Girl problem...

[SamKS]

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[Ryan Imhof]

The amount of times you get to see her does not really matter, it's probably a good thing that you can only see her that amount of times. Also, you should tell her that if she really wants to be with you, than to let her boyfriend know that she can't be with him anymore. That way she can make herself happier.

[heyzombiehitler]

sounds like me three years ago. a summer fling is just that. let it be.

[vixsummer]

whatever you do, dont tell her to break up with the other guy, no matter how much you might want to. she should want to be with you dispite her situation with him, and if she doesnt want to be with him, she should break up with him even if she doesnt have you as a safety net.

i would be supportive, but take a step back until she makes up her mind. she clearly has a better option (you), so she has to stop worrying about being nice and put the other guy out of his misery already. it's the best thing for everyone involved - shes free to persue whoever, you can persue her, and he's not stuck in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about him.

[Swayback]

sounds like me three years ago. a summer fling is just that. let it be.

But it's not if she's still talking about him. Granted we are talking about 16 year olds here, I think he's still got a chance with this girl - just wait until she breaks up with her current boyfriend and don't be too willing to do things with/for her until she does.

[aircourtneys]

I totally agree with you, if you tell her to break up with him it's not her really breaking up with him because she wants to. Let her do it if that's what she really wants, and you won't know what she really wants until she actually does it.

whatever you do, dont tell her to break up with the other guy, no matter how much you might want to. she should want to be with you dispite her situation with him, and if she doesnt want to be with him, she should break up with him even if she doesnt have you as a safety net.

i would be supportive, but take a step back until she makes up her mind. she clearly has a better option (you), so she has to stop worrying about being nice and put the other guy out of his misery already. it's the best thing for everyone involved - shes free to persue whoever, you can persue her, and he's not stuck in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about him.

[SamKS]

Yeah when I talk to her she wants me to talk to her like she doesn't have a boyfriend, if that makes any sense. I made it pretty clear that I don't want to do that to someone else becuase it's a dick move and I know how it feels to be deceived.

[xvszero]

She's "too nice" to break up with her boyfriend so she keeps him around while basically openly flirting with an ex?

That's not "too nice" man, that's "too pussy" or "dumb confused girl who is too comfortable in her current relationship to end it like she should but wants to screw around on the side."

Nice people don't play silly games like this.

I'd say tell the crazy bitch to make up her damn mind and act on it instead of pussyfooting around with people's lives.

Either that or I'd just bail now, what makes you think you won't be the next guy she plays like this?

[apoemtothedead]

She won't break up with this other guy because she's too nice, yet she broke up with you. Think about how pathetic you are.

[SamKS]

She broke up with me but it was the same way, she was real slow about it becuase she was trying to be too nice. She's going to break up with him it's just when.

[dannytheschid]

the girl is dysfunctional and needs to get some self esteem. She doesn't want to break up with her bf because she is too nice?? I hope you realize how totally contradictory that is. She's apparently not too nice to talk to some other dude all the time behind his back about how badly she wants to break up with him. She's manipulative and she's keeping you around for the attention. You're the 'girlfriend with a penis' guy.

Sounds like she's getting a lot out of this weird, dysfunctional relationship that the two of you have while you get nothing. Countless other guys have been, and are in your situation and they're all being fucked with.

[xvszero]

Yeah but it's not "too nice" to basically be starting an emotional relationship on the side when you still have a boyfriend. In no way, shape, or form is that nice. She's not doing it out of niceness, she is doing it because she is weak and breaking up is difficult.

That's not the most terrible thing in the world, but if she is honest with herself she will stop blaming the "too nice" part of her and start realizing it is the "too pussy to do what I know has to be done because *I* am afraid of what he will say to *me*" part. If it is inevitable what the hell is nice about stringing him along while you start things up with another guy?

[Alexxx]

Women are evil.

[andrew4045]

Okay so here's the deal. I dated this girl for a the last two months of summer and it was probably the best two months I've ever had with a girl, just being with her. Then we broke up, it was her, and I was very upset over this happening. I was pathetic for a little bit then we just stopped talking. Then two weeks ago or so she just starts talking to me again and it's all like "I miss you" just as like a friend, you know? Then we start talking on the phone just about every night and we talk about how we use to be and how it was such an awesome time, and I wont lie I liked talking about this and so did she.

So the stories continues starting Sunday, I play in a band and we had a concert on the 9th, this past sunday... She wants to come so she does, but she brings her boyfriend, yeah tell me about it... The only thing is she doesn't want to be with him, as in like dating him. She just can't tell him because she's too nice of a person and doesn't want to break up with him, it's kind of how it was when she broke up with me.

Later that she sends my friend a text about how much she misses me and how much feelings she has for me and was such an idiot for breaking up with me. I was pretty happy about this and felt the same way, and played the charm game and told her stuff like I thought about her everyday since we broke up and my feelings never changed.

The next day we are talking on the phone and she still hasn't broken up with her boyfriend and just keeps asking me what to do and it looks like they are breaking up soon, I'm not sure what to do. That might sound dumb but the problem is, we live almost an hour away from each other and could only see each other maybe 1-2 times a week during the school year.

Any help?


Weak. Nobody wants to be with a sentimental pussy.

[Intertwined]

Let her go.

Oh, and you're not weak. Andrew whatever number is too much of an asshole to admit his real feelings.

[oneswiftmotion]

You should get rid of her. If she can't break up with her boyfriend for you, you're probably no important enough to her.