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HangsLikeHeaven
04/22/07, 05:59 PM
really need some advice on this. please only serious replies.
well about 2,3 weeks ago I heard from some random younger kid in my school that my brother smokes. I wasn't too worried, but rather that it's weed. I approached him one time, and asked him about it: face went all red and denied it. Half the school apparently has seen him smoke some time or another. I have not. What the fuck do I do. Do I let my parents know? Do I try and sneak him out? Do I let him do whatever the fuck he wants?
I feel like an idiot only because he's denying it every single fucking time. Should I wait it out?
fuckin' hell...
advice pleasseee
edit; he's in grade 9
Smoke all of his weed.
he would be madddd.
at least get a friend to do it.
HangsLikeHeaven
04/22/07, 06:08 PM
Let him do it until he becomes a "im wasting my life, smoking weed" kinda guy. Casually getting high every now and then isnt so bad, although its not for me. He isnt going to take kindly to taking shit over this so if he shows he can manage it then hopefully he will grow out of it.
However first sign of it having an effect on his life in general, rat him out. It can be a slipperly slope especially so young.
haha I hear yeah. well mid-term reports come home tomarrow. that'll be a good sign
nonamesleft
04/22/07, 06:09 PM
Wait it out a while and see if he stops
HangsLikeHeaven
04/22/07, 06:11 PM
Smoke all of his weed.
he would be madddd.
at least get a friend to do it.
get off my thread
HangsLikeHeaven
04/22/07, 06:13 PM
Wait it out a while and see if he stops
apparently it's been for a long time now, I've just been really oblivious, I guess. I just want the best for the kid.
apparently it's been for a long time now, I've just been really oblivious, I guess. I just want the best for the kid.
Just let him go.
Its a lose lose situation, hes gonna hate you either way.
Just let him get hurt because of it, get caught or something.
he'll learn.
And i didnt leave your thread.
so fuck my ass.
atthegates
04/22/07, 06:22 PM
Ultimately, it is his decision to do it or not so yelling at him or whatever won't help the situation. I used to smoke weed and do E every once in a while when I was a 9th grader but I stopped cause it was a waste of my money and a lot of my friends started changing into people I didn't like.
I don't know how close you are with your brother, but my advice would be to maybe find some activity that he really likes. I started getting into guitar around the same time and my determination to get better at music made drugs a waste of time for me. Personally, I find drugs unproductive and I could be doing so much more for myself without them. But that's my opinion.
HangsLikeHeaven
04/22/07, 06:27 PM
Ultimately, it is his decision to do it or not so yelling at him or whatever won't help the situation. I used to smoke weed and do E every once in a while when I was a 9th grader but I stopped cause it was a waste of my money and a lot of my friends started changing into people I didn't like.
I don't know how close you are with your brother, but my advice would be to maybe find some activity that he really likes. I started getting into guitar around the same time and my determination to get better at music made drugs a waste of time for me. Personally, I find drugs unproductive and I could be doing so much more for myself without them. But that's my opinion.
thanks for the thoughts. I personally didn't get into the drug scene mainly because my friends, but I can't hold too much of a threat because I too, aren't perfect. I think I'm going to wait it out, like some said, but am trying to steer him into a better direction for the future.
open for more advice, though
HangsLikeHeaven
04/22/07, 06:28 PM
Just let him go.
Its a lose lose situation, hes gonna hate you either way.
Just let him get hurt because of it, get caught or something.
he'll learn.
And i didnt leave your thread.
so fuck my ass.
i'm trying despretely to not make it a lose-lose situation. even though it'll probably end up that way, sadly
i'm trying despretely to not make it a lose-lose situation. even though it'll probably end up that way, sadly
Look its a lose lose situation anyways, he does drugs.
call the cops Right now.
Get him into rehab, and stfu please.
im trying to help, not piss you off.
But do you really wanna use your brother to drugs?
BUT if its every once in a while, dont.
Cuz thats just not right, Let him smoke every month or something.
but if its daily or weekly.
call the police
and get him in rehab
atticus1492
04/22/07, 07:04 PM
Fuck. How old is your younger brother? If he is fourteen, well then, I think it would be a stretch to say that he could handle it. Maybe he could. Some can. But probably not. Rat the fucker out.
