Give her a second chance?

[DaneTheTrain]

Ok. Im not gonna get into detail...and to tell you the truth I feel stupid doing this anyway, I know someones just gonna tell me "Its your choice, dont listen to strangers", but listen. Theres this girl, about a year ago we fell in love. I spent an assload of money to fly her down every couple of weeks and see her. Then one day she flew home with my heart and my paycheck packed in her bag, and I never heard from her again. Until about a month or two ago. She called me up out of the blue to apologize, I dont even know why I listened. It took me so long to forget about her, and right when I thought I had, she called. Well now she wants me to go visit her in a couple of weeks to see the Drive-Thru show. Now heres where I need your imput. Do I go see her? I did love her, and theres always gonna be a piece of me that does. But I'de only be setting myself up once again for "The Greatest Fall of All Time". But even if I do get screwd again, I wrote some damn good music the first time I got screwed, and I'm sure I'de be able to write some damn good music if it were to happen again...damn I feel like an idiot. Let me know.

[sigh]

isnt it obvious? sell your really good music, or make an album, then make millions. Then youll have all the money in the world to spend on her:D

[DaneTheTrain]

haha, that might be the best damn advice I've ever heard.

[Highway Donkey]

I'd tell her to go fuck herself. If she did it to you once, what makes you think she wouldn't do it again?

[AudioBoxers]

Originally posted by DaneTheTrain
Ok. Im not gonna get into detail...and to tell you the truth I feel stupid doing this anyway, I know someones just gonna tell me "Its your choice, dont listen to strangers", but listen. Theres this girl, about a year ago we fell in love. I spent an assload of money to fly her down every couple of weeks and see her. Then one day she flew home with my heart and my paycheck packed in her bag, and I never heard from her again. Until about a month or two ago. She called me up out of the blue to apologize, I dont even know why I listened. It took me so long to forget about her, and right when I thought I had, she called. Well now she wants me to go visit her in a couple of weeks to see the Drive-Thru show. Now heres where I need your imput. Do I go see her? I did love her, and theres always gonna be a piece of me that does. But I'de only be setting myself up once again for "The Greatest Fall of All Time". But even if I do get screwd again, I wrote some damn good music the first time I got screwed, and I'm sure I'de be able to write some damn good music if it were to happen again...damn I feel like an idiot. Let me know. For reals though, what did she say when she called that could make all the difference

[richter915]

I guess you should go see her, as a friend though, nothing more...she's just takin advantage of you dude...

[AudioBoxers]

Its more of what she said on the phone

[BleedingMe]

She just wants your money again. I'd say your a douche if you go see her. Does she want you to pay for the trip?

[DaneTheTrain]

Well she went out and bought the damn tickets. Still doesnt mean I'm going. Dont freak out. But to answer the questions you guys were asking...

1. On the phone she pretty much just said "Im sorry, I just got intimidated and scared of where this relationship was going." Ok first of all I know all of you are like, "wow thats the biggest load of bull shit, I hope you didnt believe that you poor sap.". But the thing is I did, even I was scared of where the relationship was going. We were talking way into the future, like the type of milk our kids were gonna drink.

2. No. I wouldnt have to pay for the trip, we both moved. And now were only a 5 hour car drive from eachother. And I can just write the gas expenses off.

So anyways, I'm gettin the jist you guys think it would be stupid to go. But I'm an ignorant, impatient, curious bastard. And will probally end up going and hurting myself. But ya know, whats life with out taking a few risks.

[AudioBoxers]

Originally posted by DaneTheTrain
Well she went out and bought the damn tickets. Still doesnt mean I'm going. Dont freak out. But to answer the questions you guys were asking...

1. On the phone she pretty much just said "Im sorry, I just got intimidated and scared of where this relationship was going." Ok first of all I know all of you are like, "wow thats the biggest load of bull shit, I hope you didnt believe that you poor sap.". But the thing is I did, even I was scared of where the relationship was going. We were talking way into the future, like the type of milk our kids were gonna drink.

