high school relationships

[madisonrules]

are high school relationships really that important?

i was talkin to one of my friends the other day and this was brought up and just the things she was sayin kinda got me thinkin like, most couples in high school never leave high school as a couple..if even a few months. so whats the point?

what are ur thoughts??

[takingbackrufio]

'life's a bitch, all relationships end' - rufio

I was in a year long relationships, which ended, and now the girl has gone fucking haywire, going out with guys that use her. I won't even go into detail, love is a lie.

[Highway Donkey]

Highschool and anything associated with it = complete bullshit and a waste of time. The end.

[mirtizzle]

there were a few people in my high school who dated all through out high school then got married.
but i think for the most part those people were scared and lazy and weren't going to move out of the town to pursue anything worthwhile anyway so they never had any other plans.

high school relationships are pretty much a crock of shit anyway. everything's governed by who you are and who you hang out with, whether anyone wants to admit it or not. i don't think anyone knows what real love is in high school. people are still trying to "find themselves" and all that other psychobabble and everyone's so immature and selfish when they're teenagers, i can't think of anyone being able to handle a real relationship.

[punklet2101]

I think that when you're in highschool you don't need a boy/girlfriend. The world might tell you sometimes that you do or you're not cool, but it's really better for you if you don't anyway.

When you're that age, it's the kinda time you need to be building solid friendships and other relationships because at this age it's too young to be trying to have an adult kind of relationship with a significent other. When you're in highschool you're being moulded and you're turning into what you're gonna be as an adult. You're growing emotionally and that means no young teenager fully even knows who they are, so how are you supposed to have a serious relationship with someone if you don't know who you are, how is the other person supposed to know you properly?

Sure there's teenage hormones and stuff that tell you that you want a boy/girlfriend, but if you control that and focus your energy on friendships with the opposite sex, chances are you'll feel more comfortable around them and learn things that will help you in the future, when the times comes for it.

So yeah as far as having a relationship in highschool goes, it's a whole bunch of un-needed and completely avoidable heartache.

[jgirv17]

High school relationships are not a waste of time...

But they are definitely all that you shoulf worry about. They are good for what theyre worth: improving your social skills and maybe making a few more friends....but to think they're much more than that is naive. Most people do not go out for too long in high school (I highly recommend breaking up with any girlfriend/boyfriend before going to college....I know some people who haven't done so and, because of it, they don't meet very many people). That being said, I think high school relationships are fine....just don't put too much weight behind them.

[richter915]

meh, I dunno...I have mixed feelings. Like, right now, I'm 17 and I have a long distance relationship going on with a girl who's 16. Is this a high school relationship though? We don't go to the same school, we're not pushed by our "cliques" to have each other like many hs relationships have (jock guy is often forced to date cheerleader...it's true I see it all the time). Those kinda "I do it cause my friends want me to" relationships don't work methinks. But she and I are different. We plan to go to the same college also. So uh, ya, give your thoughts on our relationship...maybe I shoulda started my own thread on this...

[Sk8terPunk3]

i think its sweet of you and your gf to be having a long distance relationship. lots of ppl are freaked out by the distance ( and the phone bill ) its great that you guys r together. about the whole jock, cheerleader thing:dead: ..........i doubt they would go out with anyone else EVEN IF they had a choice:dead:

[richter915]

Originally posted by Sk8terPunk3
i think its sweet of you and your gf to be having a long distance relationship. lots of ppl are freaked out by the distance ( and the phone bill ) its great that you guys r together. about the whole jock, cheerleader thing:dead: ..........i doubt they would go out with anyone else EVEN IF they had a choice:dead:
Well, thank you. The thing is I met her online first, then we hung out a couple of times and ya that's how it is. People don't like that and don't think it's authentic...it really sucks when people think your relationship isn't real. I can't even call her on the phone...my parents don't like her and don't let me talk to her.

[para ser libre]

Originally posted by takingbackrufio
'life's a bitch, all relationships end' - rufio


and like highway donkey said.....

high school and anything related to it = a waste of time



High school is a time to explore, those relationships are what help you learn for the future...

Alrigth now some of my own words....your young forget about being serious and in "love"....

JUST HAVE FUN

[FalloutGuy]

Originally posted by Highway Donkey
Highschool and anything associated with it = complete bullshit and a waste of time. The end.


Words to live by...

[takingbackrufio]

Originally posted by para ser libre
JUST HAVE FUN Exactly. If you fall in love in high school, 99.9% get their hearts broken in the end.

[nards228]

You should only be in a high school relationship if you and your partner are mature enough to handle a relationship. That means that you're free to be yourself and your partner is free to be himself/herself as well.