HangsLikeHeaven
04/22/07, 07:51 PM
Fuck. How old is your younger brother? If he is fourteen, well then, I think it would be a stretch to say that he could handle it. Maybe he could. Some can. But probably not. Rat the fucker out.
yeah true. he's 14, and his friends are ..ugh..dumb? I want my parents to figure out sooner than later. awkward state at home right now. It's like, I got dirt on him, but...I don't have any proof.
AnF1500
04/22/07, 08:27 PM
It's only bud...
Chancetobe
04/22/07, 08:35 PM
I'm worried about my brother doing this also. Not so much that I care if he smokes/drinks or whatever. But moreso that I want to know that he's doing it. I'm hoping he trusts me enough to tell me. And at least I can make sure he's careful about it.
It's only bud...
yeah, I was waiting for some after-school-special story to pop up about junkies and a street-tough lifestyle. This is thoroughly disappointing.
AnF1500
04/22/07, 08:53 PM
yeah, I was waiting for some after-school-special story to pop up about junkies and a street-tough lifestyle. This is thoroughly disappointing.
Haha same, I'm sure its yet to come..
HangsLikeHeaven
04/22/07, 09:41 PM
It's only bud...
it's not that as much...it's more that he's denying it.
HangsLikeHeaven
04/22/07, 09:44 PM
yeah, I was waiting for some after-school-special story to pop up about junkies and a street-tough lifestyle. This is thoroughly disappointing.
the fuck out of here. why reply with something I specifically asked not to.
AnF1500
04/22/07, 09:53 PM
it's not that as much...it's more that he's denying it.
Hm, he's probably denying it because he knows that you'd react the exact way you are. I don't know.
colorlesscliche
04/22/07, 10:17 PM
Dude, he's too young to be smoking. Tell him if he hears it from a friend again you'll tell your parents. It's for the best, at the age, he'll do it all through high school without a doubt.
kathleenkelly
05/06/07, 10:02 PM
become closer with him and gain his trust.
forgotten_emo
05/07/07, 10:15 AM
Catch him smoking. If he wont tell you himself. Yes i smoke it myself but its not a daily thing. I dont let it run my life. I only smoke about 3 times a week at max. Yes at his age he shouldnt be doing it. And yes at my age i shouldnt be doing it either. But Ive cut back alot. I used to smoke everyday all day last summer. I just sorta got out of doing it everyday. I would say tell your parents but like somebody has already said he would hate you and you dont want that. And confronting him isn't helping either. Like I said catch him in the act of doing it. Or purposely have your parents catch him. Or just do it the easy way the next time he goes to the doctors have him pissed tested. Weed stays in your system for 28 days. So if he has smoked any time in the previous 28 days it will show up and then your parents will know and he will not be able to deny it. Thats my view on this situation and what you should do. Hope I could help.
KellyChaotic
05/07/07, 10:50 AM
he''ll hang himself.....let him get his self in trouble......
thatwasamoment
05/07/07, 10:54 AM
Did you beat his ass yet?
NormaJoel
05/07/07, 11:04 AM
I wouldnt say just let him smoke, because eventually hes going to get into trouble.
try and talk to him about it sooner then later!
this is a rough situation. i didnt start smoking till i was 18 but ive been smoking the past 3 years. my brother knew because we're twins and he tried it about the same time, but he didnt keep doing it. your brother probably hasnt told you because he doesnt know if you would rat him out or not. its easier to deny everything then give you the proof. the best solution is probably to let him know youre cool about it and once he starts letting you know whats going on take it from there. its kind of hard to expect someone that young to be able to handle themselves well, but if you can keep an eye on him you can make sure he stays out of trouble and do something if it gets out of hand
HangsLikeHeaven
05/07/07, 04:56 PM
this is a rough situation. i didnt start smoking till i was 18 but ive been smoking the past 3 years. my brother knew because we're twins and he tried it about the same time, but he didnt keep doing it. your brother probably hasnt told you because he doesnt know if you would rat him out or not. its easier to deny everything then give you the proof. the best solution is probably to let him know youre cool about it and once he starts letting you know whats going on take it from there. its kind of hard to expect someone that young to be able to handle themselves well, but if you can keep an eye on him you can make sure he stays out of trouble and do something if it gets out of hand
good advice, thanks man.
