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Roach
07/06/08, 06:37 PM
I read the thread in the General forum about Thomas Beatie, the "pregnant man" and I noticed that many users here on AP don't seem to know whats up when it comes to transgenderism, transsexuality, the difference between gender and sex, and other topics like that. I was annoyed greatly, but you'll have that...I usually just shrug and think hey, who cares if not everyone knows what the fuck a tranny is and are accepting, because that will never happen.

I am a female-to-male transsexual. I inject testosterone bi-weekly, which is prescribed by a doctor, and I have had a double-mastectomy (removal of breasts) and the surgeon also performed chest masculinization to help it look like a normal male chest. No, I have not had any genital surgery yet, but I do plan to in the future. There are mainly two options for FtM sexual assignment surgery, which is the metoidioplasty (release of the clitoris, lengthening the urethra to stand while urinating, and often a scrotoplasty is performed, essentially, when the surgery is completed, it will look like a tiny penis and balls.) and the phalloplasty (which is the creation of a full sized neo-phallus (penis) from skin taken usually from the forearm and/or stomach, and a scrotoplasty will normally be performed as well.)

I was born anatomically female. But I have always known myself as a male. I think the earliest I can remember knowing that this was how I felt was 3 years old. It's hard to explain to someone outside the experience how I just "knew" that I was really male, but I know in reality its true. I was very depressed, secretly, as a child, always wondering why the fuck I was born female. I didn't feel that way at all. I wished every night that I would wake up as a normal boy and then everything would be okay. I hated that everyone knew me as a female. It made me sick, but I didn't think there was anything I could do about it. And later on, I watched a show on Oprah with young kids who had started living as the opposite gender, and thats when I found out that what I felt was real and that I wasn't alone. There was a name for it and everything. I could actually live as the male I felt I had always been.

Now I'm 18 and my family and friends know, and fortunately for me, they have all become very accepting. I'm very lucky to have this, because I know a lot of LGBT kids sometimes get very horrible reactions from the ones they love. I feel good and hopeful about life. I know that if I was forced to live as female I would have to kill myself. But now I am who I am and I really do make it a purpose of mine to educate people about the truth of my condition, and moreso, the truth about something a lot of us fail to question, what really does make one male or female?

Feel free to ask me any questions you have, thats why I posted.

I'd also like to add that I created this account just for this post. I actually am a regular user on these forums, but I felt that posting under my normal account would cause insults towards me, and hell, maybe there would be assholes that would refuse to treat me as male if they knew the truth about the way I was born. But I know a lot of you are open minded and accepting...thats the way I would hope it would be on a punk rock forum.

0101
07/06/08, 06:45 PM
Prop to you, seriously.

CTMarshall
07/06/08, 06:50 PM
Coolness...I thought this was gonna be a thread about Transatlanticism, but it was actually a good read. Must be tough. Good luck in the future.

Roach
07/06/08, 06:56 PM
Prop to you, seriously.

yea props to me! haha, thanks.

Coolness...I thought this was gonna be a thread about Transatlanticism, but it was actually a good read. Must be tough. Good luck in the future.

Thanks man. I appreciate it.

Smash Adams
07/06/08, 08:59 PM
so you found out you were truly a man by watching Oprah?
I kid good for you sir, know off to compile a list of all the regular users who are 18 so I can figure out who you are

hockeyguitar99
07/06/08, 09:57 PM
Good for you for talking about it. A lot of people wouldn't have the guts to do that.

SauzaGold
07/06/08, 10:15 PM
i too am proud of you for sharing this. it reminds me of the time barbara walters interviewed a little boy who turned female. i believe he was about 9 and it was just heartbreaking the way he described the way he always felt as a boy, not to mention how much he got made fun of :(

keep going strong

wewascontenders
07/06/08, 10:23 PM
I had a friend when I was younger who felt the same way. I haven't talked to her much in the last few years, but I think she accepted that she is a female. Either way, the brain knows what it is. I too applaud you for this.

HelpMeSleep
07/06/08, 10:31 PM
we talked about the difference between sex and gender and transsexuality and transgenderism and everything in my social/cultural anthropology class last semester. it was actually one of the most interesting days of class. but anyway, seriously major props to you. that must have been really hard to figure out as a kid and i'm really glad everything's working out for you and that everyone's been accepting of you.

Roach
07/07/08, 08:08 AM
so you found out you were truly a man by watching Oprah?
I kid good for you sir, know off to compile a list of all the regular users who are 18 so I can figure out who you are

Ha ha...yeah, Oprah does shit to your head....

you'll never find me! mwahaha

Mskillet90
07/07/08, 08:20 AM
, but I felt that posting under my normal account would cause insults towards me, and hell, maybe there would be assholes that would refuse to treat me as male if they knew the truth about the way I was born. But I know a lot of you are open minded and accepting...thats the way I would hope it would be on a punk rock forum.


I know, right? Props for standing up for yourself.

chronomic
07/07/08, 08:30 AM
punk rock forms ftw haha

Bryant
07/07/08, 08:35 AM
Must be tough but yea, props to you!

I also have a question, my gf did a paper on a similar topic but one thing we never made clear is: Is it possible to be transgender and be homosexual?

Like, I'm assuming you like females (Good choice, haha) but is it possible for someone who feels they should have been a male but is a female to still be gay?

theliftedlorax8
07/07/08, 08:35 AM
Dude, good for you - it's awesome that your friends and family are accepting and understanding!

