My girlfriend doesn't trust me

[Homeless Donut]

We've been dating over 2 years. She found pictures of my ex-gf's on my computer about a year ago that I hadn't deleted. They weren't even bad pictures, nothing naked, nothing showing. She asks me whenever I don't answer my phone, "Are you with a girl?" "Are you cheating on me?" She constantly checks my internet history and my pictures to see if I "resaved" them.

I don't know what I can do to get her trust back. Or is she being insecure? Help me PL.

[phil19]

dump her

[Mandee, darling]

Sounds like she's both paranoid and insecure, mainly because she's afraid of being replaced. I think that you should've deleted the pictures a long time ago, because regardless, no matter who you're with, it'll come up and it'll cause a lot of problems in the future relationships. ALSO the whole "constantly checking internet history" situation is a complete invasion of privacy and that's something she shouldn't do no matter what. If anything she shouldn't be trusted.

I would confront her, assure her that you're not cheating and that you wouldn't cheat on her and if she still questions you, you might as well just do what Phil said and dump her. Trust is important in the relationship and if you don't have that you won't get far.

[Hamlet]

Well, seeing as she doesn't trust you anyway, it's pretty much free reign to start cheating on her.

EDIT: Failing that, anal is always a good way to regain someone's trust.

[ZeRo]

Give her an actual reason not to trust you so that next time when she asks, you can tell her that she's right.

[rosielikesyou]

She probably just wants reassurance after seeing the pictures, which would make anyone a tad bit insecure, but invading your privacy is not okay. I'd talk to her about it. Give her some clarification and hopefully she'll stop being so paranoid.

[HometownHero]

I would not be with a girl like that. I also wouldnt have pictures of an ex

[Jake Denning]

She probably just wants reassurance after seeing the pictures, which would make anyone a tad bit insecure, but invading your privacy is not okay. I'd talk to her about it. Give her some clarification and hopefully she'll stop being so paranoid.

hey! you haven't been on in awhile, whats up? Have you been to any shows lately?

[imtellingseb]

how about talking to her about it?

[rising_tied]

Give her an actual reason not to trust you so that next time when she asks, you can tell her that she's right.
I like the way you think

[Gumbyjag]

i know how you feel.

[zion the lion]

How would you feel if you found out that she kept souvenirs from her past relationships? She probably feels like you think she's ugly or something because for a whole year, you had pictures of your exes on your computer and she had to find out about it in such a weird way.

Of course she's going to be insecure, which (no matter what) is going to make her paranoid, you have to get rid of those pictures or anything else thats making her feel that way still, and have a serious talk with her and reassure her about your feelings and her looks.

[Reaver]

talk to her, take your time with it and reassure her that you only want her and will never cheat on her. don't bother telling her the same things several times and don't get impatient. also delete those pictures and tell her that you did that, maybe say sorry that you didn't delete them a long time ago. then tell her that you love her and if it feels right, give her a kiss. now, tell her that she can trust you and and how you think that you've earned that trust in your 2 years relationship. say that she can't continue checking your stuff all the time, because that's not how serious relationships work. and be very sensitive when you say that. don't expect an answer, just give her time and see if things change.
you can even repeat that a week+ later, but if nothing works it probably will never change and you should think about breaking up.

[brokenwings]

talk to her, take your time with it and reassure her that you only want her and will never cheat on her. don't bother telling her the same things several times and don't get impatient. also delete those pictures and tell her that you did that, maybe say sorry that you didn't delete them a long time ago. then tell her that you love her and if it feels right, give her a kiss. now, tell her that she can trust you and and how you think that you've earned that trust in your 2 years relationship. say that she can't continue checking your stuff all the time, because that's not how serious relationships work. and be very sensitive when you say that. don't expect an answer, just give her time and see if things change.
you can even repeat that a week+ later, but if nothing works it probably will never change and you should think about breaking up.
this

[danielineffigy]

How would you feel if you found out that she kept souvenirs from her past relationships? She probably feels like you think she's ugly or something because for a whole year, you had pictures of your exes on your computer and she had to find out about it in such a weird way.

Of course she's going to be insecure, which (no matter what) is going to make her paranoid, you have to get rid of those pictures or anything else thats making her feel that way still, and have a serious talk with her and reassure her about your feelings and her looks.
:ok:

talk to her, take your time with it and reassure her that you only want her and will never cheat on her. don't bother telling her the same things several times and don't get impatient. also delete those pictures and tell her that you did that, maybe say sorry that you didn't delete them a long time ago. then tell her that you love her and if it feels right, give her a kiss. now, tell her that she can trust you and and how you think that you've earned that trust in your 2 years relationship. say that she can't continue checking your stuff all the time, because that's not how serious relationships work. and be very sensitive when you say that. don't expect an answer, just give her time and see if things change.
you can even repeat that a week+ later, but if nothing works it probably will never change and you should think about breaking up.
this

[.invisible ink.]

wtf. i can't believe how many people have told you to delete the pictures. That's freaking ridiculous. You're allowed to keep mementos from past relationships, it's your history, it doesn't mean you're still hung up on those people. It's not like you have their pictures framed around your house, it's just a file on the computer, no big deal. Your girl sounds paranoid and insecure, probably due to other things in her life not even related to you. If you constantly flirt with other girls around her then you have a problem but if you're just being normal and doing nothing, she needs to be reassured and if that doesn't work, let her go. The people who protest the loudest are usually the ones with the issues (i.e., she's the cheater, if she constantly accuses you).

