dont you hate it when....

[YearsGoneBy]

the guy/girl you like already has a boyfriend/girlfriend


so what do you do?? tell her/him or just wait until they break up?

[bassdude114]

lol, i had a similar problem a little while ago

she ended up breakig u with her bf for me and things kinda went downhill from there

[Shatter590]

this is a constant in my life. I usually just give up and look for someone else. Only once have i toughed it out. for the story to that, read my other posts.

[mirtizzle]

yeah, i have to say it's my favorite when i meet a great guy who i totally get along with.. and then in the process of hitting on him, he answers my question with "well my girlfriend..."

so i automatically go into "maybe he has cute friends" mode.

[LessThanJade]

well my problem is kinda like that, whenever i go back home i'll meet a guy and we hit it off and we have so much in common, then i find out one of my friends likes them and i never knew cause i dont live there!! that sucks too"angry:

[nards228]

Although I've never dealt with a situation like this, I've definitely seen it during my short period as a college student. I've come across maybe a dozen or so girls at school here who have expressed interest in me. I get along with them great, but then they drop the "like" bomb, and things get weird.

I try to point out pretty quickly in any friend relationship with a girl that I have a girlfriend. I'll make it pretty clear that I'm madly in love and have no interest in cheating or breaking up. That's worked for pretty much everybody so far.

Think about it like this - if you're interested in a guy or girl and it's meant to be, it will eventually happen, so just focus on building a solid friendship, which is the foundation of any good relationship anyway. If it isn't meant to be, it won't happen. And if you convince him or her to break up with his or her significant other, you're essentially creating a relationship with somebody who you know is capable of cheating and being dishonest. Not exactly the best person to become close to.

Just give some space and see what happens.



Rennard

[punklet2101]

yeah that does suck.

the most recent thing like this that has happened to me is meeting a guy and getting along pretty good, and then my friend comes over who's really pretty and then the guy is like :eek: introduce me to your friend!

ouch :p

[Milonater]

I don't think it wise to tell this person..because if her boyfriend is the jealous type, WHAM, face surgery.

[punknskakid722]

I KInda got the same problem, but myne is that i like this gurl but we are good friends, and she kinda likes other guys and not me. Either way you just need to move on, or talk to people about it. it's not good to sit and mope about it, talk to someone, it'll make everything easier.

[mnowhere]

personally i would suggest u not even say anything, not until that person become single... you really don't need to be the rebound person or anything.

unfortunately, my problems usually seem to be falling for my guy friends. i absolutely can not stand hearing that they wouldn't date me because it would ruin a friendship or that it would be weird. i just don't get it, all good relationships should involve frienships first.