hell of a deal...

[punk rock angel]

the other night my bf was tellling me that he was planning something that he was gonna do in 18 months. he said that there was a good thing and a bad thing. so my bf told me that in 18 months( which is when he turns 18) if everything goes good between us he will ask me 2 marry him but if i break up w/him or cheat on him or something like that he is going 2 kill himself.and i know he'll do it.

i dont know wut to think of this. i do really love him alot but i cant break up w/him now, i woud be a murderer or something.

can u all tell me wut u think please. thanx.

[punk rock angel]

oh ya i forgot to mention that he has a baby. and i hate that.

[Milonater]

You, my dear, need to get this deranged lunatic some help, and then realize that unless you're 18 or over, you're kinda asking for something like this when you date a guy with a kid.

I feel sad for you in your situation.

[SC0926]

oh man....sweetie..he needs to get some kind of help, if he says hes going to kill himself if he doesn't marry you. that is a bit unsafe..seeing as how you guys are young as hell. plus he has a kid! there is a chance that he will kill himself and leave his kid with no father! how terrible. i think you need to just say lets just take things from where they are..and tell him that suicide is NOT the answer for anything.

[punklet2101]

Yeah .. what everyone else said.

You need to be telling someone other than kids on the internet .. there's only so much help we can give on a forum, and that's support. You need to get some bigger help

[Mosh2Punk57]

I think that you should definitely sit down and talk to him about this whole killing himself thing. it shows that he is in very deep love with you but if your both love each other then you should tell each other when things are bothering you and obviously this bothers you so sit down and tell him that it does and tell him how much you truly love him......i hope this helps :D

[punk rock angel]

thanx guys. this is really goin 2 make me think alot more about all of this. but i still dont know wut to do. thanx a bunch.

[popdisaster530]

Shit, thats terrible

[Highway Donkey]

Getting married when your 18 and killing yourself... aren't they basically the same thing?

[MaybeOneDay]

Ok, holy shit...i'm going to tell you the truth, your boyfriend sounds like a fucking lunatic. Get this guy some help. If he would kill himself over a girl, no matter how MUCH you mean to him...taking your own life away over something that could happen between you is just insane. Before you do anything, talk to him, and get him some help. Councilling...just, get him help. And then, once that is done, think about where you really want this relationship to go. If you want to stay with him, after he has gotten help and everything (and you're sure he won't ever say he's going to kill himself again), then stay with him. But if you don't think he's the right guy after those 18 months or whatever, leave him. But, if you want to end it, leave him ONLY if you are 100% sure he won't do anything stupid to himself. Anyways, I hope things work out for you. Good luck.

[BuriedAlive]

Originally posted by Highway Donkey
Getting married when your 18 and killing yourself... aren't they basically the same thing?

probably the smartest thing said in the thread. its so true.

[takingbackrufio]

Originally posted by Milonater
You, my dear, need to get this deranged lunatic some help, and then realize that unless you're 18 or over, you're kinda asking for something like this when you date a guy with a kid.

I feel sad for you in your situation. If I were to say anything, I think I'd say something along those lines, and along the lines of what everybody else has been advising.

But, I'm too scared to fuck up in giving my own advice, because that would be terrible. To tell you the truth, this is a scary situation. Scary as hell.

[sweetsugar]

he's obviously not stable.......or he's an asshole that wants to trap you