To anyone who's been out of highschool for a while now

[PaulsRightNut]

Do you still keep in touch or hang out with your high school buddies?

I was the kind of kid who had a lot of in school friends, but I really only hung out with a couple good friends outside of school. I kept up with them for the first couple years of college (when I came back home we might catch up and see each other). But it faded, and I really don't talk to them anymore.

I was just wondering, cause sometimes when I get the random facebook request from old high school friends, I see how they still hang out with their little group of friends from highschool, and I feel kinda weird.

[cora_ann]

I keep up with my best friend from high school and maybe 3 others. I realized after going to college, that I maintained a lot of friendships in high school because my school was so small and I didn't want to piss anyone off, not because I actually thought they were good friends. Moving away has made me realize who my real friends are.

[jwelborn]

I have kept in touch with maybe 5 people I knew from high school. I actually hope I never have to talk to anyone from HS again.

[meliisssaaaa]

i just had my first break from college and i hung out with a lot of my friends. but i feel like in the future during breaks i'll probably only hang out with my two closest friends.

[anamericangod]

I randomly hear from some people through Facebook occasionally, but that's pretty much it. I have one close friend left. Everyone else has either stabbed me in the back or turned into a complete shitbag.

[estrella starr]

ive been out of high school for nine years, so its very rare that i talk to anyone from those days, let alone hang out with them. i have, however, kept in close contact with my friends from college.

[thetrueblood]

there are a few friends from high school that i still hang out with regularly.

[sdbrown]

I keep in touch with my best friend and two girls who went to my high school but I wasn't friends with (go figure).

My other friends either moved or became whores.

My best friend from 4th grade actually friended me yesterday. It was sort of weird.

[xXaLLiOo]

its so depressing to people who are still in highschool to hear that all of the friendships we put so much effort into now are probably going to end (in 6 months for me...)

[theESCO]

its so depressing to people who are still in highschool to hear that all of the friendships we put so much effort into now are probably going to end (in 6 months for me...)

sad but true.
i still hang out with two of my boys regularly...but i've been hanging out with them since i was like 12 so..

[AP_Punk]

I still do.

[Chancetobe]

I've only been out of high school for 2 years, but, I feel like each year I drift further and further apart from them. When i first left high school, i stayed close with almost all my friends. This past summer I lost one of my closest friends... and am now really only left with 2 that I talk to on a regular basis. And as of late i've even started to doubt those friendships. I feel like i've come to the point in my life, where i'm pretty much just done with everyone I went to high school with. Most of them have just failed to grow mentally, and, i'm just over it.

[punkrockness]

I just saw my best friend from home yesterday for the first time in over six months. We talk on the phone almost every other day, but since she lives in LA and has a career now it's hard to see each other. I have a few other friends that I keep in touch with every week or so, but she is the only one that I feel like I don't have to put in effort to keep in contact with her. A week ago I got a letter in the mail from our senior class president saying she wanted to have a five year reunion even though we planned for a ten. I wrote back telling her that it would be a waste of money considering a lot of our class hasn't accomplished much yet and I know a lot of people still keep in contact.

[Blakebear]

its so depressing to people who are still in highschool to hear that all of the friendships we put so much effort into now are probably going to end (in 6 months for me...)

this isn't really true at all. The ones who mean the most to you are the ones you will stay close with. I've only been in college for a couple of months now and I really don't miss anyone except for my best friends. It really does become difficult to balance keeping in touch with old friends and living your life with your new ones, but your closest friendships definitely won't just end.

[Hamlet]

Until recently I didn't have much to do with my high school friends during the time I've been at university, having much more in common with friends from university (since we study the same stuff). I liked to think of myself as much cooler than my old friends, who were still hanging out with the same folks from school (especially the ones who didn't come to uni. My uni friends have been great, I felt like I really fit in amongst them, doing acting and studying film and theatre together, and actually being able to have conversations about Shakespeare and Beckett and other things my high school friends wouldn't know anything about.

But I'm currently going to a lot of 21st birthday parties from high school friends, and have since renewed my high school friendships that I had left stale for about 3 years. Many of them I've actually known since primary school, when I was about 8 years old. I value them more now than my uni friends, since we've known each other for years and done so much stuff together and I love pretty much all of them like family, though you probably will never hear me say that to them.

I've realised that holding a view that you are somehow cooler, smarter, or in any way superior to your old friends is a totally stupid idea that will just alienate you further. If they are truly your friends, it'll be like you picked up right where you left off. They won't care if you've made new friends over the years, that's bound to happen, and neither would you if they did the same. None of that should matter - what matters is the time you have together, and how you spend it.

