Meeting People Post-College Challenge

[vixsummer]

I've never had to work the day after Xmas and it's boring as sin, so lets start a thread!

I graduated a year ago, and I'm finding it difficult to meet guys since I left school. I'm meeting new people at work, but I don't want to date someone I work with (been there, hasn't gone well for me, and I think it's unprofessional). I also don't think I'm going to meet anyone I'd actually want to date at a bar. So where do 20-somethings go to meet new people? (If anyone has any specifics for the NY area too, let me know!)

[boykosaurus]

Starbucks

[VoiceoffCamera]

work sucks, working the day after christmas when no one is in the office sucks even more.

[vixsummer]

Agreed 234982349823948%.

The next 3 days are going to be pointless.

[boykosaurus]

agreed as well, but my job isn't that big of a deal (student worker), so I get to read or surf apnet all day

[FatJordan]

Go to your local craigslist, search "anal".

Really though, I'm terrified about this same issue...I was kind of hoping on networking though friends and continuing to find people that way. I know some of my friends who never even went to college and were kind of "left in the suburbs" by themselves have found people to hang out with on Myspace, but that creeps me out...maybe it's worth a shot though?

[Kraemerika]

Tell me about it. What a slow and boring and worthless day of work...

And I am curious to find out what other people do to meet people. I graduated in May and most of my college friends are in Philly. Since I'm working in NY I don't really see them too much. Vix, you and I should just get together :)

[vixsummer]

Honestly, when bored, I've given the online thing a shot... but it weirds me out. Anyone you talk to on craigslist, match.com or the like, or myspace just wants to meet right away, and I'm automatically turned off by the insistent "give me your number/lets meet" 25 seconds after receiving their email. They're all just looking for a quick hookup with a desperate girl.

I'd rather meet people through friends also, but they all graduated the same time, and are facing the same problems I am...

[vixsummer]

Tell me about it. What a slow and boring and worthless day of work...

And I am curious to find out what other people do to meet people. I graduated in May and most of my college friends are in Philly. Since I'm working in NY I don't really see them too much. Vix, you and I should just get together :)

Haha, seriously... AP seems a saner place to meet people than craigslist... right?

Where do you work?

[Kraemerika]

Haha, seriously... AP seems a saner place to meet people than craigslist... right?

Where do you work?


/agreed, lol Craigslist seriously gives me the chills.

I work right by times square actually... west 42nd between 6th and B'way. What about you?

[mrzippo3]

I wonder the same thing. It worries me. I want to meet new people, not hang with with same high school buddies.

[lauren<3s music]

you do know there is an actual work thread for bored people at work..

also, go do stuff you like (shows, volunteer etc) then you'll meet someone who has a similar interest as you

[infamous_alias]

I've heard this is actually one of the toughest things about leaving academia and entering the "real world."

[vixsummer]

/agreed, lol Craigslist seriously gives me the chills.

I work right by times square actually... west 42nd between 6th and B'way. What about you?

I have 2 jobs, one in Tribeca (where I am now), and my other is on W 42nd and 7th. Weird!!!

[SwishMX48]

I'm at work too, first time ever the day after Christmas...I worked Christmas Eve for awhile too, and that was weird...

I moved back home after college, where everyone is engaged/married/having kids...the married couples my age always set me up on dates so they have new people to double date with

[VoiceoffCamera]

yeah it is weird talking to friends who are all getting engaged/married, i'm like where the hell do you meet people.

[SwishMX48]

haha definetely, hearing my friends say "better get home, the wife is about finished with dinner/home from work" still blows my mind

[vixsummer]

haha definetely, hearing my friends say "better get home, the wife is about finished with dinner/home from work" still blows my mind

Ugh, that is the strangest thing. It makes me feel like I'm so behind in life.

[VoiceoffCamera]

it really hit me when my ex gf's friend got married who is like 2 years younger than us and i was like damn i'm so old.

