AGE: An issue or just a number?

[TheFirstMatt]

Top o' the mornin',

So I'm a picky cunt. After a few bad 'uns, I've come to be very stubborn about the girls a go out with.

We played a show on friday and there were literally a hundred girls I could have focused on speaking to, but there's this one that really won me over straight off the bat. I havent really given any girls a chance since my last g/f but this one I was into straight away.

We talked for ages, exchanged numbers and have been on the myspace/phone since then.

Catch is, she's 16. I be 20 yo. My best friend says, 'Dude, do what makes you happy. You deserve it and age is just a number anyway. If she's cool it's not a problem.'

Is that a valid statement do you think? Cuz I don't wanna not start something with someone I think could be good for me just cuz of her age. Seems a bit shallow to me!

Have received some mixed responses so far though.

[thatwasamoment]

She wants you to do her homework for her.

[Stereo Mike]

I considered asking a girl out who was 16, and i'm 21. (I didn't in the end, but the sentiment was there).

'A say go for it, yo.'

[TheFirstMatt]

She wants you to do her homework for her.

haha ace.

gunna try her out on saturday. if it works, it works. ive got a feeling it might.:-)

[Kif]

She's legal, go for it.

[Jorrster]

1/2 your age plus 7. thats how i do it.

[Melissa Johnson]

Average age difference of a married couple: 5.3 yrs.
It fits in that. :shrug: I can't say much. My boyfriend and I have a 4 yr age difference.

[CROMagnon]

1/2 your age plus 7. thats how i do it.
i hear that is the rule

[TheFirstMatt]

Interesting. That puts her a year out of range though!

I'm more down with the 5.3 yrs thing, even though I'm not marrying her, it makes me feel better haha.

[TheFirstMatt]

Average age difference of a married couple: 5.3 yrs.
It fits in that. :shrug: I can't say much. My boyfriend and I have a 4 yr age difference.

Your boyfriend is 15! Crazy!;-)

[lucky_krystle]

age is just a number to an extent. a few years isnt a big deal, but more than 5 is until you get into your twenties. the biggest thing is corresponding maturity levels.

[lucky_krystle]

Average age difference of a married couple: 5.3 yrs.
It fits in that. :shrug: I can't say much. My boyfriend and I have a 4 yr age difference.

hmmm... i did not know that.

[TheFirstMatt]

the biggest thing is corresponding maturity levels.

Trust!!

[crazytoledo]

Dating younger people can lead to people you know saying a lot of crap about it, but its not that big of a difference.

[AP_Punk]

Your boyfriend is 15! Crazy!;-)

hahahahaha

[bigbang]

I only use age to make generalizations usually. I think many people can step outside their age and be way more mature than it suggests, or sometimes, way more immature as well.

Personally, I'm seeing a guy 7.5 years older than me. If you told me that situation before I met him, I probably wouldn't have believed it could ever work.. but it is.

My bigger beef is guys who are 19+ dating 14-15 year olds. I guess I just saw a lot of my guy friends stay stuck in some highschool stage and suddenly dating girls younger than my siblings, which weirded me out. I just think highschool teaches you a lot... and if you're a newcomer to highschool.. you (in MOST cases) can't relate to someone who's out of highschool.

[TgE ARTdamage]

i like that half your age plus 7 rule

[bigbang]

It does seem like a decent rule, makes a lot of sense. Except.. that means my boy shouldn't be with me haha. Ah well, I'm basically.. not 18. I can get into the bars, and I'm not a complete immature dolt. So whatever :P

[TgE ARTdamage]

pffft.

you qualify for me with the half your age plus 7 rule ;-)

[Wobbie]

A 4 year difference is fine. But just, for a 16 year old. I think any girl her age dating anyone 21 or over is a bit wrong. But 16 - 20 seems okay to me.

The half + 7 year thing makes it 19-and-a half for me, haha. I'd date anyone over 18. I think that's the general consesus for old bastards like me though.

