View Full Version : Are you fine with PDA?
Echo Park
03/27/10, 08:06 AM
I have never been comfortable about it. Through the years girls are always wanting to kiss in public, hold hands, whatnot. I just think it's better suited in the bedroom, or anywhere more private. I'm facing this problem because im dating a new girl and she is all for it, and i always feel like i have to fight her off me. what's the deal. Men- Are you comfortable with it? Women- Why do you like it so much?
<*)))><
03/27/10, 08:11 AM
I was assuming this would be a thread were I could talk about my Palm Pixi plus but now I'm just disappointed.
OveriseFan
03/27/10, 08:18 AM
I don't see what's wrong with holding hands in public... I don't even see the problem with a peck in public either. If you're not making out or rubbing eachother or anything, what's the real issue? I highly doubt you want to just hold hands in the bedroom...
Time Bomb Clock
03/27/10, 08:49 AM
You have an issue with holding hands? Really? Really?!
katiebobatie
03/27/10, 08:53 AM
I don't see what's wrong with holding hands in public... I don't even see the problem with a peck in public either. If you're not making out or rubbing each other or anything, what's the real issue? I highly doubt you want to just hold hands in the bedroom...
Agreed
Jennurna Gray
03/27/10, 08:58 AM
I don't see what's wrong with holding hands in public... I don't even see the problem with a peck in public either. If you're not making out or rubbing eachother or anything, what's the real issue? I highly doubt you want to just hold hands in the bedroom...
This. If you won't hold my hand in public, or kiss me in public, I'll assume that you either a.) Are ashamed of being seen WITH me, or b.) Want to look single.
Not saying that I'm down for Love In This Club, either, though.
Wake Up
03/27/10, 09:10 AM
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codhoppers
03/27/10, 09:22 AM
This. If you won't hold my hand in public, or kiss me in public, I'll assume that you either a.) Are ashamed of being seen WITH me, or b.) Want to look single.
Not saying that I'm down for Love In This Club, either, though.
All you are going to do is push her away. She clearly just wants to be close to you, what is so wrong with that? You are thinking about the situation way to much. There has to be a deeper issue here.
limepomegranate
03/27/10, 09:25 AM
I was assuming this would be a thread were I could talk about my Palm Pixi plus but now I'm just disappointed.
I got the palm pre woop woop represent! Bahaha ahhh I love the new palms though definitely an improvement!
jusscali
03/27/10, 09:25 AM
Let em do it, I'll watch muhahah
Echo Park
03/27/10, 09:46 AM
i just don't get it. I'm fine with giving her a hug in public, but walking all snuggled up together down the street is not for me.Some girls get it, but I don't think my latest one will. I think she will get offended and leave...damn
OveriseFan
03/27/10, 10:01 AM
i just don't get it. I'm fine with giving her a hug in public, but walking all snuggled up together down the street is not for me.Some girls get it, but I don't think my latest one will. I think she will get offended and leave...damn
...then maybe she's just not right for you?
If I really like the girl, I'd be proud to hold hands with her in public and kiss her.
If I'm concerned what others may think because she's not that pretty, I'd feel uncomfortable holding hands in public.
easy.
<*)))><
03/27/10, 10:25 AM
I got the palm pre woop woop represent! Bahaha ahhh I love the new palms though definitely an improvement!
I was joking I don't actually have it, word on the street those suck.
limepomegranate
03/27/10, 10:31 AM
I was joking I don't actually have it, word on the street those suck.
Well I love mine so everyone who thinks they suck can SUCK IT!
<*)))><
03/27/10, 10:34 AM
Well I love mine so everyone who thinks they suck can SUCK IT!
You can love it but the street don't lie.
bladerdude360
03/27/10, 10:54 AM
If I really like the girl, I'd be proud to hold hands with her in public and kiss her.
If I'm concerned what others may think because she's not that pretty, I'd feel uncomfortable holding hands in public.
easy.
