The Way He Feels

[#WhiteFender#]

Can anyone shed a bit of light on this situation?

I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks back. things were very good and solid between us... but on a night of some intense withdrawl symptoms from a previous addiction, i broke up with him. i wasnt really in my right mind... but he was quite obviously hurt. for the nex few weeks at school, he doesn't talk to me or my best friend (also his best friend), for obvious reasons. after my friend and him start talking on the phone again, he admits he's no where close to over it. i regreted my desciion; i wasnt either. so this guy decides not to be shy for a day, talking to me for the first time, looking at me with the same look in his eyes before we were going out. after school, i see him at the bus stop. i completely ignore him, as im too worried if i talk to him he will disk=like me for butting back into his life. monday, he's talking shit about me, and he makes out with my best friend. he has no feelings for her whatsoever.. she likes him a hell of a lot. this is not the first time she's abandoned my trust. all he does now is talk shit about me to anyone who will listen. saying how i am so weak, how he was grinning when i broke up with him. i gave my friend another chance, she chooses him over me, even when he says he is capable ofa causing pain to her... i know he doesnt care by the way he looks at her, and the way that if he is not glaring at me he is looking at me with a far off look...

well im getting over him, but i just want to know if you think he still cares for me, or is just mad?

if anyone ectually reads this, i will be quite surprised, but thoughts are much appreciated. if nothing else, at least i got it out there.

[xZiggyStardustx]

I would say he still cares, just too "man" to admit it. He's embarrassed you broke up with him so he talks shit, but secretly wishes you hadn't.

Dont stress out too much, everything will work itself out.

[thirteen]

Your ex is an idiot and your friend is a shallow flake.

If you say he talked to you after you broke up, knowing that he told your friend he wasn't over you, what made you decide to ignore him? Obviously if he was still into you, he wouldn't care if you were trying to put yourself back into his life.

Instead of staring and glaring at each other from across the room, it might be beneficial for you to talk to him alone, away from your classmates and your friend, and find out if he's just acting out or if he generally does not want to rekindle things. Chances are one of you misinterpreted a sign from the other, which is why he seems pissed. Maybe you should tell him what you really still feel like, since it seems you haven't done that yet, so he has no reason to reciprocate.

[xZiggyStardustx]

Yeah, she said it better. Feel free to ignore my post.

[ZACKY_6661]

You both have good points.. just don't do something like start talkin shit about them.. Just do what they said. I have had plenty of guys talk shit about me when I broke up with them but they were the ones who would call and wont me back, there the ones who would ask my best friend about me and if I had said anything about them. ItS like they said. TALK TO HIM

[SubrosaSeductiv]

Your ex is an idiot and your friend is a shallow flake.

If you say he talked to you after you broke up, knowing that he told your friend he wasn't over you, what made you decide to ignore him? Obviously if he was still into you, he wouldn't care if you were trying to put yourself back into his life.

Instead of staring and glaring at each other from across the room, it might be beneficial for you to talk to him alone, away from your classmates and your friend, and find out if he's just acting out or if he generally does not want to rekindle things. Chances are one of you misinterpreted a sign from the other, which is why he seems pissed. Maybe you should tell him what you really still feel like, since it seems you haven't done that yet, so he has no reason to reciprocate.


Well I wouldn't call him an idiot. As far as I am concerned he has every right to say shit about you. You broke up with him while withdrawing. Great, you didn't know what you were doing, but that doesn't excuse a thing. Not only this if you were addicted enough to something enabling you to withdraw, then you probably aren't the greatest candidate for a relationship in the first place. If you can't tend to someone's needs then don't even go into shit like that. From my experience with addicts the people aren't usually the most caring or the best partners in the world. So you were probably a bitch in the first place.

Now if you are done doing whatever it was you abused, you could probably explain shit to him. Certainly you should not ignore him when he was basically reaching out to you. As for the situation with your friend, this is ultimately your own damn fault.

Sorry to be blatantly honest.

[#WhiteFender#]

thanks guys. that makes sense... not sure what the hell you say to a guy who glares aross the room every time, but i guess thats when ive gotta preend to be brave. any suggestions on how to approach it? but thanks for all that's been said so far, it helps alot.


Well I wouldn't call him an idiot. As far as I am concerned he has every right to say shit about you. You broke up with him while withdrawing. Great, you didn't know what you were doing, but that doesn't excuse a thing. Not only this if you were addicted enough to something enabling you to withdraw, then you probably aren't the greatest candidate for a relationship in the first place. If you can't tend to someone's needs then don't even go into shit like that. From my experience with addicts the people aren't usually the most caring or the best partners in the world. So you were probably a bitch in the first place.

Now if you are done doing whatever it was you abused, you could probably explain shit to him. Certainly you should not ignore him when he was basically reaching out to you. As for the situation with your friend, this is ultimately your own damn fault.

Sorry to be blatantly honest.

you have a point. im done doing what it was, but its just that it still comes back to me at times when i struggle to stay clean.

but thank you, i might kind of see where youre coming from. all though i make a point not to avoid him, signs can be misinterpreted.

[identitycrisis2]

You broke up with him. The whole situation is your fault. If you don't care about him anymore, then stop caring.

[Dan CiTi]

Oh please. If you were fucked up or whatever when you broke up with him, you should have confronted and told him more about the situation ASAP. Then from there things would have been A LOT easier.

[jwelborn]

I agree with the two comments above. You broke up with him in the first place, its all your fault, he can do whatever he wants. You just have to learn when people talk about about you to just ignore it, its going to happen a lot in your lifetime.

[thetrueblood]

you ignored him once, just do it again.

and in the end, it's really all your fault. you could have had him back if you didn't ignore him at the bus stop.

[#WhiteFender#]

haha good points.

[breaking news!]

Can anyone shed a bit of light on this situation?

I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks back. things were very good and solid between us... but on a night of some intense withdrawl symptoms from a previous addiction, i broke up with him. i wasnt really in my right mind... but he was quite obviously hurt. for the nex few weeks at school, he doesn't talk to me or my best friend (also his best friend), for obvious reasons. after my friend and him start talking on the phone again, he admits he's no where close to over it. i regreted my desciion; i wasnt either. so this guy decides not to be shy for a day, talking to me for the first time, looking at me with the same look in his eyes before we were going out. after school, i see him at the bus stop. i completely ignore him, as im too worried if i talk to him he will disk=like me for butting back into his life. monday, he's talking shit about me, and he makes out with my best friend. he has no feelings for her whatsoever.. she likes him a hell of a lot. this is not the first time she's abandoned my trust. all he does now is talk shit about me to anyone who will listen. saying how i am so weak, how he was grinning when i broke up with him. i gave my friend another chance, she chooses him over me, even when he says he is capable ofa causing pain to her... i know he doesnt care by the way he looks at her, and the way that if he is not glaring at me he is looking at me with a far off look...

well im getting over him, but i just want to know if you think he still cares for me, or is just mad?

if anyone ectually reads this, i will be quite surprised, but thoughts are much appreciated. if nothing else, at least i got it out there.


well, that really sucks... :/

people are going to talk shit about you--happens all the time to every one else.
but to stress about it is stupid, and i dont know what yo uwant to get out of this either...

your friend doesnt seem to care about you very much

[TakingBackDowd]

honestly this is 99% on you. screwing it up in the first place led to all of this so maybe your ex-boyfriend is being shallow but you let go of him so its your loss and not his problem.