my boy problem (s)

[SnowintheSummer]

k so at the end of the school year, i kept running into this boy i had known long ago from this weird little school we both went to, but left. turns out he turned into a total hottie, and he seemed very nice and the 2nd time we ran into eachother, invited me to a gig his band was playing at (thats another thing, if you know where we came from its a huge coincedence we both ended up liking the same music..). then we starting talking online a lot, and eventually on the phone. it turns out he used to have a crush on me when we were littler, which i thought was adorable, and when we saw eachother recently we both thought the other was attractive and we did have some long and hilarious conversations on the phone. we kept trying to get together after that but we were never available at the same time. then he said he was basically busy for the whole summer,which i know is true. now, he wants to see me again. but theres a few problems...

a-he didnt get in touch with me ALL SUMMER. (he knew my number but i didnt know his cuz he was at his dads house). now, i know he was busy, but im sure he had five minutes to call the girl he apparently likes.

b-i realized i dont really KNOW him. i know what he was like when he was younger, and ive talked to him on the phone, but for example, i dont really know if hes a nice person, and ive spent zero one-on-one time with him

c- this might sound stupid but... i recently completely broke out, my hair is a wreck from the humidity, and im feeling all-around ugly, while he is, like, the hottest guy i know. hes only seen my when i was little or completely dolled up. im afraid hes gonna take one at the real me and run

d-while not exactly a long distance relationship, we do live half an hour away and both have busy schedules and parents not very willing to drive, so getting together is tough


theres more issues and stuff but i think this is long enough so ill shut up now lol
i just dont know what to do.

[SnowintheSummer]

sorry i gotta add that he basically didnt say anything about not getting in touch with me and expects it to continue like it did before the summer. its like he assumes i was just waiting for him to come back so i could be with him, when we hardly even had anything together before he left.

[unsung_zero02]

i think that you should hang out with him with a few other people..since you never had one-on-one time with him in person you never know. and do either of you drive? oh and ask him why he didnt call you all summer

[JoeShow]

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[SnowintheSummer]

yea i guess youre right if he turns out to be a jerk at least i will have tried. about hanging out with other people, the problem is that we dont really have any friends in commen. and to make it worse all his date ideas so far seem to involve many hours, lots of water, and bathing suits...i mean really, cant we start out with the movies? ugh.

[unsung_zero02]

suggest a few date ideas..and then eventually come to a conclusion

[MxPx_87]

Forst of all you gotta remember that the majority of guys on the whole entire face of the earth want well, sex and that's pertty much it, once that barriers been broken we don't feel the need to be romantic anymore. Obviously the guy isn't even trying, he's making his point pertty clear, he wants to see you naked. By the way you describe his personality, and date ideas to be...I'd say it's a pertty risky chance of him turning out to be a complete jerk, but you're right, you have nothing to lose so give it your best shot and see what happens. Gotta always remember that things happen for a reason, and things always work out for the best. Best of luck, and relax.

[PlaysWithFire]

Originally posted by MxPx_87
Forst of all you gotta remember that the majority of guys on the whole entire face of the earth want well, sex and that's pertty much it, once that barriers been broken we don't feel the need to be romantic anymore. Obviously the guy isn't even trying, he's making his point pertty clear, he wants to see you naked. By the way you describe his personality, and date ideas to be...I'd say it's a pertty risky chance of him turning out to be a complete jerk, but you're right, you have nothing to lose so give it your best shot and see what happens. Gotta always remember that things happen for a reason, and things always work out for the best. Best of luck, and relax.

what about the guys that want a real relationship AND sex? ::points to self::

[MxPx_87]

Originally posted by PlaysWithFire
what about the guys that want a real relationship AND sex? ::points to self::

*shakes your hand* congratulations, you have reached a new point of maturity

[aframedregret]

Originally posted by JoeShow
I say you take a chance, you wouldnt want to regret it later.

If it works out good, if not its a life experience. I highly doubt you will marry this kid, since your parents drive you around, you're probably not looking for that type of relationship. Ask the boy out, hang out with him get to know him, see where it goes.

good luck

Agreed, I believe this is the best situation, also try going to shows together, I mean thats a great way to hang out, thats what I use to do, plus Im sure your parents would be willing to drive you to shows.

[FamousLine]

Originally posted by JoeShow
I say you take a chance, you wouldnt want to regret it later.

If it works out good, if not its a life experience. I highly doubt you will marry this kid, since your parents drive you around, you're probably not looking for that type of relationship. Ask the boy out, hang out with him get to know him, see where it goes.

good luck

I agree with this, hang out with him some, make sure hes a good guy, looking for something other then just sex. Just make sure not to give up anything too early..