Q1lB7DPe8eA
To the OP: As long as it's not full on making out in public I really don't see what the problem with a little kiss is. When my girlfriend gave me a present at my birthday dinner a few weeks ago where my family and friends were present I leaned over and gave her a kiss. Not a big deal and a nice way to show you care :shrug:.
ashley, radical
03/27/10, 11:00 AM
i think a lot of us like to show you guys off. so other girls know that you're ours. i don't know. i don't have a problem with kissing or holding hands in public. i mean, i personally don't like making out or anything in a super public place, but i don't have a problem with other people doing it i guess. to each his own.
Q1lB7DPe8eA
haha, that's exactly what I meant!
drevans18
03/27/10, 11:31 AM
if i'm doing it, cool. if not, get a room. some may call this hypocritical- i just call it life.
Thomas Nassiff
03/27/10, 11:46 AM
if i'm doing it, cool. if not, get a room. some may call this hypocritical- i just call it life.
Thread over.
shimmyshakes
03/27/10, 12:10 PM
There's a couple right next to my locker that kiss and hug and jump on each other every chance they can get. It's really disgusting and sometimes I start gagging when I hear their kissing noises. For this reason, I don't think anything more than a hug or quick kiss should be seen in public.
allthewaysaid
03/27/10, 01:14 PM
Dude how old are you? Why would you care if someone sees you holding hands or kissing out in public?
leaveawhisper
03/27/10, 01:25 PM
I used to be completely fine with it. Now I'm not against minor displays, but the line which is not to be crossed is definitely a lot less mobile than it was a few years ago. And I find it annoying when the person you're with wants to kiss you no matter where you are/who's around. A little discretion never hurt anyone.
Talk to your girlfriend. If she knows how you feel about it, she should understand. I don't think your being uncomfortable with PDA's is any reason for her to get particularly upset with you.
Numero10
03/27/10, 01:34 PM
I don't like other people doing it but I do it every now and then
Echo Park
03/27/10, 01:46 PM
Dude how old are you? Why would you care if someone sees you holding hands or kissing out in public?
i'm older than you kiddo
plus i never said the reason for not wanting to partake in PDA...dude
theguy77
03/27/10, 01:53 PM
I don't see what's wrong with holding hands in public... I don't even see the problem with a peck in public either. If you're not making out or rubbing eachother or anything, what's the real issue? I highly doubt you want to just hold hands in the bedroom...
haha i agree with this.
and if you sneak away to a spot where people are not looking at you then public makeouts can be a lot of fun. my girlfriend and i made out in a pile of leaves so huge that our bodies disappeared in it, on restricted grass in DC at night. we were right out in the touristy side of the city and yet no one could see us, it was pretty sweet, and the leaves felt nice to lay in too.
obviously you dont want to be all over somebody like that in plain sight of someone else though.
troubledbyinsects
03/27/10, 02:04 PM
suck it up PUSSY
whiterussian
03/27/10, 02:19 PM
Is ass grabbing (PDA style) usual in the states?
'Cause over here it's apparently the new hip thing to do with bfs and gfs in public. Haven't seen tit grabbing yet (in real public), but I know it's coming.
Ari Christos
03/27/10, 02:30 PM
Is ass grabbing (PDA style) usual in the states?
'Cause over here it's apparently the new hip thing to do with bfs and gfs in public. Haven't seen tit grabbing yet (in real public), but I know it's coming.
God I can only hope.
.invisible ink.
03/27/10, 02:57 PM
This. If you won't hold my hand in public, or kiss me in public, I'll assume that you either a.) Are ashamed of being seen WITH me, or b.) Want to look single.
Not saying that I'm down for Love In This Club, either, though.
exactly. there's nothing wrong with holding hands or kissing briefly in public. if you want to be with me and have no problem with getting with me in private than you should be able to be seen with me in public as more than just a friend, otherwise i think we've got some issues.
Jennurna Gray
03/27/10, 03:35 PM
All you are going to do is push her away. She clearly just wants to be close to you, what is so wrong with that? You are thinking about the situation way to much. There has to be a deeper issue here.
I think you quoted the wrong person because your response has nothing to do with my comment.
Is ass grabbing (PDA style) usual in the states?
'Cause over here it's apparently the new hip thing to do with bfs and gfs in public. Haven't seen tit grabbing yet (in real public), but I know it's coming.
