty bummed about the whole thing.

[stereokiller]

Me and my ex have been together for a few months. I thought things were going really well..and he showed no signs of this happening. Last weekend, we were at a party, and we started talking about tough stuff in relationships. He told me it was kinda hard for him to let his walls down to let someone in. But for the last four months, it seemed like I was in. Everything was fine. Then Monday, he started acting really shady. Not talking to me, and acting annoyed if I talked to him. The same happened Tuesday too. Then finally, after school, he met me at my car. He said that he had to do this in person. He told me that he's been thinking about our conversation at the party, and that he can't do it anymore. He couldn't let his guard down around me because it felt weird for him. I felt shocked, as far as I knew everything was fine. I asked if it was something I did, or could've done differently. He said that no, I was perfect, and he just couldn't show emotion towards me, and that I deserved someone who could. Then he left me there in the parking lot with a hug good bye, and we haven't spoken since. Just a text from yesterday saying how sorry he was again. Some back ground info: he has only had 1 girlfriend before me, he can be really sarcastic to everyone he talks to, he claims that he can't feel emotions like pain or anger or love.


Soo this leaves me a little confused. Any advice or similar stories would help.

sounds exactly like me.

but hey me and my girl's still together. if the guy's exactly like me, then he's juts thinking waaay too much about stuff than he should be. if you've ever give him another chance, just make him feel like he shouldn't think about anything that hard. and you'd live happily ever after, i hope. haha. or maybe he's not confident enough to handle the relationship? he feels that you are out of his league or something?

[stereokiller]

Multi-Quote please.

I've been in this site for a really long time, and I don't even know how to multi-quote. Lol.

[SLoT]

Obviously he's married, and has been for quite sometime (not being able to feel anything at all).

[And Hours Pass]

the worst breakup excuse is you can do better then me/you deserve better.

now not knowing your relationship or the guy

but based on previous relationships for myself and for my friends.

i think it's an absolute bullshit excuse

because the person wants pity from you when they're the one that hurt you.

it's a possibility the guy's depressed
but it's also one that he likes another girl

so the best way is to either get over him

or ask him straight up what the fuck is up

Are you going for a sylvia Plath feel? What's with the constant line jumping? It's quite irritating to read.

sorry.. just got a little carried away.
now people are probably angry with me. oopps. :(

They're not mad with you, they just can't let their guard down around you and they feel weird.

[raychull]

Why are you talking about our relationship on here?
this made me laugh.

[showmethefever]

I've been in this site for a really long time, and I don't even know how to multi-quote. Lol.
Click the little box next to quote for every reply that you want to quote, except for the last one and just hit quote for that one.

[Miss Heartcore]

does he have Aspergers? I'm being serious
I shouldn't have laughed at this, but I did.

[SungDuck88]

sounds like hes a teenage guy. thats kinda how they roll.

[malloryy24]

thanks for sharing your story. i'm glad i'm not the only one in a situation like this.
People do weird things at weird times. He'll come around.

[HometownHero]

I've been in this site for a really long time, and I don't even know how to multi-quote. Lol.
Me either....

Click the little box next to quote for every reply that you want to quote, except for the last one and just hit quote for that one.
Until now! I am excited about this haha

[amandaanna]

he may just have made up an excuse to break up with you.

[stereokiller]

Click the little box next to quote for every reply that you want to quote, except for the last one and just hit quote for that one.

holy crap thank you so much. lol.

Me either....


Until now! I am excited about this haha

posting in ap.net will never be the same again

[herestoyoufla]

He's probably having an affair.

This.

[emoishardcore]

honestly it sounds like he used it as an excuse to break up with you. guys do that when they are too immature to just say "i'm not longer interested".

[jmirand1]

he claims that he can't feel emotions like pain or love.

Not usually a desirable trait in a significant other.

[HometownHero]

Also, this dude is fucking lying

[wawanice]

I think hes playing for the other team..if you catch my drift

[xcloud66x]

Dulled emotions, perhaps, but completely without emotion? I don't think that's possible

well I'll agree with you there on the extreme, that would make a person just another animal.

[xohalezz]

I think hes playing for the other team..if you catch my drift

very well could be. haha.. that would suck / be kinda funny to find out.