[Reaver]

wtf. i can't believe how many people have told you to delete the pictures. That's freaking ridiculous. You're allowed to keep mementos from past relationships, it's your history, it doesn't mean you're still hung up on those people. It's not like you have their pictures framed around your house, it's just a file on the computer, no big deal. Your girl sounds paranoid and insecure, probably due to other things in her life not even related to you. If you constantly flirt with other girls around her then you have a problem but if you're just being normal and doing nothing, she needs to be reassured and if that doesn't work, let her go. The people who protest the loudest are usually the ones with the issues (i.e., she's the cheater, if she constantly accuses you).
that was my first thought, too. i still decided to tell him to delete them, since he's obviously very insecure himself and won't be able to stand up for himself anyway.
you're right though.

[Jennurna Gray]

Sounds like she's both paranoid and insecure, mainly because she's afraid of being replaced. I think that you should've deleted the pictures a long time ago, because regardless, no matter who you're with, it'll come up and it'll cause a lot of problems in the future relationships. ALSO the whole "constantly checking internet history" situation is a complete invasion of privacy and that's something she shouldn't do no matter what. If anything she shouldn't be trusted.

I would confront her, assure her that you're not cheating and that you wouldn't cheat on her and if she still questions you, you might as well just do what Phil said and dump her. Trust is important in the relationship and if you don't have that you won't get far.
This.

[Jennurna Gray]

wtf. i can't believe how many people have told you to delete the pictures. That's freaking ridiculous. You're allowed to keep mementos from past relationships, it's your history, it doesn't mean you're still hung up on those people. It's not like you have their pictures framed around your house, it's just a file on the computer, no big deal. Your girl sounds paranoid and insecure, probably due to other things in her life not even related to you. If you constantly flirt with other girls around her then you have a problem but if you're just being normal and doing nothing, she needs to be reassured and if that doesn't work, let her go. The people who protest the loudest are usually the ones with the issues (i.e., she's the cheater, if she constantly accuses you).
I couldn't agree more.

[LoginBanned]

DTB

-Tom Leykis

[Hamlet]

talk to her, take your time with it and reassure her that you only want her and will never cheat on her. don't bother telling her the same things several times and don't get impatient. also delete those pictures and tell her that you did that, maybe say sorry that you didn't delete them a long time ago. then tell her that you love her and if it feels right, give her a kiss. now, tell her that she can trust you and and how you think that you've earned that trust in your 2 years relationship. say that she can't continue checking your stuff all the time, because that's not how serious relationships work. and be very sensitive when you say that. don't expect an answer, just give her time and see if things change.
you can even repeat that a week+ later, but if nothing works it probably will never change and you should think about breaking up.

How would you feel if you found out that she kept souvenirs from her past relationships? She probably feels like you think she's ugly or something because for a whole year, you had pictures of your exes on your computer and she had to find out about it in such a weird way.

Of course she's going to be insecure, which (no matter what) is going to make her paranoid, you have to get rid of those pictures or anything else thats making her feel that way still, and have a serious talk with her and reassure her about your feelings and her looks.

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/131/319047856_dbf1ef3e92.jpg

wtf. i can't believe how many people have told you to delete the pictures. That's freaking ridiculous. You're allowed to keep mementos from past relationships, it's your history, it doesn't mean you're still hung up on those people. It's not like you have their pictures framed around your house, it's just a file on the computer, no big deal. Your girl sounds paranoid and insecure, probably due to other things in her life not even related to you. If you constantly flirt with other girls around her then you have a problem but if you're just being normal and doing nothing, she needs to be reassured and if that doesn't work, let her go. The people who protest the loudest are usually the ones with the issues (i.e., she's the cheater, if she constantly accuses you).

I was just about to reply to those earlier ones with "Since when did you all become pussies?" But your reply works just as well.

Dude, they're your memories. You're allowed to keep them. Doesn't mean you're gonna plaster your ex's face on a blow up doll and have an imaginary dinner date with her.

If she's going paranoid over nothing, and you're 100% sure it IS nothing, then that's her problem and not yours.

[tottivillarossi]

Let's ask Moses, he'll know what to do

http://southparkstudios.mtvnimages.com/img/content/characters/152a.jpg

[NOThaven777]

yep, its already messed up man. even if you do talk to her, girls minds are insane, they dont stop thinking... meaning she wont forget finding what she found on your computer a year ago. meaning she wont tooooootally trust... like ever. good luck

[SLoT]

dump her
This.

She's way far gone man. All hope has been lost, it's like Will Smith's dog in I Am Legend. You're going to have to suffocate that relationship sooner or later.

[zachff]

Unless she is smoking hot and loves facials, dump her

[zachff]

This.

She's way far gone man. All hope has been lost, it's like Will Smith's dog in I Am Legend. You're going to have to suffocate that relationship sooner or later.

Fuck you, that dog was the shit. Died protecting her master.

http://k9paparazzi.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/12/k9p-abbeyiamlegend.jpg
BAM

[kbi the crowing]

We've been dating over 2 years. She found pictures of my ex-gf's on my computer about a year ago that I hadn't deleted. They weren't even bad pictures, nothing naked, nothing showing. She asks me whenever I don't answer my phone, "Are you with a girl?" "Are you cheating on me?" She constantly checks my internet history and my pictures to see if I "resaved" them.

I don't know what I can do to get her trust back. Or is she being insecure? Help me PL.

did any of this start before she found the pictures?

[SLoT]

Fuck you, that dog was the shit. Died protecting her master.

http://k9paparazzi.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/12/k9p-abbeyiamlegend.jpg
BAM
haha, I know you just proved my point, at first everything was all good, then it got fucked up, just like this dude's relationship, and now he has to kill it, even though he may not want to, or his girlfriend will be the end of him.

[introduction]

I don't even trust you.

