Relationship troubles...

[rockthatpit]

Okay so. I'm dating this guy (not exclusively) that I've known for 4 years now. 2 years ago we had a bit of a fling and then he kinda ditched it. Now this is happening. He doesn't want a relationship right now (due to other commitment and such that we've talked about) but I really do want one. I don't want to stop seeing him, because I like him a ton and feel that if this is happening again after two years, there's something there. At the same time, I really want an actual relationship.

...should I try to move on or wait?



Also, I'm not sure if any of that actually makes sense to someone just randomly reading it. If you don't understand, sorry.

[mrzippo3]

If he's not into being in a relationship, don't push it.

[oneswiftmotion]

yeah, If he had to tell you he doesn't want a relationship, the fire's not there for him, so give it up and move on.

[imperfectstarx]

So basically, he just wants to hook up with you and a whole bunch of other girls.

[SubrosaSeductiv]

Yeah I did this to one of my friends for a while. I felt horrible afterward. I got with her on and off for like 2 months. I asked her out then broke up with her a week later. About a year later same thing happened. Now we don't talk ever. She hated my guts for about 4 months, but at least now we talk.

Some people are honestly too good of friends to go out with. It becomes very awkward.

[rockthatpit]

It's not that he wants to be with other girls - we specifically covered that. He just has a bunch going on with school and work.

The whole "relationship" think started because we were "together" for about two days and then he told me he just couldn't do it.

He did say he does like me and wants to keep seeing me...I'm thinking maybe it can grow into something?

[nonamesleft]

Move on, he's pooched.

[gloriousmuse]

I would just move on. But that's just me.

[Intertwined]

Move on.
Listen to everyone who has already posted.

[rockthatpit]

Man, I was hoping so bad people wouldn't say to move on.

I've been into him for like 3 years =[

Okay...I'll try my best.

[4N6 science]

if its meant to be, its meant to be...just because you move on doesn't mean he's erased forever from your life..

[christopherzig]

say this to him. "straight up, is this going to turn into a dating relationship or no?" and listen to what he says, i'm a guy and i've been there tens of tens of times and i've always been straight with a girl when she's asked me to be... unless this guys a dick

[punkyandy]

you're 17. you still got alot more time to meet other people and live your life. and maybe he'll work out in the end, but for now. don't push it at all.

[vixsummer]

It's so cliche, but "He's Just Not That Into You" is so true - if a guy was into you the way you want him to be, he wouldn't care about the tons of stuff he has to do. There's never going to be a perfect time to start a relationship, where he isn't busy or doesn't have anything else going on. If you want to date him and he doesn't want a relationship, you're going to wind up getting burned in the end. Keep hooking up with him if you can separate those feelings, but if not, I'd suggest moving on before you get in any deeper.

[xvszero]

So basically he wants to fuck, you want a boyfriend.

Stop pretending there is anything there, get over it.

[breaking news!]

So basically he wants to fuck, you want a boyfriend.

Stop pretending there is anything there, get over it.


damn.
true that.

[rockthatpit]

So basically he wants to fuck, you want a boyfriend.

Stop pretending there is anything there, get over it.

Well seeing as we haven't fucked and he knows we're not going to...no.

[deapcutz]

Let it go girl!! if you had a fling 2 yrs. ago 9 times out of 10 that is what he sees this is now.

[xvszero]

Well seeing as we haven't fucked and he knows we're not going to...no.

Then he wants to make out / oral / whatever you do.

Point is, he has no interest in dating you. You're fooling yourself if you think this is anything more than a hook-up situation on his end.

Anyway, guys NEVER know they're not going to. Girls can say it all they want, guys always think they might end up being the one to get her to change her mind.

[LV03]

ha im kinda in the same situation....havent been hooking up for as long....but everything else sounds familiar. The only thing that worries me is even if hes not seeing anyone else, is he just keeping you around until something 'better' comes along, or is he trully busy with school and other things. In my case i like hanging out with the guy, but sometimes i feel like i'm just wasting my time and nothing is going to come out of it.

[Boy's_Don't_Cry]

well Im personally in the same jam right now. I just got outta a year long spiral with someone who I really liked. I tried to pick up the pieces again with him after a year...and it turned out for the worse. Once something's done, its done sweets.
but hey, I've moved on. I have someone else in my life, and I can't wait to really start this new relationship. things suck. they suck some more. then they chill. then things start again.
you'll move on.trust me