Female Buddy Neilson

[refugee88]

I live in typical town with today's normal family. By normal I mean straight up dysfunctional. I have a father who lives at home, but somehow waited 16 yrs. to act like a father. I have an older brother who has no clue what's going on and sits in front of the TV, playing video game. I also have a mother who thinks everything is perfect because if she ever faces the real world she might crack even more. My mom and i didn't start talking til about six years ago(when i was ten). My dad and I don't know each othervery well, but i see him everyday. My parents were suppose to be getting a divorce for the past 10 years and we were suppose to move within the last year. I'm surrounded by misery 24/7 and it seems like no one wants to talk about it. (This is all just a summary) And now I'm a 16-yr-old girl in the eleventh grade, who suffers from anxiety and all other sorts of stuff. I can barely go to school without having my heart beat 1,000 miles an hour. I've never done drugs in my life and i don't drink. I still a virgin for cryin' out loud. I seem to be failing everything including life and my mom can't see that. I'm the only one who says things. I'm the only one whose pointing out people's unhappiness and whats real. No one wants to wake up and help eachother. Now that I'm having problems with myself and life, none of them believe me. They all seem to be angery at me, like I'm the one who messed up their picture perfeft family portrait. What should I do. After 16 years, I don't think I can put on a smile anymore. I need some advice.

[anamericangod]

Gotta get some counseling, without a doubt. Anxiety is not something you fuck around with.

Get yourself together as much as possible and in 2 years, get as far away from your family as possible.

[LoveHate]

I don't have much advice for you but I can tell you that I have been in a very very similair situation. I read this amazing book and it really helped me. It's called The Four Agreements. One of the agreements is "don't take anything personally", if you don'e take anything personally, you can't get hurt. Another one is to do your best everyday. Don't wake up in the morning thinking about yesterdays problems. Start each and every day off new and fresh. I have a large family, five kids (all half bro's/sis's), my mom and step-dad divorced when I was 16, my mom moved away to another state when I was 17. I'm now 22 and have been on my own since she left. On my own meaning, rent, bills, college, work, I've done it all because I believe in myself. I believe that I will have a much better life than that of which my family showed me. Every single day I wake up and thank God that I have my health and a roof over my head. You honestly just have to believe in yourself. I know it's hard to really understand what all I'm saying, but take it with a grain of rice and just remember to be you. Know who you truly are and always believe in you. The sky's the limit. Good luck.

[NOBLESTABBINGS]

Unfortunately, around the age of 16 or 17, most of us find out that life really sucks in almost any circumstance. Counseling would be a good option to look into. Maybe a school guidance counselor could hook you up? Best not to let your thoughts/feelings bottle up.

[PadraicPrincess]

I'm not going to tell you to see a counsilor because that seems to be the trend around here. Find what joy in life you can and hold onto it, breed it. So what is your friend situation? If there is anyway that you can get involved in something like a club, activity etc. where you can meet people, that would really help. Friends can really help you out in a time like this. Your story (kind of) reminds me of the book Running With Scissors, maybe you should read it, its really good.

[SubrosaSeductiv]

I live in typical town with today's normal family. By normal I mean straight up dysfunctional. I have a father who lives at home, but somehow waited 16 yrs. to act like a father. I have an older brother who has no clue what's going on and sits in front of the TV, playing video game. I also have a mother who thinks everything is perfect because if she ever faces the real world she might crack even more. My mom and i didn't start talking til about six years ago(when i was ten). My dad and I don't know each othervery well, but i see him everyday. My parents were suppose to be getting a divorce for the past 10 years and we were suppose to move within the last year. I'm surrounded by misery 24/7 and it seems like no one wants to talk about it. (This is all just a summary) And now I'm a 16-yr-old girl in the eleventh grade, who suffers from anxiety and all other sorts of stuff. I can barely go to school without having my heart beat 1,000 miles an hour. I've never done drugs in my life and i don't drink. I still a virgin for cryin' out loud. I seem to be failing everything including life and my mom can't see that. I'm the only one who says things. I'm the only one whose pointing out people's unhappiness and whats real. No one wants to wake up and help eachother. Now that I'm having problems with myself and life, none of them believe me. They all seem to be angery at me, like I'm the one who messed up their picture perfeft family portrait. What should I do. After 16 years, I don't think I can put on a smile anymore. I need some advice.

Counseling is a great idea. Most people think it taboo, but really it is just a having a healthy discussion with someone who is trained to do it.

Not only that realize everything that has gone right with your life. Sure, your parents don't pay attention to you, unfortunate. Think of everything they could do. My dad wasn't just not around for me when I was younger he was busy buying and selling drugs and when he wasn't doing that he was busy being in jail. My mom has had some shit and for her sake I won't post exactly what, but it involved some serious decision making on my families part. I don't have serious anxiety problems, but I was depressed for a little while; until I realized that I can't let things I don't do ruin my life. I'm not undermining your problems but just think positively kiddo.

[4N6 science]

go get that counseling!! but be careful with the medicine they may prescribe, i read a blog from Buddy about him and his anti-depressants making things worse instead of helping him through his problems...High school is a stressful time, but somehow try and make the best of it...it all starts with you..try and find one thing that is positive with your life... screw everything/everyone else who is putting you down..find something positive and try and start turning your life around.

[Gumbyjag]

I agree with the counseling advice. Talking out your problems like this is the first step, it'll get better, believe me. Hey, I'm still a virgin.

[popdisaster00]

You might want to try counceling but your mom will most likely say no because it's expensive and if she wants to believe everything is okay, she wont like that.

I went through the same thing. Mostly everyone I knew did at that age. When you're old enough to be on your own, take advantage of it. Maybe sit with your parents and tell them how it's really taking an emotional toll on you. Otherwise, you can make it through high school, I promise. You're almost done. Once you're out, you can move out and start your life the way you want it to be. It'll be okay.

[popdisaster00]

ps) none of buddy neilson's lyrics are true to life, that's already been proven. His mom is an ex-soap opera actress.

[summer skin]

Learning to use paragraphs can help ease anxiety.

[CheChe1455]

therapy helped me.

maybe it would help you.

[refugee88]

Thanks for all the advice and i am getting help. So hopefully I'll be looking on to better things.

[I'm DC]

Gotta get some counseling, without a doubt. Anxiety is not something you fuck around with.

Get yourself together as much as possible and in 2 years, get as far away from your family as possible.

this is probably the best simple answer you can get.

[KellyGleason]

A school social worker would be a huge help, too. They're trained in helping kids your age, and you wouldn't have to pay extra money for it. Not to mention it would be confidential from everyone. :) I hope you feel happier soon!

[fantasma]

in our family portrait we looked pretty happy, pretty happy...