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That she had a dream where she had sex with one of her guy friends. At first I was a little shocked, obviously pissed and she didnt get why and responded "Oh like youve never had a dream where you did another girl!" and honesty I swear to god I havent, atleast nothing I can recall. But thats besides the point. She tried to clean it up by saying "oh well he looks a lot like you" (and he actually does) but its still not me and why would she tell me this!?
Now if I ever see him its going to be awkward, Im nervous about her having feelings for him and cheating, Im worried about her losing interest or being bored with me physically, this whole statement opened a can of worms.
After being pissed off for a few minutes, I calmed down and decided to just enjoy the rest of the night because we were having a great time before she admitted that. So I let it go for now but this is going to be in the back of my mind for a while and really bother me, despite her reassurence that it was an innocent dream (but obviously a memorable one.)
It will be our 1 year anniversary this Monday and weve had a great relationship and shes been a great girlfriend but our relationship has gotten a little stale over the past few weeks . So Im not sure if I should take this as a warning sign and dump her before she kills me, pass it off but it keep it in the back of my head, or just forget about it and see it as being as innoncent she claims?
Please, help.
sdbrown
04/04/07, 01:28 AM
If she told you, I'm guessing it's harmless. If you read it in her diary it might be a little suspicious but she outright told you she had a dream about it. Maybe she just wanted something to talk about and thought it would trigger some weird fantasy of yours and you'd spill how you had a wild dream about Halle Berry.
If you don't say anything it's gonna make you question your relationship, so basically just tell her the next time she has a dream about one of your friends not to tell you because it makes you feel weird/awkward/jealous
Kikskrumme
04/04/07, 04:37 AM
she was probably feeling guilty because she had that dream and just wanted to be honest with you about it. that's a good thing, so your relationship seems fine.
MIKEY_HORROR
04/04/07, 04:46 AM
haha my g/f told me she had a "pervert dream" about Pete Wentz the other morning when we woke up...i was ticked, and she said the same thing "oh like you've never had a sex dream".....
well not about pete wentz i havent....:shrug:
Kikskrumme
04/04/07, 04:59 AM
haha my g/f told me she had a "pervert dream" about Pete Wentz the other morning when we woke up...i was ticked, and she said the same thing "oh like you've never had a sex dream".....
well not about pete wentz i havent....:shrug:
LOLLLLLLLLLL.
LIAR.
MIKEY_HORROR
04/04/07, 05:09 AM
LOLLLLLLLLLL.
LIAR.
I swear!...haha and she doesnt even like them/him...which is probably why she told me about it, and why i found it to be so suprising.....
but it definatley sucked when she told me that....
summerstars19
04/04/07, 07:37 AM
Yea, I'm going to say that if she told you then it probably doesn't mean anything. I know it probably doesn't feel so great to hear something like that, but at least she's being honest with you. My ex had a sex dream about my best friend and proceeded to tell me how hot it was. At least she didn't do that.
Scuba Chris
04/04/07, 07:53 AM
Yeah, she did tell you, so I wouldn't think much of it. I know if I was in your position I would probably be thinking the same things as you, but, she was being honest with you so you should try and keep it out of your mind or she will probably get pissed at you and not be so forthcoming in the future.
Iamhome
04/04/07, 07:55 AM
I wouldn't take it too bad...
Then again - When I was a sophomore I had a sex dream about this one girl - And I told my gf (who cheated on my all the time, and I never cheated on her) and she got pissed... Well I had sex with that girl who I dreamt about a good 4 years later...
But, I don't think one can control their dreams. I was doing drugs and cheating on my girlfriend for this past year - I got arrested so I stopped the drug use and made a change for the better (in the cheating aspect as well)... Now, however, I have very frequent dreams about both of these things... I'll dream that someone passes me a joint, and I hit it, or that someone seduces me, and I go for it... I can't control the dreams even though I'm not wanting to have them...
Don't worry about it, totally drop it and let it go - if something happens after that deal with it then, but you stressing over this can ruin your relationship.
