is it worth my time?

[mirtizzle]

yay for me, i met a really great guy.
what sucks is that he's only here for another eight months or so to finish school. then he's moving back to oregon.
clear across the fucking continental united states...
so his deal right now is that he doesn't date.. he doesn't want to get involved in anything because he doesn't want to hurt anyone in the long run.
which i totally understand, it's sort of like the predicament i got into right before i went off to college.... but i just want to be completely selfish and still be with him..
the thing is, we pretty much act like we're dating, but we're not. and i'm cool with the no-label thing, i don't really give a shit, but i'm constantly thinking, does this mean i can see other guys? if i see him with another girl does that give me a right to be angry?
and i realize these are all things i should say to him, but i'm not really sure how to bring it up or what to say without feeling like i'm being pushy about the whole relationship thing or what. i just wish i knew where i stood thus far. so.. guys give me a little insight here.. how can i approach this thing without sounding like a whiny bitch going "look, are we 'official' or not?"

[Highway Donkey]

Sex for 8 months, then move on.

[Touched]

Yea it's worth it, he could be the one.

[meredith smells]

He doesn't like to take chances? What fun is that?

Maybe tell him you want to spend as much time with him for the next 8 months, because you never know if you will see each other again. And also tell him that because you know he doesn't want to date/hurt anybody, then you are free to see whomever you wish to.

If you don't spend any time with him, will you miss him? If this situation is stressing you out, maybe the best thing is to distance yourself and find other people to hang out with.

options:
1. talk to him about what you are feeling
2. don't talk to him about what you're feeling and remain confused and have to get advice on AP again

I think you know which one is right ;)

[richter915]

you will go crazy when you see him with other girls...you will feel guilty for being with other guys...either talk to him and decide to go for it (long distance relationship) or end it quick and painless. the longer you wait the harder it'll be.

[xnotedgex]

forget him...we have the artbar!!!...;) ....

anyway, stress isn't a good thing...you should tell him what you want and if he's not ok with that then you shouldn't be together...simple

[takingbackrufio]

Originally posted by Highway Donkey
Sex for 8 months, then move on. So romantic and insightful.

[ladycobra]

Originally posted by meredith smells
He doesn't like to take chances? What fun is that?

Maybe tell him you want to spend as much time with him for the next 8 months, because you never know if you will see each other again. And also tell him that because you know he doesn't want to date/hurt anybody, then you are free to see whomever you wish to.

If you don't spend any time with him, will you miss him? If this situation is stressing you out, maybe the best thing is to distance yourself and find other people to hang out with.

options:
1. talk to him about what you are feeling
2. don't talk to him about what you're feeling and remain confused and have to get advice on AP again

I think you know which one is right ;)


talk to him!
:cool:

[suckmyacoustic]

take a chance