Losing best friends.

[beyondthecover]

I never thought I'd actually be posting a problem here. There was another thread like this one called "The bestfriend is dating someone, not cool"? Or something, but it's not exactly the same as my problem.

Anyway, here's the thing, one of my best friends is 15, believes shes in love and is going to marry her current boyfriend, who loves her the same way back. I don't know, maybe they'll never break up, maybe they'll get tired of each other eventually, I just really can't tell right now. Anyway, she pretty much only cares about him, and her other best friend she's known since 3rd grade. And that's it. Yeah, she calls me her best friend and she is mine, but I hate the way I'm being replaced and slowly forgotten about.

And I don't know how to fix it, there's nothing I can say to her without sounding stupid and desperate.. Is there anyone that knows what I'm talking about?

[nosdia]

yes, but the thing you must concider is that if she does leave him she come back to you and still be you're friend, but if she doesn't you're still her best friend and nothing will change that if you guys have known each other since the third grade.

[beyondthecover]

hm but, i'm not the one she's known since 3rd grade, i've only known her since 7th. Were in 10th right now.

But i'm really cool with her other best friend though (the one she's known since 3rd grade)

[nosdia]

oh i'm so sorry i thought you were the one she's known since third grade,

and that's thee inportent part, there your cool with her but don't do something you'll regret, most of the time it doesn't turn out the way you think it will.

[Asterisk]

I never thought I'd actually be posting a problem here. There was another thread like this one called "The bestfriend is dating someone, not cool"? Or something, but it's not exactly the same as my problem.

Anyway, here's the thing, one of my best friends is 15, believes shes in love and is going to marry her current boyfriend, who loves her the same way back. I don't know, maybe they'll never break up, maybe they'll get tired of each other eventually, I just really can't tell right now. Anyway, she pretty much only cares about him, and her other best friend she's known since 3rd grade. And that's it. Yeah, she calls me her best friend and she is mine, but I hate the way I'm being replaced and slowly forgotten about.

And I don't know how to fix it, there's nothing I can say to her without sounding stupid and desperate.. Is there anyone that knows what I'm talking about?
Oh yeah I know that feeling. The girl who used to be my best friend kind of 'forgot' about me after getting loads of new friends. Now we sometimes talk, but that's it.

I'd suggest you wait and see how it turns out. All these huge love stories don't usually last forever. I mean, not if the people involved are like, 15 years old. So yeah...Maybe you should talk to her about it. She probably doesn't even realise she's ignoring you like that.

[nosdia]

exactly, wait and see what happens, cause you never know.:nod:

[Kikskrumme]

write her a letter, tell her how much that friendship means to you. it doesn't matter if it sounds desperate.

[cfear]

she's fifteen. what the fuck does she know? by the time she's sixteen she'll be in love with someone else.

[danielineffigy]

Stop being a protective bitch and be happy for your friend.

[sateendreem]

My ex friend Amanda got married had a kid and cut me out of her life. It happens all the time. It's really just an opportunity to make new friends. You might feel lonely, but get out there and make new friends. New adventures could be waiting out there for you. You could find someone really cool.

[CrashingHearts]

I'm in this right now with my best friend Jackie who's going to marry her boyfriend tommy.
And they're both my best friends.
So i get cut out A LOT.

[beyondthecover]

Stop being a protective bitch and be happy for your friend.
I am happy for her.

Just not happy the way I'm a third wheel with everything. Anywayyy yeah.

[swirlofhues]

you know, i wouldn't worry about it too much. i had a lot of best friends i grew distant from in high school for multiple reasons. mainly, it's just because we were growing to be different people. she's going through a serious relationship in her life right now and probably doesn't know how to juggle everyone. give her time or just start hanging out with other people like users have said in this thread.

chances are, by senior year, you'll be hanging out with someone different. it just happens like that, and it's okay if it does.

[kelseyleah]

Oh yeah I know that feeling. The girl who used to be my best friend kind of 'forgot' about me after getting loads of new friends. Now we sometimes talk, but that's it.

I'd suggest you wait and see how it turns out. All these huge love stories don't usually last forever. I mean, not if the people involved are like, 15 years old. So yeah...Maybe you should talk to her about it. She probably doesn't even realise she's ignoring you like that.

yeah, i definitely agree with that. i would talk to her about it since she most likely isn't aware of how you feel, or that she's blowing you off. and hey, if that doesn't work.. get some new friends. preferably boys. they aren't as lame.

[Greg]

after you leave high school... you realize how 99% of those people aren't real friends anyway.

you'll understand one day

[lake of tears]

i have lost a good frn .. for a petty reason .. ::-(

[beyondthecover]

Hopefully things get better and whatnot. We didn't even get to hang out once over spring break.

[SanePsychotic]

I'd wait it out for awhile, but if it really starts to bother you then you could write a letter to her. If she's truly your friend then she'll try to make things right for you.

But honestly, I'd reconsider if she's truly your best friend. You may think someone is your best friend but it may not be 100% true.

[xprincesskiwix]

i'm going through an extremely similar thing right now. my one best friend is obsessed with her boyfriend-- who happens to live several thousand miles away, surrounded by quite a few attractive girls that he is "just friends" with. my other best friend and i tried to tell her that she's acting differently, that she's changing for the worse and she doesn't even act like our friend anymore. she chose to tell us that we just "don't understand" and he understands her "better than anyone else on this earth" and she's "maturing and changing and growing up" so we're just going to have to deal with it. as mature as i'm sure that sounds, she really just won't listen to us because she's so deeply infatuated. the only thing we can do is wait for our friends to come around; eventually they'll see that we're their best friends and only want what's best for them.