TheByrus
04/04/07, 09:04 AM
you should probably break up with your girlfriend and ask out her friend from the dream before she can do it.
myantiyou
04/04/07, 09:38 AM
That really sucks, sorry to hear that man.
This might not help but, consider asking her about it if you really are worried about it. Try communicating to her truthfully and lets hope she wasnt the one who started the sex scene in her dream.
That she had a dream where she had sex with one of her guy friends. At first I was a little shocked, obviously pissed and she didnt get why and responded "Oh like youve never had a dream where you did another girl!" and honesty I swear to god I havent, atleast nothing I can recall. But thats besides the point. She tried to clean it up by saying "oh well he looks a lot like you" (and he actually does) but its still not me and why would she tell me this!?
Now if I ever see him its going to be awkward, Im nervous about her having feelings for him and cheating, Im worried about her losing interest or being bored with me physically, this whole statement opened a can of worms.
After being pissed off for a few minutes, I calmed down and decided to just enjoy the rest of the night because we were having a great time before she admitted that. So I let it go for now but this is going to be in the back of my mind for a while and really bother me, despite her reassurence that it was an innocent dream (but obviously a memorable one.)
It will be our 1 year anniversary this Monday and weve had a great relationship and shes been a great girlfriend but our relationship has gotten a little stale over the past few weeks . So Im not sure if I should take this as a warning sign and dump her before she kills me, pass it off but it keep it in the back of my head, or just forget about it and see it as being as innoncent she claims?
Please, help.
i wouldn't be too worried. It's a dream, she can't really do anything about it. What she did with him in the dream compared to what she'd do in reality is different. I doubt she'll break up with you just to date him, if she was secretely in love with him, she wouldve never brought it up.
Bob Payne
04/04/07, 10:47 AM
i had a dream once where i fucked this girl i had never really been attracted to, which in turn actually made me attracted to her. needless to say, i boned her in real life and it was much better than the dream.
chronomic
04/04/07, 10:51 AM
redrum
i had a dream once where i fucked this girl i had never really been attracted to, which in turn actually made me attracted to her. needless to say, i boned her in real life and it was much better than the dream.
redrum
I'll keep both those things in mind.
you should probably break up with your girlfriend and ask out her friend from the dream before she can do it.
I would but....uh Im not bi. Thanks for suggesting it though.
Yea, I'm going to say that if she told you then it probably doesn't mean anything. I know it probably doesn't feel so great to hear something like that, but at least she's being honest with you. My ex had a sex dream about my best friend and proceeded to tell me how hot it was. At least she didn't do that.
I somehow forgot to leave this out but she did tell me that it was good, because I was dumb enough to ask her...still she could had lied about that part atleast.
But I would like the girls advice on this, I mean guys can chime in too but I just think a girls perspective would be best and I like what Im hearing from the girls.
strobelife
04/04/07, 12:27 PM
Dude it was a dream. It will pass. I've had dreams about other women when I've been in relationships and I always forget about it a few days later. And if the relationship is stale then you have to do something about it. That is... if you want to.
livethesounds
04/04/07, 12:35 PM
try anal
DroppedUrPocket
04/04/07, 12:37 PM
3way
lucky_krystle
04/04/07, 12:40 PM
meh :shrug: it was just a dream. if she thought there was some sort of significance behind it i highly doubt she would have told you about it. she obviously trusts you enough to tell you. don't fret.
chronomic
04/04/07, 12:43 PM
i once had a dream where i had sex. i kno, im crazy.
chronomic
04/04/07, 12:44 PM
on a seriouser note, the few times ive had a sex dream with someone i knew i WAS temporarily attracted to them but it faded rather quickly. but then again im a guy and i get boners all the time.
domesticyeti
04/04/07, 12:49 PM
3way
that was gonna be my advice. shes probably just trying to get a threeway going...
llwilliamsll
04/04/07, 02:51 PM
seal the deal and get her pregnant....then no one will touch her...especially if you give her herpes at the same time
That she had a dream where she had sex with one of her guy friends. At first I was a little shocked, obviously pissed and she didnt get why and responded "Oh like youve never had a dream where you did another girl!" and honesty I swear to god I havent, atleast nothing I can recall. But thats besides the point. She tried to clean it up by saying "oh well he looks a lot like you" (and he actually does) but its still not me and why would she tell me this!?
