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PSYCHOkinetic
06/09/03, 03:57 PM
Okay so I have this friend..And ya know usually when someone says that they're talking about themselves, but let me clear this up it's not me, it is my friend. Hmm..Okay now that I got that cleared up. Here is the sitch.
She was all lovey mushy gushy with her boyfriend just a month ago...Like she was all in love with him and whatnot (I had to say that word I've been wanting to say it all day but back to the real thing) But now she isn't really in love with him anymore and she doesn't know how to tell him. And we're sitting here trying to figure it out while she is on the phone with him but, we don't know how she should do it.
So, be a psychiatrist and give false advice for us. Or even better, real advice.
evil zach
06/09/03, 04:02 PM
First start of by being really subtle and saying "I wan't you to know you didn;t do anything wrong" Then tell hime its becuase you couldn't commit, even though its becuase you,..er...your friend met somebody else. Then when they find out you lied about why you wanted to break up get pissed of becuase the guy is upset.
PSYCHOkinetic
06/09/03, 04:05 PM
ok...again...it's not me! it's tara. she was sitting beside me but she is now in the other room. but she doesn't wanna break up with him or nething like that
evil zach
06/09/03, 04:07 PM
she should take revealing photo's of her self and send them to me
PSYCHOkinetic
06/09/03, 04:09 PM
ummm how about not
evil zach
06/09/03, 04:10 PM
Then how do you esxpect me to give good advice?
PSYCHOkinetic
06/09/03, 04:11 PM
if you need motivation go to a porn site...and again, every thread ends up talking about sex in one way or another
Stompemplay
06/09/03, 04:14 PM
Originally posted by PSYCHOkinetic
ok...again...it's not me! it's tara. she was sitting beside me but she is now in the other room. but she doesn't wanna break up with him or nething like that
This sucks for you.....
I mean Tara! right...tara!
no wait. I meant you.
FishAlotNBePunk
06/09/03, 04:15 PM
zach's such a charmer.
PSYCHOkinetic
06/09/03, 04:16 PM
Originally posted by FishAlotNBePunk
zach's such a charmer.
all guys are...notice the sarcasm
Suprhatch614
06/10/03, 02:59 AM
tell her "out of al the fish in the ocean, you were the only one i wanted to mount on my wall, and now i want to beat you with a bat until your stupid beedy eyes pop out of your stupid bastard head...I hate you you ruined my life, you are the reason for my unhappiness, when I'm with you I still feel alone, I hate you for all the things you never said, and even more for all the things you did, You were the worst thing to ever happen to me....but we can be friends right?!?
Slick Shoes
06/10/03, 03:17 AM
Three Simple Words ....
I AM GAY
PSYCHOkinetic
06/10/03, 03:20 AM
Originally posted by Suprhatch614
tell her "out of al the fish in the ocean, you were the only one i wanted to mount on my wall, and now i want to beat you with a bat until your stupid beedy eyes pop out of your stupid bastard head...I hate you you ruined my life, you are the reason for my unhappiness, when I'm with you I still feel alone, I hate you for all the things you never said, and even more for all the things you did, You were the worst thing to ever happen to me....but we can be friends right?!?
what person screwed you over?
Slick Shoes
06/10/03, 03:24 AM
Originally posted by Slick Shoes
Three Simple Words ....
I AM GAY
PSYCHOkinetic
06/10/03, 03:25 AM
Originally posted by Slick Shoes
Three Simple Words ....
I AM GAY
damnit u don't have to post it twice...but he already knows she's not gay. and she doesn't wanna break up with him.
i don't like breaking up with anyone i really wouldn't know what to say all i know is that if it was me i would have liked to be let down easy and not have the i wanna just be frineds thing told to me usually it would take me awile to talk to that person again so i would pretty much stay away from shit i knew would hurt me i am in a good relationship now but as of now and really in the near future i don't see it ending well i hope i was of any kind of help
PSYCHOkinetic
06/10/03, 03:30 AM
kinda helped....let down easy...blah blah blah...thanks
Slick Shoes
06/10/03, 03:32 AM
none of this let down easy bullshit ... It's easier if your friends just tells him she doesn't love him anymore ... end of story ........ It's easier to deal with that way.
PSYCHOkinetic
06/10/03, 03:33 AM
seriously?
Slick Shoes
06/10/03, 03:36 AM
Originally posted by PSYCHOkinetic
seriously?