We grab everyone's asses, where I'm from.
exactly. there's nothing wrong with holding hands or kissing briefly in public. if you want to be with me and have no problem with getting with me in private than you should be able to be seen with me in public as more than just a friend, otherwise i think we've got some issues.
Mhm, I don't think I could be with a guy who acted so differently in public.
friskycurtain
03/27/10, 03:50 PM
Two hot chicks making out, yes it is fine.
A fat, acne-faced kid and his just as equally ugly gf making out, fuck no.
limepomegranate
03/27/10, 03:58 PM
You can love it but the street don't lie.
Chyea right. Like people who don't own the damn phone know allll about the palm pre and just absolutely 100% know that it sucks.
I'm fine with it, but be reasonable. Holding hands or a quick kiss is fine, but don't fucking make out and be groping and shit.q
OveriseFan
03/27/10, 05:10 PM
Is ass grabbing (PDA style) usual in the states?
Hahaha. My girlfriend and I play a game where we try to subtly pinch eachother's butt in public without anyone noticing. It's fun, and no one does.
Too Slow
03/27/10, 05:12 PM
Two hot chicks making out, yes it is fine.
A fat, acne-faced kid and his just as equally ugly gf making out, fuck no.
I totally agree. At least make it worth watching
frenchatticus
03/27/10, 05:18 PM
Haha one time I made out with a girl at Wet n Wild for an hour straight, people made comments. I hate PDA now though, holding hands and a kiss is fine like everyone else has already said but if a girl tried to pull anything else I'd for sure be uncomfortable.
zion the lion
03/27/10, 05:22 PM
I hate all PDA. Even hand holding and kissing are absolute no-nos.
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03/27/10, 05:25 PM
Chyea right. Like people who don't own the damn phone know allll about the palm pre and just absolutely 100% know that it sucks.
The street don't lie.
poserscenemokid
03/27/10, 05:30 PM
I was assuming this would be a thread were I could talk about my Palm Pixi plus but now I'm just disappointed.
well the Pixi Plus is going to fail on you miserably...just like the regular Pixi does...hahaha...sorry to give you the bad warning...
zbrmike79
03/27/10, 05:32 PM
if you can't kiss or even hold hands in public. something is wrong with you.
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03/27/10, 05:34 PM
well the Pixi Plus is going to fail on you miserably...just like the regular Pixi does...hahaha...sorry to give you the bad warning...
Don't tell me I was joking about that phone.
limepomegranate
03/27/10, 05:39 PM
The street don't lie.
Well you do. So how can I trust you to tell me the truth about this matter?
ace1112
03/27/10, 05:51 PM
it doesn't really matter to me. what bugs me more than that is the couples that date for a week and think they're "in love". the worst though is there's a ton of kids at my highschool that would graduate and throw their life away and get married right after highschool
kbi the crowing
03/27/10, 05:57 PM
i just don't get it. I'm fine with giving her a hug in public, but walking all snuggled up together down the street is not for me.Some girls get it, but I don't think my latest one will. I think she will get offended and leave...damn
ever try expanding your horizons a bit?
i'm older than you kiddo
plus i never said the reason for not wanting to partake in PDA...dude
don't be so cryptic, spit it out.
drawndead
03/27/10, 06:58 PM
holding hands and kissing in public is fine, just no making out
IMO, anything other than making out and groping is fine.
Kassie09
03/27/10, 09:49 PM
I hate pda. It's so disgusting.
The most I will do is hold hands.
seeing people kiss makes me want to throw up.
I mean, unless I'm drunk then I really couldn't care less.
Seeing people get all over each other in public is so gross to me, So I try to extend the same courtesy to others and just minimize it only to holding hands and a quick peck here and there
whiterussian
03/28/10, 12:05 AM
We grab everyone's asses, where I'm from.
It's just such a slippery slope for me. I do admit that I'm pretty conservative about PDAs. But I'm super fine with holding hands. Heavy making out however is just annoying. Especially when it makes me envious, or it's between two shallow pricks.
From a personal experience, one guy once slapped/grabbed the rear of a girl I was sort of dating. She took it as harmless fun, but I saw it as physical flirting or whatever (and so did the guy, he didn't give a fuck). I go upset with her afterwards, and she was a bit hurt.