[updownleftright]

Honestly, when bored, I've given the online thing a shot... but it weirds me out. Anyone you talk to on craigslist, match.com or the like, or myspace just wants to meet right away, and I'm automatically turned off by the insistent "give me your number/lets meet" 25 seconds after receiving their email. They're all just looking for a quick hookup with a desperate girl.

I'd rather meet people through friends also, but they all graduated the same time, and are facing the same problems I am...

not everyone on myspace is like that.. just guessing. i let them come to me, not vice versa?

however, to your friends comment. a good group setting would be going to a concert, that's how i meet new people.

[vixsummer]

not everyone on myspace is like that.. just guessing. i let them come to me, not vice versa?

however, to your friends comment. a good group setting would be going to a concert, that's how i meet new people.

Yeah, I'm sure there are some normal people on myspace, but usually they're not the ones sending messages to random girls. The majority are strange at best.

As for the concerts - I totally agree, however (and maybe it's just me and/or the shows I'm going to), the median age at most shows is getting younger and the atmosphere isn't always the best to strike up convos with strangers. I used to meet tons of people at shows, and lately it seems like everyone is very standoffish and obnoxious, so, yeah. But you're right for the most part, it's probably just me.

[Jfk1117]

nyc isnt exactly easy to meet people in, try hanging out in areas that have places that interest you. you also then ahve to have the balls to just spark convos with people. i live in nyc and have had limited success, but have had some.

[VoiceoffCamera]

Yeah, I'm sure there are some normal people on myspace, but usually they're not the ones sending messages to random girls. The majority are strange at best.

As for the concerts - I totally agree, however (and maybe it's just me and/or the shows I'm going to), the median age at most shows is getting younger and the atmosphere isn't always the best to strike up convos with strangers. I used to meet tons of people at shows, and lately it seems like everyone is very standoffish and obnoxious, so, yeah. But you're right for the most part, it's probably just me.

I could never imagine talking to anyone at a concert. The last few i've been to, i've been surrounded by 16 year olds.

[SwishMX48]

Ugh, that is the strangest thing. It makes me feel like I'm so behind in life.

haha yeah, it made me feel like that at first...but when you think about it, 23 isn't really that old at all

If it is, I am still wayyy to immature for my age

[williek311]

I've never had to work the day after Xmas and it's boring as sin, so lets start a thread!

I graduated a year ago, and I'm finding it difficult to meet guys since I left school. I'm meeting new people at work, but I don't want to date someone I work with (been there, hasn't gone well for me, and I think it's unprofessional). I also don't think I'm going to meet anyone I'd actually want to date at a bar. So where do 20-somethings go to meet new people? (If anyone has any specifics for the NY area too, let me know!)
I'm in the same boat that you are. I've had a tough time trying to meet women where I live.

[radio napalm]

I've never had to work the day after Xmas and it's boring as sin, so lets start a thread!

I graduated a year ago, and I'm finding it difficult to meet guys since I left school. I'm meeting new people at work, but I don't want to date someone I work with (been there, hasn't gone well for me, and I think it's unprofessional). I also don't think I'm going to meet anyone I'd actually want to date at a bar. So where do 20-somethings go to meet new people? (If anyone has any specifics for the NY area too, let me know!)

Why not? You'll never meet anyone with that attitude. I'm sure there are a ton of guys who think that too. You just need to go to the right bars, or events, or parties, or whatnot. If you want a chill dude, go to a chill bar. Don't go to the loud, dancy night clubs. If you want a bro, go to a college bar.

Go out, meet people.. even if just to be friends. Guaranteed they'll introduce you to someone, and then hang out with that person, and that person will introduce you to someone, and so on. You'll have a slew of new friends and eventually, I'm sure, you'll meet that dude. Don't just be looking for a relationship, look for friends too, and you'll meet that dude you've been looking for.

[lauren<3s music]

I could never imagine talking to anyone at a concert. The last few i've been to, i've been surrounded by 16 year olds.

18+ shows

[lauren<3s music]

I'm in the same boat that you are. I've had a tough time trying to meet women where I live.

in richmond?!?! really? tell me your type and i'll set you up.

[jwelborn]

Its hard for me to meet ladies and im in college, since high school my numbers have dramatically went down.