[Debut_Fin]

http://i42.tinypic.com/2h5s3dd.jpg

[readyfredi]

You should look up self-fulfilling prophecy in psychology.

[tottivillarossi]

You should look up self-fulfilling prophecy in psychology.
You kinda remind me of Tina Fey. We should totally hook up.

[Laural666]

Girls only act like this when we feel like we need to, i started doing this when i felt like me and my ex were growing apart, i checked his computer history daily. Once she has found even one thing that makes her think your cheating on her it's going to go on and on, until you make her feel like you only want to be with her, and nobody else. Try harder, take her out to do things with you, take her to shows, make her feel like she's the most important person to you. Goodluck!

[Aperi Oculos]

"what is love without trust" - as cities burn

[Roboman]

Girls only act like this when we feel like we need to, i started doing this when i felt like me and my ex were growing apart, i checked his computer history daily. Once she has found even one thing that makes her think your cheating on her it's going to go on and on, until you make her feel like you only want to be with her, and nobody else. Try harder, take her out to do things with you, take her to shows, make her feel like she's the most important person to you. Goodluck!

Oh god, really? You only act like this when you "feel like [you] need to"? And that's supposed to be justification for putting up with her shit all the time, when the guy did absolutely nothing wrong? I mean, I've dealt with my girlfriend being insecure about other girls before, but what he's talking about is crossing the line.

To the OP: I would be firm and tell her that she has no real reason to not trust you and that if she can't, she should get the fuck out. Also, tell her that her constantly checking your computer is a total and complete invasion of privacy and that you won't put up with it. And I agree with those saying that having those pictures is fine. Sure, it's understandable that it might make your current girl a bit insecure, but she needs to realize that that's the past.

[Laural666]

Oh god, really? You only act like this when you "feel like [you] need to"? And that's supposed to be justification for putting up with her shit all the time, when the guy did absolutely nothing wrong? I mean, I've dealt with my girlfriend being insecure about other girls before, but what he's talking about is crossing the line.

To the OP: I would be firm and tell her that she has no real reason to not trust you and that if she can't, she should get the fuck out. Also, tell her that her constantly checking your computer is a total and complete invasion of privacy and that you won't put up with it. And I agree with those saying that having those pictures is fine. Sure, it's understandable that it might make your current girl a bit insecure, but she needs to realize that that's the past.
Well, we can be really jealous. If i see even one thing that makes me think that my boyfriend would even think of cheating on me, i feel like i have to prove myself wrong. And the girl does not know that the guy has done nothing wrong, guys will be guys, although some guys are different.

[Deadbolt23]

How would you feel if you found out that she kept souvenirs from her past relationships? She probably feels like you think she's ugly or something because for a whole year, you had pictures of your exes on your computer and she had to find out about it in such a weird way.

Of course she's going to be insecure, which (no matter what) is going to make her paranoid, you have to get rid of those pictures or anything else thats making her feel that way still, and have a serious talk with her and reassure her about your feelings and her looks.

I have a lot of souveniers from past relationships. Just because it didn't work out so well doesn't mean I'm going to throw them all away. there are a lot of great memories there.

[Yellowcard2006]

lol girl is crazy

[<*)))><]

She would be mad if she meet me, I still have a past relationship in my closet.

[jeremyc]

You can only do so much convincing. This could have a psychological effect on you if it gets worse and then she ends up leaving you over it, resulting in you having trust issues in future relationships. As someone said earlier, talk to her about it. But if it doesn't get any better, let it go and just be friends. You're only 19 dude and while I think its awesome you guys can make it for 2 years and certainly hope for the best, you have to take care of yourself and never walk on eggshells for someone.

[taichadow]

her friends are probably talking mad shit about you. bitches being bitches.

[Roboman]

Well, we can be really jealous. If i see even one thing that makes me think that my boyfriend would even think of cheating on me, i feel like i have to prove myself wrong. And the girl does not know that the guy has done nothing wrong, guys will be guys, although some guys are different.

Hahaha WOW, I'm amazed at the insecurity on display here.

[Scrandon]

wow I don't think you should have to delete the pictures

[atticus18244fss]

Don't delete the pictures.

[Hagysaurus Rex]

You have every right to keep those pictures. You also have a right to a sane girl that doesn't freak out over something that small. It sounds like she has some serious insecurity issues independent of you and your ex. Talk to her, communicate with her, understand her point of view, but if she still can't trust you then good luck with your situation.

[Hagysaurus Rex]

http://i42.tinypic.com/2h5s3dd.jpg

OMG :lol:

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[rhinitus]

i disagree with deleting the pictures. if theyre filed away in some far off place on your computer and youre not longingly looking at them it's fine. i don't think with each new relationship you should act like your past didn't happen. i untag pics on fb of me kissing my ex gfs but thats about it. at this point theyre so far back i dont even know if all of them are untagged...

[Reaver]

How would you feel if you found out that she kept souvenirs from her past relationships? She probably feels like you think she's ugly or something because for a whole year, you had pictures of your exes on your computer and she had to find out about it in such a weird way.

Of course she's going to be insecure, which (no matter what) is going to make her paranoid, you have to get rid of those pictures or anything else thats making her feel that way still, and have a serious talk with her and reassure her about your feelings and her looks.
your text has absolutely no substance at all and you still make it look like it's really obvious that the girl was right. I'm serious, that's a talent! you should become a politician. just take the side of a male sometimes, it increases your credibility.