And for those of you about to finish high school, thinking you're going to lose everyone - this will only happen if you let it happen. Yeah, people say they'll keep in touch, that they'll call you, that they'll flick you a Facebook message... and they never do. So then you never send anything back, and you end up in a stalemate. But this is when you have to act. There's an ad campaign currently on TV here in New Zealand by NZ Post, a series of ads all ending with the slogan "send and you shall receive (http://www.nzpost.co.nz/Cultures/en-NZ/Personal/Sendandyoushallreceive/)." It always sounds cliche, but it's always true - you only get out what you put in. It's up to you.

[imperfectstarx]

I only talk to maybe 2 people I graduated with, but then again I hang out with a bunch of people that graduated in 05 because thats who I was friends with when I was a freshmen or whatever. I hated most of my graduating class, so I tried to not really talk to any of them.

[Brianfarg]

I see the people I was closest to, but I rarely see acquaintances; although, that's usually because of work or just conflicting plans or whatnot. A lot of people though, I just have no plans on seeing. After you don't have to see them every day, you realize how meaningless some people are to you..

[Rock]

The people I keep in touch with the most and spend the most time with are not my high school friends - they're my college friends. I wasn't popular in high school, though. I still keep in touch with about a dozen high school friends, though.

[Mike Kraft]

I had no friends in high school. Joking, actually.

After 2 years of graduating, I moved away from all my friends and family, so I lost touch will all my friends except my closest. I might see some friends from high school and we chat for a lil bit, but that's it. I don't feel weird about it. People move on and we all grow older.

[Logan95]

During college i drifted away from all of my HS friends but about a year or 2 after college I started reconnecting with them again and now just about all of my friends are from HS.

[takeweakme]

i moved 3,000 miles away from home with my two best friends from high school.

then the only other way i keep in touch with the others from it is through myspace, facebook, etc..even then its just a "how are you?" thing.

[popdisaster00]

I randomly hear from some people through Facebook occasionally, but that's pretty much it. I have one close friend left. Everyone else has either stabbed me in the back or turned into a complete shitbag.
Sounds like you need a pick-me-up, poor chap.

:wave:

[popdisaster00]

Personally, I'm still only in my first semester of college. My story is different, though. I stopped hanging out with a lot of friends from HS in my senior year. So I went into college hoping to make all new friends. As of right now though, I do keep in touch with a small handful of them. I can really only see myself keeping in touch with maybe 2 or 3 people I hung out with in HS after I'm done with school here. Only time will tell. I've met awesome people at college who I think could be lifelong friends, though.

[FatJordan]

I live with three guys I went to high school with, and one friend who I met at college. There's like twenty people from my class alone who go here (an out of state, public university), so it feels like I see people from my high school all the time.

Over this Thanksgiving Break, I realized that going out to the bars back home is pretty much like a high school reunion...I cannot wait to move away from home. It's not that I don't like alot of those people, I just need a major change.

[roxy]

I had a really tight group of friends in high school. We see each other a lot still and have expanded our group to other random kids that we graduated with. I love it.

[mouood]

I'm still good friends with a few people from high school. One of them goes to the school I just transferred to, so we hang out a lot. Aside from that, I really don't talk to anyone I graduated with. even the people who I considered to be my best friends. I really regret not keeping in touch with them.

[xvszero]

I haven't talked to a single person I went to high school with in years.

Then again, most my friends when I was in high school weren't even from my school anyway.

I also haven't talked to anyone I went to college with in years either.

I did sort of randomly half start talking to a guy I went to grade school with recently. Don't talk to him much though.

[AP_Punk]

Actually, just recently I've started to "reconnect" with my high school friends. Or at least the ones I was close to back then. And it's nice.

[vixsummer]

I've been out of HS for about 5 years. I hope my situation isn't the norm, but for the most part, I don't talk to anyone I was particularly close with while I was IN high school. They all turned out to be pretty horrible friends. Apparently, I didn't have very good taste in friends. My best friend and I drifted during college, but gladly reconnected. Somehow, I wound up hanging out with a group of guys from HS that I didn't talk to at all while we were in HS, and now we're all getting a house together, like an overgrown "Three's Company".

All in all, it turned out for the best, but I remember my senior year thinking that these were the best friends I'd ever have in the world, and wow, I had no idea what real friends were.

[tambam]

Nope, not even one person.

[allhourcymbals]

I'm only a year out of my regular highschool (I transferred to graduate early, yay!), but I don't talk to one person from highschool, just the people I knew from other places, or through friends. None of them were worth the effort, but if they had been, I wouldn't have let our friendships die.

[LV03]

during high school....1/2 of my good friends were outside of school and the other 1/2 i met through school. After graduating, i've kept in contact basically with all of my "out of high school" friends, and a good portion of my high school friends (if that makes sense.)