But from a general view, it's just weird to me. Like I said, you don't see public tit grabbing... yet. Or crotch fondling.
Jennurna Gray
03/28/10, 06:26 AM
It's just such a slippery slope for me. I do admit that I'm pretty conservative about PDAs. But I'm super fine with holding hands. Heavy making out however is just annoying. Especially when it makes me envious, or it's between two shallow pricks.
From a personal experience, one guy once slapped/grabbed the rear of a girl I was sort of dating. She took it as harmless fun, but I saw it as physical flirting or whatever (and so did the guy, he didn't give a fuck). I go upset with her afterwards, and she was a bit hurt.
But from a general view, it's just weird to me. Like I said, you don't see public tit grabbing... yet. Or crotch fondling.
I think holding hands, and a little kiss are publicly expected. Making out and anything more are pretty innapropriate in public, and if it means so much to do that right then, slip off and go somewhere that you guys can be alone.
I think that depends on who it is and their intentions. If it's a good friend of the person's, then it shouldn't necessarily be overanalyzed, but if it's someone that has been flirting with them, then yes, that's pretty much physical flirting. I don't see why you would get upset with her, though, because it wasn't her fault, you should have gotten upset with the guy who did it, if anybody.
Here, there's public tit grabbing and crotch fondling, but it's kind of rare. It definitely happens, though.
Jennurna Gray
03/28/10, 06:27 AM
IMO, anything other than making out and groping is fine.
Sex?
Alex DiVincenzo
03/28/10, 11:20 AM
Nothing wrong with holding hands or even some light kissing/hugging, but I've never liked making out or anything like that in public.
ohheroine
03/28/10, 11:28 AM
Hahaha. My girlfriend and I play a game where we try to subtly pinch eachother's butt in public without anyone noticing. It's fun, and no one does.
yes they do. someone always notices. they just look away awkwardly before you see them.
Time Bomb Clock
03/28/10, 11:30 AM
Get some when you need to get some, son!
drawndead
03/28/10, 12:21 PM
I hate pda. It's so disgusting.
The most I will do is hold hands.
seeing people kiss makes me want to throw up.
I mean, unless I'm drunk then I really couldn't care less.
i agree with you 100%. a quick kiss is whatever but i've been to the mall or at school and literally been uncomfortable being around it
drawndead
03/28/10, 12:23 PM
Seeing people get all over each other in public is so gross to me, So I try to extend the same courtesy to others and just minimize it only to holding hands and a quick peck here and there
agree
kbi the crowing
03/28/10, 12:55 PM
apparently no one on AP.net is an exhibitionist.
terror_91
03/28/10, 01:09 PM
apparently no one on AP.net is an exhibitionist.
Nope, I just flash.
kbi the crowing
03/28/10, 01:37 PM
Nope, I just flash.
you damn tease
terror_91
03/28/10, 01:39 PM
you damn tease
I'm just so naughty!
kbi the crowing
03/28/10, 01:41 PM
I'm just so naughty!
I just searched "naughty" in google images to find a funny picture to reply to this
I'm in a library
I really need to think things through sometimes
terror_91
03/28/10, 01:44 PM
I just searched "naughty" in google images to find a funny picture to reply to this
I'm in a library
I really need to think things through sometimes
Try going on chat roulette and then having a parent walk in just as a man whips his penis out.
kbi the crowing
03/28/10, 01:47 PM
Try going on chat roulette and then having a parent walk in just as a man whips his penis out.
hahah must be hella awkward
terror_91
03/28/10, 01:49 PM
hahah must be hella awkward
"It's not gay porn, it's not gay porn. I swear!"
kbi the crowing
03/28/10, 01:51 PM
"It's not gay porn, it's not gay porn. I swear!"
this is the reason why I haven't visited that site yet
I keep smelling someone's perfume, but it smells like flavored lube that comes with those brightly colored condoms.
/shinfo
terror_91
03/28/10, 01:56 PM
this is the reason why I haven't visited that site yet
I keep smelling someone's perfume, but it smells like flavored lube that comes with those brightly colored condoms.
/shinfo
It's not that bad. It's pretty funny. In fact I'm going to go on now; I'm in the mood for penis.