2. No. I wouldnt have to pay for the trip, we both moved. And now were only a 5 hour car drive from eachother. And I can just write the gas expenses off.

So anyways, I'm gettin the jist you guys think it would be stupid to go. But I'm an ignorant, impatient, curious bastard. And will probally end up going and hurting myself. But ya know, whats life with out taking a few risks. After saying that dont go. Wait until you guys talk on the phone more, and get in touch with each other more. I mean one phone doenst meant everything is ok, for all you know she could have a kid by now. Talk on the phone more then if everything seems ok then go

[aframedregret]

Originally posted by DaneTheTrain
Well she went out and bought the damn tickets. Still doesnt mean I'm going. Dont freak out. But to answer the questions you guys were asking...

1. On the phone she pretty much just said "Im sorry, I just got intimidated and scared of where this relationship was going." Ok first of all I know all of you are like, "wow thats the biggest load of bull shit, I hope you didnt believe that you poor sap.". But the thing is I did, even I was scared of where the relationship was going. We were talking way into the future, like the type of milk our kids were gonna drink.

2. No. I wouldnt have to pay for the trip, we both moved. And now were only a 5 hour car drive from eachother. And I can just write the gas expenses off.

So anyways, I'm gettin the jist you guys think it would be stupid to go. But I'm an ignorant, impatient, curious bastard. And will probally end up going and hurting myself. But ya know, whats life with out taking a few risks.

To be honest, its so easy to tell you , you should do something but I know how it feels and understand its hard but honestly, I wouldnt. I understand it was love and everything but how hard was it for you to get over this? I mean shit I can tell by only like 3 posts of yours and its probably 1000 times worse. I mean A relationships goes both ways....You give and you get. If the only thing you are doing or was, giving then its not worth it. It even took myself many years to realize this myself. To be honest by your post I dont even know if the real reason she would be coming down would be to see you and not the Drive Thru show. I think you can be curtious and be nice and talk on the phone but dont go into dept with her if you feel you may fall for her again.. Sounds fucked up but honestly if you still have feels you may get sucked back into all this again. If you dont see marriage as an option then forget her... Easier said then done but I think its for the best........Or you could do what "sigh" said cause that sounded like a good idea!! Good Luck in whatever you decide.

[DaneTheTrain]

Thanx aframedregret, seems like you really went out of your way to understand my problem. And you offered some good deep advice. You did get one thing wrong though...

To be honest by your post I dont even know if the real reason she would be coming down would be to see you and not the Drive Thru show

She wouldnt be coming to my place, I'de be going to hers. She was going to the show to begin with, shes not using me to pay for the show, she actually bought my ticket.

But anyways, I've made my decision...IM GOING.

HERES WHY...


If you dont see marriage as an option then forget her... Easier said then done but I think its for the best

-Thats the thing, shes the only person Ive ever met that I'de ever wanna spend the rest of my life with. Shes everything I want in a girl, not to mention shes just drop dead gorgeuos.

-"I'm convinced, wondering what if, is the worst thing there is" - Straylight Run. If I didnt go, for the rest of my life I'de wonder, "What if...what if I had gone, would everything had worked out like a fairly tail and wede be living happily together after right now." And I dont want any regrets, If I dont go, I may regret it. "Regrets are worthless" - Midtown.

-If I get f'd, atleast I'll know it wasnt meant to be. And as a bonus I'll end up with a shit load of inspiration for new music.

Let me know what you think.

[AudioBoxers]

I see what you are saying she is your true love. But what I was saying is dont go down there right then, talk on the phone with her some and make sure what she is saying is true. I mean you dont know if she is just doing all of this to break your heart or what. So final advice talk on the phone with her some more and make sure its worth the time

[aframedregret]

Originally posted by DaneTheTrain
Thanx aframedregret, seems like you really went out of your way to understand my problem. And you offered some good deep advice. You did get one thing wrong though...