I talk to them once in a while through AIM, facebook, and when we're home for break we'll go to a bar and catch up over a beer. I think my relationship with my friends from high school has pretty much remained the same, except I dont see them as often. Ive actually made friends with some people that ive never talked to in high school. But most of my best friends i've known since i was 6 and we never went to school together, so those are the friendships and bonds that are most important to me.

[leezer]

I think people change after high school. I wanted to stay in touch with friends when I left but the most I get to know about them now is online stuff I see which is weird and in a way I'm phased by it because it seems like some of them have done so much but the gem is that if I actually was friends with them more I think I'd see that they really hadn't moved on, 3/4 of life is bull and the 1/4 thats real, no one really gets to find out about.

[infamous_alias]

I hardly ever talk to anyone from highschool, and I am quite fine with that haha...

[stevecrumb]

i don't really hang out with anyone from my high school. people change a ton in college and you find yourself growing apart. it's a part of life though. if you find yourself still being the same as you were in high school, that means you're not progressing in life.

[WFUJerseyJon]

I'm still pretty close with the kids I hung out with in high school. When I'm home we hang out a lot. I was kind of in 2-3 groups of friends, and I still see them all regularly. When we're home we're always getting football/basketball games together during the day and boozing at somebody's house at night. I always found it strange how people completely abandon their high school friends when they get to college. I love my friends here at school and we're all real close, but I don't know nothing compares to me like the friends who have always been there.

[jorn444]

I'm still pretty close with the kids I hung out with in high school. When I'm home we hang out a lot. I was kind of in 2-3 groups of friends, and I still see them all regularly. When we're home we're always getting football/basketball games together during the day and boozing at somebody's house at night. I always found it strange how people completely abandon their high school friends when they get to college. I love my friends here at school and we're all real close, but I don't know nothing compares to me like the friends who have always been there.
That's pretty much the same thing I do. I have like 2 groups of friends from high school, and when i'm home we try to get together and hang out, drink, have fun, etc.

I too never really understand why some people want to distance themselves from their high school friends. Some friends from high school have changed a little, but some of them are still my best friends and I could never just stop hanging out with them. I find college friends to be more fickle because people come and go, transfer to other schools, and shit like that. I know my high school friends will be there for me, even after I graduate college.

I think it's hilarious how when some of the kids from my high school went away to college, they act like they are too good for everyone back home, and that they are so much more mature and different that they won't hang out with their friends from high school. I'm glad college hasn't changed me in that way...

[anunsafebet]

I only had a few friends in high school none of whom went to my high school or were my age to begin with and I still talk to those friends daily, However I still see a lot of the people I went to HS with at local bars (when I'm in Pittsburgh) and shit, and usually we don't socialize much. I don't talk to anybody from college either. I only like a few people and they're good people so I keep em close. I've known all of them upwards of 7 years.

[PaulsRightNut]

I'm still pretty close with the kids I hung out with in high school. When I'm home we hang out a lot. I was kind of in 2-3 groups of friends, and I still see them all regularly. When we're home we're always getting football/basketball games together during the day and boozing at somebody's house at night. I always found it strange how people completely abandon their high school friends when they get to college. I love my friends here at school and we're all real close, but I don't know nothing compares to me like the friends who have always been there.

Dude, I graduated from colts neck high school (I'm from howell) - thats just fucking creepy.

[WFUJerseyJon]

Dude, I graduated from colts neck high school (I'm from howell) - thats just fucking creepy.

weird.

[aloneatlastnj]

Do you still keep in touch or hang out with your high school buddies?

I was the kind of kid who had a lot of in school friends, but I really only hung out with a couple good friends outside of school. I kept up with them for the first couple years of college (when I came back home we might catch up and see each other). But it faded, and I really don't talk to them anymore.

I was just wondering, cause sometimes when I get the random facebook request from old high school friends, I see how they still hang out with their little group of friends from highschool, and I feel kinda weird.

nah, i'm totally the same way. granted most of my friends from high school have become hardcore townies and only hang out with each other on an every day basis. after my freshman year of college, i kind of said forget you guys, abandoned every single friend from high school and stuck with my college friends. i'm much happier for doing so, seeing as those townie kids are all hopped up on all sorts of drugs and have more STDs than i can name..

[aloneatlastnj]

colts neck has a lot of drug problems. beautiful houses, though.

[crusedhopper]

Well my best friend from high school is now my fiance. so, we were are always in contact. I still hung out with my girls from highschool when I was still in PA, but I recently moved over the summer.... so now my relationship with my highschool hoes is through facebook and myspace... zing.

[Bishop]

I moved a thousand miles away just to get away from my high school. That being said I still talk to a couple of friends but for the most part I lost contact with people and I am honestly glad about it.