[CubbyNick42]

Its hard for me to meet ladies and im in college, since high school my numbers have dramatically went down.
What? How does that happen? Are you no longer playing football?

[unwritten]

match.com. haha seriously.

[LV03]

i graduate in a few months, but im not really worried about meeting new people. A lot of my friends live in the city so i'm guessing mostly at the bars or through friends. Unless I get an out of state internhsip...well then im screwed.

[updownleftright]

Its hard for me to meet ladies and im in college, since high school my numbers have dramatically went down.

same here! glad i'm not the only one.

also. that read fish movie was decent at best.. : /

[jwelborn]

What? How does that happen? Are you no longer playing football?

I sadly didn't play any sports, I wish I would have though.

[theESCO]

I've never had to work the day after Xmas and it's boring as sin, so lets start a thread!

I graduated a year ago, and I'm finding it difficult to meet guys since I left school. I'm meeting new people at work, but I don't want to date someone I work with (been there, hasn't gone well for me, and I think it's unprofessional). I also don't think I'm going to meet anyone I'd actually want to date at a bar. So where do 20-somethings go to meet new people? (If anyone has any specifics for the NY area too, let me know!)

my brother lives in bay ridge, hop the N train.

[llwilliamsll]

online forums

[doomcrs04]

Date an 18yo with too many post on ap. No but a lot of us meet up at shows and say and stuff.

[CubbyNick42]

I sadly didn't play any sports, I wish I would have though.
That's weird. Seems like for most guys it's the other way around. College is supposed to be easy.

[williek311]

in richmond?!?! really? tell me your type and i'll set you up.
Attractive and intelligent.

[vixsummer]

Why not? You'll never meet anyone with that attitude. I'm sure there are a ton of guys who think that too. You just need to go to the right bars, or events, or parties, or whatnot. If you want a chill dude, go to a chill bar. Don't go to the loud, dancy night clubs. If you want a bro, go to a college bar.

Go out, meet people.. even if just to be friends. Guaranteed they'll introduce you to someone, and then hang out with that person, and that person will introduce you to someone, and so on. You'll have a slew of new friends and eventually, I'm sure, you'll meet that dude. Don't just be looking for a relationship, look for friends too, and you'll meet that dude you've been looking for.


I hear what you're saying, but for the most part, it hasn't panned out that way. I go to chill bars and I'll chat with people, but nothing has really connected on a higher level.

Another question - if a girl is out in a group of friends, what about the group would make her unapproachable? Number of people, guys, ect?

[thatsignant]

Another question - if a girl is out in a group of friends, what about the group would make her unapproachable? Number of people, guys, ect?

I feel if a guy approaches a girl that is with a group of people, he has no shame, so I don't know if that is exactly what you are looking for or not.

[vixsummer]

I feel if a guy approaches a girl that is with a group of people, he has no shame, so I don't know if that is exactly what you are looking for or not.


Good point - but couldn't that just be considered ballsy though? That might actually impress me a bit.

[thatsignant]

Good point - but couldn't that just be considered ballsy though? That might actually impress me a bit.

Yea I would consider it ballsy, but more often than not someone in a group of friends would get turned off by the person doing that, in turn making the entire situation awkward, especially if you have guy friends in the group you are with.

[chrisx519]

develop a drinking habit.

haha seriously, it worked for me. i can be shy and all that nonsense, bu of course, my inhibitions disappear when the whiskey flows.

it's helped enough where i don't need the sauce to be charming anymore. mostly.

haha. not the healthiest way, but it worked for me.

[thatsignant]

Well that's borderline pathetic

[chrisx519]

meh. i'll take it anyway ;)

[Coronary Parasite]

I have 2 jobs, one in Tribeca (where I am now), and my other is on W 42nd and 7th. Weird!!!
funny i work in tribeca too.

[Coronary Parasite]

my brother lives in bay ridge, hop the N train.
hahaha and i live near bay ridge. awesome.

