abusive relationships

[_amelia]

my sister has been going out with this douche bag for the past seven months. he has never treated her with any respect whatsoever. i've put up with him for a long time now, but when i saw my sister walk into the house the other night covered in scrapes and bleeding, i knew i'd had the last of it, and i thought she did too.

what ended up happening was after the two got into another stupid fight, my sister thought it would be good to go and try to sort things out. when my sister showed up and got out of her car, and he flipped. he basically beat the shit out of her. i won't go into any more details, but after staying up with her all night, she promised me that they'd be over and she wouldn't see him again. as of today, they're back together. i don't know what to do or say to her. also, i promised that i wouldn't tell anyone, but i can't let someone who i care so much about go through this. what should i do?

[anamericangod]

How old is your sister?

Tell your parents, or find somebody to kill the guy.

[Smash Adams]

did your sister bake him a pie? you should read the bible, it tells you how people should follow covenants and how it leads to rainbows, well man and woman have a covenant and if the bitch breaks it she should be slapped

[_amelia]

she's eighteen, and i have plenty of people who are willing to beat the shit out of him. she won't let them. i keep telling her that if he does it once, he's bound to do it again, but she won't listen. somehow he got her thinking that it's all her fault and that she deserved it.

[argg_xo]

get a restraining order against the dude.

[anamericangod]

So basically your sister is a classic victim.

Sorry, this doesn't end well. Maybe tune into Lifetime to get some tips and tricks.

[Dan Hollister]

Get the authorities involved or something. Seriously, fighting back and getting some buddies to kick the guy's ass is not a good idea. Get your sister some sort of help, or tell someone who has the ability to step in. It's not a popular choice, but it's the right choice.

[loj]

Get the authorities involved or something. Seriously, fighting back and getting some buddies to kick the guy's ass is not a good idea. Get your sister some sort of help, or tell someone who has the ability to step in. It's not a popular choice, but it's the right choice.

seconded. a physical response may just make things worse.

[HelpMeSleep]

Get the authorities involved or something. Seriously, fighting back and getting some buddies to kick the guy's ass is not a good idea. Get your sister some sort of help, or tell someone who has the ability to step in. It's not a popular choice, but it's the right choice.
i agree. you need someone with authority to step in here. it's beyond where there's really anything you can do to help other than finding other people to help.

[FallenAngel117]

Get the authorities involved or something. Seriously, fighting back and getting some buddies to kick the guy's ass is not a good idea. Get your sister some sort of help, or tell someone who has the ability to step in. It's not a popular choice, but it's the right choice.

agreed, surely your parents could do something even. mine would have been trying anyway X-)

[summer skin]

my sister has been going out with this douche bag for the past seven months. he has never treated her with any respect whatsoever. i've put up with him for a long time now, but when i saw my sister walk into the house the other night covered in scrapes and bleeding, i knew i'd had the last of it, and i thought she did too.

what ended up happening was after the two got into another stupid fight, my sister thought it would be good to go and try to sort things out. when my sister showed up and got out of her car, and he flipped. he basically beat the shit out of her. i won't go into any more details, but after staying up with her all night, she promised me that they'd be over and she wouldn't see him again. as of today, they're back together. i don't know what to do or say to her. also, i promised that i wouldn't tell anyone, but i can't let someone who i care so much about go through this. what should i do?
To be fair, the bitch wouldn't listen to me so she deserved it.

[The_kok]

anally impair him with a broken bottle

then stab him until he drowns in his own vomit/blood

[allthruwinter]

She doesn't love herself enough to leave that dickhead. I'm the product of an abusive relationship and my mom is STILL with my father. People either learn to stopliving in denial, or they stay with that person until they end up dead, or their lives are totally fucked. Hopefully she wakes up soon.

[The_kok]

you know, you could also take matters in your own hand and strap-on his dumbass

[riot_gurl]

my sister has been going out with this douche bag for the past seven months. he has never treated her with any respect whatsoever. i've put up with him for a long time now, but when i saw my sister walk into the house the other night covered in scrapes and bleeding, i knew i'd had the last of it, and i thought she did too.

what ended up happening was after the two got into another stupid fight, my sister thought it would be good to go and try to sort things out. when my sister showed up and got out of her car, and he flipped. he basically beat the shit out of her. i won't go into any more details, but after staying up with her all night, she promised me that they'd be over and she wouldn't see him again. as of today, they're back together. i don't know what to do or say to her. also, i promised that i wouldn't tell anyone, but i can't let someone who i care so much about go through this. what should i do?

that's terrible. you call call the police to report this. tell your sister that if they stay together, that he could kill her. i dont understand why your sister keeps going back to him. maybe he says that he'll kill himself or says that he loves her and needs her. that happened to my aunt and she got out the relationship right then and there. she needs to tell him that if he doesnt stop, she'll tell someone.