[MandyChaos]

Go for it. Its not like she's 13 or 14, that would be ick..

[TheFirstMatt]

Encouraging responses thus far!

So what's the biggest age gaps you guys have had in past/current relationships?

[lucky_krystle]

the youngest i have gone is 2 years, and the oldest i have gone is 6. neither lasted though.

i have the most success dating guys who are 1-2 years older than i am.

[TheFirstMatt]

That's fair.

When I was 15 I dated a 19 year old. How cool did I feel!

[lucky_krystle]

haha. you probably thought you were the shit, right?

[TheFirstMatt]

Indeed! Again, didn't last though. I had bragging rights for two months at school though. If nothing, it was a confidance booster.

[Sp00ner]

That's fair.

When I was 15 I dated a 19 year old. How cool did I feel!

Haha hell yeah man, when I was 14 I was dating a 17 year old. Even thought it wasn't that big of a gap, I felt like I was the shit!

[lucky_krystle]

i would have never dated a guy in high school when i was 19. my brother always ends up dating older girls though. he dated a girl who was 2 years older than i am, and i am 2 1/2 years older than him.

[Melissa Johnson]

hmmm... i did not know that.

It was on my shampoo bottle..of all things.

[TheFirstMatt]

i would have never dated a guy in high school when i was 19. my brother always ends up dating older girls though. he dated a girl who was 2 years older than i am, and i am 2 1/2 years older than him.

Too much math there, let's keep it simple:-D

[Melissa Johnson]

Your boyfriend is 15! Crazy!;-)
What can I say? I like to touch little boys.

[Shaved Goat]

What can I say? I like to touch little boys.

who doesn't?

[TheFirstMatt]

Well who doesnt?:-D

[lucky_krystle]

It was on my shampoo bottle..of all things.


haha, what kind of shampoo is this? thats strange.

[TheFirstMatt]

who doesn't?

SNAP

[AP_Punk]

When I touch myself, does that count as touching little boys?

:whistle:

[Shaved Goat]

SNAP

OWNED

[jaimej]

I don't know how I feel about the half my age +7 thing. That'd be 19. I don't think I could date anyone under 21.

In your case, it really depends on her maturity level. If you get along and are on the same page with most things, then go for it.

[TheByrus]

i like the "in college" rule.


if they are old enough to be in college, they are old enough to date.

[Smithers]

i like the "in college" rule.


if they are old enough to be in college, they are old enough to date.

that was my rule when i was in school.

now i say 21+ but i prefer out of college age. bonus if they have their own place already.

and i stay in the 20s on the high side.

[Sp00ner]

When I touch myself, does that count as touching little boys?

:whistle:

Hah, only on Tuesdays!

[littleemo]

Hah, only on Tuesdays!

and sunday gods watching you....

[lucky_krystle]

that was my rule when i was in school.

now i say 21+ but i prefer out of college age. bonus if they have their own place already.

and i stay in the 20s on the high side.


thats exactly how i am. i prefer 21+ but its nice if they are out of college already. but i dont get THAT picky about school and what not.

[Moggy]

I'd say go for it.
As long as she's legal right?
That's the only thing that you could really get into trouble for.
hahah

[Melissa Johnson]

who doesn't?
I have no clue, but if you don't, you have serious mental issues.
haha, what kind of shampoo is this? thats strange.
The new line of Herbal Essences shampoos. The blue one for normal hair.

[concernedparent]

Go for it. Its not like she's 13 or 14, that would be ick..
heyyyy you're hot

[Sex.For.Sense]

Age is only an illiusion and as long as ur not a creepy dude just wanting sex then I'd say go for it

[Sex.For.Sense]

When I touch myself, does that count as touching little boys?

:whistle:
you should film urself lol

[Greg]

i basically dated a 22yr old when i was 18

there was more to it than that though. i dont feel like getting into it. we are really good friends still though.

[Rock]

I be 20 yo.
This hurts me.

