long distance relationships

[umamenina]

I've recently moved out of cali to colorado[sucks]. And its hard keeping your realationship stable. What are your views on long distance relationships?

[FatJordan]

Dear god...they never work out. I hate to sound like a dick, but I've seen quite a few and they all seem to ultimately fail.

[FourdyOz]

it's hard to have a relationship without having the physical aspect. but, if you both want it badly enough, it could work.

[summerstars19]

I guess it all depends on the people involved. I've only known two to work out and both couples are now married. You guys really have to trust each other and I'd assume it might get costly at times in the aspect of visiting each other. I don't see why you shouldn't at least try though.

[LostSymphonies]

i've had 3 not work, it's hard especially when you are used to seeing the person, honestly do yourself a favor and just end it. you'll be happier

[umamenina]

I can completely agree. But it hurts, I don't want to lose him or jeopardize the friendship we have had going for so long. Reality is the bestfriend with time..sucks.

[theguilt engine]

I've recently moved out of cali to colorado[sucks]. And its hard keeping your realationship stable. What are your views on long distance relationships?

I'm in one, too. Well, sort of. I only live about 60 miles away and I see her every other weekend..if not more...but it's tough and takes a lot of work. If you really care about them, all the sad and lonely times are totally worth it when you get to see them. As least, I definitely think so.

[atticus1492]

I'm in one, too. Well, sort of. I only live about 60 miles away and I see her every other weekend..if not more...but it's tough and takes a lot of work. If you really care about them, all the sad and lonely times are totally worth it when you get to see them. As least, I definitely think so.

I am about the same distance, and it is not THAT bad. It just depends how much you care about them, I suppose.

[RomeoAGoGo]

Worst idea ever.

[heartsynapse]

I'm in one, too. Well, sort of. I only live about 60 miles away and I see her every other weekend..if not more...but it's tough and takes a lot of work. If you really care about them, all the sad and lonely times are totally worth it when you get to see them. As least, I definitely think so.

That is my life, exactly. Even the number of miles, haha.


But honestly, if you want it to work and you TRUST each other completely, it can work. I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now, and a year and a half of the relationship has been long distance. It will work if it is meant to work.

[TheOtherAndrew]

I once had a girl dump me because she wanted to have a long distance relationship with another guy.

So yeah, I'm a bit biased on the issue, but I can't see it working.

[theguilt engine]

That is my life, exactly. Even the number of miles, haha.


But honestly, if you want it to work and you TRUST each other completely, it can work. I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now, and a year and a half of the relationship has been long distance. It will work if it is meant to work.

Definitely, that's a major point I left out.

[heartsynapse]

Definitely, that's a major point I left out.
Yeah, but that is also kind of a given, I would say. No relationship works without trust...the trust sjust has to be a lot stronger when its long distance.

[umamenina]

Yeah for sure..and I hate that there is always gonna be that person in a realtionship that likes or loves the other person more and consequently gets fucked over in the end. Im willing on giving it a try regardless of the risk..my friends all tell my that I should get over him and move on..it hurts but you can't help who you have feelings for. I'm sorry that distance had to factor in with our friendship..and our on" the rocks" relationship :/

[NWADOC]

Speaking from experience, yes, it never works out. So, I'm sorry... But this is a case where the obvious is the only choice.

[halifaxrocks]

im trying to be in one, but its not going that great

[chelseatine]

I was in a long distance relationship for a very long time and it did work out. We were both really committed and willing to deal with the hardships. We loved each other very much, and he was willing to drive the 14 hours atleast every 3-4 weeks. It actually did us a lot of good. Don't listen to people that say they don't work out because they can. I just recently actually got engaged to this same guy so he will be moving down here to live with me very soon. I hope it works out, but I think the love and the trust is vital to its success.

[atticus1492]

I stand by the fact that it can work if you both are committed enough.

[nateisawesome]

mine worked out

I live in kentucky she lived in florida and now she is living in KY with me

yes they work out

[heartsynapse]

I was in a long distance relationship for a very long time and it did work out. We were both really committed and willing to deal with the hardships. We loved each other very much, and he was willing to drive the 14 hours atleast every 3-4 weeks. It actually did us a lot of good. Don't listen to people that say they don't work out because they can. I just recently actually got engaged to this same guy so he will be moving down here to live with me very soon. I hope it works out, but I think the love and the trust is vital to its success.

Congratulations!

[sarah211]

I've been with my Florida guy for almost 10 months now. I'm in PA and we see eachother maybe twice a semester and over breaks and more so during the summer. It can work if you are both committed. Don't listen to the crap that your friends will give you.

[umamenina]

wow well thank you guys for all your feedback..I'm going to take that all in mind..but I'm starting to think if its meant to happen it will..I don't want to force things and have our friendship fade away..if he loves me like he says he does we can work around it but it obviously mean we need to growup more

[umamenina]

wow well thank you guys for all your feedback..I'm going to take that all in mind..but I'm starting to think if its meant to happen it will..I don't want to force things and have our friendship fade away..if he loves me like he says he does we can work around it but it obviously mean we need to growup more

[dorkatour]

for anyone that says 'it never works out' it only doesn't work out if one of the parties doesn't truly want it to happen. with that said i was in a long distance relationship before that didn't work out (i wanted it, she wanted to avoid breaking it off)

girls are slimy, in my case it was easier for her to move away, hook up with other dudes and then let our relationship end via natural course.

i know this sounds cliche, but just follow your heart, if you can do it then try. if she can't they at least you didn't go out without a fight.