Now if I ever see him its going to be awkward, Im nervous about her having feelings for him and cheating, Im worried about her losing interest or being bored with me physically, this whole statement opened a can of worms.
After being pissed off for a few minutes, I calmed down and decided to just enjoy the rest of the night because we were having a great time before she admitted that. So I let it go for now but this is going to be in the back of my mind for a while and really bother me, despite her reassurence that it was an innocent dream (but obviously a memorable one.)
It will be our 1 year anniversary this Monday and weve had a great relationship and shes been a great girlfriend but our relationship has gotten a little stale over the past few weeks . So Im not sure if I should take this as a warning sign and dump her before she kills me, pass it off but it keep it in the back of my head, or just forget about it and see it as being as innoncent she claims?
Please, help.
Just let it go, its harmless... she told you... its cool, it doesnt mean anything!! Just let it go.
yourneck
04/04/07, 03:49 PM
she doesn't want you anymore
AnF1500
04/04/07, 06:53 PM
Eh, just because she had a dream about it, doesn't mean she actually would want to. I had this sex dream about this repulsive guy I knew. Ugh, I would never ever ever go near that.
Freud would say that, subconsciencely, she wants to bone her guy friend.
AnF1500
04/04/07, 08:04 PM
Freud would say that, subconsciencely, she wants to bone her guy friend.
Frued's a whack job.
TokyoCity
04/04/07, 08:05 PM
Freud would say that, subconsciencely, she wants to bone her guy friend.
She has a dick?
She has a dick?
bone as in fuck, not as in insert something into something else.
KidLightning
04/04/07, 08:08 PM
That she had a dream where she had sex with one of her guy friends. At first I was a little shocked, obviously pissed and she didnt get why and responded "Oh like youve never had a dream where you did another girl!" and honesty I swear to god I havent, atleast nothing I can recall. But thats besides the point. She tried to clean it up by saying "oh well he looks a lot like you" (and he actually does) but its still not me and why would she tell me this!?
Now if I ever see him its going to be awkward, Im nervous about her having feelings for him and cheating, Im worried about her losing interest or being bored with me physically, this whole statement opened a can of worms.
After being pissed off for a few minutes, I calmed down and decided to just enjoy the rest of the night because we were having a great time before she admitted that. So I let it go for now but this is going to be in the back of my mind for a while and really bother me, despite her reassurence that it was an innocent dream (but obviously a memorable one.)
It will be our 1 year anniversary this Monday and weve had a great relationship and shes been a great girlfriend but our relationship has gotten a little stale over the past few weeks . So Im not sure if I should take this as a warning sign and dump her before she kills me, pass it off but it keep it in the back of my head, or just forget about it and see it as being as innoncent she claims?
Please, help.
having a sex dream about someone usually isn't a sign of attraction, it's a sign that you feel close to them, or have recently gotten closer or have opened up emotionally to them. which could still make you jealous i guess, but buck up and have some confidence dude.
TokyoCity
04/04/07, 08:09 PM
bone as in fuck, not as in insert something into something else.
Haha im kiddin' dude.
Juliana101
04/04/07, 08:15 PM
It's fine man. Don't worry about it.
RyanHall
04/04/07, 08:18 PM
I've had sex dreams with people before who I don't like or are attracted to. I say just forget about it and have a good anniversary next week!
I once had a sex dream where I was James Bond and I was sneaking around this building and this woman saw me. I did something to knock her out, like a knockout dart or some karate chop. She was laying on the floor, knocked out, and I started to fuck her. In the middle of it, she woke up, but she was into it and didnt make me stop. Is that rape?
having a sex dream about someone usually isn't a sign of attraction, it's a sign that you feel close to them, or have recently gotten closer or have opened up emotionally to them. which could still make you jealous i guess, but buck up and have some confidence dude.