[ari telescope]

did any of this start before she found the pictures?
Good question.
Well, we can be really jealous. If i see even one thing that makes me think that my boyfriend would even think of cheating on me, i feel like i have to prove myself wrong. And the girl does not know that the guy has done nothing wrong, guys will be guys, although some guys are different.
Ummm hi, making the rest of us girls look bad and lose the argument here. You're just insane. Or... honey, and I don't mean to be blunt, but maybe the reason you're so paranoid is because you know damn well deep down that he is giving you a reason to be. IE you already know he's cheating on you.
i disagree with deleting the pictures. if theyre filed away in some far off place on your computer and youre not longingly looking at them it's fine. i don't think with each new relationship you should act like your past didn't happen. i untag pics on fb of me kissing my ex gfs but thats about it. at this point theyre so far back i dont even know if all of them are untagged...
Untagged? Pictures of you kissing your ex shouldn't be on public display at all if you're dedicating yourself to a new relationship.


If you're not a cheater and you're totally honest all the time and haven't done anything questionable in the least, and that person still freaks out and thinks you're lying about everything, it's never good.
They're either already cheating (their guilt and insecurities trying to make themselves feel better, and look less like a cheater by accusing you and trying to make you look like the bad guy) or they're eventually going to cheat on you (insecurities playing in).

Either way, get the fuck out before you waste your time. When you're with someone who totally trusts you and you trust back, life without fights and walking on eggshells is so much more fulfilling.

[emoishardcore]

Well, seeing as she doesn't trust you anyway, it's pretty much free reign to start cheating on her.

EDIT: Failing that, anal is always a good way to regain someone's trust.

^this. it's proven to work. science.

[Homeless Donut]

did any of this start before she found the pictures?

Not really. There were a few moments where she would be like "are you checking that girl out?" But that's it. So far it looks like you guys are saying my options are:

A) Break up with her
B) Talk to her about it

Also, once she found the pictures, she deleted them. So there's no way of getting them back since I burned the bridges with those past ex's.

[Homeless Donut]

If you're not a cheater and you're totally honest all the time and haven't done anything questionable in the least, and that person still freaks out and thinks you're lying about everything, it's never good.
They're either already cheating (their guilt and insecurities trying to make themselves feel better, and look less like a cheater by accusing you and trying to make you look like the bad guy) or they're eventually going to cheat on you (insecurities playing in).

Either way, get the fuck out before you waste your time. When you're with someone who totally trusts you and you trust back, life without fights and walking on eggshells is so much more fulfilling.

This was the best thing I've read in this thread. Well..beside that LOL pic.

[Reaver]

Not really. There were a few moments where she would be like "are you checking that girl out?" But that's it. So far it looks like you guys are saying my options are:

A) Break up with her
B) Talk to her about it

Also, once she found the pictures, she deleted them. So there's no way of getting them back since I burned the bridges with those past ex's.
SHE deleted the pictures????? holy cow, now that's really fucked up. dude, she's bullying you and you don't have the balls to stand up for yourself.

[kbi the crowing]

Not really. There were a few moments where she would be like "are you checking that girl out?" But that's it. So far it looks like you guys are saying my options are:

A) Break up with her
B) Talk to her about it

Also, once she found the pictures, she deleted them. So there's no way of getting them back since I burned the bridges with those past ex's.

ask her why she doesn't trust you.
if she says she does trust you, clearly and calmly give her the evidence that she does not and try to work on it.
building trust takes a while, especially if someone is insecure, but if you both care enough to do so, you can.
but it won't be all on her, you'll have to promote the trust as well.

EDIT: & I agree with the post above me. she didn't have any right to do that.

[Laural666]

Hahaha WOW, I'm amazed at the insecurity on display here.
No, i just don't appreciate cheating.



EDIT: I would not freak over something as stupid as pictures.

[Laural666]

Ummm hi, making the rest of us girls look bad and lose the argument here. You're just insane. Or... honey, and I don't mean to be blunt, but maybe the reason you're so paranoid is because you know damn well deep down that he is giving you a reason to be. IE you already know he's cheating on you.



I wasn't trying to make us look bad. Okay we can change it to i can be really jealous sometimes. But in reality, any girl that thinks their guy is cheating would act like that, that's why guys shouldn't give their girl a reason to believe there cheating.

[CaryGrant]

At this point you might as well cheat on her. She'll end up thinking you did anyway.

[BlackAxxe]

fuck another girl. that should win her trust...right?

[Greg.Kushlan]

Have a 3 way with the your girlfriend and the girl your cheating on her with.

[chrissy0138]

breakup with her, ur only 19 its not like your gonna marry her or anything long term....

[taichadow]

Have a 3 way with the your girlfriend and the girl your cheating on her with.

ahahahahahahhaha YES!

[rhinitus]

Untagged? Pictures of you kissing your ex shouldn't be on public display at all if you're dedicating yourself to a new relationship.

if you have some magical way to pull other peoples' photos off of facebook, let me know. until then i'll stick to untagging.

[Posthardcore]

You had to do something to make her have trust issues.

[ari telescope]

I wasn't trying to make us look bad. Okay we can change it to i can be really jealous sometimes. But in reality, any girl that thinks their guy is cheating would act like that, that's why guys shouldn't give their girl a reason to believe there cheating.
That's my point. It's not healthy to freak out over little things, like facebook comments from a girl he knew in high school or a customer you think he's "too nice" to but if you are legitimately jealous for a real REASON he's given you, then maybe it's because he is in fact doing something. The way you said it was that "us girls get jealous over any little thing" when it's really not true. I hate to move the topic, but if you're acting like this in your own relationship then maybe you need to reevaluate you and him before assuming it's how all girls and relationships are.

[ari telescope]

You had to do something to make her have trust issues.
Or her last boyfriend did. Or she saw it happen to someone else close to her. Or she's cheating. Or she just wants to lower his self-esteem to her own. Either way, she's a bitch and needs to man up or he needs to quit wasting his time.