[SnowintheSummer]

Originally posted by MxPx_87
Forst of all you gotta remember that the majority of guys on the whole entire face of the earth want well, sex and that's pertty much it, once that barriers been broken we don't feel the need to be romantic anymore. Obviously the guy isn't even trying, he's making his point pertty clear, he wants to see you naked. By the way you describe his personality, and date ideas to be...I'd say it's a pertty risky chance of him turning out to be a complete jerk, but you're right, you have nothing to lose so give it your best shot and see what happens. Gotta always remember that things happen for a reason, and things always work out for the best. Best of luck, and relax.

yea thanks for the advice id hardly even thought about that, but it does kinda seem like hes not into a deep relationship, but more of a physical relationship.. which is why he keeps stressing we have to "hang out in bathing suits, babe" ughh but thank you all for your advice its been really helpful and everything seems more clear now. theres a show with a bunch of his favorite bands so maybe ill say my parents wont let me go to the beach alone with him yet but we should go to the show and hang out. i figure that way ill get to know him a little better, we'll have stuff to talk about, i wont be almost naked, and he cant really rape me lol. thanks so much to all of you for your advice ;)

[kwsqd]

what about the guys that want a real relationship AND sex? ::points to self::
2nd

[raychull]

whatever happened to chris' advice thread?

[samsara]

There are too many threads like this. Its called the search function, use it.

[thespearkid]

tl;dr

edit: why do i always go back and read the damn thread after i post tl;dr?

anyway, here's my advice. listen closely or you just might miss it. ready? here it comes.

STOP TAKING THIS SHIT SO SERIOUSLY! obviously, the guy isn't as fucking obsessed with you as you are with him. maybe he just wants to be friends or maybe he's not trying to rush into a relationship as quickly as you are. if you dig him, take a step back and be a little more casual about it because at this point, you're just begging to scare him off. also, if you're half an hour away from each other and neither of you have cars or licenses, don't waste your time. it won't work out.

[bigblue2015]

Hahaha I love this new trend of people posting advice in 6 year-old threads.

[SonEric84]

Edit: Shit, I didn't even see the date on this thread. This girl liked the same bands I was really into back then. haha

[RecklessXRandy]

tl;dr

[kwsqd]

Some noob was bumping old threads, so I decided to out bump them with this one. It gets annoying but I'm surprised so many people didn't notice the date.

[thespearkid]

damn. didn't notice the date.

[Boomhauer12]

whatever happened to chris' advice thread?

oh yeah, bump that fo sho

[zion the lion]

Jesus this is old.

[SLoT]

tl;dr

[kaycey]

tl;dr

[DejaNew]

Holy bump!

[tawtaw]

This reminds me of the kind of copypasta you find on 4chan.

[fadedmemories]

Ancient thread is ancient.

[TooShort4]

........

so how did it work out?

updates plz?

[AndrewIcex]

Well... she can drive now, 6 years later. I bet they never worked out though, he probably hit it and quit it.

[chicagogirll04]

Wow, that's a long one.
I'm still considering if I should read this.

[ZoSo1886]

if you want his penis in your vagina, make it happen

[AndrewIcex]

Its an old thread, from 03... no need to even fret about reading, move on to a different thread, this needs closed.

[brittylayn]

Hahaha I love this new trend of people posting advice in 6 year-old threads.
hahahahahahahahahahaaaaa....this

[get up kidd]

Just putting it out there.. Who the fuck reads all of that

[whataclush]

k so at the end of the school year, i kept running into this boy i had known long ago from this weird little school we both went to, but left. turns out he turned into a total hottie, and he seemed very nice and the 2nd time we ran into eachother, invited me to a gig his band was playing at (thats another thing, if you know where we came from its a huge coincedence we both ended up liking the same music..). then we starting talking online a lot, and eventually on the phone. it turns out he used to have a crush on me when we were littler, which i thought was adorable, and when we saw eachother recently we both thought the other was attractive and we did have some long and hilarious conversations on the phone. we kept trying to get together after that but we were never available at the same time. then he said he was basically busy for the whole summer,which i know is true. now, he wants to see me again. but theres a few problems...

a-he didnt get in touch with me ALL SUMMER. (he knew my number but i didnt know his cuz he was at his dads house). now, i know he was busy, but im sure he had five minutes to call the girl he apparently likes.

b-i realized i dont really KNOW him. i know what he was like when he was younger, and ive talked to him on the phone, but for example, i dont really know if hes a nice person, and ive spent zero one-on-one time with him

c- this might sound stupid but... i recently completely broke out, my hair is a wreck from the humidity, and im feeling all-around ugly, while he is, like, the hottest guy i know. hes only seen my when i was little or completely dolled up. im afraid hes gonna take one at the real me and run

d-while not exactly a long distance relationship, we do live half an hour away and both have busy schedules and parents not very willing to drive, so getting together is tough


theres more issues and stuff but i think this is long enough so ill shut up now lol
i just dont know what to do.


wow this was like 6 years ago, i was a midget.

[Duexy]

see if he'll fuck you in the ass

[denissuxx]

Hahaha I love this new trend of people posting advice in 6 year-old threads.

Me too.

[TakeItToManHat]

You sound like a booty call. No offense