[CaryGrant]

This thread has more girls posting it per guys posting it that I've ever seen. Also, at 17, "has only had one girlfriend" is kind of an asinine statement--it's a startlingly small percentage of high schoolers who date at all, let alone date multiple people. You expect a lot of him in terms of experience, and you clearly date a lot.
Also, he probably just didn't like you.

[bung]

Didn't read thread or initial post. But if you haven't been broken up by text message before... well you haven't felt pain. :-)

[catherinexhimel]

he claims that he can't feel emotions like pain or anger or love.

Is he not human? This is ridiculous.

[lynnie]

From reading this knife in the heart posting, I think he has issues. He is obviously not ready for any kind of commitment and needs to be left alone. The best thing to do is accept his wishes and move on. There will be someone out there who is for you and who will adore you. Time will heal your pain xx

[Enolase]

Possibly depression, not feeling emotions can be a symptom or he might not want to hurt you when he's breaking up.

[mymusicismylife]

Sounds like what I did with my last girlfriend. He probably just isn't ready for a serious relationship and yours was getting too serious. It makes sense, especially since you were only his second girlfriend. He probably isn't ready for the nest step.

That's why I did it anyways. My ex was just as surprised and confused as you.

[xohalezz]

This thread has more girls posting it per guys posting it that I've ever seen. Also, at 17, "has only had one girlfriend" is kind of an asinine statement--it's a startlingly small percentage of high schoolers who date at all, let alone date multiple people. You expect a lot of him in terms of experience, and you clearly date a lot.
Also, he probably just didn't like you.

I actually don't expect anything in terms of experience from anyone that comes into my life, I don't date a lot, and by saying he's only had one girlfriend before me, I was stating the facts for anyone who may have wanted to know.

[icep25]

This happened to me. I got the same line about him not being able to feel love or sadness. And in retrospect, I would say that the real reason the he broke up with me was because he couldn't understand the fact that I hated my dad. I found out later that he was losing a parent he loved dearly to cancer and he resented me for hating one of mine. So yeah, it was just a sugarcoated excuse. But on top of what you got, my ex told me that he still really liked me but that he knew himself and that it could never work, that he was quitting his job where we both worked because it "hurt too much to look at me." It really sucked at the time because I truly felt that if he would have just let his guard down and let me love him that it would have been enough. But (I''m very retrospective), I realize now, that I only loved him as much as I could have loved any one at that age. The amount of love I had then is nothing compared to the love I have now after having grown and matured.

[BalancingacT]

How naive of you.
Says the 15 year old defying social norms.

[BrennanHickson]

Says the 15 year old defying social norms.
I was kidding.

[brntsnfan]

you're 17, there is plenty of fish in the sea... don't waste your time with a guy who refuses to feel anything, besides, why would you want someone like that, it the long run it would have gotten pretty old. Find yourself someone fun, crazy and spontaneous, that's what you need at 17 FUN FUN FUN!!! :-d

[brandnew=love]

Not sure if it's been said before, but maybe he's gay? I've heard them all, "I like you as a friend", "I think we should see other people", "I no speak English", "I'm married to the sea", "I don't want to kill you, but I will".

But really, maybe he has issues, maybe he's faking, but either way does it really affect you? I mean, unless you were seriously interested in him then you're just better off and you should just move on without dwelling on it too much. You're probably better off.

[brandnew=love]

I think hes playing for the other team..if you catch my drift
Haha, beat me to it. Nicely done.

[SubjectYourself]

sorry, i hope you can work this out for yourself...think about YOU before US or WE. then you will piece things together. good luck.

[journeyhayes]

Me and Jerrick warden from blanco we had sex in a theater w/o getting caught, but somehow my mother found out and flipped shit and forced us to break up we were secretly engaged cause we are only 16 so the engagement was broken then he told me he was always using me for the sex:(

[Fullblast 2.0]

Me and Jerrick warden from blanco we had sex in a theater w/o getting caught, but somehow my mother found out and flipped shit and forced us to break up we were secretly engaged cause we are only 16 so the engagement was broken then he told me he was always using me for the sex:(
Fake story, fake account

[leaveawhisper]

My ex was the same way about not feeling, and I'm positive he had anti-social personality disorder. So that's a possibility--or it could have been an excuse. Regardless of whether there's a legitimate physical cause for that lack of feeling though, you can't force anyone to let their guard down. A lot of people are afraid of being vulnerable. Sometimes they get over it, sometimes they don't, but you'll find someone who doesn't mind letting you in, and you'll be a lot happier for it!