[LV03]

Yea I would consider it ballsy, but more often than not someone in a group of friends would get turned off by the person doing that, in turn making the entire situation awkward, especially if you have guy friends in the group you are with.

yup. totally agree with that.

[vixsummer]

funny i work in tribeca too.

hahaha and i live near bay ridge. awesome.

See! Look at this networking! lol

[Coronary Parasite]

See! Look at this networking! lol
however, i met my bf here. so i can offer no help. hahahahhaha

i'm on broadway and reade right by the ACE, 2&3 and RW trains. where do you work down here?

[theESCO]

hahaha and i live near bay ridge. awesome.

haha.
fort ham represent~!

[scmaley]

Of all my friends who are married/engaged/in serious relationships, most seem to have met at school or kind of randomly through mutual friends. My parents actually met at a company picnic. They worked for the same bank, but at different branches.
One of my friends has been dating a guy she met in line at the movie theater, when the movie sold out and they both ended up waiting around for the next showing, for almost two years now.
Also, I read this article (http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/22311713/) online today, that seems pertinent to this conversation. It's 31 ways to get the right guy for you. Or so it claims.

[lauren<3s music]

Attractive and intelligent.

whats your type as far as attractive? need more specifics and sure.

[vixsummer]

however, i met my bf here. so i can offer no help. hahahahhaha

i'm on broadway and reade right by the ACE, 2&3 and RW trains. where do you work down here?


I'm on the Ave. of the Americas btw Varick & Grand. It's such a cool area, but dangerous for me... I just walk around on Canal on my lunch break and spend the money I don't have haha

[xXaLLiOo]

ive realized that i'm turned off by guys showing too much interest too quickly...it sucks because i really want to meet new people but anytime a guy starts flirting with me at work he comes on too strong and i'm incredibly turned off...i guess maybe i like making the first move which is odd because usually thats a guy thing

[Coronary Parasite]

I'm on the Ave. of the Americas btw Varick & Grand. It's such a cool area, but dangerous for me... I just walk around on Canal on my lunch break and spend the money I don't have haha
you're a little further uptown than me.


and i usually head to union...and spend money i don't have. hahahahahaha

[radio napalm]

I hear what you're saying, but for the most part, it hasn't panned out that way. I go to chill bars and I'll chat with people, but nothing has really connected on a higher level.

Another question - if a girl is out in a group of friends, what about the group would make her unapproachable? Number of people, guys, ect?

If you're out with one other girl, it makes it a little hard to approach you, because there's a good chance you're not going to abandon your friend to have a conversation with a random dude you just met.

Generally, if you're out with guys, guys will avoid approaching you at all, just in case to happen to be with one of those dudes. Unless you're out with like 1 guy and 1 other girl, and it's obvious that they're together or something.

Going out in groups of 3 is ideal to have a dude approach you. At least in my opinion.

[williek311]

whats your type as far as attractive? need more specifics and sure.
I like all different types of women. I would say I like brunettes better.

[makeoutmags]

I have a year & a half left of school and am scared to death of sitting in my apartment all alone with no real connections to the outside world, especially if I wind up moving out of New York to another city. I guess there's always match.com, when I'm out of options, or am about to turn 30... ughhhh

[lauren<3s music]

I like all different types of women. I would say I like brunettes better.

tall short ? rail thin curvy what! give me more and im guessing i can find someone to set you up with.

[williek311]

tall short ? rail thin curvy what! give me more and im guessing i can find someone to set you up with.
Short and thin or at least at the correct wait for their height.

[lauren<3s music]

Short and thin or at least at the correct wait for their height.

message me with shit you like to do and all that and i'll see what i can't come up with

[Kraemerika]

ooh! we got a matchmaker getting down to business!!

[meliisssaaaa]

go to some shows in the city

[makeoutmags]

I go to shows in the city all the time, that's part of what I'm doing with my life, but right now I'm not concerned with making friends because I'm still in school and have friends. When I graduate and move away from my friends, then it might be different.

[Rock]

Do yourself a favor. Join a young professionals club. Columbus has one, so there has to be one in New York.