She wouldnt be coming to my place, I'de be going to hers. She was going to the show to begin with, shes not using me to pay for the show, she actually bought my ticket.

But anyways, I've made my decision...IM GOING.

HERES WHY...




-Thats the thing, shes the only person Ive ever met that I'de ever wanna spend the rest of my life with. Shes everything I want in a girl, not to mention shes just drop dead gorgeuos.

-"I'm convinced, wondering what if, is the worst thing there is" - Straylight Run. If I didnt go, for the rest of my life I'de wonder, "What if...what if I had gone, would everything had worked out like a fairly tail and wede be living happily together after right now." And I dont want any regrets, If I dont go, I may regret it. "Regrets are worthless" - Midtown.

-If I get f'd, atleast I'll know it wasnt meant to be. And as a bonus I'll end up with a shit load of inspiration for new music.

Let me know what you think.


Well after reading your responce I think you are correct.... Regrets are worthless and this is something you may regret not doing, but be careful, this could either make or break you, as long as you know what the outcome MAY turn out to be then I think you should do it. I hope for the best for you and good luck with it and make sure you update us on how it went and oh yeah, Have fun at the show too!

[NicoleC]

if she left because she was scared of where the relationship was heading why did she take your paycheck with her?

[DaneTheTrain]

if she left because she was scared of where the relationship was heading why did she take your paycheck with her?

haha, sorry you misunderstood that. Its was figurative speech. She didnt exactly "have my paycheck in her bag". Besides, she wouldnt be able to cash it anyway. What I was trying to get accross was that I had spent alot of money on her. And in reality she almost did run off with my paycheck in her bag. I got her an early x-mas present the day before she went home (the last time I ever saw her), a full brand new snowboard outfit, and if any of you ride you know how expensive that can be.

[NicoleC]

oh... my baddd...

[DaneTheTrain]

Holy shit dude, you should read some replys on a thread before you go postin, maybe next time you wont look like such a dumbass.

[SnowintheSummer]

if it was me i dont think id go at this point but like call her and ask her what the fuck she was thnking and get her point of things. see if , even if you act mad, she still pursues you and really wants to see you and if she had her reasons or if she was just being a bitch, and based on that decide

[SnowintheSummer]

Originally posted by SnowintheSummer
if it was me i dont think id go at this point but like call her and ask her what the fuck she was thnking and get her point of things. see if , even if you act mad, she still pursues you and really wants to see you and if she had her reasons or if she was just being a bitch, and based on that decide



fuck i just read the rest of the posts sorry !! and after hearing your argument i totally agree

[DaneTheTrain]

hey no problem, thx for caring, your advice to start wasnt bad, and thats what i did, and it helped me make my decision.

[AmarnaReign]

Go see her

[kaycey]

i'd marry her if i were you.
you lucky dog you.

[sjb2k1]

that's a big WTF for bumping this.

[James_Brand]

Ok. Im not gonna get into detail...and to tell you the truth I feel stupid doing this anyway, I know someones just gonna tell me "Its your choice, dont listen to strangers", but listen. Theres this girl, about a year ago we fell in love. I spent an assload of money to fly her down every couple of weeks and see her. Then one day she flew home with my heart and my paycheck packed in her bag, and I never heard from her again. Until about a month or two ago. She called me up out of the blue to apologize, I dont even know why I listened. It took me so long to forget about her, and right when I thought I had, she called. Well now she wants me to go visit her in a couple of weeks to see the Drive-Thru show. Now heres where I need your imput. Do I go see her? I did love her, and theres always gonna be a piece of me that does. But I'de only be setting myself up once again for "The Greatest Fall of All Time". But even if I do get screwd again, I wrote some damn good music the first time I got screwed, and I'm sure I'de be able to write some damn good music if it were to happen again...damn I feel like an idiot. Let me know.

Did you mean input?

I say go, but with the intent of a pirate: To get some booty and then get out of there.

[sjb2k1]

thread is five years old people.

[brentkid]

2003? Holy shit.

[Mxbaby511]

tl/dr