Yer seriously ...... It's bullshit when they always wanna be friends right after they rip your heart out. At least if they tell you they don't like you for sure, you get some closure.
yeah i don't like to nbe left hangin off the edge that shit sucks
Slick Shoes
06/10/03, 03:39 AM
to right ....
PSYCHOkinetic
06/10/03, 03:41 AM
grrr...how many times do i have to say... she still likes him and DOES NOT WANT TO BREAK UP WITH HIM!
so how is she supposed to do it for real?
Slick Shoes
06/10/03, 03:45 AM
So she wants to tell him that she doesn't love him yet but still wants to go out?
PSYCHOkinetic
06/10/03, 03:48 AM
yea finally sum1 gets it. the problem is, she still does like him. but just not all head over for him
Originally posted by Slick Shoes
Three Simple Words ....
I AM GAY
"Six simple words: I'm not gay, but I'll learn"
Maybe it's just me, but I'm guessing your friend was never really in love with this kid. It was probably one of those dumb things where teenagers say it during the infatuation stage and then they realize that it may not be the case. It's tough shit, because once you break that out, it's hard to go back. My advice is simple, she has to tell him. She thought she loved him, but she doesn't anymore. She still wants to be with him. The rest is up to him.
aframedregret
06/10/03, 06:50 AM
See this is what Ive been saying to people....
The word love is thrown around way too much.... its a strong word, esp. if you say it to someone who you....ehh...i mean your friend is involved with....I personally dont think yo..u.....she should have said it to begin with but now I think you should tell "her" that to sit down and have a convo with her boyfriend saying "I finally realize how strong the word love is and how powerful it can be to someone and their feelings, they can either make or break someone.....I want to tell you that my views on the word and the feelings of "love" have change....But my feelings havent changed for you. So If i do not say I love you anymore its not because Im taking back everything I said its just because my views on Love have changed." Thats basically the only way you can pull it off and to be honest I feel like a dick just telling you to say that cause I feel bad for this guy. But whatever, do what you must. and Next time remember Love isnt just a word you say....its an emotion that either can build someone or break someone.
theused_FSF
06/10/03, 06:58 AM
what happened to "seriously?"
Tara_Beth
06/11/03, 05:17 AM
Originally posted by aframedregret
See this is what Ive been saying to people....
The word love is thrown around way too much.... its a strong word, esp. if you say it to someone who you....ehh...i mean your friend is involved with....I personally dont think yo..u.....she should have said it to begin with but now I think you should tell "her" that to sit down and have a convo with her boyfriend saying "I finally realize how strong the word love is and how powerful it can be to someone and their feelings, they can either make or break someone.....I want to tell you that my views on the word and the feelings of "love" have change....But my feelings havent changed for you. So If i do not say I love you anymore its not because Im taking back everything I said its just because my views on Love have changed." Thats basically the only way you can pull it off and to be honest I feel like a dick just telling you to say that cause I feel bad for this guy. But whatever, do what you must. and Next time remember Love isnt just a word you say....its an emotion that either can build someone or break someone.
Dude thanks that helps alot, and my friend was telling the truth it wasnt about her, it was about me, and I have realized that it was thrown out there and that I shouldnt have said it but ya know it kind happened when he asked me infront of the whole school if I loved him at prom and what was I suppose to do embarris (sp) him?
aframedregret
06/11/03, 05:52 AM
Originally posted by Tara_Beth
Dude thanks that helps alot, and my friend was telling the truth it wasnt about her, it was about me, and I have realized that it was thrown out there and that I shouldnt have said it but ya know it kind happened when he asked me infront of the whole school if I loved him at prom and what was I suppose to do embarris (sp) him?
Dont worry about it, advice is free and im open Monday-thrusdays.
Plus....I understand he put you in a hard position but if something like that happens to you be like "I think im falling in love with you" not "I love you" cause it keeps you clear from actually telling him you love him. Once you do...its a whole different world.
Jim Morgan
06/11/03, 08:28 AM
do it in person
Originally posted by Greg
love isn't real.
THE RETURN OF THE EMO BOY!!!!!
Originally posted by devin
THE RETURN OF THE EMO BOY!!!!!
NO! i was just stating a fact. that's all.
FishAlotNBePunk
06/11/03, 08:43 AM
love IS SO real dickface.