[lauren<3s music]

Do yourself a favor. Join a young professionals club. Columbus has one, so there has to be one in New York.

look at you being reasonable!

ps i miss seeing you around all the time since we now have vacation.

[makeoutmags]

What does joining a young professionals club even entail? Do they sit around and talk about being professionals, or what? No offense meant, I'm genuinely curious, the title just turns me off.

[lauren<3s music]

What does joining a young professionals club even entail? Do they sit around and talk about being professionals, or what? No offense meant, I'm genuinely curious, the title just turns me off.

theres one in dc. its thingstododc.com they have all sorts of really random ass things. i've done 2 and they were kinda fun

[makeoutmags]

Cool. When I find myself 22 and out of college, without my friends close by, I will make sure to check it out. :)

[Rock]

look at you being reasonable!

ps i miss seeing you around all the time since we now have vacation.
It works for me :-)

I miss talking to you too! Do you have AIM?

[Rock]

What does joining a young professionals club even entail? Do they sit around and talk about being professionals, or what? No offense meant, I'm genuinely curious, the title just turns me off.
You freaking jerk...haha, well, in our particular club, there are regular events and gatherings for philanthropy, friendship, networking, culture, and athletics. There's no membership fee, but there may be for other clubs. Typically, you just pay your own way for everything. I've gone to a few of the social events, played in the softball league, and will be playing in the basketball league soon. It's been fun.

[lauren<3s music]

It works for me :-)

I miss talking to you too! Do you have AIM?

i do! its on your wall now

[somers1581]

Not only do I have to worrying about trying to find a job after graduation, I have to worry about finding ways to meet new people. Not a good combo.

[IcedOpethBlind]

i will be in this position in may most likely....baaaaaaaaaalllllllssss

[Jess45624]

i met a great guy through myspace recently.. they arent all weirdos!

[FatJordan]

i met a great guy through myspace recently.. they arent all weirdos!

I'm really curious...how do you meet someone on MySpace without being creepy? Did he just like send you a message saying like, "Hey you're beautiful," or something like that? I'm really curious, because the fact that you're straight up meeting someone based on a profile seems really strange (to me).

[Jess45624]

I'm really curious...how do you meet someone on MySpace without being creepy? Did he just like send you a message saying like, "Hey you're beautiful," or something like that? I'm really curious, because the fact that you're straight up meeting someone based on a profile seems really strange (to me).
well actually i added him on myspace first! haha i thought he was cute, was a musician and had the same beliefs as me. then we ended up talking on aim for like hours a day. i guess it just kinda worked out?

[SAOSIN7years]

I find meeting people on the internet to be highly creepy. I've done it before (and actually had two girlfriends on two separate occasions come as a result), but I honestly don't think I could do it again. There's just something about it.

Maybe the whole internet-sexual-predator thing has ruined it for me.

:beard: "Oh no, Chris Hansen!"

[LoveLostShuffle]

go to shows see sweet bands and meet sweet dudes there and theres always that m space hahahaha

[Jess45624]

you could always crash a wedding? hahaha jk

[mrzippo3]

bump.
fuck. how do you do it?

[prefix-core]

At the risk of sounding lame, I'm really glad I found this thread. I went through something like that post-college (came back home to discover that most of my friends had moved away, while the friends I made at college were states away) and am currently going through a similar transitioning phase...

Which is tougher than it was the first time around. Blech.

[live.]

"So...you come here often?"

[phil19]

i had a hard time after i finished uni meeting anyone new, let alone a girl. i met my gf at a mates party. hell random and unexpected

[prefix-core]

i had a hard time after i finished uni meeting anyone new, let alone a girl. i met my gf at a mates party. hell random and unexpected

These things happen. Haha. Congrats! But not everyone is as lucky. :-)

[schenksta]

I have 2 jobs, one in Tribeca (where I am now), and my other is on W 42nd and 7th. Weird!!!

match made in heaven ftw

[phil19]

These things happen. Haha. Congrats! But not everyone is as lucky. :-)

thanks man. oh i know, though i hope you have some luck

[prefix-core]

thanks man. oh i know, though i hope you have some luck

That makes two of us. Haha. Unfortunately, the city I spend time in isn't the friendliest of places. People tend to stick with their crowd and the like. At shows, at bars, wherever. Shit's beat.