[journeyhayes]

Fake story, fake account
um who are you to say im fake for all i know ur an 80 yr old man

[terror_91]

Me and Jerrick warden from blanco we had sex in a theater w/o getting caught, but somehow my mother found out and flipped shit and forced us to break up we were secretly engaged cause we are only 16 so the engagement was broken then he told me he was always using me for the sex:(
You just aren't putting in enough effort. Use sentences and don't repeat stuff. You are just boring and not enjoyable to read at all.

[ballzcore86]

I unfortunately had to do this last november, but it was a lot less than three months. Those are all solid reasons given, and thats what I had said to her, but there are more at least for me

1) I was feeling pressured from my friends for things to work out because we had been "set up"
2) I was not sure I wanted to settle down with this person, because we didnt really click after a while. Initially we did, but conversation just seemed forced ya know?

So I basically told her it was me and not her issue, although i felt like we had to be a "serious thing" from her side, but if it had clicked more, it would not have been a big deal, I would have had no problem being a serious thing. I also was not sure if I was over the girl that had screwed me over several months prior, and that was affecting how i interacted with her (again my bad, which i told her it was)

I guess for me if it would have clicked more, I would have been into it more. So in short, I just wasnt that into it. That may or may not be the case for this fella

[Fullblast 2.0]

um who are you to say im fake for all i know ur an 80 yr old man
My age is displayed in the lower left. For all I know you could be fake [I]and[/I trying to get attention. :-p

[laserlife]

most people just dont have the guts to just say "its over", and they hide behind issues. "I can't feel emotion" "you are better than me" bla bla bla,
I came across hundreds of these situations (personally, or things happened to close friends).

Its just that some people would rather act like these than speak out the truth

[limepomegranate]

Me and my ex have been together for a few months. I thought things were going really well..and he showed no signs of this happening. Last weekend, we were at a party, and we started talking about tough stuff in relationships. He told me it was kinda hard for him to let his walls down to let someone in. But for the last four months, it seemed like I was in. Everything was fine. Then Monday, he started acting really shady. Not talking to me, and acting annoyed if I talked to him. The same happened Tuesday too. Then finally, after school, he met me at my car. He said that he had to do this in person. He told me that he's been thinking about our conversation at the party, and that he can't do it anymore. He couldn't let his guard down around me because it felt weird for him. I felt shocked, as far as I knew everything was fine. I asked if it was something I did, or could've done differently. He said that no, I was perfect, and he just couldn't show emotion towards me, and that I deserved someone who could. Then he left me there in the parking lot with a hug good bye, and we haven't spoken since. Just a text from yesterday saying how sorry he was again. Some back ground info: he has only had 1 girlfriend before me, he can be really sarcastic to everyone he talks to, he claims that he can't feel emotions like pain or anger or love.


Soo this leaves me a little confused. Any advice or similar stories would help.
Don't want to be the bearer of bad news but...psychopaths do not feel emotions. http://changingminds.org/explanations/emotions/empathy.htm
Or he could be bullshitting but I don't know and neither will anyone but him.

[limepomegranate]

honestly it sounds like he used it as an excuse to break up with you. guys do that when they are too immature to just say "i'm not longer interested".
The Cheat!!

[MegSo]

Don't want to be the bearer of bad news but...psychopaths do not feel emotions. http://changingminds.org/explanations/emotions/empathy.htm
Or he could be bullshitting but I don't know and neither will anyone but him.

This. Or it could not be bullshit. It takes me awhile to really show emotion when I'm in a relationship. Sometimes it's just a defense mechanism.

[Jennurna Gray]

It's over.


And by 'it', I mean 'this thread'.

[xohalezz]

It's over.


And by 'it', I mean 'this thread'.

Good call. I'm over that douchebag guy anyway. Thanks for all the advice!

[HalftoneAddict]

my ex never could talk about his feelings or work things out with me. i realize this is a guy thing, but women really need a guy who is emotionally mature.

[alix.xo]

i have a friend who, at the most random moments, will say, "i'm heartless." i think there's seriously something mentally wrong with these people. the best you can do is keep your head up and remember that it was by no fault of your own.