family problems...should i leave my boyfriend?

[TSLrock27]

My family and I don't get along very well. With my dad and I, it just seems like we are repelling magnets. He always yells at me for doing the littlest things, and when I do something good or acheive something he's pushing me to do, he dosen't even congratulate me. He favors my sister and thinks that it is not obvious. He's around talking to her and buying her things and I just feel like I am invisible. I have had thoughts about suicide over this. I live in New York, and I was given the oportunity to move to North Carolina with my aunt. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year, and I don't want to leave him, but I need to escape the pain of my family. Should I leave to North Carolina and escape the pain of my family and love of my boyfriend, or stay in New York and keep getting pain from my family, but love from my boyfriend?

[FamousLine]

Hi, that's a tough thing. Family's can drive kids crazy. But always remember no matter how they act they do love you. My family is kinda like that, always goin for the siblings over me. Just go to your friends and boy friend. He'll offer lots of help, and be there just when you need someones arms to cry in. I don't think running will get you anywhere in my opinion. Have you tried sitting down and having a real talk with them, about everything? Sometimes that helps boost relationships. Let Me Know. And Good Luck.

[unoriginal]

Originally posted by FamousLine
Hi, that's a tough thing. Family's can drive kids crazy. But always remember no matter how they act they do love you. My family is kinda like that, always goin for the siblings over me. Just go to your friends and boy friend. He'll offer lots of help, and be there just when you need someones arms to cry in. I don't think running will get you anywhere in my opinion. Have you tried sitting down and having a real talk with them, about everything? Sometimes that helps boost relationships. Let Me Know. And Good Luck.

couldn't of said it better myself.

[mikeduin620]

This might be impossible, but is it at all an option to move in with your boyfriend? I don't know how old you are or anything, but that would seem to solve both problems. good luck.

[stevecrumb]

lol

[atticus1492]

ANAL!!!!

Well, suck it up and live with your family. They will only let you down if you expect too much from them. Easy. Problem solved.

Twice.

[brentkid]

You're sixteen so you're probably halfway through school, yeah? If so, I don't really know if moving away solves anything. Have you tried to talk to your parents and tell them how you feel at all? Plus your boyfriend should be there for you regardless. It's hard to have a long-distance relationship, so you really should consider your boyfriend too.

Overall I'd stay at home. I mean I don't get the feeling that your parents are really terrible, but favor your siblings instead. Personally I think things could be way worse than they are for you. Not tying to be condescending, just trying to keep it on a logical base. I mean what's the point of moving away on bad terms. I rather try and settle things then just ditch my problems.

[dboard789]

This is funny. Your 16 stay at home. Be with your b.f. Get some help if you need it.

[sateendreem]

Running away is no answer, sometimes it seems like the only answer and wisely enough I think that you can make it where you are. And suicide is just another escape. What lessons are you missing from this situation. Is there anything you could do to make him sit up and pay attention to you?

[llwilliamsll]

suck it up...my parents were the same

[ashcroft]

You are 16. Chances are you aren't going to be with this boyfriend the rest of your life. If staying in New York comes down to a matter of life or death then leave.

[chelseatine]

work it out until you are 18... trust me.

[swirlofhues]

this thread was 4 years ago. stop bumping old threads, please. (referring to the person that did it)

[chelseatine]

this thread was 4 years ago. stop bumping old threads, please. (referring to the person that did it)

haha i didn't even catch that.

[dboard789]

damn I didn't even notice that. Now I feel dumb. lol

[atticus1492]

lol

Quit bumping shitty threads.

Mods, ban please.

[TxRepresent]

I knew that those first two answers were way too serious.

[AP_Punk]

hahahahahaha

[Coronary Parasite]

what's funny about this, is that she was half way through HS, now, she's most likely half way through college.

[brentkid]

damn I didn't even notice that. Now I feel dumb. lol
Yeah, me too.

[CrazyRockGirl]

My family and I don't get along very well. With my dad and I, it just seems like we are repelling magnets. He always yells at me for doing the littlest things, and when I do something good or acheive something he's pushing me to do, he dosen't even congratulate me. He favors my sister and thinks that it is not obvious. He's around talking to her and buying her things and I just feel like I am invisible. I have had thoughts about suicide over this. I live in New York, and I was given the oportunity to move to North Carolina with my aunt. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year, and I don't want to leave him, but I need to escape the pain of my family. Should I leave to North Carolina and escape the pain of my family and love of my boyfriend, or stay in New York and keep getting pain from my family, but love from my boyfriend?

I know exactly what it is like to be compared to someone else, it happens to me all the time. I do not have any siblins, but my couisn is exactly my age. However, sicne my cousin is more adjusted than me, because I have loads of problems, I feel like my family is doing the right thing by comparing her to me. They tell me that I need to learn in life, and that I dress like a creep, and sometimes I can be rebellious. I am constantly hearing from my family members how my cousin takes care of our other cousins baby better than me, how she dresses better, and basically that she is perfect and I am not. I really hope that my story made you feel better, because I know that when people hear other stories of about other people who are having similar problems as them that it usually makes the person feel better. you are not the only one being compared to someone else. Since my family is really into good clothing stlyes and I am ABSOLUTELY not, they rae always saying how my cousin can be a designer, and how she is very sharp, and when I am at their house they just fuckin bragg about her, and they forget that I am alive, and that I have interests, too, which are musical interests. The only time they talk to me is telling me that I have problems and thins in life that I must learn, so yeah it can be quite annoying

[pinklipgloss]

Yeah, me too.

Me three.