[ari telescope]

This was the best thing I've read in this thread. Well..beside that LOL pic.
Glad to have helped :)
I learned this all from experience, and trust me... There is so much more bullshit to come if you don't call it quits with this person before it blows up worse and you get too attached. Please don't waste your time, days are so much more awesome when you find a person who isn't that way!

[SouthernCross40]

Let's ask Moses, he'll know what to do

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Will the U-Haul have windows??

[zion the lion]

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I was just about to reply to those earlier ones with "Since when did you all become pussies?" But your reply works just as well.

Dude, they're your memories. You're allowed to keep them. Doesn't mean you're gonna plaster your ex's face on a blow up doll and have an imaginary dinner date with her.

If she's going paranoid over nothing, and you're 100% sure it IS nothing, then that's her problem and not yours.

Okay, if she's paranoid its because she's self conscious, and if she's self conscious its probably because he has a bunch of pictures of ex girlfriends (who he's burned bridges with) on his computer, and self consciousness makes you paranoid.



your text has absolutely no substance at all and you still make it look like it's really obvious that the girl was right. I'm serious, that's a talent! you should become a politician. just take the side of a male sometimes, it increases your credibility.

Wow, really? I'm more of a physicist, not a politician. But get over whatever problem you have with me because its going to get old after a while.

Not really. There were a few moments where she would be like "are you checking that girl out?" But that's it. So far it looks like you guys are saying my options are:

A) Break up with her
B) Talk to her about it

Also, once she found the pictures, she deleted them. So there's no way of getting them back since I burned the bridges with those past ex's.

Why would you have pictures of exes on your computer, when you burned your bridges with them?

[davehennessy]

We've been dating over 2 years. She found pictures of my ex-gf's on my computer about a year ago that I hadn't deleted. They weren't even bad pictures, nothing naked, nothing showing. She asks me whenever I don't answer my phone, "Are you with a girl?" "Are you cheating on me?" She constantly checks my internet history and my pictures to see if I "resaved" them.

I don't know what I can do to get her trust back. Or is she being insecure? Help me PL.

If she doesn't trust you/you guys can't trust each other after dating for two years, you may have a problem (hence your post, I understand). Best bet is probably just to sit down and talk about how both of you feel about the other's jealous tendencies (which there obviously seems to be). Communication is the most important part of a relationship.. just talk it out with her

[And Hours Pass]

While you maybe shouldn't have had those pics (I have similar ones so I'm not judging), this is completely ridiculous. I think that this is a strong indicator that she is a possessive/jealous person and I would suggest getting out of there.

[And Hours Pass]

Okay, if she's paranoid its because she's self conscious, and if she's self conscious its probably because he has a bunch of pictures of ex girlfriends (who he's burned bridges with) on his computer, and self consciousness makes you paranoid.

I'm sorry, but this is a bit ridiculous. Any girl who is self-conscious because a guy has a few photos of an ex is absurd. They've been in a 2 year relationship. He can keep memories of his past while still being committed to his present. Any girl that doesn't understand this has issues.

Why would you have pictures of exes on your computer, when you burned your bridges with them?

It represents a significant part of your life at one point. Doesn't mean he isn't over her. Just means that was a part of his life. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having perfectly normal photos of an ex. As long as they're not indecent or lauded over in his free time, this is totally fine.

[Reaver]

Wow, really? I'm more of a physicist, not a politician. But get over whatever problem you have with me because its going to get old after a while.
I never had a problem with you, only with the things you say. and I was serious, btw.
I should have known though, that you're going to do that typical girl thing which is completely not getting what I say when you think that I'm critisizing you.

[Kassie09]

if my boyfriend had pictures of some girls on his computer i'd be like WHAT THE FUCK.

[RiCCioLi]

Dont Trust A Ho

[StartAngry&Mad]

Not really. There were a few moments where she would be like "are you checking that girl out?" But that's it. So far it looks like you guys are saying my options are:

A) Break up with her
B) Talk to her about it

Also, once she found the pictures, she deleted them. So there's no way of getting them back since I burned the bridges with those past ex's.
Did she empty your recycle bin too? As insane as it is she did all of that (I have no patience for jealousy and insecurity in a relationship), I'd almost be impressed if she was diligent enough to delete the pictures twice

PS, for the girl or two saying that's all justified if a guy's given you a reason to suspect he's cheating...ridiculous, if he's cheating, absolutely, end it! But if you think he's cheating when he isn't, he should end it...there's no reason for a relationship to get to a point when there's "suspicion" of cheating, trust should be a simple and inherant component of a relationship

[StartAngry&Mad]

And your friends should be embaressed for not having gone Saving Silverman on your girl already.

[Laural666]

That's my point. It's not healthy to freak out over little things, like facebook comments from a girl he knew in high school or a customer you think he's "too nice" to but if you are legitimately jealous for a real REASON he's given you, then maybe it's because he is in fact doing something. The way you said it was that "us girls get jealous over any little thing" when it's really not true. I hate to move the topic, but if you're acting like this in your own relationship then maybe you need to reevaluate you and him before assuming it's how all girls and relationships are.
Yeah, i know what you mean.

[The Indigo]

I have pictures of all my ex on my computer. Doesn't mean anything.