-danN

edit* replace she with he, and vice versa -- i'm a moron.

[thebestkylever]

it fucking sucks. that said, it is possible and it can be worth it and it can make you stronger. my significant other is also in ca and i am twice as far from there as you are (il). we have been together for over a year now. my best advice to make it work is to take the time away from eachother to get to really know eachother (kinda ironic i suppose). what i mean by that is talk every chance you get. write eachother letters, have late night phone conversations, send random packages filled with sweet stuff. my girlfriend and i talk every chance we get and we are so much closer for it. she truely has become my best friend and that is what i think makes us so strong. also, you need to make sacrifices. when you're so far away, seeing eachother is expensive. a big part of keeping things going is always having something to look forward to. plan lots of trips. (southwest and jetblue have the cheapest flights by far). living 2000 miles away from my girlfriend is no fun at all, not even a little bit. however, i absolutely love her and i know beyond a shadow of a doubt she is worth everything we have gone through. i just hope i can be worth it too. best of luck.

[Lueda Alia]

It depends on the people involved: their personalities and how much they're willing to commit to the relationship for it to work.

Anything can work.

[umamenina]

You guys have been great thank your for your into it makes me feel a bit more at ease with my status.friendship relationship idk what to call it anymore..I don't wanna lose this guy to some other chick down in cali even though I'm going out there for summer..but I guess that's just the risks there is to these type of commitments its changes day by day

[*crying stars*]

I've recently moved out of cali to colorado[sucks]. And its hard keeping your realationship stable. What are your views on long distance relationships?

Colorado isn't that bad (I moved from California to here also); where do you live?

If you and the person involved are really committed to each other, it should work out.

[ky19]

I think it can work out. It just depends on the two people involved in the relationship. Personally, I was in a long-distance relationship, and it ended pretty badly. Our schedules conflicted with one another.

[umamenina]

Colorado isn't that bad (I moved from California to here also); where do you live?

If you and the person involved are really committed to each other, it should work out.

I live in denver.

[halifaxrocks]

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yeah, turns out its harder to see the person than i thought it was gonna be

[halifaxrocks]

yeahhh. well you have to make time for the other person in such a relationship. maybe clear a weekend or two...
yeah, but if theres noooo way to do that. its kinda hard

[halifaxrocks]

how can there not be any way to do that?
for one thing its expensive. and another thing is, when you only have two days off per week, its kinda hard to get things done so you have to try and cram everything into two days

[halifaxrocks]

psh that's no excuse when you don't have work til 3 each day. you could wake up on time and do stuff then.

and you'll have more money now right? or do you have more to pay?
yeah, but i dont go to bed till like 5 am.

and yeah, i will have more to pay soooon

[halifaxrocks]

yeah well then stop doing that and get responsible. would your parents kick you out if you don't pay or something?
ummm pretty sure i am responsible. and yeah, they might

[sweet tragedy]

yeah, turns out its harder to see the person than i thought it was gonna be

yeahhh. well you have to make time for the other person in such a relationship. maybe clear a weekend or two...

yeah, but if theres noooo way to do that. its kinda hard

how can there not be any way to do that?

for one thing its expensive. and another thing is, when you only have two days off per week, its kinda hard to get things done so you have to try and cram everything into two days

psh that's no excuse when you don't have work til 3 each day. you could wake up on time and do stuff then.

and you'll have more money now right? or do you have more to pay?

yeah, but i dont go to bed till like 5 am.

and yeah, i will have more to pay soooon

yeah well then stop doing that and get responsible. would your parents kick you out if you don't pay or something?

ummm pretty sure i am responsible. and yeah, they might

the responsible thing would be to use your day to do whatever you need to do, and save the weekends for visiting your girlfriend

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[halifaxrocks]

the responsible thing would be to use your day to do whatever you need to do, and save the weekends for visiting your girlfriend
the resposnible thing would be to be able to pay for all my bills
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
what???

[sweet tragedy]

This little ... conversation between the two of you amuses me. That's all.

[halifaxrocks]

This little ... conversation between the two of you amuses me. That's all.
yeah, its a fun little conversation

[fallout1819]

It depends on the people involved: their personalities and how much they're willing to commit to the relationship for it to work.

Anything can work.

I agree.

This little ... conversation between the two of you amuses me. That's all.

Me too!

[Mae_fitch]

it hasn't worked out yet. :C

[duhpunk]

i was in one for 9 months until she cheated on me because she couldnt handle not always being together physically. i think she got it out of her system tho, she's going back to one of her ex's who isn't into messing around like that.

[keepingscore]

They're painful. I was in one for a year(and it was also my first serious relationship) But it depends on how serious you and your partner are. The break-up sucks, BUT at least you don't have to deal with seeing them with someone else.

[xXJaredsGirlXx]

Well. I dont have a long distance relationship. But we both agreed on waiting for each other when we are 18. But for now we are just really good friends. And we call and e-mail all the time. And even if one of us has a gf/bf then we still talk. But we care a lot about each other. And hopefully it will work out in the end.

[ForeverInADay]

Well. I dont have a long distance relationship. But we both agreed on waiting for each other when we are 18. But for now we are just really good friends. And we call and e-mail all the time. And even if one of us has a gf/bf then we still talk. But we care a lot about each other. And hopefully it will work out in the end.

Have you ever had a boyfriend?