ohhhhh shit.

[mirtizzle]

i'm having a bit of a problem here....

one of my best friends is dating this guy, they haven't been dating very long or anything.. and we all figured everything was going fine.. and he goes to all the fsu games because he's a huge fsu fan.. but he lives here in gainesville.

anyway, he went to a game this past weekend and sunday night, a friend of mine called me who told me that another friend of ours told her he saw my friend's boyfriend making out with another girl at his apartment after the game, and then they disappeared for a while. at first i didn't think about it just because the girl who called me usually likes to gossip, but the friend of ours she heard it from isn't the kind of person to talk shit and now, my friend's boyfriend hasn't called her or answered any of her phone calls and she hasn't talked to him since friday... and all this is starting to weigh on my conscience.

what should i do? should i mention something to her? or should i talk to him? or should i just pretend i don't know a thing? i'm afraid of starting something because it's really none of my business, but then again if she finds somethign did happen, and i knew about it beforehand, she'll be pissed. and it'd be so much easier if it were someone i was just friends with, but this is like my best friend... so i don't know what to do...

help..

[Shatter590]

take what i say here with a grain of salt, because this is how I would handle it, and Lord knows I handle things poorly sometimes lol.

First off, which friend is more important to you? that can help when you decide whom to approach. But I would also talk to the guy first and get his side of the story. From there it can be your choice as to how to proceed.

[LessThanJade]

most definitely your friend should find out. though its up to your own opinion if she's that good of a friend you should tell her. i wouldn't want my best friend to keep something like that behind my back

[Milonater]

Two choices -

She can find out what happened, THEN find out you knew and didn't tell her causing your friendship to crash and burn,

OR

You can tell her and risk her happiness and the guy's.

Before doing either, make sure the story is straight.

[fifion_90]

weLL,i hope u'll tell her. Its trust n u might be surprised she may be turn out calm or might be not telling u anything.weLL if anything happen then...i hope u'll be there for her watever happens.Tis does happen to me before.Even the truTh disguised Us.Gd luck





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[mikeduin620]

Definitely tell her. Keeping something like that from your best friend would hurt her in the long run anyway if she kept trying to date this guy or whatever.

[SnowintheSummer]

i think you should probobly mention something of the sort to her so that shes at least wary of it, but maybe keep it kinda vague and dont say anything too serious in case youre mistaken, something like, i heard a rumor that your bf was getting kinda close with someone, and its probobly jsut a rumor and i dont even know details so it might not haver been a big deal at all but i just thought i should tell you.. good luck

[mirtizzle]

thanks for the advice guys.. i actualyl found out today he was going over to her place sometime tomorrow to talk to her and i figure it has something to do with that, so i figure i'll just let him come clean, and when she tells me about it, mention that i heard something about it, but didn't want to say anything because i had no details.. i just hope she doesn't flip about that.. :/