[PmCarlay]

talk to her, take your time with it and reassure her that you only want her and will never cheat on her. don't bother telling her the same things several times and don't get impatient. also delete those pictures and tell her that you did that, maybe say sorry that you didn't delete them a long time ago. then tell her that you love her and if it feels right, give her a kiss. now, tell her that she can trust you and and how you think that you've earned that trust in your 2 years relationship. say that she can't continue checking your stuff all the time, because that's not how serious relationships work. and be very sensitive when you say that. don't expect an answer, just give her time and see if things change.
you can even repeat that a week+ later, but if nothing works it probably will never change and you should think about breaking up.
Write a book. Or maybve do some tutorial vids.

[Reaver]

Write a book. Or maybve do some tutorial vids.
awww, thanks!

[KatastrophiE]

Desperate minds mean desperate measures. You gotta get this one together. You're young and in love. That should be enough

[KatastrophiE]

And your friends should be embaressed for not having gone Saving Silverman on your girl already.

Comingtoyaaaahaaaa

[Lawliet]

It's not like you ever did anything to lose her trust. If she doesn't trust you,m why are you guys together? I think you need to grow a pair and talk to her and tell her she can't be immature like that or you'll tell her to kick rocks.

[phil19]

This.

She's way far gone man. All hope has been lost, it's like Will Smith's dog in I Am Legend. You're going to have to suffocate that relationship sooner or later.

such a sad moment

[xapplexpiex]

Send me the pictures.

[chrislauren]

Maybe she's the one cheating. Maybe she's grilling you and doing all this stuff to keep the attention off of her. Just saying.. Or it can be she is just very insecure. Talk to her about it, and if she still keeps it up, she isn't the girl for you.

[ClydeMcAllister]

:ragemode:
Holy god damn mother of fuck. Just wait until she tries to get on your MySpace, email of Facebook. My GF doesn't even know I have Facebook cause she's have a meltdown. Do what you can, but don't waste your time. If you see it's not going to change then leave, cause it's not going to change. Jealousy, lack of trust and invasion of privacy are only going to push you away and make you resent her, so if she doesn't cut the shit then cut it for her. Oh and if you leave don't go back to her, cause then she'll have even more trust issues cause you broke up with her before. It's a vicious cycle. Believe me I know.


BRB breaking up with my GF

[xshitsweakx]

Chicks like that need to be blown up, put it in her car or something, those chicks give the rest of us bad names.

No matter what you say to her, how much you say to her, how much you prove yourself worthy, once a girlfriend like that becomes insecure THERE'S NOTHING YOU CAN DO YOU STOP THE INSECURITY. Even if the girlfriend acts less insecure, I can PROMISE you she's taking that insecurity out behind your back to her friends complaining to them, and that's just not right to them! It gets fucking annoying to hear someone talk about their non-existent problems. I'm only being honest.

[xshitsweakx]

Send me the pictures.

hahahahahaha yes, that will help him.

[BornUnderPunches]

And your friends should be embaressed for not having gone Saving Silverman on your girl already.
well not everyone can pull of the Neil Diamond look

[de1337ed]

personally i would have talked to her, told her the truth (that i would never cheat on her) and etc. If it persisted, I would break up with her. if she can't trust you and what you've said when you've given her no (real) reason to not trust you then you shouldn't have to put up with her own insecurities.

[zion the lion]

I'm sorry, but this is a bit ridiculous. Any girl who is self-conscious because a guy has a few photos of an ex is absurd. They've been in a 2 year relationship. He can keep memories of his past while still being committed to his present. Any girl that doesn't understand this has issues.



It represents a significant part of your life at one point. Doesn't mean he isn't over her. Just means that was a part of his life. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having perfectly normal photos of an ex. As long as they're not indecent or lauded over in his free time, this is totally fine.

She was probably (and most likely) self conscious before. And those pictures just made it all worse. Just take it from someone who's just like that

I never had a problem with you, only with the things you say. and I was serious, btw.
I should have known though, that you're going to do that typical girl thing which is completely not getting what I say when you think that I'm critisizing you.

Serious with what?
When youre always a patronizing dick to me, of course I'm going to do the "typical girl" thing

[worthwaiting]

She has some serious trust issues and probably is very insecure person. Can't believe she deleted those pictures, that's insane and I would be quite mad if someone did that to me (cause that would mean that some of my family photos, graduation etc. pictures would be gone). What if you were friends with your ex, what would she then do?

But as I guess you love her and don't want to dump her, then the only option is to talk. She needs to know that you love only her and don't think of your ex in a loving way anymore and she shouldn't worry. And she needs to realize if she keeps acting like that, it will push you away 'cause you feel like you are punished for nothing.

[ari telescope]

So did you break up with her yet?

[Tautou107]

this
This is completely irrelevant to the thread, but I love your avatar. :-)

[Homeless Donut]

So did you break up with her yet?

No I went out of town this weekend. I'll talk to her first and see what she says. If the conversation goes horribly bad then I'll grow the pair with you have all wanted me to do and break it off.

[ari telescope]

No I went out of town this weekend. I'll talk to her first and see what she says. If the conversation goes horribly bad then I'll grow the pair with you have all wanted me to do and break it off.
Good for you. Life is awesome when you're with a happy, trusting personn!

[de1337ed]

No I went out of town this weekend. I'll talk to her first and see what she says. If the conversation goes horribly bad then I'll grow the pair with you have all wanted me to do and break it off.

good luck

[brokenwings]

This is completely irrelevant to the thread, but I love your avatar. :-)
thanks :) i love you *cough* i mean your avatar, too ;)

[anthonydarko]

Girl is nuts, dump her and fuck mad bitches.

[AndrewIcex]

Bitch is overreacting.

