About to have a break down

[Sophiek6873]

well my boyfriend of four years has just told me within the last three days that he is going off to college. He is 21 and i am 19 and he stayed home to go to college and had everything planned out. Well of course when i graduated i decided not to go off also because i thought he was staying home. Well he has given me no indication that he was thinking of going off and this has all been so fast. So today he went to Auburn University(that is where he wants to go) with his dad and step mom to see if he can get in and they had to find him a house and everything and classes start Thursday. He wants to be an architect and auburn has a mandatory summer program for architecture students so i am having to deal with all of this and it upsets me and hurt and i just dont know what to do i mean my parents said i have to go one more year at the community college im going to and then i can go. So i just dont know if my boyfriend and i can make it because we have really never been apart for long at all.

[Rock]

a perfect example of why you don't make your college decision based on the person you're dating at the time. i went away to college, and my girlfriend and i broke up. i hope you guys fare better, but it's not likely. i realize that none of this helps you emotionally, but maybe it'll make you more sensible about the situation.

[Mr. Jacob]

i love a good breakdown

hardddddcoreeeee

[disco.tetris]

take a break. when he gets back, just talk to each other and see if you want to get back together or something..

[smokedsanity]

Well, not to be an ass, but Auburn is a great place.

[HoustonCalling]

welcome to the dilemma that 10000000 couples face. its make or break. if its meant to be, it works out but it usually dosen't.

[Sophiek6873]

well i may transfer to auburn because i have always wanted to go there and yea i know it is an awesome place but this is just all so fast and i am so angry and hurt and he wants to make it work and stay together and i was the one that said something about breaking up but he didnt want that

[SubrosaSeductiv]

well i may transfer to auburn because i have always wanted to go there and yea i know it is an awesome place but this is just all so fast and i am so angry and hurt and he wants to make it work and stay together and i was the one that said something about breaking up but he didnt want that


No you want to go there 'cause your boy is going there and you are trying to find alternate motives to deny your insecurities of him possibly breaking up with you.

Suck it up.

There are basically three possible present scenario's here with unknown endings but I'll include some of the possibilities so maybe you can put things into perspective.

a. he breaks up with you goes to college
- Then you guys could never talk
- Then you could keep up the talk and remain friends
- Then you could keep up the talk remain friends get back together
- You could keep up the talk and wind up livin' your dream and getting married

b. he doesn't break up with you
- Then you guys break up anyways
- Then he winds up fucking some slut you guys break up
- you guys manage the long distance relationship for a while but the break up
- you guys manage the long distance relationship and stay together

c. He doesn't break up with you and you transfer there
- You guys realize you can't stand each other and break up there
1. Then you understand that you just made a major mistake doing something you didn't really want to do without him
2. Then you excell in that college and live your life
- You guys realize you love each other and stay together


None of these are really the right or wrong choice. But just you should be ready for any of these possibilities and more. You can't control other people so don't try to. Relax don't break down and just be aware of what you have now and enjoy it while you can.

[siren eyes]

a perfect example of why you don't make your college decision based on the person you're dating at the time. i went away to college, and my girlfriend and i broke up. i hope you guys fare better, but it's not likely. i realize that none of this helps you emotionally, but maybe it'll make you more sensible about the situation.

Exactly. I transferred from Boston to LSU after my freshman year in college to be with someone that I'd been off and on with since I was 14. Worst mistake I ever made. Things ended horribly, I stayed one semester, and started the long drive home the minute after my last final. If I had stayed in MA and done what I wanted, I'd have been MUCH happier. Just listen to yourself and do what is best for you - not you two. You'll still have to deal with the consequences of your own actions once he's long gone.

[underthetalking]

I started dating my girlfriend Sophmore year of high school. Senior year came along, we were still together and we told each other not to make our college decisions because of the other person. We both went to the schools we wanted to go to and we're still together just fine. Its a matter of communication and trust and if you have neither, you shouldn't have been in the relationship in the first place.

[ForeverInADay]

About to have a break down

I hope it sounds like this:

izUL8oOMa10

[FondestMemory]

suck it up.

anything that's easy isn't worth doing in the first place.

just give it a try.

[FreddyKrueger]

Have sex with as many guys as possible to get back at him

[stacymichelle]

a perfect example of why you don't make your college decision based on the person you're dating at the time. i went away to college, and my girlfriend and i broke up. i hope you guys fare better, but it's not likely. i realize that none of this helps you emotionally, but maybe it'll make you more sensible about the situation.


agreeeed!

[stacymichelle]

No you want to go there 'cause your boy is going there and you are trying to find alternate motives to deny your insecurities of him possibly breaking up with you.

Suck it up.

There are basically three possible present scenario's here with unknown endings but I'll include some of the possibilities so maybe you can put things into perspective.

a. he breaks up with you goes to college
- Then you guys could never talk
- Then you could keep up the talk and remain friends
- Then you could keep up the talk remain friends get back together
- You could keep up the talk and wind up livin' your dream and getting married

b. he doesn't break up with you
- Then you guys break up anyways
- Then he winds up fucking some slut you guys break up
- you guys manage the long distance relationship for a while but the break up
- you guys manage the long distance relationship and stay together

c. He doesn't break up with you and you transfer there
- You guys realize you can't stand each other and break up there
1. Then you understand that you just made a major mistake doing something you didn't really want to do without him
2. Then you excell in that college and live your life
- You guys realize you love each other and stay together


None of these are really the right or wrong choice. But just you should be ready for any of these possibilities and more. You can't control other people so don't try to. Relax don't break down and just be aware of what you have now and enjoy it while you can.


haha.

and devils advocate much?

[Love As Arson]

Girls like this are my bread and butter. Ha.