[redsand62]

Not really, and I'm staying home and going to college. I see a few on occasion but that's usually pretty random when I've got nothing to do and we end up chilling in a basement or something. They all hang out together all the time, and I come and go once every few months. Although I've had friends from back in the day that I didn't go to school with that I'm still close with.

[Stereo Mike]

Basically all my current friends are people I met in High School/College.

[dannytheschid]

On my way to work this morning, I ran into a guy I went to high school with on the subway. I didn't really keep in touch with a lot of cool kids from high school and I do regret it. But i guess my hatred for my high school experience is what kept me from wanting to keep in touch with some of the cool people that were there.

[Andy K]

I've been out of high school for 8 years and I only hang out with two guys that I went to school with. The funny thing is that we really didn't hang out while we were in high school. I hang out with mostly my college buddies. I do see alot of people I went to high school with around town, but I usually ignore them because I am stuck up like that.

[sdbrown]

My group of friends sort of fell apart during senior year. And the ones I stayed in touch with into freshman year fell apart soon after. We sort of discovered the only thing that we really had in common was how bored we were with our town and so when we went off to college we sort of discovered that oh, those friends really like to go out and get wasted and act like idiots and I like to stay in and play Sorry! it was hard to keep pretending we had stuff in common.

I do stay in touch with my best friend from high school (slash junior high). We go to the same school so it makes it a lot easier. She's moving to Orlando at the end of the year and it's scary to think what would happen if I lost touch with her.

[Bishop]

My group of friends sort of fell apart during senior year. And the ones I stayed in touch with into freshman year fell apart soon after. We sort of discovered the only thing that we really had in common was how bored we were with our town and so when we went off to college we sort of discovered that oh, those friends really like to go out and get wasted and act like idiots and I like to stay in and play Sorry! it was hard to keep pretending we had stuff in common.

I do stay in touch with my best friend from high school (slash junior high). We go to the same school so it makes it a lot easier. She's moving to Orlando at the end of the year and it's scary to think what would happen if I lost touch with her.

Fresh meat for me to conquer.



















Kidding.... maybe.

[sdbrown]

Fresh meat for me to conquer.






Kidding.... maybe.
Hmm... you have pretty good taste in music and like arrested development. I approve.

[Adrian Villagomez]

Just about all of my good friends I've known since high school or longer. In fact, I've known one of my current roommate since about third grade - over fourteen years ago. I'd much rather keep old, trusted friends around than try to turn a new, casual friend into something more.

[myantiyou]

I probably won't. most of my friends all suck. can't really call them friends at all.

[C. Orth]

I'm in the middle of that growing apart process, and it's a sad thought initially, but it really isn't that hard to let go. You make a few profound realizations once you completely step away from high school, at least I did. It's good for you.

[SingleDoubt]

its kinda odd, my main group of best friends (there's about 6 of us that are just tight like brothers) i didnt start hanging out with until probably the last day of senior year. and most of the kids i hung out with prior to senior year i don't really talk to.

life's weird like that.

[lindZ629]

I had a bunch of friends in high school, but not many that I actually hung out with.
Now, I really only stay in touch with a couple of them...and whenever I hang out with them, then I usually see some other friends (who I don't really care for anymore)
I really have no desire to keep in touch with most of my friends from high school, I just don't care.

[DeathCabForCoon]

I tried to keep in touch with my friends from high school, but I went to school 800 miles away and they are all at school within an hour of each other. And whenever I'm home and hang out with them its like they haven't changed at all, they are all still seniors in high school. They haven't branched out and met new people, they've been going to the same party every weekend with the same group of friends for 4 years now. It's pretty depressing to see how little they've grown compared to me over the past 4 years .

[aircourtneys]

I only still hang out with my 2 best friends from high school. I don't really talk to anyone else that I went to high school with.

[brentkid]

I know I've only made it through one semester but I'd say you stay in touch with the people you make the effort for. If you at least try to keep in touch on a mildly regular basis, you'll probably keep the friends you want.

[luv2laff88]

I'm a sophomore in college. In the last two years of high school I made SO many friends - even freshman and sophomores. so when i left i had all these really good friends who were still fresh into high school - includign two of my best friends. so when i go home for breaks and stuff i hang out with them and as ive gotten to know all their other friends i kind of know every one from my high school. its kind of funny that when i go back the teachers and stuff are like "dude why is she still here??" but ive got so many friend back at my high school and i dont intend on just leaving them becuase im in college.

i have started to see however the differences between my thinking and theirs. i have different things that im learning/studying/doing/wanting from them and sometimes its just hard to relate. its just something we have to deal with if we want to remain friends. sometimes i cant relate at all and its more like im baby sitting them when their parents wont let them go do things i want to do.

my high school was really small though...