Cuz I don't wanna not start something with someone I think could be good for me just cuz of her age. Seems a bit shallow to me!
Age is not just a number. If you're 20, 16 is a little on the young side.

[+thecalisonme]

She's legal, go for it.

???

Thats not even legal in Arkansas

[Kif]

???

Thats not even legal in Arkansas
16 is the legal age of consent here.

[Chancetobe]

16 is the legal age of consent here.

The legal age is 18 here in America.

[Kif]

The legal age is 18 here in America.
I knew that. The person who made the thread lives in England too.

[Iamhome]

Get in while she's young bro, that way after you break her heart, she'll be comin' back for it when she's of age.

[Greg]

The legal age is 18 here in America.
actually the age of consent is different by state

someone posted a link in a thread like this before that showed all of the states

[Chancetobe]

I knew that. The person who made the thread lives in England too.

Ohh.

actually the age of consent is different by state

someone posted a link in a thread like this before that showed all of the states

Really? I thought it was uniform all across the US. Interesting.

[themixedt4pe]

I say if you feel it's right, go for it. If not, don't bother. It's the relationship that matters, not the ages of the people involved.

[Mіскэуу-*]

i say do it... but always make sure her moms ok with it Lol...My mom told me to go out with one of my bros friends which was 23yo. but then she told me i couldnt go out with anyone from grade 12...i dont care what my mom says about that but if her moms not ok with it could lead to alot of trouble. Goooood luck!

[Princess Slayer]

Age is just a number. My boyfriend is much older than me. I just think people think men who date young girls are perverts and that's not really going to change. If you love the girl, then go for it.

[Chancetobe]

Age is just a number. My boyfriend is much older than me. I just think people think men who date young girls are perverts and that's not really going to change. If you love the girl, then go for it.

For your own sake... don't post in font that big.

[alexamiller]

it really IS just a maturity thing

[AP_Punk]

it really IS just a maturity thing

o rly?

[alexamiller]

o rly?
yes.

[thatwasamoment]

yes.o rly?

[lushintransit]

Just a number, yo.

[themangowalk]

if there is grass on the field....Play Ball!

[notascene]

It was on my shampoo bottle..of all things.

haha on your shampoo bottle?? how odd

[AlyssaAsthenia]

actually the age of consent is different by state

someone posted a link in a thread like this before that showed all of the states
http://www.actwin.com/eatonohio/gay/consent.htm

[xearlynovemberx]

Just a #..but if its the point where its like 15 years thats just gross

[notascene]

It really is just a number.. I don't think I'd go for a bit age gap at my age but I don't think I'd mind when Im a bit older. My parents had an 8yr age gap. He was the younger.

[TheFirstMatt]

if there is grass on the field....Play Ball!

Haha this quote is superb. Personally, i prefer the lawn mowed, but I know what you mean.

Update: Things are going just swell. There is a bit of a distance thing so I only see her once a week or so, on the phone every night though which is nice (because i do NOT like talking on the phone...to anyone). Taking her to London next weekend for a show etc etc.

And, I had no idead the legal consent age was different in different states. That's weird. I can imagine kids just going for a drive to the state line and then parking up! heh.

[rosieh93]

you be 20 yo? ahhha

[sapphire bullet]

The legal age is 18 here in America.


The legal age depends on your state so it varies. I think in some states it is 16 but I'm not sure. They also throw some marriage laws in there to make it even more complicated :-)

[MagicxMurderBag]

I don't think it is that big of a deal unless, like someone else said, you are 15. That is gross. but I was just turning 18 and I had been dating someone that was 23 for awhile.

but hey to each their own.

[b-thrilla.]

I considered asking a girl out who was 16, and i'm 21. (I didn't in the end, but the sentiment was there).

'A say go for it, yo.'
thats what happened with me, hes 21 i'm 16.
it sucks, because the law says no, but whatever. im still gunna go for it.

age aint nothin but a number.

[drkpoet]

i saay you do it. take it from me being younger than everybody i kno. Age doesnt mean anything. if shes erally cool then it wont be a problem