[Kassie09]

I have no idea why anyone puts up with that. There's no reason. Hopefully your sister will come to her senses.

[Tyler Revolution]

She's an idiot for staying with him.

[concernedparent]

haha, I hate girls sometimes. So many of them are dumb.

[pinkluv13]

been there, done that. she has to realize that shes only hurting herself. and unfortunately, thats something she has to learn herself. you telling her that hes a fucked up bastard isnt going to make her see reason. she has to do it on her own.

[thisischaos]

She'll realize that she's fucking up only her own life soon enough.

[TheSkyline]

To be fair, the bitch wouldn't listen to me so she deserved it.

Thanks for making my day.
:appl:

[Willy McFurgle]

1. Call the cops
2. Get a restraining order
3. Call the cops
4. beat dudes ass

[x0sosahley]

One of my friends was in a relationship like this but ended the relationship...but is still friends with the person. I don't get it at all and I keep telling her to stop, but she just tells me that I can't tell her who to be friends with. It's like she doesn't get that all her problems are centered around this one person and this has been going on for about a year. Do something about your sister quick, before it's too late, get the cops involved or something.

[DickfaceChillah]

I didn't read everyone's replies, so this may have been said already, but this kid has clearly brainwashed her. When under the impression of "love", someone is very fragile and easy to take advantage of. She's having delusions and looking past his terrible ways and trying to find something good, even though it's clearly obvious to her that there is nothing that can outweigh what he does. It just makes her look harder. They both need a dose of reality. What reality you and your family choose is up to you, but good luck.

[wouldubelieveme]

I agree with what someone said up ^^ there....its something shes gonna have to work out herself. You cant get a restraining order unless the girl herself is gonna follow thru with it...an if she keeps running back to him shes hardly gonna press charges...it sucks, but just keep supporting her, thats prolly the best thing you can do. I hope everything works out though & that she comes to her senses.

[James_Brand]

You live in boston. I'm sure there are more than enough people who will help you deal with the issue.

[_amelia]

thanks everyone for the advice, it has helped out a lot. this made my day:

anally impair him with a broken bottle

then stab him until he drowns in his own vomit/blood

now, i'll tell you how things have ended up so far. after they got back together, i told her that i would never speak to her again. this lasted all but ten minutes. we ended up going on a long drive to talk about the situation. i told her all the options that i had/things that i could do. it basically just ended in her screaming at me, and me in complete tears. after, she realized that she was not only hurting herself by staying with him, but also hurting those around her. last night, i believe she broke things off with him. i hope this time, their separation actually lasts.

again, thanks everyone.

[hockeyguitar99]

it sounds like the only way to stop it is to get the cops involved. if you don't do something, this doesn't end well.

[riot_gurl]

thanks everyone for the advice, it has helped out a lot. this made my day:



now, i'll tell you how things have ended up so far. after they got back together, i told her that i would never speak to her again. this lasted all but ten minutes. we ended up going on a long drive to talk about the situation. i told her all the options that i had/things that i could do. it basically just ended in her screaming at me, and me in complete tears. after, she realized that she was not only hurting herself by staying with him, but also hurting those around her. last night, i believe she broke things off with him. i hope this time, their separation actually lasts.

again, thanks everyone.

i think that she should get this dude in jail. he could've killed her!

[_amelia]

alright. never mind. disregard part of my last post. keep the advice coming...

[riot_gurl]

i dont understand why she stayed with him! what was so special about him?

[awakeohsleeper]

alright. never mind. disregard part of my last post. keep the advice coming...
Back together?

[sjb2k1]

still with the dude? you need to get your parents involved, or the cops involved. or a few friends with baseball bats involved. your sister may hate you for doing something, but at least she'll be alive and not beaten to death by some asshole.

[riot_gurl]

still with the dude? you need to get your parents involved, or the cops involved. or a few friends with baseball bats involved. your sister may hate you for doing something, but at least she'll be alive and not beaten to death by some asshole.

i hope she isnt with that son of a bitch. she'll hate you and then love you when she finds out that he is getting put away (if you do call the cops)

[nashiscash1324]

get the fudge out.

[The_kok]

still with the dude? you need to get your parents involved, or the cops involved. or a few friends with baseball bats involved. your sister may hate you for doing something, but at least she'll be alive and not beaten to death by some asshole.

or maybe she needs to go at it alone, pop his ass and bury him in a desert