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I've fallen for a pothead, and it boggles my mind sometimes. He has not much personality, does almost nothing but smoke pot all day everyday, but is very hot and I can't help but be attracted to him. In all reality, I love him. He always tells me how much he likes me for me. But sometimes I just can't shake the feeling that he would like me a hell of a lot more if I were a pothead too. Even though he swears up and down that that's one of the things he likes most about me--that I'm not a pothead. None of his friends like me...well except two. And he says he loves me too, but there's one MAJOR problem...we live 2 hours apart. He is my moms best friend's son. I originally was just at my mom's house for summer school. He was the only one I knew so I hung out with him just because I couldn't find a way to get out of it. Little did I know it would turn into this. He starts school on the 26th while I start on Sept.2, however, I have been trying to convince my mom to let me stay with her in Bensalem. She's been wanting me to live with her ever since she kicked me out of her house 2 years ago, and now that I finally want to, she says no because she doesn't have a 2 bedroom apartment all because she bought a Harley that doesn't get used! This boy isn't the only reason I wanna stay, he's a big part of why, but not the whole thing. Now...here's where I'm stuck--do I keep trying to get my mom to let me stay or do I just give up and say that I've had a "summer love?"
I know this is a very long thread, but please just bear with me, I'm VERY confused.
BleedingMe
08/19/03, 11:02 AM
Leave it as summer love, and don't beg your mom to let you stay with her. Don't change your life for some stoner because chances are that's all he's ever going to be.
ouch. i mean .. i agree with you as leaving it as summer love. but the shot at stoner's just wasn't really fair. me and my friends smoke every night, we all go to school and have jobs (except for one but he's applying for a job and is in school) so just because people smoke it doesn't mean they aren't capable of living a good life ..
StartingLine182
08/19/03, 12:41 PM
Maybe he doesnt actually like you, but says it because hes high. It seems stupid to start anything with someone that dumb.
No, I know he likes me...I just don't know how much. He seems to be very appreciative of me, enless he's a very convincing drama king. I just...I dunno, we get along soooo well, and we have a whole lot in common and it just feels like I'll never be able to find another guy like him, although I know that I will, because I always feel this way during a love-trauma incident, like a lot of people do...but can see where you're coming from.
worldstheory
08/19/03, 09:11 PM
A question you should ask yourself is, are you trying to gain a life partner or a co-dependent?
It's a well known fact that long-term affects of marijuana smoking diminish a person's ambitions. You said yourself that he "has not much personality" and "does almost nothing but smoke pot all day everyday".
Imagine what would happen if you were to marry him. Now imagine your life then years down the road. Is he someone that you're with because you complete each other and are there to provide for and support each other? Or because he needs someone to supply him food, shelter, clothing, and weed?
You need to remember that you have needs too. And not just sexual needs, so someone who "is very hot" won't cut it, even if you "can't help but be attracted to him".
I must say, that is a VERY good point! But he does have ambitions, he knows what he wants to do with his life, and he has a job...he used to have 2 but he missed too many days so he got fired. Although I can't help but blame myself for him getting fired because he missed work that one day to stay at his house with me. I was sleeping and when I woke up, he was right there, and I was like "what are doing????? You're supposed to be at work!!!!!" and he said he didn't feel like going because he wanted to stay with me...but then of course later that afternoon his friends all came and attacked him and he left...(he knows better now not to ask if I wanna tag along because he knows as well as I do that his friends prefer to be without my company and I prefer to be without theirs) I just need to let go...detach...walk away...and I know this, it's just sooo hard!!! And I know I made it sound like I'm attracted to him because he's hot, but that's not really why. It's because we have so much in common and so much to talk about all the time. For the most part, he makes me happy...when he's not stoned anyway...:(
distantwhite
08/20/03, 01:39 AM
Maybe it would work if you smoked pot too?
Just kidding, sorry
Actually, I'm not anti-pot, and he knows that I DO smoke, but since I have like madd problems or some shit, I will only smoke from a bowl. While all he has are joints, blunts and bongs! Joints and blunts make me sick, and I refuse to smoke from a bong because of how rediculous people look when they do it...and because it scares me...
SnowintheSummer
08/20/03, 03:18 PM
i know he isnt the whole reason i still dont think you should move mostly because of him. because when you break up with him, which you inevitably will, then where will you be? it depends on the other reasons you want to move as well, but if he is the main factor i wouldnt do it. go for the summer love. if you're totally miserable you can always "visit your mom" on weekends a lot, right?
Don't worry, he's definatley NOT the main reason why I wanna move with my mom. It's because I hate where I live, I hate the school, I hate the people, I hate how there are no jobs for you enless you're 18 or if you have a car because everything is so far away from you. I hate that I have to travel 15 miles to check my mail, and that it's ALWAYS cold and during the winter we get about 20-some inches of snow every month up until April (then we get 6 inches) The fact that he lives where my mom lives is just a bonus! ;)
JoeShow
08/20/03, 11:33 PM
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The school I am currently enrolled in has nothing to offer me. I'd rather graduate at the school my parents went to, because they said it was a great school and they really enjoyed going there. And I've been living with my mom all summer and it's not that bad. I used to live with her for 15 years, then she kicked me out and I've been with my dad ever since. Where I live, there's nothing out there and the people aren't very nice or fun. But where my mom lives, I can actually walk places and I have more job oppurtunities. And this guy is a little more than just a summer love, he's also my moms best friends' son. So we would be seeing eachother all the time, and we get along very well actually. He appreciates my honesty as I do his.