HangsLikeHeaven
05/07/07, 04:56 PM
Did you beat his ass yet?
haha not yet
{Comatose}
05/07/07, 05:09 PM
don't rat him out... he will hate you for a long time (even if you are trying to help)
but weed is'nt a big deal... it's not phisicly addicting, it's not a "gateway drug", and it's WAY better for you than cigs and alcohol... it's actually often used as medicine and is damn fun at the same time...
by the way, MUTE1, that is an awesome response...
spencersmithrox
05/07/07, 07:43 PM
No, dont let him do what ever the fuck he wants, the kids not bam. Just sit him down, and talk to him about it and let him know you know that he is smoking. hopefully he'll talk to you, and take him to the county nurse and get him some help if he is willing.
spencersmithrox
05/07/07, 07:47 PM
No, dont let him do what ever the fuck he wants, the kids not bam. Just sit him down, and talk to him about it and let him know you know that he is smoking. hopefully he'll talk to you, and take him to the county nurse and get him some help if he is willing.
spencersmithrox
05/07/07, 07:48 PM
oh whoops sorry bud lol
Tell him about all of the bad stuff that will happen and show him what happens but im not sure they have gross pictures of what happens when you smoke.In Australia they have them im not sure if they do it in Canada or the US.
shit stroll
01/25/08, 09:19 PM
Tell him about all of the bad stuff that will happen and show him what happens but im not sure they have gross pictures of what happens when you smoke.In Australia they have them im not sure if they do it in Canada or the US
:thumbup: you better listen, this girl knows what shes talking about
shit stroll
01/25/08, 09:21 PM
hey, its better than prescription drugs
sparkleyj3n
01/25/08, 10:06 PM
hey, its better than prescription drugs
that is true. but 14 is kinda young. just sit him down and tell him the truth. you know, that its not so much he's actually doing it, but that you'd just like him to be able to confide in you & trust you.
smoking weed generally doesn't kill anyone. i smoked everyday for quite a few years. now i have pretty much no memory. but i still have a job, live on my own & get my bills paid.
also, i grew out of it. i now no longer smoke unless its a social occassion. which happens like... never.
TakingBackDowd
01/25/08, 10:13 PM
it probably depends on who hes hanging out with and self control..
alot of my friends who started but is now stopping half way through freshman year is because theyre not being pushed to do it, or if they are, they have the self control to stop the situation and gradually let their hobby die.
i know some kids though who hang out with alot of just, dumb kids who dont really care and thats when it gets bad.
3 of my classmates (freshmen) got arrested during school today and expelled for possession...
basically if your brothers a smart kid and isnt fucking up his education/social life, hes not in bad shape
but if he never really cared too much about life hes most likely going to fuck himself up
If he doesn't listen and quit smoking
he could get gangrene and emphazima
Mrs.Sweeny Todd
01/25/08, 11:06 PM
ok stop him he shouldn't be weed until he's 15 in a half ok he should go to rehab don't confront your parents about him weed because then he'll and trust me he will have a feeling that everyones against him and he wants to kill ur rents trust me been there done that but now im sober annd off that
Zach Cool
01/26/08, 12:33 AM
The person who revived this thread is stupid in more than one way.
lake of tears
01/26/08, 01:17 AM
be bothered after he hascrossed his limits
Rat him out? WTF is wrong with you?!
I would never do that to my brothers unless he had REAL problem. Smoking weed is not that big of a deal.
HangsLikeHeaven
01/26/08, 07:22 AM
Why would anyone bump a year old thread with it being resolved already?
If he doesn't listen and quit smoking
he could get gangrene and emphazima
You people
ok stop him he shouldn't be weed until he's 15 in a half ok he should go to rehab don't confront your parents about him weed because then he'll and trust me he will have a feeling that everyones against him and he wants to kill ur rents trust me been there done that but now im sober annd off that
are
be bothered after he hascrossed his limits
seriously
Rat him out? WTF is wrong with you?!
I would never do that to my brothers unless he had REAL problem. Smoking weed is not that big of a deal.
idiots.
disco.tetris
01/26/08, 08:56 AM
Why would anyone bump a year old thread with it being resolved already?
You people
are
seriously
idiots.
:lol:
I actually read all four pages and kept thinking of something to say!
brotherly love, you might've heard of it.
atticus1492
01/26/08, 12:10 PM
Tell him about all of the bad stuff that will happen and show him what happens but im not sure they have gross pictures of what happens when you smoke.In Australia they have them im not sure if they do it in Canada or the US.