Thanks for the great insight. she dosent hang out with him too often or any of her other friends for that matter but suddenly theyve all been hanging out a lot again, so that would make some sense. It also goes along the lines of girls emotions being tied in closely to sexuality for them, unlike with guys where its more physical attraction than emotional.
If I wasnt so freaked out I probably could had gotten my composure and thought that idea through more.
KidLightning
04/04/07, 10:13 PM
Thanks for the great insight. she dosent hang out with him too often or any of her other friends for that matter but suddenly theyve all been hanging out a lot again, so that would make some sense. It also goes along the lines of girls emotions being tied in closely to sexuality for them, unlike with guys where its more physical attraction than emotional.
If I wasnt so freaked out I probably could had gotten my composure and thought that idea through more.
yeah, we studied it in psychology a bit. this was back in high school and a seniors only class so my teacher didn't care about the class and neither did we. so mostly we'd just hang out and talk about whatever and we got him to tell us about dream interpretation. it's not always the case, like if you fall asleep thinking about someone you find sexually attractive or while watching porn or something, there's a good chance you'll have a sex dream. but if it just kinda comes out of nowhere, it's probably the feeling closer to the person variety.
clubberlang
04/04/07, 10:17 PM
I once had a sex dream where I was James Bond and I was sneaking around this building and this woman saw me. I did something to knock her out, like a knockout dart or some karate chop. She was laying on the floor, knocked out, and I started to fuck her. In the middle of it, she woke up, but she was into it and didnt make me stop. Is that rape?
wow. THAT is a dream. and of course its not rape. she obviously is a sucker for getting knocked out AND knocked up at the same time. kudos.
lake of tears
04/04/07, 10:22 PM
intense situation :-p
buysoap
04/04/07, 10:57 PM
You must suck in bed
bigmike
04/04/07, 11:52 PM
Just a dream dude. Nothing to get worked up about.
saysmydoctor
04/05/07, 12:11 AM
She is gonna drop you like a hot potato.
FinchBulldog2
04/05/07, 12:26 AM
Fuck her really hard next time you have sex. Everything's gonna be okay.
thebestkylever
04/05/07, 01:50 AM
my girlfriend told me she had a dream she went on the maury povitch show and found out that dustin from the forecast was the father of her baby.
my best dude friend also had a dream about dustin from the forecast. apparently he was fighting zombies with him, and once they were all defeated dustin kissed him on the forehead and said thank you.
i on the other hand once had a dream about my girlfriend hunting squirrels in the woods behind my house with chevy chase.
we're pretty sweet.
bigmike
04/05/07, 01:43 PM
my girlfriend told me she had a dream she went on the maury povitch show and found out that dustin from the forecast was the father of her baby.
my best dude friend also had a dream about dustin from the forecast. apparently he was fighting zombies with him, and once they were all defeated dustin kissed him on the forehead and said thank you.
i on the other hand once had a dream about my girlfriend hunting squirrels in the woods behind my house with chevy chase.
we're pretty sweet.
Your girlfriend and your friend need to listen to better music.
thebestkylever
04/05/07, 01:53 PM
Your girlfriend and your friend need to listen to better music.
and you need to not be such a negative prick.
seal the deal and get her pregnant....then no one will touch her...especially if you give her herpes at the same time
hahaha this had me rollin lol,great bit of advice,do it
You must suck in bed
Thats not what youre mom said! Oooooohhh BURN!...Shes never had any complaints, and we keep relatively open about that stuff.
that was gonna be my advice. shes probably just trying to get a threeway going...
If she suggests that I would dump her, not because it would be 2 guys and 1 girl but because she would want another guy touching her and I would never let that happen especially infront of me also 3 ways tend to destroy relationships unless the couple is very fucked up to begin with.
seal the deal and get her pregnant....then no one will touch her...especially if you give her herpes at the same time
That can be done, well I would need to do a little more work with the herpes thing.