JoeShow
08/21/03, 12:09 AM
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Yeah. It's just hard trying to convince my mom, because she's pregnant lives with her husband (they eloped) and has a 1 bedroom apartment, she called me yesterday because she got an ultra sound to see the sex of the baby and she's having a boy which makes me very excited because I have all little sisters! So I was like "now you have to let me stay with you" and she was like "you can when I get a 2 bedroom apartment" and I told her that ya know, it's hard for me to change schools in the middle of the year (I've had to do it before) and that I don't want to move there next year because I don't want to graduate with a bunch of people I barely know, and I was already planning on getting job so I'll help her pay for a 2 bedroom apartment. Then she said "well, we'll talk about it when you get home." (I'm visiting my cousin and my friends in Florida right now) So I was pretty happy about that because she never gave me a 'we'll talk about it' it was always just 'no'
all the potheads i know are weak little drone "victims" that have no redeeming qualities. Your friend sounds the same way. and you do too.
Poke Smot
12/30/06, 10:44 AM
You are stupid. Thats how im going to start. Not you the girl that is having boy problem, that kid that says smoking pot results in loss of ambitions. You wanna know something kid? I have smoked pot since i was 16 years old. Im 34 now and i run my own architecture company. I have wanted the job i have right now for years upon years. So dont tell me that smoking pot results in loss of ambitions because im living proof its not. Nothing can hold anyone back from doing anything they want to do or be. Dont ever let someone tell you that you cant do something. I also have a friend that runs a music studio and hes one of my high school buddies and he has smoked pot with me also. In fact, its quite casual we get high on poker night.
P.S Mods or whoever monitors this site, you can ban this account if you feel necessary.
Let this be an example.
TxRepresent
12/30/06, 02:12 PM
People actually giving real advice? What has this forum come to...
brentford
12/30/06, 10:23 PM
summer love should stay in the summer...
ascitiesburn101
12/30/06, 10:26 PM
all the potheads i know are weak little drone "victims" that have no redeeming qualities. Your friend sounds the same way. and you do too.
i dont care if the comment is three years old, it's still wrong, and you are a pathetic, ignorant waste of life. dont be quick to judge someones personality because of a drug they've taken, it's more than that.
thatwasamoment
12/30/06, 10:28 PM
damn this is old.
ForeverInADay
12/30/06, 11:23 PM
hold up. hey.
For my n----s who be thinkin' we soft
We don't.. plaaaay
We be rockin' til the wheels fall off
Hold up. hey
For my n----s who be acting to bold
Take a seat
Hope you ready for the next episode. hey
Smoke weed everyday
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I don't do drugs, I just thought it fit.
trancedsailor
12/31/06, 06:24 AM
When I was 17-21 smoking pot every day, I was a POS.
I've grown up, matured, and have done something with my life.
What I'm saying is, don't say potheads won't amount to anything, don't say they have no personality. Don't go out with him. All my relationships during those years were tumultuous. It's very hard to love someone when you're addicted to a drug. It's just way too problematic don't do it.
outofkilter
12/31/06, 09:09 PM
addicted to a drug?
pot isn't addictive...but nicotine definitely is, and last time i checked a lot of smokers have excellent relationships.
how misinformed on the subject of marijuana are people on this forum? because every thread i read regarding weed...welll, suffice it to say there are a lot of people talking out of their arses.
it's really fuckin' weird.
ascitiesburn101
12/31/06, 11:49 PM
addicted to a drug?
pot isn't addictive...but nicotine definitely is, and last time i checked a lot of smokers have excellent relationships.
how misinformed on the subject of marijuana are people on this forum? because every thread i read regarding weed...welll, suffice it to say there are a lot of people talking out of their arses.
it's really fuckin' weird.
you speak the truth man.
AP_Punk
01/01/07, 10:17 AM
addicted to a drug?
pot isn't addictive...but nicotine definitely is, and last time i checked a lot of smokers have excellent relationships.
how misinformed on the subject of marijuana are people on this forum? because every thread i read regarding weed...welll, suffice it to say there are a lot of people talking out of their arses.
it's really fuckin' weird.
agree.
sirenonthe101
01/02/07, 05:25 PM
Maybe it would work if you smoked pot too?
Just kidding, sorry
haha.that was funny
Iamhome
01/03/07, 12:28 PM
You are stupid. Thats how im going to start. Not you the girl that is having boy problem, that kid that says smoking pot results in loss of ambitions. You wanna know something kid? I have smoked pot since i was 16 years old. Im 34 now and i run my own architecture company. I have wanted the job i have right now for years upon years. So dont tell me that smoking pot results in loss of ambitions because im living proof its not. Nothing can hold anyone back from doing anything they want to do or be. Dont ever let someone tell you that you cant do something. I also have a friend that runs a music studio and hes one of my high school buddies and he has smoked pot with me also. In fact, its quite casual we get high on poker night.
P.S Mods or whoever monitors this site, you can ban this account if you feel necessary.
Let this be an example.
I doubt anyone will ban you with your one post.
"you are stupid"
I do agree with you on the pot subject though.
When I was 17-21 smoking pot every day, I was a POS.
I've grown up, matured, and have done something with my life.
What I'm saying is, don't say potheads won't amount to anything, don't say they have no personality. Don't go out with him. All my relationships during those years were tumultuous. It's very hard to love someone when you're addicted to a drug. It's just way too problematic don't do it.
That sucks that you're not mature enough to use a drug and still control your life. It all depends on whether you let the drug control you or not. Obviously you're not cut out for it. Tough.
Shatter590
01/03/07, 12:32 PM
pass the kentucky on the left hand side
littleemo
01/04/07, 10:40 AM
Leave it as summer love, and don't beg your mom to let you stay with her. Don't change your life for some stoner because chances are that's all he's ever going to be.
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