dazed and confused

[SC0926]

ok, so im sorta confused. ive been seeing this guy for like over 4 months now..and everything is like really awesome. we act as if we are going out(if it makes a difference, im 19, hes 24). he buys me things, takes me out all the time..we spend a lot of time together...but he doesnt want to go out, as in be boyfriend and girlfriend..basically he doesnt want to "settle down" or so he says. my friends say move on cuse no one just sees each other for almost 5 months? should i, or shouldnt i? i just dont know what to do..cuse at first, it didnt bother me, but lately it has...i always think well, he could be with someone else right now, and i really dont want him to be. i really like the guy..and want to settle a little...but in the back of my mind, im thinking, maybe hes just using me for ass, even though he says he cares about me.. alright im done. thanks for the help in advance

[mwhpunk]

if you don't wanna do this or not, just give it a try...... go 2 weeks w/ out doing anything sumwhat sexualy to see if that's all he cares about. just a suggestion... i could be WAY off (i'm only 16)

[SC0926]

Originally posted by mwhpunk
if you don't wanna do this or not, just give it a try...... go 2 weeks w/ out doing anything sumwhat sexualy to see if that's all he cares about. just a suggestion... i could be WAY off (i'm only 16)
ive actually done that...and hes still around...but theres always something in the back of my mind that maybe hes seeing someone else...and hes said..only when drunk that hes sort of afraid of commitment..so should i stay?

[mwhpunk]

break it off.... it'd be good for you both. if it is truely meant to be you'll both wait a few weeks and realize that you both need each other.

[justbadnews8]

My best advice would be to drop (as in like back off) the guy. He seems like a nice dude and all but personally I think he's just using you. Just don't let him take control of you like that. If he starts to do anything tell him to stop. Or if you want to be daring, maybe just ask him straight up why he chooses to not go out and find that REAL reason. Whatever the outcome may be, I hope it suits you well...

[LessThanJade]

i agree...with the wait out for a week or two or so. if it was really meant to be you two will eventually start talking again and maybe he wil certainly realize that he does need you and know he needs to commit and stop "fooling" around.

[SC0926]

Originally posted by LessThanJade
i agree...with the wait out for a week or two or so. if it was really meant to be you two will eventually start talking again and maybe he wil certainly realize that he does need you and know he needs to commit and stop "fooling" around.
i think im just gonna be gusty and ask him whats up with him not wanting to, and if its not something i like, than ill say we need a break for a little bit, and if it works out, than it does, and if it doesnt, than it doesnt....it would really suck if it didnt work cuse i really like this one, but im used to get fucked over unfortunatly...thanks guys

[vizo]

yeah, i got to this last post and was wondering why you just haven't talked it out with him. one thing: communication. i just got out of a year long relationship and i must admit that i fucked up by not communicating. it would have done wonders if i had talked a bit more about how i felt, and the last thing you want is things to get worse. but in your case, it's either a yes or no resolution. good luck.

[SC0926]

ok, so everything is good now, were going out and the such....thanks for everyones advice..but lol i feel like shit now...cuse of course we bought each other Christmas gifts and he bought me like THE coolest present a girl could ask for..and WAY over what I spended(I spended about 60, he spent about 130) i feel horrible!!!

[vizo]

well that's awesome. good luck in the future. don't worry about the money spent--you can't buy love, instead you show it. :P

[SC0926]

Originally posted by vizo
well that's awesome. good luck in the future. don't worry about the money spent--you can't buy love, instead you show it. :P
lol thanks...i know the money cant buy love and things...i still feel bad, hes always gotten me really nice stuff, and i get him really nice stuff too, just not as much..ah well..thats what he gets for dating a college student i suppose

[vizo]

yeah, i understand. i went through a whole year buying things for my ex and then one day, poof--it's all over.

[mwhpunk]

Originally posted by SC0926
lol thanks...i know the money cant buy love and things...i still feel bad, hes always gotten me really nice stuff, and i get him really nice stuff too, just not as much..ah well..thats what he gets for dating a college student i suppose

how old are both of you?

[SC0926]

Originally posted by mwhpunk
how old are both of you? im 19, hes 24

[vizo]

him dating a college student? is he done with college?