motionwm
09/07/06, 06:40 PM
So. I'm friends with this girl for about a year and a half now... About half a year ago I developed a very strong attraction for her, but didn't say anything because she had a boyfriend. Either way, we start talking alot online (our one year difference has us in different schools) and out of nowhere she comes up to me one day after school and hugs me like she was trying to kill me. I'm confused, but I look at her face and she's pretty upset and says she wants to talk to me.
So her boyfriend cheated on her, and I was the first person she told. I talked to her, told her I'd back her up with whatever she decided, but the advice I gave her was to confront her boyfriend. I had known him, and it seemed very uncharacteristic of him... I assumed it was a false rumor. Either way she does ask him, he cusses her out on the spot and says he's done with her.
I feel horrible. I feel like I destroyed their relationship, which is upsetting because she seemed so happy. About a month later, she asks me why I never date girls. The truth of the matter was that I just didn't feel about any girl the way I felt about her. I tell her that there's "a girl" that I haven't told. Her response is "what are the chances that girl is me?". I'm very reluctant to pursure a relationship considering how fragile our friendship would be, so I tell her it seems risky so soon after her last thing and that maybe we should just be friends.
She says she and some friends are going to the mall and wants me to come. One of them was my best friend (who I met the girl through) so I figure it'll be cool. Either way, we're at the mall and she's sending me all these signals that she wants to get close... For instance she's always talking and walking with me exclusively, touching me around the waiste and little things like that. We're sitting down later talking (the whole group) and we're all having a good time. For some reason she puts her head on my shoulder and tells me that she hasn't had this much fun with a guy in forever.
I cave.
I put my arm around her and ask her out. She seems really REALLY happy, says yes, and kisses me. So I'm ecstatic, she's happy, it's all good. This is the Saturday before school starts.
Three days into school she just wants to be friends. She acts like it was just a week-long thing... I guess she didn't realise how long I've liked her, but now she talks to me about guys she thinks are cute and it breaks my fucking heart. She still talks to me online ALOT, but when she's around this particular group of friends, I'm lucky to get a wave from her. It's like there's some kind of atmosphere around these girls she hangs with, where suddenly she can't even talk to me. I get the feeling she's embarassed or something, which is puzzling because I've never even MET these girls before!
Where it gets really interesting is that another girl asks me to swap mixed CD's with her, and starts wanting me to hang out with her at lunch and such. The first girl gets kind of upset... She says she's surprised at how fast I started hanging out with another girl (and we're really just friends) and asks me why I wasn't spending time with lots of girls before dating her.
I'm pretty angry, but at the same time, I still like her ALOT. I just can't be mad at her, but I continue talking to her online (where she treats me like a best friend) and I continue just to walk by her in the halls and such with nothing more than a nod.
I don't know what to think, do, or say...
So her boyfriend cheated on her, and I was the first person she told. I talked to her, told her I'd back her up with whatever she decided, but the advice I gave her was to confront her boyfriend. I had known him, and it seemed very uncharacteristic of him... I assumed it was a false rumor. Either way she does ask him, he cusses her out on the spot and says he's done with her.
I feel horrible. I feel like I destroyed their relationship, which is upsetting because she seemed so happy. About a month later, she asks me why I never date girls. The truth of the matter was that I just didn't feel about any girl the way I felt about her. I tell her that there's "a girl" that I haven't told. Her response is "what are the chances that girl is me?". I'm very reluctant to pursure a relationship considering how fragile our friendship would be, so I tell her it seems risky so soon after her last thing and that maybe we should just be friends.
She says she and some friends are going to the mall and wants me to come. One of them was my best friend (who I met the girl through) so I figure it'll be cool. Either way, we're at the mall and she's sending me all these signals that she wants to get close... For instance she's always talking and walking with me exclusively, touching me around the waiste and little things like that. We're sitting down later talking (the whole group) and we're all having a good time. For some reason she puts her head on my shoulder and tells me that she hasn't had this much fun with a guy in forever.
I cave.
I put my arm around her and ask her out. She seems really REALLY happy, says yes, and kisses me. So I'm ecstatic, she's happy, it's all good. This is the Saturday before school starts.
Three days into school she just wants to be friends. She acts like it was just a week-long thing... I guess she didn't realise how long I've liked her, but now she talks to me about guys she thinks are cute and it breaks my fucking heart. She still talks to me online ALOT, but when she's around this particular group of friends, I'm lucky to get a wave from her. It's like there's some kind of atmosphere around these girls she hangs with, where suddenly she can't even talk to me. I get the feeling she's embarassed or something, which is puzzling because I've never even MET these girls before!
Where it gets really interesting is that another girl asks me to swap mixed CD's with her, and starts wanting me to hang out with her at lunch and such. The first girl gets kind of upset... She says she's surprised at how fast I started hanging out with another girl (and we're really just friends) and asks me why I wasn't spending time with lots of girls before dating her.
I'm pretty angry, but at the same time, I still like her ALOT. I just can't be mad at her, but I continue talking to her online (where she treats me like a best friend) and I continue just to walk by her in the halls and such with nothing more than a nod.
I don't know what to think, do, or say...