what is up with copout answers [Archive]

mirtizzle

04/26/04, 12:21 PM

i'll skip sugarcoating it and just come out and say it.. i've been hooking up with this guy lately and it was totally fine until last night, when we had some really awesome conversations and i sorta found myself feeling like i may be attracted to him other than physically.
so we ended up talking about it a little, and when i asked him what he thought of the whole situation, he said, "i want to be your friend on all levels."

now what the FUCK is that supposed to mean? i hate answers like that. if you don't want to date me, that's fine, at least if you tell me that we can move on without any confusion, but don't give me a copout answer like that because it just fucks with me.

what do you guys think?

emokid2

04/26/04, 12:50 PM

that's a pretty fucked up answer. not a very honest one either.

SC0926

04/26/04, 12:59 PM

yeah, im sorry I cant help you more, but if a guy told me that, i would be JUST as confused. I dont know whats hes talking about. Best thing you can do is just ask him whats up with that answer....cuse you could take that in SO many ways

TENSOR123

04/26/04, 02:14 PM

that is weird dude. what was the exact thing you said to him before he said that?

mirtizzle

04/26/04, 02:20 PM

i told him i was afraid things were going to get complicated, and he said not to worry.. so i said, "well then you pretty much know where i stand, what about you, what are you thinking? i'm not asking you to do anything, i'm just wondering.."

TENSOR123

04/26/04, 02:47 PM

hmm that's a weirddd answer then. "i want to be your friend on all levels." i think since he mentioned the word all, that definately means that he doesn't wanna stop hooking up. but thats such a vague answer, you asked him perfectly too... that's tough. maybe try asking him again for a more clear answer, i'm not sure really. i hope everything works out okay tho. let me know how it all goes

im_random

04/26/04, 02:49 PM

I would try to help you..but I have noooo idea what he was trying to convey with that response, other than he was probably trying to avoid it altogether and therefore gave you some response he knew would make you confused. Guys are annoying like that sometimes

Mercy Medical

04/26/04, 02:52 PM

I dunno, the impression I get from that is that he still wants to keep hooking up, but doesn't want a real relationship out of things. Which is lame. :P

emokid2

04/26/04, 04:20 PM

It sounds like "Friends with privelages"

UnderCvrEmoKid

04/26/04, 05:24 PM

It sounds like "Friends with privelages"

i second that. thats exactly what it sounds like.

Heartcore

04/26/04, 06:03 PM

Oh man, I wanna be your friend on all levels, that's the biggest cop out answer ever.

worldstheory

04/26/04, 06:46 PM

All I can conclude from his answer is that he completely avoided answering your question in any way. The only way to find out what he really thinks is to try again.

failedbullets

04/26/04, 09:21 PM

I was thinking when I first read it that he was just too embarrassed to actually give a real answer. But the more I think about it, the more I think "What the fuck?" There is no possible way to get anything from that (other than of course friends with benefits, but that's not really a clear answer for that either.)

I'd ask for a better answer. That's wierd.

cristal

04/26/04, 11:53 PM

hmmm...sounds like he likes hanging out with you, wants to keep hooking up with you, but doesn't want to exactly committ to you and only you. i think perhaps he still wants the ability to possibly hook up with other girls maybe. meh, guys are weird!! :lol2:

but i wouldn't get my hopes too high with this guy. take it for what it is and have fun with it.

Love As Arson

04/27/04, 08:41 AM

Guys don't want girls that aren't sluts. You automatically become unattractive if you bring up being in a relationship with a guy you have been hooking up with.

mirtizzle

04/27/04, 11:02 AM

Guys don't want girls that aren't sluts. You automatically become unattractive if you bring up being in a relationship with a guy you have been hooking up with.

i don't know if i should take that as you making a general statement or inferring that i'm a slut... heh

Coronary Parasite

04/27/04, 12:40 PM

may i just defend her and say is she most definate not a slut

LightBlueness

04/27/04, 01:08 PM

Why didn't you just, you know, ask what he meant? Especially since you and him were having such a deep conversation or whatever. Duh?