EPIC bump, ftw. Also, before I realized how old this was, I was reading the thread, and it sounded familiar, but I didn't realize what it was until I saw my reply from 8 months ago.
ieatcrayons4fun
01/26/08, 02:42 PM
my brother is 13 and he smokes pot. at 1st i didn't approve even though i did, but i'm older. but he told me that if i didn't let him smoke pot he was just going to huff crap, which is a lot more dangerous than pot, i don't care who you are. so i just accepted it. your brother can make his own choices you know, you can't stop him. don't rat him out,,, that's dumb. you wouldn't want him to tell mommy on you would you? no. i think you should tell him how you feel about it, but just leave it at that. don't nag or you'll push him to do it more. he will find out that it's trouble and he'll decide for HIMSELF if it's WORTH all the trouble. there is nothing you can do. don't make it worse.
So, what happened with this Mike?
SonEric84
01/27/08, 09:28 AM
ok stop him he shouldn't be weed until he's 15 in a half ok he should go to rehab don't confront your parents about him weed because then he'll and trust me he will have a feeling that everyones against him and he wants to kill ur rents trust me been there done that but now im sober annd off that
Let me guess....you're 15 and a half?
HangsLikeHeaven
02/02/08, 12:49 PM
So, what happened with this Mike?
Found out my brother did drugs. Didn't care too much but he denied it, blah blah blah. I don't really care much for him anymore.
billyboatkid
02/02/08, 12:53 PM
It's a choice, I personally don't think its that bad, but you might wanna still keep a watch cause it could lead to other things. Or if your straight and don't want him doing that stuff then tell him straight up, or just let your parents know.
Edit: Nvm way to late on this one haha.
Found out my brother did drugs. Didn't care too much but he denied it, blah blah blah. I don't really care much for him anymore.Ah, hope I wasn't prying there.
KellyGleason
02/10/08, 09:41 PM
My older brother was the same way when he found out that I tried weed. He confronted me when we were home alone, and, y'know what? He convinced me it isn't worth it to continue on a regular basis. I love my brother for it, because those people I did it with turned out to be terrible friends in the long-run.
Therefore my advice for you would be to confront him about it when your parents aren't around (but a more serious confrontation than just asking him). He's going to be stubborn, but ultimately the choice is up to him. You could have a greater influence on him with some confrontation, though. :)
screamoutmyname
02/10/08, 09:43 PM
Dude, he's too young to be smoking. Tell him if he hears it from a friend again you'll tell your parents. It's for the best, at the age, he'll do it all through high school without a doubt.
I agree... that's probably your best bet.
Sorry to hear about your brother
atxscreamer89
02/11/08, 02:36 PM
"I hate to advocate drugs, alcohol, violence, or insanity to anyone, but they've always worked for me."
-Hunter S. Thomphson
Its really his choice if he decides to smoke marijuana or not. I on the other hand have been smoking marijuana since 6th grade, at the age of 12. I have had very bad asthma, and ever since I have started smoking marijuana, I have yet to have one attack. Many people do beomce lazy from smoking marijuana, because that is all they want to do, on the other hand, I am a, Senior in High School, straight A Student, and I smoke pot just about every 2-4 hours.
I dont know why everyone freaks out over marijuana. It is one of the most commonly used drugs in America, and one of the greatest medicines known. My father smokes marjuana because he has a injured back, he doesnt take pain medications, just smokes.
Its a choice, all you can do to him is advocate not to do it, but it his choice, he can do what he wants. Unfortunetly, you will have to come to that realization.
popdisaster00
02/11/08, 07:42 PM
At that age, I would have listened to anything my older brother told me.
That is all.
HangsLikeHeaven
02/11/08, 09:47 PM
woooooooah still alive.
ashleey
02/13/08, 05:36 PM
okay, don't rat him out
and honestly you shouldnt even give a shit what he does
at my school, people started smoking and all that shit in like 6th grade, and if you havent done it yet, then damnnn.
if you've been to a party, more than likely you got drunk and/or high off youre ass.
telling on him isnt gonna get him to quit.
he'll just find a new way to sneak it, annd, he'll hate you.
pluss, he'll probably quit eventually, and if he doesnt oh well, it's his life not yours.
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