Maybe someone wipes themselves in condom lube?
Sex?
Well... besides the obvious haha.
Echo Park
03/28/10, 03:09 PM
It's not that bad. It's pretty funny. In fact I'm going to go on now; I'm in the mood for penis.
Maybe someone wipes themselves in condom lube?
the first and only time i went on that i got rejected from the first person i saw instantly then the second person i saw had her boobs out. The third person had his cock out. I didn't need to see any more.
terror_91
03/28/10, 03:10 PM
the first and only time i went on that i got rejected from the first person i saw instantly then the second person i saw had her boobs out. The third person had his cock out. I didn't need to see any more.
How could you not love that?
Jennurna Gray
03/28/10, 03:12 PM
Well... besides the obvious haha.
bj?
Edit: HAHA, kidding. Gotcha.
davehennessy
03/28/10, 04:31 PM
Get some when you need to get some, son!
:ok:
Sidenote: Nice avatar. Big fan myself
bj?
Edit: HAHA, kidding. Gotcha.
No, actually I am for public bj's... just kidding hah ;)
takemyhand
03/28/10, 11:55 PM
I think holding hands and a little kissing is fine in public, and if I was with my boyfriend and he wouldn't hold my hand or kiss me when I wanted to then I'd be pissed and concerned. My ex got to be really annoying about PDA toward the middle/end of our relationship though, like he would not let go of my hand, like, ever. When we were in school, he'd walk me to every class and hold my hand all the way there. At shows/parties/places with a lot of people he literally would not let go of me, It got really annoying, I'm not going to literally run away or something. So I'm all for normal and cute PDA just not creepily annoying PDA.
i dont have any problem holding hands or kissing in public. i just wish i had someone to hold hands with
Jennurna Gray
03/29/10, 03:56 AM
No, actually I am for public bj's... just kidding hah ;)
Hahaha, :P
I think holding hands and a little kissing is fine in public, and if I was with my boyfriend and he wouldn't hold my hand or kiss me when I wanted to then I'd be pissed and concerned. My ex got to be really annoying about PDA toward the middle/end of our relationship though, like he would not let go of my hand, like, ever. When we were in school, he'd walk me to every class and hold my hand all the way there. At shows/parties/places with a lot of people he literally would not let go of me, It got really annoying, I'm not going to literally run away or something. So I'm all for normal and cute PDA just not creepily annoying PDA.
Maybe he saw your username?
Jennurna Gray
03/29/10, 03:58 AM
i dont have any problem holding hands or kissing in public. i just wish i had someone to hold hands with
Awhh, Phil! Your posts always make me sad!
takemyhand
03/29/10, 04:26 AM
Maybe he saw your username?
HA probably!
catherinexhimel
03/29/10, 04:26 AM
There's a point where PDA becomes a little annoying (ie: people making out so intensely they look like they're about to rip eachother's clothes off every time you see them).
Jennurna Gray
03/29/10, 04:37 AM
HA probably!
:D
Awhh, Phil! Your posts always make me sad!
im sorry. ive just been depressed lately. i'll try and post a happy one just for you
Deadbolt23
03/29/10, 05:22 AM
I wouldn't date a girl that had a problem with holding hands with me. There is definitely a limit though. Don't make out in front of people. A little ass-grab is okay now and then though.
Also, the rules of PDA are way different at parties.
cristinaa
03/29/10, 08:20 AM
I'm not a fan of it. I don't mind it so much if we're in public, but not with anyone else. I hate it though if we're with other friends. I hate hanging out with a couple that's all over each other. It's just kind of awkward.
drawndead
03/29/10, 08:39 AM
There's a point where PDA becomes a little annoying (ie: people making out so intensely they look like they're about to rip eachother's clothes off every time you see them).
this. exactly. there is a time and place
Sharkboyyy!
03/29/10, 09:15 AM
I think PDA is really a time and place thing. I think there's definitely nothing wrong with holding hands/arm around waist in public, that just shows you care and you're proud to be with her. Definitely nothing wrong with hugging or giving a peck or two in public, either.