[takemyhand]

My ex boyfriend didn't trust me at alllllll, it was super annoying and caused a ton of problems. He used to become a user of every website I was a part of like -ap.net, twitter, last.fm, things he's never heard of etc. just to check up on what I was doing/saying. He'd go through my phone, read texts before I did, go through my computer, everything. I never went through his stuff because I thought it was creepy/I didn't want to know. But ultimately our relationship ended because there was no trust. So, I'd say talk to her about it, and if she doesn't change -end it. If she doesn't trust you it'll end one way or another.

[Ghostpsalm]

Bitch is overreacting.

This is it. Dump her. Move on. Simply said. As my friend Aaron said to me when I was in a situation like this "There are plenty of fish in the sea and you're a damn good fisherman."

[Derekcolns]

I would say its not her fault .first of all you did a mistake by saving your ex g/f snap and i doubt that your girl friend already had gone through this path . might be her ex-bf had done the same thing and he dumb her.Delete that photo in front of her and put her photo instead of your ex.

[CheckeredFloors]

Dump her then be all like
http://i51.tinypic.com/119t18k.jpg

[catherinexhimel]

Why are people so paranoid these days? It seems like I've been hearing an increasing amount of stories like this lately.

[Sean Rizzo]

Why are people so paranoid these days? It seems like I've been hearing an increasing amount of stories like this lately.
I'd imagine whenever the rate of infidelity increases, the rate of paranoia increases by twice the amount that the infidelity increased.

[catherinexhimel]

I'd imagine whenever the rate of infidelity increases, the rate of paranoia increases by twice the amount that the infidelity increased.
That's sad. I just feel bad for couples that have been married for like 25 years and then one of them finds out that the other's been cheating on them. That would be absolutely horrible.

[StephenYoung]

Why are people so paranoid these days? It seems like I've been hearing an increasing amount of stories like this lately.

I'm guessing with the rise in sexting, facebookups, easier to send dirty pictures, plus less people have morals, and the media sends shock stories.

[catherinexhimel]

I'm guessing with the rise in sexting, facebookups, easier to send dirty pictures, plus less people have morals, and the media sends shock stories.
What do you mean by shock stories?

[Sean Rizzo]

That's sad. I just feel bad for couples that have been married for like 25 years and then one of them finds out that the other's been cheating on them. That would be absolutely horrible.
I can't even imagine how I would feel if that happened to me. My gf's mom just kicked her husband out for that and I feel awful for her, even though it's better for them that he's gone because he was a jerk.

What do you mean by shock stories?
The media will take an issue and over sensationalize it even if it's a legitimate problem to get more attention.

[StephenYoung]

What do you mean by shock stories?

Well, not exactly stories about couples, but it seems to me that most crime shows, comedies and movies have at least a side-story about an unfaithful husband, or a lying wife, or whatever. Media doesn't portray many happy couples, or at least not as many as they used to.

[catherinexhimel]

I can't even imagine how I would feel if that happened to me. My gf's mom just kicked her husband out for that and I feel awful for her, even though it's better for them that he's gone because he was a jerk.


The media will take an issue and over sensationalize it even if it's a legitimate problem to get more attention.
Yeah, it still leaves the victims of the marriage's problems completely broken. My best friend caught her dad cheating on her mom and she's been a complete wreck for about six months. She's so angry all the time at him and she'll come over just crying so hard that she can't even talk. It's so hard to see that.

Fuck the media, seriously. This is partly why kids are so different nowadays. They're getting suffocated with all of this shit all the time. You can't turn on the radio or tv, go on the internet, or read a magazine without seeing/hearing some horrific or scandalous story.

Well, not exactly stories about couples, but it seems to me that most crime shows, comedies and movies have at least a side-story about an unfaithful husband, or a lying wife, or whatever. Media doesn't portray many happy couples, or at least not as many as they used to.
Yeah, it seems like those tabloids and stuff are always trying to portray happily married celebrities as having affairs or being unhappy.

[Sean Rizzo]

Yeah, it still leaves the victims of the marriage's problems completely broken. My best friend caught her dad cheating on her mom and she's been a complete wreck for about six months. She's so angry all the time at him and she'll come over just crying so hard that she can't even talk. It's so hard to see that.

****** the media, seriously. This is partly why kids are so different nowadays. They're getting suffocated with all of this ****** all the time. You can't turn on the radio or tv, go on the internet, or read a magazine without seeing/hearing some horrific or scandalous story.
Wow, that's awful. I'm sorry for her.

As for the media, this vid is about all I have to say:

lSmmM5NdW88

Watch it all, it gets intense.

[catherinexhimel]

Wow, that's awful. I'm sorry for her.

As for the media, this vid is about all I have to say:

lSmmM5NdW88

Watch it all, it gets intense.
I'd never actually listened to Innerpartysystem before. I really liked the song, and the video fit it perfectly too. I like the ending part after it says 'This is entertainment?' in her mouth. Crazy.

[Sean Rizzo]

I'd never actually listened to Innerpartysystem before. I really liked the song, and the video fit it perfectly too. I like the ending part after it says 'This is entertainment?' in her mouth. Crazy.
Yeah. This video actually got pulled in Europe for being "too scary". lol.

[StephenYoung]

Wow, that's awful. I'm sorry for her.

As for the media, this vid is about all I have to say:

lSmmM5NdW88

Watch it all, it gets intense.

Not sure what to think of that. Good though.

[catherinexhimel]

Yeah. This video actually got pulled in Europe for being "too scary". lol.
Could you send me the names of some of their other songs that are good? I really liked their sound.

[Sean Rizzo]

Could you send me the names of some of their other songs that are good? I really liked their sound.
"Obsession" and "Lovers Dancing" are great as well.

[catherinexhimel]

"Obsession" and "Lovers Dancing" are great as well.
Thanks!