A relationship shouldn't change you. It should accent, highlight, or bring out better parts of you. And don't spend a gazillion hours on the phone, don't lose all your friends, and don't suck face publicly. Those are all wrong.



Rennard

[Emopunk3]

Maybe people writing in this thread should be out of high school before they answer this.

Personally, I started dating my boyfriend senior year of highschool. Then we both went off to seperate colleges. Now we're in our sophomore year of college, still dating, and going on two + a half years. I love him with all of my heart and I can't imagine life without him.

I think if you meet the right person in high school, it can work. But a lot of you go out with someone in HS to establish the "boyfriend/girlfriend" title, which is silly.

But yeah, either way, HS is not a complete waste of time. Yes the stupid groups suck, the rules suck, and whatever. But once you're older, you'll realize you met friends that you'll have for the rest of your life, and in my case, hopefully my future husband.

Just don't make assumptions when you haven't been in the situation yourself. Personally, if people can't survive long-distance relationships, then they would never survive as a couple together.

To that dude w/the girlfriend who he met online>> I think it's awesome you met her like that, and that you guys have been able to work it out. Talk to your parents about the phone thing, you shouldn't let them control your life like that, especially if you are 17 right now like you say. But...I know how that is, just keep working on them, it'll get better.

[Emopunk3]

Originally posted by nards228
You should only be in a high school relationship if you and your partner are mature enough to handle a relationship. That means that you're free to be yourself and your partner is free to be himself/herself as well.

A relationship shouldn't change you. It should accent, highlight, or bring out better parts of you. And don't spend a gazillion hours on the phone, don't lose all your friends, and don't suck face publicly. Those are all wrong.

lol, I think you said that perfectly. I like the part about sucking face publicly....haha, that is pretty annoying. But I also know how it is when you haven't seen your sig. other in 4-5 weeks, you could really care less about what other people think about you. Just my thoughts.

[LessThanJade]

waste of time. go out and have fun dont be tied down

[richter915]

Originally posted by LessThanJade
waste of time. go out and have fun dont be tied down
but what if you are having fun in your relationship? if teenagers had relationships like that and were mature enough to handle if it ended at the end of hs for one reason or another...it's fine. I just think too many teens just date cause of peer pressure and what they see around them...we feel that the only way to be happy sometimes is being with someone...or getting drunk a lot...I dunno, it's better to wait.

[CesLeft</3x86]

every high school relationship ends badly, unless u get lucky, which you wont, so give up.

[Sk8terPunk3]

well spoken Dr. Phil ... (no offense) ...

Well, thank you. The thing is I met her online first, then we hung out a couple of times and ya that's how it is. People don't like that and don't think it's authentic...it really sucks when people think your relationship isn't real. I can't even call her on the phone...my parents don't like her and don't let me talk to her.

i know exactly what u mean:) , but if u can, find out why your parents dont like her and then let them see how insignifigent their reasons are (and in parent's case, the reason usually is :dead: ). After that make them realize that even if THEY dont like her, YOU do and if they resect you in any way, they should respect her too. They might just let u guys talk on the phone, but if they dont, say ur talking to Elizabeth :) (me...yay!)

[suckmyacoustic]

hmm...its not if highschool relationships are dumb or not..its who the people are that are in the relationships. i mean you could have a total dumbass boyfriend or girlfriend in highschool and we're telling you that high school reationships are great and shit... so if the right person comes along take chance. dont listen to anyone else's opinon..besides this is what high school is for. get some experience in your life and figure out what kind of people u like and what kind of people you dont like!


...haha whoah i didnt think i would write a novel about this.
*Christine*

[LessThanJade]

Originally posted by richter915
but what if you are having fun in your relationship? if teenagers had relationships like that and were mature enough to handle if it ended at the end of hs for one reason or another...it's fine. I just think too many teens just date cause of peer pressure and what they see around them...we feel that the only way to be happy sometimes is being with someone...or getting drunk a lot...I dunno, it's better to wait.

if your having fun in your relationship then so be it. just basically a relationship in high school can cause problems and feel the need to be tied down. why have that when you can make memories with friends and have all the fun you want and not have to worry about your significant other at all times.? a relationship can also stall ur life as to going on to bigger and better things because u dont want to leave "the other" and u stay home instead of moving on to college...or something

[Sk8terPunk3]

:huh: have any of you guys realized that this is more of a debate over high school than anything. i really dont see a differnce from a middle school relationship, a high school one and a college one. u cant say its because of the sexual advances or any of that because thats WAY different for everyone. if ur in love, than nothing else, especially this kind of stuff, should get in between you two. maybe you guys are just talking from personal experences.......maybe......?;)