Originally posted by FishAlotNBePunk
love IS SO real dickface.
then how come 50% of marriages get divorced?
and from personal experience. if love does still exist, it's no good unless the person loves you back. then love is just the worst thing ever, and it makes you lose that person as a friend. maybe if love didnt exist i wouldnt be losing my best friend right now.
I FUCKING HATE LOVE!!!
fuck that was emo. oh boy:confused:
FishAlotNBePunk
06/11/03, 08:48 AM
Originally posted by Greg
then how come 50% of marriages get divorced?
and from personal experience. if love does still exist, it's no good unless the person loves you back. then love is just the worst thing ever, and it makes you lose that person as a friend. maybe if love didnt exist i wouldnt be losing my best friend right now.
I FUCKING HATE LOVE!!!
fuck that was emo. oh boy:confused:
blah blah blah
humans are stupid. ive been studying your planet for 547887934 years and humans dont know true love because they are ignorant horny bitches. oh yes, we are destroying you and taking over your lush green planet in 67 years. thank you good day.
Originally posted by FishAlotNBePunk
blah blah blah
humans are stupid. ive been studying your planet for 547887934 years and humans dont know true love because they are ignorant horny bitches. oh yes, we are destroying you and taking over your lush green planet in 67 years. thank you good day.
ha ha. that was actually amusing. thank you for making me laugh seth.
BrandNewRock05
06/11/03, 08:51 AM
Originally posted by PSYCHOkinetic
Okay so I have this friend..And ya know usually when someone says that they're talking about themselves, but let me clear this up it's not me, it is my friend. Hmm..Okay now that I got that cleared up. Here is the sitch.
She was all lovey mushy gushy with her boyfriend just a month ago...Like she was all in love with him and whatnot (I had to say that word I've been wanting to say it all day but back to the real thing) But now she isn't really in love with him anymore and she doesn't know how to tell him. And we're sitting here trying to figure it out while she is on the phone with him but, we don't know how she should do it.
So, be a psychiatrist and give false advice for us. Or even better, real advice.
My advice to you is not to dance around this bullshit. Tell your boyfriend straight up that you think he is gay or fat or stupid and he gives horrible oral sex. He'll probably cry and turn emo, but you wont have to deal with him again.
FishAlotNBePunk
06/11/03, 08:52 AM
Originally posted by Greg
ha ha. that was actually amusing. thank you for making me laugh seth.
you laugh NOW but you just wait till we use your fellow earthlings as our kinky sex slaves!
Originally posted by FishAlotNBePunk
you laugh NOW but you just wait till we use your fellow earthlings as our kinky sex slaves!
:eek:
BrandNewRock05
06/11/03, 08:53 AM
Originally posted by BrandNewRock05
My advice to you is not to dance around this bullshit. Tell your boyfriend straight up that you think he is gay or fat or stupid and he gives horrible oral sex. He'll probably cry and turn emo, but you wont have to deal with him again.
i was rereading my own post and i came across that horrible oral sex part. try saying horrible oral 5 times fast
Originally posted by BrandNewRock05
i was rereading my own post and i came across that horrible oral sex part. try saying horrible oral 5 times fast
Forget saying, try giving horrible oral 5 times fast. Now that's a challenge.
BrandNewRock05
06/11/03, 09:06 AM
Originally posted by devin
Forget saying, try giving horrible oral 5 times fast. Now that's a challenge.
I just blasted dr. pepper out of my nose, damn thats funny
PatHeTic_PUnK
06/11/03, 09:18 AM
Did she ever tell him she loved him? Did he ever say it back?
if she never told him, than she doesnt NEED to tell him that she doesnt love him anymore... if she has already told him, then she doesnt need to say it anymore, if he asks why she hasnt said i love you back she can simpley say, that she doesnt know what love is right now and just doesnt want to throught that word around but that she likes him alot.... Ta da...
I hope i helped...
Tara_Beth
06/11/03, 12:31 PM
Originally posted by PatHeTic_PUnK
Did she ever tell him she loved him? Did he ever say it back?
if she never told him, than she doesnt NEED to tell him that she doesnt love him anymore... if she has already told him, then she doesnt need to say it anymore, if he asks why she hasnt said i love you back she can simpley say, that she doesnt know what love is right now and just doesnt want to throught that word around but that she likes him alot.... Ta da...
I hope i helped...
That would work too...
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