Love As Arson

04/27/04, 03:33 PM

i don't know if i should take that as you making a general statement or inferring that i'm a slut... heh
I think you know what I meant.

In2MyHurricaine

04/27/04, 04:37 PM

hmmm friends with benefits?

Mercy Medical

04/27/04, 04:41 PM

I think you know what I meant.
I think you need to stop being an asshole....

the_bmoc

04/27/04, 06:01 PM

I want to be your friend on all levels...

Tanslation: I want to see if I can get into your pants without asking you out...

sad but oh so true

Love As Arson

04/28/04, 07:17 AM

I think you need to stop being an asshole....
If you can prove what my intent was when I made that statement then I will gladly accept your insult but you cannot so I would ask you to stop making assumptions about what I meant when I said that.

Mercy Medical

04/28/04, 09:17 AM

If you can prove what my intent was when I made that statement then I will gladly accept your insult but you cannot so I would ask you to stop making assumptions about what I meant when I said that.
Stop bullshitting around and just come out with what you meant by what you said. I'm sick of assholes like you on these stupids forums, there's enough of 'em here. We don't need anymore.

Love As Arson

04/28/04, 09:55 AM

Stop bullshitting around and just come out with what you meant by what you said. I'm sick of assholes like you on these stupids forums, there's enough of 'em here. We don't need anymore.
I don't have to explain my intent to you. From where I am standing it is you who is the asshole. You attacked me for no reason other than I made a statement that you drew your own conclusions from.

Mercy Medical

04/28/04, 10:31 AM

Love As Arson

04/28/04, 11:25 AM

No, you're being a dick by trying to start fights, arguments, whatever, but not aggressively, more so passively. I'm sick of your "I'm hot" bullshit and you're fuckin' arrogant attitude.

Sorry, maybe you're just sarcastic and I don't know you very well, but I just don't like you.
I never tried to start any type of fight or argument. You began arguing with me which would in fact make you the dick in this instance.
You mistake honesty for arrogance. That has nothing to do with me. I am merely stating how attractive that I (along with others) consider myself.
Honestly, I couldn't care less whether or not you like me but you shouldn't be commenting about the personality of another person because from what I can tell you have quite a hot temper and full of ignorance. That is a combination that doesn't mix very well. You should work on it as opposed to critiquing the supposed flaws you see in my personality.

mirtizzle

04/28/04, 11:30 AM

but i wouldn't get my hopes too high with this guy. take it for what it is and have fun with it.

yeah, that's pretty much where i'm going with the whole thing. i mean i knew what i was getting into when we started hanging out, but introducing the idea of dating into the mix is a little stressful. i just wish i could read his mind lol

I think you know what I meant.

why would i make that comment if i knew what you meant? stop being vague and just come out with it. if you think i'm a whore, i'm sorry you feel that way, but maybe you should get to know someone before making such a judgement.

Why didn't you just, you know, ask what he meant? Especially since you and him were having such a deep conversation or whatever. Duh?

it's hard to bring something up like that without coming off as being pushy, especially when i've already pressed the subject.

and thank you cj and kara for standing up for me

Mercy Medical

04/28/04, 11:36 AM

Sorry for jacking your thread andrea, that guy is just pissing me off. And that's the damn word I should've used and forgot...vague. :)

Oh, and Love As Arson, I told you in the "Post your Picture" thread to post a pic and I'll judge if you're hot or not...and yes I have had a heated temper lately for other reasons and I've overall just not in a good mood, but I still think you're arrogant. Confidence would've been a better word to use then honesty.

Love As Arson

04/29/04, 09:16 AM

Me being hot is a universal absolute.

Mercy Medical

04/29/04, 09:57 AM

Why won't you post your picture? Just post it for Pete's sake...everyone wants to see what the heck you look like since you've sat and talked abou how hot you are.

Love As Arson

04/29/04, 10:36 AM

It's not that I won't it's that I cannot. But if you really wish to know what I look like then think of Brad Pitt and multiply the hotness times a million.

worldstheory

04/29/04, 05:10 PM

I want to be your friend on all levels...

Tanslation: I want to see if I can get into your pants without asking you out...

sad but oh so true
Ha! I think you may be right.