It sucks that you feel like you have to create a new account to be comfortable here - you shouldn't have to hide, you know?

DaveZeroZero
07/07/08, 09:01 AM
It sucks that you feel like you have to create a new account to be comfortable here - you shouldn't have to hide, you know?

Yeah, but there are definitely people who wouldn't be as sensitive on this subject, as seen by the insults towards one of the staff members a couple of weeks back about his hand.

Anyway, back on topic: good luck with the rest of the work and I'm glad that you found a way to be how you wanted to be =]

Bryant
07/07/08, 09:06 AM
Yeah, but there are definitely people who wouldn't be as sensitive on this subject, as seen by the insults towards one of the staff members a couple of weeks back about his hand.

Anyway, back on topic: good luck with the rest of the work and I'm glad that you found a way to be how you wanted to be =]

One of the Staff was insulted by a problem with his hand?

DaveZeroZero
07/07/08, 09:18 AM
One of the Staff was insulted by a problem with his hand?

Yepp.

Bryant
07/07/08, 09:25 AM
Yepp.

People on here can be pretty harsh sometimes even if it is the internet.

Like, no one could really offend me, (People have even called my music shitty and I still think they should have a right to their opinion) but when someone talks about a sensitive subject in their life and it's met with insults and disrespect, that's pretty shitty.

DaveZeroZero
07/07/08, 09:31 AM
People on here can be pretty harsh sometimes even if it is the internet.

Like, no one could really offend me, (People have even called my music shitty and I still think they should have a right to their opinion) but when someone talks about a sensitive subject in their life and it's met with insults and disrespect, that's pretty shitty.

Yeah, especially when it's something that you have absolutely no choice in.

Tyler Revolution
07/07/08, 01:28 PM
I want to know who this is so badly, haha. Not too make fun of you or anything, it's just that this is so... interesting. Cool though, hopefully everything works out for the best of you.

infamous_alias
07/07/08, 02:17 PM
Dude, you may not realize it, but you're living at least a slice of "the dream." Do you have any idea how many straight dudes out there wish they had a vagina of their own to play with?

ps, after extensive research, I'm guessing it's Die Hard

thesafeword
07/07/08, 03:29 PM
I saw a person on Oprah with only one leg, so I cut one of mine off.

Mskillet90
07/07/08, 05:21 PM
I saw a person on Oprah with only one leg, so I cut one of mine off.

Dry humor, eh?

AlternateToLife
07/07/08, 05:41 PM
I saw a person on Oprah with only one leg, so I cut one of mine off.

Clever.

:rolleyes:

thesafeword
07/08/08, 12:04 AM
No shock laughs? I'm sorry...

Angylion Gefell
07/08/08, 11:40 AM
You have my support.

saysmydoctor
07/08/08, 11:45 AM
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lol wut

Smash Adams
07/08/08, 12:50 PM
Must be tough but yea, props to you!

I also have a question, my gf did a paper on a similar topic but one thing we never made clear is: Is it possible to be transgender and be homosexual?

Like, I'm assuming you like females (Good choice, haha) but is it possible for someone who feels they should have been a male but is a female to still be gay?

bisexuality is more common in transgendered people actually, so yeah there are a lot of men who feel like lesbians out there

Bryant
07/08/08, 07:33 PM
bisexuality is more common in transgendered people actually, so yeah there are a lot of men who feel like lesbians out thereI think that's awesome, haha. Not a jab at gay guys at all, but I don't see how anyone could like dudes. Vagina's FTW.

JacquelineNancy
07/08/08, 08:33 PM
You have my respect.

Roach
07/09/08, 10:28 AM
Must be tough but yea, props to you!

I also have a question, my gf did a paper on a similar topic but one thing we never made clear is: Is it possible to be transgender and be homosexual?

Like, I'm assuming you like females (Good choice, haha) but is it possible for someone who feels they should have been a male but is a female to still be gay?


Thanks dude. And yeah, since gender identity and sexual orientation are seperate factors, there are alot of trans people who identify as gay or bisexual. One of the first books I read was written by an FtM who was gay. While living as a woman, he was always with men, but he always knew it just wasnt who he was. He wanted his lovers to view him as a man sexually. And alot of transwomen are lesbians as well. Ha ha, they don't even need to spend 100 bucks on a strap on!

And yes i do love females.

Dude, you may not realize it, but you're living at least a slice of "the dream." Do you have any idea how many straight dudes out there wish they had a vagina of their own to play with?

ps, after extensive research, I'm guessing it's Die Hard


The dream, eh? I suppose I never looked at it like that. Thats pretty fucking funny. I should go play with it now...:jackoff: And I guess a pro to having one is that I understand my female partners a lot more. They are normally very appreciative of this.

and no, I am not Die Hard. And I promise, if anyone actually guessed right on who I was, I'd be honest I guess. Better go do your research kids.

DaveZeroZero
07/09/08, 11:37 AM
The dream, eh? I suppose I never looked at it like that. Thats pretty fucking funny. I should go play with it now...:jackoff: And I guess a pro to having one is that I understand my female partners a lot more. They are normally very appreciative of this.

and no, I am not Die Hard. And I promise, if anyone actually guessed right on who I was, I'd be honest I guess. Better go do your research kids.

In which case, if we provide an exhaustive list of every user with over 1000 posts, will you correctly identify yourself?