Bad health = inability to have a relationship?

[xforgetdecember]

Say you met this person that you were liking a lot, and sort of dating, and later on found out that he/she/it was possibly going to die because of a terminal illness.

Would you leave them?

And as for the sick person, do you think it's selfish of them to want to pursue some kind of relationship, with full knowledge of their current state? 'Cause, you know, it seems that the only thing they're going to do to the other person is eventually hurt them.

And, from my own experience, that's what some people believe.

If you had that kind of health, would you think that you shouldn't try to get into relationships?

Thoughts, comments, whatever. It's personal, in spite of the way I'm going about this.

[Shatter590]

i think a situation like this falls on both parties. Any terminally ill patient, while entitled to love and to be loved, should let a prospect know about their condition. And the person they love should accept it and not let go. Yes it will hurt when they die, but the good for both you and them should outweigh it.

personally, i would go into and maintaina relationship for a terminally ill patient. They need all the support they can get, and If i truly loved the girl, then it wouldn't matter either way because we'd bring each other true happiness.

[xforgetdecember]

Thanks for the input. I appreciate it.

[SnowintheSummer]

if the ill one tells you about it i do not think it would be selfish of them to want to get in a relationship. i think the other person definately should not not get in a relationship just because of someone being sick, thats unfair. also if youre close enough to someone that youre thinking about a serious relationship, you would be hurt by their death either way, so like the other one said you might as well make each other happy while you can :0) and forgetdecember i like your user name ;) :) good luck

[xforgetdecember]

Thank you, again.. people's input means a hell of a lot to me.

And thanks for the compliment on my username. It's a Something Corporate song, if you didn't know.

[decisionpending]

just thought i would add my cliched two cents...

it's to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all

[mnowhere]

if you love them, don't stop loving them just because they may die. obviously it's going to hurt but if you don't have them with you while they are still here then it's not likely that you're going to feel too good about the situation either.

[justcallmeliz]

Originally posted by decisionpending
just thought i would add my cliched two cents...

it's to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all

exactly! can anyone remember where the hell that quote is from? I cant think and it is at the tip of my tounge...