What a shitty turn of events.

[saysmydoctor]

So, I've been trying to go out with this girl, Logan (guy's name, I know...). She is a very nice girl, very funny, and very very hot. She is a multi-talented beast (dancer, singer, cook, writer), but Logan has this ex-boyfriend who broke up with her because of the fact that he is always infatuated with this particular girl who he was fooling around with at the same time he was going Logan. A jackass supreme.

So they break up, I dive into the picture and Logan and I are connecting and everything is great. So, we were volunteering for a school event last night and this ex of hers pulls her aside and decides to lay one on her and ask her back out. She pulls herself away from him and literally b-lines directly towards me and is virtually pleading with me to forgive her. "I'm soooooo sorry, I had no idea that was going to happen."

Etc, etc, etc. We get to talking and she is asking me what she should do. "I can't give you the answer, you've got to follow what you feel. My opinion is biased, of course I want you to drop him and be with me." Eventually I said, "You can't hate him for what he did to you and then do the same thing, it's hypocritical and it proves you didn't learn your lesson. You can't have both."

I was so frustrated with the whole situation as she continues to plead with me, I finally said "I'm not getting into some pissing match with another guy for a girl who can't make the obvious decision. You know what he is like. You know he treats you like shit and will continue to. He is just asking you out because he can't get with the girl he broke up with you for."

And the entire time she is nodding and saying yes, and at one point she said "You're great, sweet, funny and he is...not." I basically said something to the sarcastic affect of "Well, duh, sounds like you choose him over me, he sounds like a winner." To which she laughed and was like "I know..."

So, bastards of the personal life forum, what do I do in a situation like this and does any of it lead to anal?

[saysmydoctor]

Duh.

[DCfreak]

sooo she did decide to get back together with him?

[saysmydoctor]

She didn't answer him, she hasn't decided anything.

[biodegradable]

if she can say all of those great things about you, but then have to take time to "decide" she's not worth your time. sorry bud. if she can't decide, make her. if you really think you like her that much, lay one on her to get her motivated, yeah?

[unwritten]

She seems like an idiot. Don't waste your time and sanity.

[saysmydoctor]

She isn't an idiot, she just broke up with him and was really hurt by what he did and then just as she was getting over it, he came back into the picture like an ass.

[fromwithin]

if not now, she'll go back with him in time.

[Pastorius02]

It seems as though every girl is like that in high school. They dont know what they want, even if the decision is easily made, as in your case. I'd tell her that it says a lot that she's having trouble with the decision, and that you wont wait for her. She either realizes you are the better choice, or you leave. Tell her that and hopefully she'll make the right decision.

[doubleskeet]

why wouldn't she try again with this guy if she knows you'll still be around? I mean, you've stuck it out this far, you'll probably be there if she decides this guy isn't right for her again, or just gets bored and changes her mind. I'm sorry, that's just what I'd be thinking in her position, I'm sure a lot of girls would.

[saysmydoctor]

why wouldn't she try again with this guy if she knows you'll still be around? I mean, you've stuck it out this far, you'll probably be there if she decides this guy isn't right for her again, or just gets bored and changes her mind. I'm sorry, that's just what I'd be thinking in her position.
Are females generally this retarded? You are saying I should let her go and just lollygag around twiddling my thumbs waiting for her?

No thanks, fortunately for me, apparently, she called him and was like "Fuck this, I can do better than you, I'm tired of being played."

[Pastorius02]

No he is saying that it seems like either way, you'll still come running back to her whenever she wants you to. In a sense he is saying you are whipped. I mean thats my best guess from what he said, but he wasnt telling you to sit and wait for her.

[doubleskeet]

No he is saying that it seems like either way, you'll still come running back to her whenever she wants you to. In a sense he is saying you are whipped. I mean thats my best guess from what he said, but he wasnt telling you to sit and wait for her.

exactly. except I'm a girl.

[popdisaster00]

seems like if she can't say yes to you right now and forget that dude, then she still has feelings for him (which is fucked up, i know, but what would highschool be if the good girls didnt fall for the fucking asshole dudes?).

Besides, if she was so on the fence like this, even if she did say yes to you, you'd have to realize that she WAS on the fence. She would still have feelings for the other guy, you know?

I'd find a way to pee in that dudes soup or something.

[OveriseFan]

Is he attractive?

There's your answer.

[.invisible ink.]

seems like if she can't say yes to you right now and forget that dude, then she still has feelings for him (which is fucked up, i know, but what would highschool be if the good girls didnt fall for the fucking asshole dudes?).

I've got shitty news for you dude, it's not just high school girls that fall for assholes over good guys, most women spend their lives going from asshole to asshole and leaving the good guys out in the dark.

Definitely don't be too available for this chick. If she really has to think about it hard, she's not worth your time. Go out with another girl while she's being indecisive. You can always get back with her once she gets her heart broken again from asshole #1.

[Pastorius02]

Oh shit, sorry DoubleSkeet, ahhaa. Should have probably looked at your sex before posting, my bad.

Anyways, I say you just turn into an asshole and get all the girls you want. Problem solved.

[xvszero]

First you get rid of the flaky girl.

Then you have anal with her sister.

[mrzippo3]

girls are attracted to assholes, just the way it goes.

[popdisaster00]

I've got shitty news for you dude, it's not just high school girls that fall for assholes over good guys, most women spend their lives going from asshole to asshole and leaving the good guys out in the dark.

Definitely don't be too available for this chick. If she really has to think about it hard, she's not worth your time. Go out with another girl while she's being indecisive. You can always get back with her once she gets her heart broken again from asshole #1.
So refreshing to see a female say these words. Thank you.

[Storm of Swords]

I've got shitty news for you dude, it's not just high school girls that fall for assholes over good guys, most women spend their lives going from asshole to asshole and leaving the good guys out in the dark.

Definitely don't be too available for this chick. If she really has to think about it hard, she's not worth your time. Go out with another girl while she's being indecisive. You can always get back with her once she gets her heart broken again from asshole #1.

roger that. too true to say anything else too...and thats a shame dude. fuck her.....literally and metaphorically.

[Gumbyjag]

You're too cool of a dude to waste your time waiting for this chick to come around. Give her an ultimatum, either she chooses to be with you or not.