Weak

[suzyq9024]

I have been dating this wonderful guy for a month now... everything is going well and we still haven't exited that dating bliss period. So... here is my problem: I have this muscle disease that has made it necessary for me to have four surgeries in the past, it makes me walk and write slower than most people and makes stairs more difficult for me. I absolutely hate being pittied so I never told him about the disease. I hate that look people get in their eyes when they feel sorry for me so I just told him that I was clutzy and he makes jokes about it all the time. I like it that way, but we are going to a concert next weekend and our tickets are in the noise bleed section. I am going to die walking up all those stairs because there aren't hand rails in this place. I am going to have to tell him and will need his help to ascend them. Guys especially, I 'd like to know how you would react to this news. Would you be turned off? Would you not care? Would you feel sorry for me? I just don't want to change how he looks at me. He thinks I am a "strong" person and I hate having this weakness to reveal to him.

[mrzippo3]

I wouldn't mind at all. Why would he care?

[SgtFumunda]

Nah...if he's a good guy, he shouldn't mind. I wouldn't.

[UntilItKillsYou]

he shouldnt care and if he does thats not good. hell you have a muscle disease (im curious which one it is) and you lead a rather normal life. if thats not strength i dont know what is. if he likes you for who you are in your head he shouldnt stop liking you or being attracted to you

so yeah, that my 2 cents

[lesto17]

I would probably be a lil' hurt that you didn't tell me from the start, but would get over that very quickly and completely understand your reasoning for why you didn't. From then on I really wouldn't think any differently of you or treat you any different except maybe ask if you need help when doing certain things like climbing a shit ton of stairs.

[WFUJerseyJon]

I wouldn't mind. Hell I'd be impressed how well you hid it up to that point. I personally would like to be able to help a girl I was dating with something like that, being able to share it somewhat could make you closer.

[suzyq9024]

Thanks guys that honestly made me feel much better... yeah I should have told him, but it used to be this big thing when I was younger. When I had my surgeries people would always tell me how sorry they felt for me and I hated it... they weren't helpful just sorry... he'll probabaly react fine and not be that way. I just had bad memmories. It is called Charcot-Marie-Tooth Disease. I just didn't say the name because the word tooth gets people side-tracked (the ridiculous name is comprised of the last names of the scientists who discovered it). I will update you all on how it goes.

[boysdontcry17]

a half-decent guy wouldnt mind in the least

[FatJordan]

I wouldn't mind. Hell I'd be impressed how well you hid it up to that point. I personally would like to be able to help a girl I was dating with something like that, being able to share it somewhat could make you closer.

Couldn't have said it better.

[xvszero]

Considering that I have more medical problems than your average 10 guys combined...

I doubt I'd care.

[DevilMB3017]

Short and sweet.

Mental strength and physical strength are very different. Which one does he need you to be?

[suzyq9024]

Well, it doesn't matter anymore... Last night, he called and cancelled our date because he was sick. I drove over to his appt. to do the sweet cliche girlfriend brings the chicken noodle soup thing and to tell him the truth. When I got there, a scantily-clad slut answered the door and he was anything but sick. I went back to my dorm, and watched Fargo with a few girlfriends... cried a little... I wish I had better taste in men.

[aolsux]

damn, that was a climatic end

[suzyq9024]

not exactly what I was hoping for:-(

[xvszero]

Wow.

Well, he sucks ass, so it is better to find that out now than later.

Now instead of wishing for better taste in men, GET better taste in men?

[Chuck!]

Well, it doesn't matter anymore... Last night, he called and cancelled our date because he was sick. I drove over to his appt. to do the sweet cliche girlfriend brings the chicken noodle soup thing and to tell him the truth. When I got there, a scantily-clad slut answered the door and he was anything but sick. I went back to my dorm, and watched Fargo with a few girlfriends... cried a little... I wish I had better taste in men.

shit. sorry to hear that.

anyways, as far as the next guy, i wouldn't hesitate to tell him eventually. i wouldn't care in the least.

[bduke13]

Thanks guys that honestly made me feel much better... yeah I should have told him, but it used to be this big thing when I was younger. When I had my surgeries people would always tell me how sorry they felt for me and I hated it... they weren't helpful just sorry... he'll probabaly react fine and not be that way. I just had bad memmories. It is called Charcot-Marie-Tooth Disease. I just didn't say the name because the word tooth gets people side-tracked (the ridiculous name is comprised of the last names of the scientists who discovered it). I will update you all on how it goes.

My mother has CMT too.

[UntilItKillsYou]

im very sorry :(

[notoaststereo]

Well, it doesn't matter anymore... Last night, he called and cancelled our date because he was sick. I drove over to his appt. to do the sweet cliche girlfriend brings the chicken noodle soup thing and to tell him the truth. When I got there, a scantily-clad slut answered the door and he was anything but sick. I went back to my dorm, and watched Fargo with a few girlfriends... cried a little... I wish I had better taste in men.
wow, not what i expected... Fargo is awesome though.

[notoaststereo]

im very sorry :(hooch is crazy

[suzyq9024]

Fargo is awesome. I hope to do better next time. This is the first complete asshole I have been with. It sucks though..... all my friends liked him... there really weren't any red flags, but maybe I didn't tell him about this sooner because on some level I sensed it... ah well. Thanks for everyone's advice.