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StrictlyBiznas
12/14/07, 01:01 PM
My mom borrows money from me every once in a while; not a lot, 10 to 30 dollars now and then, and when she asks for it she says she'll pay me back a.s.a.p. Then after a couple days I go and ask about the money and she gets real angry and gives me the whole "Do you know how much it cost to raise you?" speech and tells me that she doesn't owe me the anything. Do I have a right to be mad or is she right?
ashcroft
12/14/07, 01:14 PM
She kind of has a point but I see what you are saying. It is yours and at 21 I'd imagine you aren't sitting on a pile of money. Next time just say you have no cash.
Your own mother shouldn't have to borrow money from you in the first place...
cuetheflames
12/14/07, 02:39 PM
is she a coke addict?
identitycrisis2
12/14/07, 02:43 PM
Pay her in pennies.
cuetheflames
12/14/07, 02:43 PM
Pay her in pennies.
or hot dogs.
biodegradable
12/14/07, 03:43 PM
My mom borrows money from me every once in a while; not a lot, 10 to 30 dollars now and then, and when she asks for it she says she'll pay me back a.s.a.p. Then after a couple days I go and ask about the money and she gets real angry and gives me the whole "Do you know how much it cost to raise you?" speech and tells me that she doesn't owe me the anything. Do I have a right to be mad or is she right?
firstly, your mom should have her own fucking money. secondly, if she hadn't said "oh i'll get it back to you asap" it wouldnt be a big deal, but the fact that she's taking money, saying she'll get it to you and then makes the speech is ridiculous. you should call her out.
radio napalm
12/14/07, 06:29 PM
my parents used to do this to me.. except they'd ask for a few hundred at a time. next time she asks, just tell her you don't have money.
Yeah, shaft that ho.
Don't go to Christmas dinner.
meliisssaaaa
12/14/07, 09:14 PM
although it is annoying you do have to consider that she really doesn't owe you any money...
TylerTimeBomb
12/14/07, 09:36 PM
she's the one who decided to have sex.
it costs around $10,000 per year to raise a child, so really she doesn't owe you anything. but i totally understand where you're coming from, i'd be pisssed if my mom pulled that. so...i guess it's really a matter of opinion.
hypa_dude
12/14/07, 10:05 PM
You should treat her like I treat the bums in downtown Memphis.
Tell her you don't have any money and then anal.
fedhed7
12/14/07, 11:59 PM
That's bullshit. she shouldn't be doing that.
allhourcymbals
12/15/07, 04:09 AM
She raised you just like someday you will raise a child, if you choose to do so, it was her choice, therefore you don't owe her anything for her raising you. If she doesn't pay you back, don't lend her anymore money unless you don't care about getting it back anytime soon.
Spicoli hey bud
12/15/07, 07:28 AM
If that's her mentality, tell her that if your dad wore a condom, this wouldn't be a problem.
She asked to borrow money from you. You didn't ask to come out of her vagina.
sdbrown
12/15/07, 09:32 AM
She asked to borrow money from you. You didn't ask to come out of her vagina.
:-D
That's weird she's so defensive! Just don't loan her anymore money. Or if you want to make her feel like shit I would say something like "I don't have any money, I already lent it all to you"
popdisaster00
12/15/07, 10:52 AM
it costs around $10,000 per year to raise a child, so really she doesn't owe you anything. but i totally understand where you're coming from, i'd be pisssed if my mom pulled that. so...i guess it's really a matter of opinion.
Pretty much what I was going to say. Find out what she is actually spending the money on, and then decide whether it's okay to be mad at her. If she's spending it on stupid shit like drugs, fast food, cds, whatever...I'd be mad. If she was putting it towards bills or food for the house or whatever, you know - essential items - then I wouldn't be mad, because it is true that she did pour a lot of money out to raise you.
StrictlyBiznas
12/15/07, 11:24 AM
Pretty much what I was going to say. Find out what she is actually spending the money on, and then decide whether it's okay to be mad at her. If she's spending it on stupid shit like drugs, fast food, cds, whatever...I'd be mad. If she was putting it towards bills or food for the house or whatever, you know - essential items - then I wouldn't be mad, because it is true that she did pour a lot of money out to raise you.
Most of the time its for a carton of ciggs. Sometimes she gives it to my 11 year old sister when my mom doesn't feel like running out to get cash. We're not even a low income family; both my parents have good jobs at UPenn and Citi Bank. It comes down to her laziness half the time.
My mom borrows money from me every once in a while; not a lot, 10 to 30 dollars now and then, and when she asks for it she says she'll pay me back a.s.a.p. Then after a couple days I go and ask about the money and she gets real angry and gives me the whole "Do you know how much it cost to raise you?" speech and tells me that she doesn't owe me the anything. Do I have a right to be mad or is she right?
Is your mother an addict?
StrictlyBiznas
12/15/07, 12:21 PM
Is your mother an addict?
No, it's got nothing to do with drugs.
StrictlyBiznas
12/15/07, 12:22 PM
If that's her mentality, tell her that if your dad wore a condom, this wouldn't be a problem.
She asked to borrow money from you. You didn't ask to come out of her vagina.
lol
popdisaster00
12/15/07, 02:26 PM
Most of the time its for a carton of ciggs. Sometimes she gives it to my 11 year old sister when my mom doesn't feel like running out to get cash. We're not even a low income family; both my parents have good jobs at UPenn and Citi Bank. It comes down to her laziness half the time.
Wait, who gives what to your sister?
I don't know man, in that case then I suppose I would just let her know that it's kind of upsetting you, but I wouldn't yell at her. If it's making money problems hard on you I would definitely talk to her about it.
johnh5304
12/15/07, 08:22 PM
Fuck that... it's your parents responsibility to raise and take of you as a child. If they spend money on raising you and expect you to pay them back somehow then they're bad parents. You owe them love and respect and maybe let them borrow money from time to time but if they use that "I raised you" speech tell them if they didn't that DHR would be all up in their ass. It's you're money that will pay for their nursing home anyway if she's having to borrow money from you now.
saysmydoctor
12/15/07, 09:11 PM
My mom used to take advantage of my money and when I'd ask for it back, she'd give me the same spiel. Eventually, it got to the point that when she asked me I said "Yes, I do, Mom, but you are a piss poor investment, so, you can't borrow any." My mom paid me back a few days later and hasn't had the balls to ask me since.
thetrueblood
12/15/07, 09:25 PM
a lady once told me, "there's no such thing as giving a loan to family. it's nice to get it back, but never expect it"
I think that's about right.
rikfrommf
12/15/07, 10:27 PM
a lady once told me, "there's no such thing as giving a loan to family. it's nice to get it back, but never expect it"
I think that's about right.
hear hear.
StrictlyBiznas
12/15/07, 11:35 PM
My mom used to take advantage of my money and when I'd ask for it back, she'd give me the same spiel. Eventually, it got to the point that when she asked me I said "Yes, I do, Mom, but you are a piss poor investment, so, you can't borrow any." My mom paid me back a few days later and hasn't had the balls to ask me since.
lol
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