I had a friend who actually tried to lecture my girlfriend and I about our "over use of PDA" (and subsequently try to convince all of my friends to comment about it, too). The sad thing is, we never did more than hold hands, give a couple quick pecks here and there when appropriate, and if she was cold or had a bad day, she'd get close to me or I'd hug her or whatnot. Even early on in the relationship, there was no more than the "sitting close, arm around her" business and he'd gripe about it. My girlfriend had a bad night at work one night and we stopped by the gas station to get her some coffee and she came up to me and I gave her a hug and a quick peck...my friend stopped talking to us and stomped out of the gas station and told us to take him home if we couldn't keep our affairs 'private.' I basically told him to get the stick out of his ass and get over it. (the kid didn't kiss his girlfriend of three years until about two years in and would never, EVER do it in front of anyone)
raychull
03/29/10, 09:36 AM
I don't see what's wrong with holding hands in public... I don't even see the problem with a peck in public either. If you're not making out or rubbing eachother or anything, what's the real issue? I highly doubt you want to just hold hands in the bedroom...
This. If you won't hold my hand in public, or kiss me in public, I'll assume that you either a.) Are ashamed of being seen WITH me, or b.) Want to look single.
Not saying that I'm down for Love In This Club, either, though.
These. Especially in bold. Had that problem with my last relationship. It's not like I wanted to make out in public or get heavy or anything. But even when we'd go on walks alone, he'd sometimes refuse to hold my hand and it just made me feel like he was ashamed.
Cuddleworthy
03/29/10, 09:44 AM
awk
terror_91
03/29/10, 09:46 AM
I think PDA is really a time and place thing. I think there's definitely nothing wrong with holding hands/arm around waist in public, that just shows you care and you're proud to be with her. Definitely nothing wrong with hugging or giving a peck or two in public, either.
I had a friend who actually tried to lecture my girlfriend and I about our "over use of PDA" (and subsequently try to convince all of my friends to comment about it, too). The sad thing is, we never did more than hold hands, give a couple quick pecks here and there when appropriate, and if she was cold or had a bad day, she'd get close to me or I'd hug her or whatnot. Even early on in the relationship, there was no more than the "sitting close, arm around her" business and he'd gripe about it. My girlfriend had a bad night at work one night and we stopped by the gas station to get her some coffee and she came up to me and I gave her a hug and a quick peck...my friend stopped talking to us and stomped out of the gas station and told us to take him home if we couldn't keep our affairs 'private.' I basically told him to get the stick out of his ass and get over it. (the kid didn't kiss his girlfriend of three years until about two years in and would never, EVER do it in front of anyone)
Friend sounds like a d-bag, mate
Sharkboyyy!
03/29/10, 09:54 AM
Friend sounds like a d-bag, mate
Totally turned out that way, actually. Haha.
terror_91
03/29/10, 10:04 AM
Totally turned out that way, actually. Haha.
Haha, he do anything else other than that?
fightinirish217
03/29/10, 11:03 AM
I got no problem with holding hands or a simple kiss or hugging, but full on makeouts are just a bit much in public.
worthwaiting
03/29/10, 11:21 AM
If my bf holds my hands, it makes me feel like he is proud to be with me. Otherwise we would walk like friends.
Jennurna Gray
03/29/10, 01:50 PM
im sorry. ive just been depressed lately. i'll try and post a happy one just for you
I'm waiting.
;P
These. Especially in bold. Had that problem with my last relationship. It's not like I wanted to make out in public or get heavy or anything. But even when we'd go on walks alone, he'd sometimes refuse to hold my hand and it just made me feel like he was ashamed.
That's insane. I'm betting that this relationship didn't last long?
Jennurna Gray
03/29/10, 04:00 PM
It was a long distance relationship, and it lasted about ten months. So, I guess if it had been closer, probably not. I mean, he said he didn't want to tell people that we were together BECAUSE it was a LDR, but looking back, that doesn't justify it. He only told like, two people. He did later set his facebook as being in a relationship with me but if people asked he told them that it was a joke. Basically, I was his "best friend".