[phil19]

That makes two of us. Haha. Unfortunately, the city I spend time in isn't the friendliest of places. People tend to stick with their crowd and the like. At shows, at bars, wherever. Shit's beat.

that doesnt sound too good at all. definately makes things difficult. well, more difficult than they already are.
just an idea, not sure how good it is, but i joined a mixed netball team in a social league at the local rec centre with some mates, and maybe soemthing like that might be a good way to meet new people. you know how they have classes for thing like tai chi and yoga and such things. not that im saying take up yoga, but i hope you get my meaning. but maybe thats a really sucky idea? i dunno?

[prefix-core]

that doesnt sound too good at all. definately makes things difficult. well, more difficult than they already are.
just an idea, not sure how good it is, but i joined a mixed netball team in a social league at the local rec centre with some mates, and maybe soemthing like that might be a good way to meet new people. you know how they have classes for thing like tai chi and yoga and such things. not that im saying take up yoga, but i hope you get my meaning. but maybe thats a really sucky idea? i dunno?

Yeah, Boston isn't the friendliest of cities. At least not out at bars or at shows. People tend to be very, errrm, stick to yourselfish, is the best way to put it?

But that's actually not a bad idea. Joining a team or what-have-you. Too bad my sport of choice is running. Haha. ;-) But definitely something that might be worth looking into. It got the ball turning, if nothing else.

But seriously? Fuck yoga. Also: What exactly is netball? Is it an Australian sport, or just an alternate name for an international sport? I'm an ignorant American. Educate me, please. Haha.

[phil19]

Yeah, Boston isn't the friendliest of cities. At least not out at bars or at shows. People tend to be very, errrm, stick to yourselfish, is the best way to put it?

But that's actually not a bad idea. Joining a team or what-have-you. Too bad my sport of choice is running. Haha. ;-) But definitely something that might be worth looking into. It got the ball turning, if nothing else.

But seriously? Fuck yoga. Also: What exactly is netball? Is it an Australian sport, or just an alternate name for an international sport? I'm an ignorant American. Educate me, please. Haha.

oh really? boston is def on my places id like to visit list. yeah i get what you mean. mind your own business like?

running. i did some athletics back in the day. i was fair to average ahhaha. glad i could help. ive found it kills two birds with one stone, keeps you active and fit and also helps meet new people. or at least it puts you in a new environment with new people.

hahaha yoga! yeah i was trying to think of something that had social classes and yoga was pretty much all i could think of :-p
netball is a sport similar to basketball. its historically a womens sport but its actually pretty good. i actually found alot of people havnt heard of it. i didnt realise you didnt have it in america.
so yeah its like basketball only theres 7 people on the court, theres no backboard behind the basket, the courts devided into thirds, the position you play limits where you can go on the court, and you cant move with the ball. so once someone passes it to you you have to stop.
check out this all knowing wikipedia link for more info http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Netball
strangely enough, it says the sport originated in the US

[prefix-core]

oh really? boston is def on my places id like to visit list. yeah i get what you mean. mind your own business like?

running. i did some athletics back in the day. i was fair to average ahhaha. glad i could help. ive found it kills two birds with one stone, keeps you active and fit and also helps meet new people. or at least it puts you in a new environment with new people.

netball is a sport similar to basketball. its historically a womens sport but its actually pretty good. i actually found alot of people havnt heard of it. i didnt realise you didnt have it in america.
so yeah its like basketball only theres 7 people on the court, theres no backboard behind the basket, the courts devided into thirds, the position you play limits where you can go on the court, and you cant move with the ball. so once someone passes it to you you have to stop.
check out this all knowing wikipedia link for more info http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Netball
strangely enough, it says the sport originated in the US

Definitely, man! Not mean or what-have-you, just not very open to meeting new people. People tend to be very guarded and non-trusting of new folks. Women, in particular. Or maybe I'm just too shy, I don't know.

