Depression, mom?

[fightfair]

My mother is depressed. She has alot of stuff going on in her life right now. I have asked her about it... "I'm fine, I really am, I am just depressed right now". Other than "It will be alright", and "I love you"...I seem to find nothing to say. Noone means more to me than my mother, is there anything I can do?

[atticus1492]

If she won't tell you what is wrong, then no.

[Cheshire_Buddha]

Anal + Donkey Punch = No Depression

[nonamesleft]

Be there for her and do fun stuff with her :)

[FatJordan]

It could be worse man, you could be a virgin.

[Lueda Alia]

Anal + Donkey Punch = No Depression
I'm letting it go this time, but please don't use that word again. Read the rules; it will make posting here much easier.

[atticus1492]

Lame.

[Cheshire_Buddha]

I'm letting it go this time, but please don't use that word again. Read the rules; it will make posting here much easier.

My bad, sorry. ;-)

[BILLY AGE 8]

Anal + Donkey Punch = No Depression


its totally what rufio would recommend

[monkeyofdoom]

its totally what rufio would recommend

no seriously it works!

[Shatter590]

i go through this daily, as do many of my associates. Its hard really, because you want to be there, but it seems like your mother doesnt want to involve you. Such is the case, she cares and doesnt want to trouble you at all.

Best bet is to just be there for her. And not let it get to you too much, because that just leads to more depression and fighting.

[Sayger99]

Suggest her to go to a shrink and tell her to do it for you?

[theguilt engine]

I actually...had to sit down and talk to my mom about things once when she was so annoyed with my dad she was about ready to divorce. You just have to push them...it's hard to see them cry. Then, I talked to my dad too...and it seemed to work. They both realized they're being assholes and need to get over themselves. They do a lot more together now and it's awesome.

[PadraicPrincess]

yeah this happened to me too. I think the best thing is to just give unconditional love and sympathy. if it persists though, you'll probably have to talk to her and just be like i know you are depressed but this is really starting to affect me too, and then maybe you can talk about seeing a therapist or getting on anti depression drugs. anyways i wish you and your mom the best of luck.

[AdamSocial]

Parents are overrated.

My mom is depressed because my dad is a pill popper. She's handling it in the most healthy way possible. Crushing up LOTS of his pills and putting them in his coffee.

[boddah84]

I have the same problem with my mom. When my dad left last year after 23 yrs of marriage she withdrew and changed a lot. She tried to not involve my brother and I but we just let her know we were there for her if she needed to talk. Eventually she broke down and came to me crying one day. I offered her all my love and support and assured her we would help her get through it. It's taken some time but now she is starting to see that my dad leaving wasn't the worst thing that could have happened to her and we talk more and are closer than before. At first it was hard to find the right things to say, its not easy trying to comfort a parent especially when you were not close like in my case. I think you should just let her know she has ur unconditional love and support. Make her feel loved and needed, the main thing is to just talk to her. Good luck to both of you.

[BILLY AGE 8]

actually putting aside the earlier joke,

i go through a bunch of stuff like this with my mom, first when she divorced my dad, and now that she has a new husband, it turns out he is a total douche and about every 2 weeks there is a big argument and there are threats of divorce, but no matter what, they make up, and its just a wait until the next time, which really sucks,

because i have come to hate my step dad so much because of this all, and i would love almost nothing more than to see them split up, because he is the cause of all the problems in our lives now

[CrazyRockGirl]

please this one is classic, my mother is a depressive, anxiey filled, crazy maniac. my mother is anorexic and she makes me crazy. plus, she got divorced like twice that basically she got rejected two times. her first husband, or my father, used to scream a lot at her and was mean to her. she was fine when she was younger like in the 70's and 80's, but after all of that shit that happened to her now she dresses in rags and cries and sleeps all the time, and doesn't eat, and the only one that it affetcs is me because I am the only child and she makes me very nervous. I get in a terrible mood when I am with her.

[maia6682]

Suggest her to go to a shrink and tell her to do it for you?

I think this is excellent advice. Its proactive. And honestly depression is a heavy burden for anyone to handle... she doesn't have to do it alone.

[CrazyRockGirl]

my mother is anorexic and I think bipolar because one minute she is in a good mood and then she will start screaming like a fuckin maniac, I think I would rather a mother who is just depressed but at least normal, my mother makes me sick!