[Sean Rizzo]

Thanks!
Welcome, tell me what you think in your reply. lol.

[catherinexhimel]

Welcome, tell me what you think in your reply. lol.
Haha, so, I've listened to Obsession and now I'm finding Lovers Dancing. Obsession had a nice gradual build to the song and a not too over the top dance beat to it. Plus, I like the guy's voice. He has a good voice for a band like that (genre = dance, maybe?). They have some nice trance-y undertones in it, too. They're super catchy though!

[Sean Rizzo]

Haha, so, I've listened to Obsession and now I'm finding Lovers Dancing. Obsession had a nice gradual build to the song and a not too over the top dance beat to it. Plus, I like the guy's voice. He has a good voice for a band like that (genre = dance, maybe?). They have some nice trance-y undertones in it, too. They're super catchy though!
For real. They have superior lyrics for their genre as well.

[catherinexhimel]

For real. They have superior lyrics for their genre as well.
For sure. I liked The Lovers Dancing as well. My only problem was that I wanted the song to continue on (which I guess would be a good thing). But, I'll definitely check them out more in depth.

[Sean Rizzo]

For sure. I liked The Lovers Dancing as well. My only problem was that I wanted the song to continue on (which I guess would be a good thing). But, I'll definitely check them out more in depth.
There are actually two versions of Lovers Dancing, so try to find the other one! I'm pretty sure it's a remix.

[Gaston]

well this thread sure got derailed

[catherinexhimel]

There are actually two versions of Lovers Dancing, so try to find the other one! I'm pretty sure it's a remix.
Yeah, I saw it on youtube. I'll listen to it then.

[Sean Rizzo]

Yeah, I saw it on youtube. I'll listen to it then.
Yup, that's it. I don't own their EP, only their album, but from what I remember I liked the remix more.

[catherinexhimel]

Yup, that's it. I don't own their EP, only their album, but from what I remember I liked the remix more.
Alright, I'm listening to it right now. It sounds completely different, haha. I just looked up the lyrics to the song and they're pretty good, too.

[Sean Rizzo]

Alright, I'm listening to it right now. It sounds completely different, haha. I just looked up the lyrics to the song and they're pretty good, too.
Pretty much. I haven't found much of anything that sounds like them.

[catherinexhimel]

Pretty much. I haven't found much of anything that sounds like them.
Yeah, they're pretty good. I really like that they have little hints of trance in their songs. The beat of the song reminds me somewhat of the song Dreamscape by 009 Sound System.


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[Sean Rizzo]

Yeah, they're pretty good. I really like that they have little hints of trance in their songs. The beat of the song reminds me somewhat of the song Dreamscape by 009 Sound System.

Oh, this. They love to play this on the local techno station, haha. There's only one song I found off that station that is awesome.

oMsvXDM110s

[catherinexhimel]

Oh, this. They love to play this on the local techno station, haha. There's only one song I found off that station that is awesome.

oMsvXDM110s
That's so awesome that y'all have a local techno station. We don't, wah wah. I'd heard the dubstep remix of that song. The more I listen to dubstep the more I love it, but I feel like my brain is rotting when I'm listening to it. But I like the original just as much as the dubstep version.

[Sean Rizzo]

That's so awesome that y'all have a local techno station. We don't, wah wah. I'd heard the dubstep remix of that song. The more I listen to dubstep the more I love it, but I feel like my brain is rotting when I'm listening to it. But I like the original just as much as the dubstep version.
Why would your brain rot from her voice? hahaha. Btw our techno station has a website and you can download files for windows media player to live stream it.

http://c895worldwide.com/web/

Right-click one of the links with the Microsoft Windows logo behind it and click Save Target As.

[catherinexhimel]

Why would your brain rot from her voice? hahaha. Btw our techno station has a website and you can download files for windows media player to live stream it.

http://c895worldwide.com/web/

Right-click one of the links with the Microsoft Windows logo behind it and click Save Target As.
No, not from her voice, haha. She actually has a good voice. I meant just listening to dubstep without words (like artists like Excision and Datsik) over and over. Damn, y'all have a lot of clubs/venues that play techno and stuff. We have one super sketchy club downtown that has a $3 techno and dubstep night called "Glow" every Wednesday. That's pretty much it though.

[Sean Rizzo]

No, not from her voice, haha. She actually has a good voice. I meant just listening to dubstep without words (like artists like Excision and Datsik) over and over. Damn, y'all have a lot of clubs/venues that play techno and stuff. We have one super sketchy club downtown that has a $3 techno and dubstep night called "Glow" every Wednesday. That's pretty much it though.
Haha, I never go to clubs.

[catherinexhimel]

Haha, I never go to clubs.
I'm not old enough to go to clubs, but they don't ID at this one. I've only been once though. Driving to downtown Houston on a school night to a club makes you a tad bit tired the next day, haha.

[Sean Rizzo]

I'm not old enough to go to clubs, but they don't ID at this one. I've only been once though. Driving to downtown Houston on a school night to a club makes you a tad bit tired the next day, haha.
Oh I bet, hahaha. How late were you up?

[catherinexhimel]

Oh I bet, hahaha. How late were you up?
It ends at 3 AM, but I left at 1, got home around 1:45 and then I had to take a shower and stuff. That was a crazy night. I'm definitely not a "clubber" though. It's just too sweaty and dirty, haha.

[ARadioWithGuts]

Has a 3OH!3 reference been made yet?

[Sean Rizzo]

Has a 3OH!3 reference been made yet?
No, because they suck. haha.

[Derekcolns]

Talk to her about it. She should not suspect you so much.

[yetconfused]

I apologize for my gender. I truly am sorry that there are females like this in the world.