Running has always been numero uno for me. Unfortunately it's not a very social activity. But it definitely kills two birds with one stone - it gets you into better shape and simultaneously releases those chemicals in your brain that make you feel better about stuff. Shit, I wish I remembered what those were. Haha.

Woah. That's interesting. I used to be big into basketball. Nuts.

[phil19]

Definitely, man! Not mean or what-have-you, just not very open to meeting new people. People tend to be very guarded and non-trusting of new folks. Women, in particular. Or maybe I'm just too shy, I don't know.

Running has always been numero uno for me. Unfortunately it's not a very social activity. But it definitely kills two birds with one stone - it gets you into better shape and simultaneously releases those chemicals in your brain that make you feel better about stuff. Shit, I wish I remembered what those were. Haha.

Woah. That's interesting. I used to be big into basketball. Nuts.

hahaha women these days. i know what you mean. im shy too.

where do you run? like at your local park or something? maybe theres a park nearby where people go to run? like they go the same time everyday? scenario: you see some hot girl jogging at 8am monday. and then on tuesday you see her at the same time. turns out, she always jogs at 8 am. you're around, jogging too, you say hi. after a week or so you're strecthing and she jogs past and stops to stretch with you. you get to talking, next thing you know you're having a mocha at your local starbucks together.

yeah when you actually play it its a lot better. they say its non contact but it is. i got sent off last week hahaha good times

[prefix-core]

hahaha women these days. i know what you mean. im shy too.

where do you run? like at your local park or something? maybe theres a park nearby where people go to run? like they go the same time everyday? scenario: you see some hot girl jogging at 8am monday. and then on tuesday you see her at the same time. turns out, she always jogs at 8 am. you're around, jogging too, you say hi. after a week or so you're strecthing and she jogs past and stops to stretch with you. you get to talking, next thing you know you're having a mocha at your local starbucks together.

Haha. If only. I work roughly nine-hour days, so I tend to run at night at the local high school track. So, if I were into 45 year-old women? I'd be fuckin' golden. Haha. Unfortunately for me, I prefer the more age appropriate ones.

But you're right - the slow and steady "in the same place at the same time" bit works well, if y'know, you can accomplish it without looking like a stalker. I always get freaked out when that happens and it's just a coencidence. "Oh geez. She thinks I'm following her. FUCK!" Haha. Why were we made with social fears?

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Haha. If only. I work roughly nine-hour days, so I tend to run at night at the local high school track. So, if I were into 45 year-old women? I'd be fuckin' golden. Haha. Unfortunately for me, I prefer the more age appropriate ones.

But you're right - the slow and steady "in the same place at the same time" bit works well, if y'know, you can accomplish it without looking like a stalker. I always get freaked out when that happens and it's just a coencidence. "Oh geez. She thinks I'm following her. FUCK!" Haha. Why were we made with social fears?

hahahahaha the cougars are big these days though. but im with you, age appropriate is the way to go.

yeah, thats the trick. its a fine line. cos sometimes if you ignore them because your shy and you dont want to come across like a stalker they end up thinking youre a snob. argh! you cant win. hahaha
because we're flawed beings i think.

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hahahahaha the cougars are big these days though. but im with you, age appropriate is the way to go.

yeah, thats the trick. its a fine line. cos sometimes if you ignore them because your shy and you dont want to come across like a stalker they end up thinking youre a snob. argh! you cant win. hahaha
because we're flawed beings i think.

Haha. Actually, I was referring to when it happens and like, you don't mean it to and you aren't trying to talk to them. You just happen to wind up on the same train every day or something. I immediately feel awkward, regardless of my intentions.

As for humans being flawed? Completely. It's hilarious to a certain degree.

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Haha. Actually, I was referring to when it happens and like, you don't mean it to and you aren't trying to talk to them. You just happen to wind up on the same train every day or something. I immediately feel awkward, regardless of my intentions.

As for humans being flawed? Completely. It's hilarious to a certain degree.

oh ahaha yeah sorry. that can be awkward. especially if she notices

it can be at times for sure