what should i think about this girl?

[wishingbutdying]

ok, here's the situation:

I work at target one hour photo, which is within the target store, obviously. well a couple weeks ago, it was brought to my attention that one of the employees in target(a girl named kristine thought i was hot. blah blah. anyways, so after a couple weeks, i decided to be a nice guy and just talk to her and maybe hang out to make her feel better, since i had heard her family life has been rough. it wasn't a warm welcome as i talked with her, she kinda put off a really non-caring attitude throughout the conversation, leaving my questions with one-word answers. i left and kinda didnt know what to think. i talked with a co-worker of hers and she had said that kristine was excited to hang out with me. now, what really got me was her totally opposite attitude in our conversation and then hearing that. so i talked to kristine later and gave her my phone number, but she politely refused. "i dont call people often, here ill give you mine." and so i never got a chance to sit down and call, but one night as im driving, my cell phone rings and i answer and sure enough, its her.

i hope somebody understood this story, it is confusing.

but if anyone, girl or guy, has any insight into if this girl likes me, doesnt like me, etc.? i would appreciate the help!

[mirtizzle]

she sounds like she's possibly interested, but scared.. or shy. i think if you give it a little time and hang out, it'll become clear what her intentions are.

[wishingbutdying]

here's an update on this:

we hung out earlier this evening. i drove and picked her up and we came back to my house, just sat and talked a bit, played video games (zombies ate my neighbors!), and got serious towards the end of the night. her dog almost attacked me as i escorted her to the door, but she said for me to stay for a bit because she was lonely. hint hint. and i couldnt leave without a hug and a couple shouts of 'call me'. things are looking more on the positive side.

i appreciate the heads-up advice. i will keep posting as info rolls in.

[unsung_zero02]

usually when somebody has had a rough life they are just down or act tough and hard to approach.



but are you just trying to get close to her because you feel sorry for her?

[LessThanJade]

this actually sounds like something i'd do, well not EXACTLY, but to an extent when a guy tries to give me his number i always refuse for some odd reason. but then i'll want to call him? personally i'm scared of relationships maybe she just doesn't want to get hurt cause she is already hurt in the first place? but i'm sure she really likes you just puts up a hardass face to make it seem like she isn't but is really playing hard to get.

[wishingbutdying]

Well, i would like to help her out in whatever way i can. I am a nice guy, and like any nice guy, helping is just in our nature. I am glad a girl was able to give me insight into this, lessthanjade, i appreciate it. No matter what any guy says, we have absolutely NO clue how girls function.

And, to answer your question unsung zero, this is not just to get close to her. My philosophy in 'dating' and involvement with girls is to build a friendship and from that foundation of a friendship, see if we can build onto that, a relationship. You can only build one part at a time, or else, if you try to go all out at once and not know about one another, it crumbles and falls apart. But i do feel sorry for her in the fact that i also have family issues, but i am here for her as a friend for now.

[unsung_zero02]

Originally posted by wishingbutdying


And, to answer your question unsung zero, this is not just to get close to her. My philosophy in 'dating' and involvement with girls is to build a friendship and from that foundation of a friendship, see if we can build onto that, a relationship. You can only build one part at a time, or else, if you try to go all out at once and not know about one another, it crumbles and falls apart. But i do feel sorry for her in the fact that i also have family issues, but i am here for her as a friend for now.


alrighty thank you for clearing that up...

[chaosandlove]

she has probably been hurt before by another guy and doesnt want to get hurt again.that doesnt mean shes not interested though. i mean,if she called you that one night when she said that she wasnt going to..i mean,that obviously meant SOMETHING. i think shes just a bit skeptical. it takes time