Is this wrong?

[13th hour]

So, it seems that Ive started up a new romance if you will. Shes a great girl, totally awesome, and I really really like her. Unfortunately, she is the drummer in my bands ex girlfriend, and they broke up about a month ago... Ive told him Ive hung out with her a few times, but he doesnt know were... whatever. Is this wrong?

[angie710]

Hmmmm... Well, I dont see why it would be wrong, so long as they arent together anymore...

You should be honest with him right from the start so he dosent feel like you're trying to hide anything...

[AlwaysPunkin45]

uh, no?

[13th hour]

Originally posted by angie710
Hmmmm... Well, I dont see why it would be wrong, so long as they arent together anymore...

You should be honest with him right from the start so he dosent feel like you're trying to hide anything...

good advice thanks dearie.

[mOvielife99]

he shouldn't have a right to me mad, he lost her

[richter915]

Originally posted by mOvielife99
he shouldn't have a right to me mad, he lost her
indeed, but he will be mad cause he lost her and now you have her, try and talk to him I guess.

[milkeh]

I would never go out with one of my friend's ex's, but that's just me.

Do what ya want

[DonnieDarko]

Originally posted by milkeh
I would never go out with one of my friend's ex's, but that's just me.

Do what ya want


good call, i have a rule where i just think it's wrong, i couldn't do it, unless it was just some one week thing where nothing happened. then i could go for her, but other than that, my rule stands.

[angie710]

Valid points, but you cant help who you like sometimes... Why miss out on something that could be great? As long as he's honest and up front, there shouldnt be a problem...

[LessThanJade]

yeah i think so too. tell him straight up and if it does hurt him somehow dont risk your band and friendship over a girl.

[FarPastGone]

I went out with one of my best friends girl friend (still am actually) after they broke up, and instead of gonig behind his back and stuff I just flat out asked him if he cared or not if I did (not like I wouldn't have if he would have said no), but just to kind of let him know that it was gonna happen, and (feel like) I cared about what he said. One thing though that he might do (cause my friend does it now, I think its jealousy because the girl he dumped her for cheated on him and isn't close to being as hott, so this may not happen with you) is act like he could have her back anyday if he wanted too (in front of people this is), like bringing up stuff that happened while they were going out (im not saying like sexual stuff, (he couldnt anyways cause nothing happened between them), but just things that showed they liked each other and what now, trying to make you feel dum or something.

[soreloser]

just from being in the position of the boy who's ex gf went out with his best friend, it's not a good feeling. and you kind of want your friend to be behind you and not on the girls side. i was really upset with this guy for going out with my ex, i did not speak to him for quite some while... so you might want to really think long and hard if this very slim possibility of a long term girlfriend is worth ruining a friendship that could last forever. but i honestly think all you're looking for on this thread is reassurance that it's alright to go out with the girl so that you won't feel bad about doing it. either way.... i hope you atleast think a bit about what i said. see you later.

[dretti]

she's all yours...

i don't see anything wrong with it.

[jgirv17]

All I can ask is --

What is more important to you: a friend or a girl? Because you might end up losing one for the other.

[takingbackrufio]

Originally posted by jgirv17
All I can ask is --

What is more important to you: a friend or a girl? Because you might end up losing one for the other. Couldn't have said it better myself.

[Frodo]

Originally posted by DonnieDarko
good call, i have a rule where i just think it's wrong, i couldn't do it, unless it was just some one week thing where nothing happened. then i could go for her, but other than that, my rule stands.

yeah, its kind of a low thing to do. id ask if hes ok with it first...or just do it...whatever i dont care i dont know why i even replied

[Lueda Alia]

there's nothing really wrong with it, but yeah I agree with Angie, you should tell your friend. And since you and her are already an "item", and its too late now to ask him first if he's ok with you dating her or whatever, I think you should just tell him at least. He'll prolly say its okay anyway, even if its not, but yeah, it'll be better in the long run if he knows. right now. from you. :)

[steveo1022]

u can have her, just tell him out of curtosey, but dont 4get "alls fair in love and war" and sum1 b4 said "which is more important a friend or a girl" well that girl might just b the 1, u never kno... good luck with the whole thing

[towhatend]

isn't there a personal life forum for this?

[Sensesfail187]

nope. nothing wwrong with that

[PrEtTynPuNkRoCk]

Theres nothing wrong with that, but you need to be honest with your friend and tell him... he will eventually find out and its better coming from you...

[BigD]

i am friendly to my friends gf's... but once they break up, they are dead to me.

Originally posted by milkeh
I would never go out with one of my friend's ex's, but that's just me.

Do what ya want