That's really shitty, I'm sorry. LDRs never really seem to work, and it seems like it would be hard, being away from the person so much. :|
terror_91
03/29/10, 04:34 PM
It was a long distance relationship, and it lasted about ten months. So, I guess if it had been closer, probably not. I mean, he said he didn't want to tell people that we were together BECAUSE it was a LDR, but looking back, that doesn't justify it. He only told like, two people. He did later set his facebook as being in a relationship with me but if people asked he told them that it was a joke. Basically, I was his "best friend".
Why did you stay with him for 10 months when he was being a complete asshole to you?
Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen?
Jennurna Gray
03/29/10, 04:52 PM
yeah. I was really optimistic in the start but after some stuff happened, and how he acted when I was there, it just didn't work out, at all.
I can see why, :O
Like Pat said, I don't see how you could have lasted 10 months like that.
Jennurna Gray
03/29/10, 06:12 PM
I don't know, to be honest.
Did learn a lot from the relationship but I also feel a lot less optimistic towards some aspects of life. I just don't want one sour relationship to ruin my outlook on romance.
Yeah, don't let that ruin it for you. I'm really big on the 'everything happens for a reason' idea, and I'm guessing that that happened to teach you a specific lesson for the next relationship. Maybe the next guy'll be all over you, and won't let go of you, haha.
Sharkboyyy!
03/29/10, 09:51 PM
Haha, he do anything else other than that?
Well, we were best friends for years, so it was kind of a bummer as a whole. He just disrespected my privacy/my girlfriend and I's privacy far too often to the point of madness, haha. That's not the whole story, but at least the more relevant portion.
I'm waiting.
;P
That's insane. I'm betting that this relationship didn't last long?
sorry, you might be waiting a while
rising_tied
03/29/10, 10:18 PM
I got a blowjob on a bus and in Burger King, and in a movie theater where I waved at the people watching......I am a very big supporter of PDA
Jennurna Gray
03/30/10, 03:48 AM
that's a good point...so far this seems promising. I guess I'm just afraid of doing certain things out of fear that I'll seem clingy, or whatever. Like calling him. I know that sounds stupid, but yeah.
Yeah, my problem is that I care way too much, and the last guy I was with didn't care, like, at all. Shit sucks.
Calling him shouldn't scare you, though, a healthy relationship has two people putting in equal amounts.
Jennurna Gray
03/30/10, 03:49 AM
sorry, you might be waiting a while
Awhaha, PM me if you need to talk about anything.
Jennurna Gray
03/30/10, 01:41 PM
Yeah. That's pretty much what happened. Once I detached myself he suddenly cared again. And I'm just afraid of becoming clingy because I sort of went through that for a couple of months last time, and it caused problems.
Shit, same with me. Once I was like almost over this guy, he wrote this multiple page text message telling me exactly how my heart beats, and how my skin feels and how I breathe and how he needs to feel that again. I gave it another try. He changed his mind, friends with benefits, end of story. Point is, everytime I thought I was over him, he pulled me back in and I had to go through the process again.
But that isn't anything you did. It's his fault. Clinginess is probably the least damaging relationship defect you could have.
Jennurna Gray
03/30/10, 01:58 PM
yeah. that's what I learned and I talked to my brother about a lot of it. and I knew he wasn't going to change, and that's what made it a lot easier for me. I began lying to a lot of people because of the relationship, and I was very much alienated because I was alwasy afraid that I'd make him mad. I look back though and I think I had justified reasons for being clingy in the first place.
You defintely did, it being at such a distance, and all.
tyramail
03/30/10, 02:03 PM
hand holding, kisses, and hugs are all good, but full on making out or anything else is uncomfortable for me.
MeegieMELTDOWN
03/30/10, 02:04 PM
I'm completely fine with it. If I love my girlfriend, why would I want to limit that to only the bedroom?
Jennurna Gray
03/30/10, 03:21 PM
many other reasons included. but, in the end, I'm a lot happier now and I learned a lot from the relationship.
And that's what matters, so everything worked out.
prometheus
03/30/10, 04:23 PM
Well... I really don't want to see gay dudes making out in public. But, I guess then to be fair maybe nobody should.
MeegieMELTDOWN
03/30/10, 05:57 PM
Well... I really don't want to see gay dudes making out in public. But, I guess then to be fair maybe nobody should.
What you got against the gays buddy?
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