Has anyone ever gotten any serious advice in here?
Note: "Do her in the ass" is not serious advice ;-)
I dont think anyone has said that yet but I get what youre saying, this was kind of a desperate need closure type of deal oh that and none of my friends give a fuck or would want to about anything like this, so I wanted to vent to someone. Most advice is terrible in the whole Personal Thread, like this one girl said she wanted to lose weight so I gave her instructions to this healthy diet I had a lot of success with and everyone else told her to either go bulemic or start doing a lot of cocaine. Normally things like that infuriate me so I usually stay out of here all togather.
Ive gotten some great advice in here and I thank anyone who seriously tried to help me, I really appreciate it. :-)
bigmike
04/05/07, 10:52 PM
and you need to not be such a negative prick.
http://www.startreadingwithsounds.co.uk/tissues_image.jpg
Need some?
oldwirehands
04/05/07, 11:46 PM
If its getting stale, try to spice it up. If its still not feeling right, lose it. Its not worth hanging on to after that.
thebestkylever
04/07/07, 03:43 AM
http://www.startreadingwithsounds.co.uk/tissues_image.jpg
Need some?
http://i35.photobucket.com/albums/d182/thebestkylever/tam.jpg
lighten up tough guy.
punk_princess62
04/07/07, 05:58 PM
She might mean that she wants to have sex with you, since the other guy looked like you. In some dreams I get two faces meshed together as one person, like one of my guy friends is really hot, but the other is really sweet so they're perfect as one.
Does that make any sense?
bigmike
04/07/07, 09:59 PM
http://i35.photobucket.com/albums/d182/thebestkylever/tam.jpg
lighten up tough guy.
You're the one that got sand in the vag because i said the forecast sucked. I'm not the one getting worked up over some kid on the internet.
thebestkylever
04/08/07, 09:50 PM
You're the one that got sand in the vag because i said the forecast sucked. I'm not the one getting worked up over some kid on the internet.
:ok:
CountMeOut923
04/08/07, 11:13 PM
let it go. everyone has those kinds of dreams. she told you about it and was up front. if she hid it from you or you noticed she was acting different around that guy, then you'd have a problem. you'll be fine!
BILLY AGE 8
04/09/07, 12:29 AM
one time i had a sex dream with some chick i didnt even know,
and my friend ended up hooking up with a girl that looked exactly like her about 3 months later, kind of wierd
theguilt engine
04/09/07, 12:31 PM
That she had a dream where she had sex with one of her guy friends. At first I was a little shocked, obviously pissed and she didnt get why and responded "Oh like youve never had a dream where you did another girl!" and honesty I swear to god I havent, atleast nothing I can recall. But thats besides the point. She tried to clean it up by saying "oh well he looks a lot like you" (and he actually does) but its still not me and why would she tell me this!?
Now if I ever see him its going to be awkward, Im nervous about her having feelings for him and cheating, Im worried about her losing interest or being bored with me physically, this whole statement opened a can of worms.
After being pissed off for a few minutes, I calmed down and decided to just enjoy the rest of the night because we were having a great time before she admitted that. So I let it go for now but this is going to be in the back of my mind for a while and really bother me, despite her reassurence that it was an innocent dream (but obviously a memorable one.)
It will be our 1 year anniversary this Monday and weve had a great relationship and shes been a great girlfriend but our relationship has gotten a little stale over the past few weeks . So Im not sure if I should take this as a warning sign and dump her before she kills me, pass it off but it keep it in the back of my head, or just forget about it and see it as being as innoncent she claims?
Please, help.
I've had a dream about my girlfriend's best friend...and we had sex and all that. But, I love my girlfriend (we've dating for nearly a year) and I would NEVER cheat on her. Never ever, and if you know your girlfriend really well and it's a healthy relationship full of trust and not resentment, then there won't be any problems. Just get over it, these things aren't things people can control.
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