Racism in the family

[Ruki Katiakicz]

My parents and all of my grandparents are racists. It really sickens me that I have to share a bloodline and that I"m even related to these people... It's sad. So I was just wondering if anyone else had this problem and how they deal with it.


If you have a racist friend
Now is the time, now is the time
For your friendship to end...

[lovely864md]

Don't talk about race issues with them. You can't change them, just be glad that you are enlightened enough to not be the same way.

[Burning Star IV]

When they grew up, being a racist wasn't frowned upon like it is now.

[Ruki Katiakicz]

I don't, well, I did when I was way younger admittedly, a long time ago.. I guess I'm just torn apart in that fact, if it was just a friend it wouldn't matter that much since we aren't related... but yeah. =\

[Mitch]

All of my friends, except for one, are racist. My whole family is, as well.

It's truly sickening.

[lovely864md]

I live in a town of .73% black people. There's a shitton of racists here, I just ignore it and move on with my life.

[Bryant]

Luckily, I didn't know what racism was until I got older.

[Burning Star IV]

Racism towards First Nations is pretty common around here.

[Bryant]

What's Canada?

[Mskillet90]

My parents and all of my grandparents are racists. It really sickens me that I have to share a bloodline and that I"m even related to these people... It's sad. So I was just wondering if anyone else had this problem and how they deal with it.



I'm sorry to hear this. Fortunately I don't have this problem, but I would jsut ignore it and move on with life. THEY need to make the conscious decision to change themselves, and until they do that, there's not much that you can really do.

[theguy77]

i know what it's like on both sides. one of my best friends' parents are racist. mind you i'm well spoken, well-mannered, well-educated, and just plainly dont act or even look like a thug, but i went to her house once and they said "get that n***** out of my house, what would your grandparents think?" and she got into a huge fight with them because of that. i was fucking pissed and just dumbfounded by their ignorance and judgement but i mean her parents are great parents to her, very supportive, love her entirely, have always kept a good relationship, and i cant expect her to sever any ties with them for me. its just something you have to try to avoid as well as you can.

at the same time, most of my friends and especially my dad are homophobes, like my dad would probably disown me if i was gay and doesnt get the concept of a gay joke etc. etc. im not homosexual myself, but i mean whenever their prejudice comes up i do try to talk to them about it, about how homosexuality is not a choice or a rebellion or a fashion statement, its the way they turn out. and to my religious friends i tell them if it even is a sin and not just a clause put in the bible by a human, its no greater of a sin than lying which they are undeniably guilty of from time to time, and its not their place to judge anyway. but its not at all something im willing to readily give up every other part of my friendship with them about, especially considering im not even really friends with any gay people theyve come in contact with.

[Bryant]

i know what it's like on both sides. one of my best friends' parents are racist. mind you i'm well spoken, well-mannered, well-educated, and just plainly dont act or even look like a thug, but i went to her house once and they said "get that n***** out of my house, what would your grandparents think?" and she got into a huge fight with them because of that. i was fucking pissed and just dumbfounded by their ignorance and judgement but i mean her parents are great parents to her, very supportive, love her entirely, have always kept a good relationship, and i cant expect her to sever any ties with them for me. its just something you have to try to avoid as well as you can.

at the same time, most of my friends and especially my dad are homophobes, like my dad would probably disown me if i was gay and doesnt get the concept of a gay joke etc. etc. im not homosexual myself, but i mean whenever their prejudice comes up i do try to talk to them about it, about how homosexuality is not a choice or a rebellion or a fashion statement, its the way they turn out. and to my religious friends i tell them if it even is a sin and not just a clause put in the bible by a human, its no greater of a sin than lying which they are undeniably guilty of from time to time, and its not their place to judge anyway. but its not at all something im willing to readily give up every other part of my friendship with them about, especially considering im not even really friends with any gay people theyve come in contact with.

Wow, I respect you for the self-control. I think I would've acted differently.

[theguy77]

Wow, I respect you for the self-control. I think I would've acted differently.

i was tempted but honestly if you think about it one of the stereotypes of minorities, especially those with african american in them, is that they're violent and have short tempers, and it's counter-productive to act out and prove that stereotype, that only perpetuates their views. theres really no need to stoop to that level, just let the ignorant be ignorant and be happy you're not that low.

[Cure4commoncold]

My dads a pastor and he's always frowning upon homosexuality because the Bible says it's a sin I think it's bulllllshiiiit. I however never skip a chance to broadcast to everyone how much I care about gay rights and how much I support them. I told my dad once I move I'm going to march in a gay rights parade and then come back home and tell everyone in his church when they ask me what I had been doing. I'm not racist, and none of my family is. I know a lot of racist people though and I have a jewish friend who went through hell in high school. Do any of you know people who are like really intolerant of other religious views besides their own???

[Mskillet90]

i was tempted but honestly if you think about it one of the stereotypes of minorities, especially those with african american in them, is that they're violent and have short tempers, and it's counter-productive to act out and prove that stereotype, that only perpetuates their views. theres really no need to stoop to that level, just let the ignorant be ignorant and be happy you're not that low.

I really respect your amount of self-control as well. Thanks for sharing that!

[Chris Fallon]

Don't talk about race issues with them. You can't change them, just be glad that you are enlightened enough to not be the same way.
:nod:

[lovely864md]

:nod:

Hey you there. Am too lazy to PM you back right now and am about to go out. But it's coming.

[Chris Fallon]

Hey you there. Am too lazy to PM you back right now and am about to go out. But it's coming.
It's all good. Where ya goin?

[Bryant]

i was tempted but honestly if you think about it one of the stereotypes of minorities, especially those with african american in them, is that they're violent and have short tempers, and it's counter-productive to act out and prove that stereotype, that only perpetuates their views. theres really no need to stoop to that level, just let the ignorant be ignorant and be happy you're not that low.

Yea, I know what you mean. I'll keep that in mind if I face that problem.

[lovely864md]

It's all good. Where ya goin?

Pool! And then back to my friend's house for the night. Isn't it strange when I have a life?

[Chris Fallon]

Pool! And then back to my friend's house for the night. Isn't it strange when I have a life?
Nah, you're popular. You have more of a life than I do! I want to go swimming, that sounds nice. Sounds like a fun day to me!

[lovely864md]

Nah, you're popular. You have more of a life than I do! I want to go swimming, that sounds nice. Sounds like a fun day to me!

Popular! Oh silly Chris with your crazy ideas. Old age is rotting your brain.

[Chris Fallon]

Popular! Oh silly Chris with your crazy ideas. Old age is rotting your brain.
NONSENSE! The world loves Mary more than you know. Watch - you're gonna be turning heads at the pool.

Just watch out for those old guys with hairy backs wearing bathing suits that fit them when they were 100 pounds thinner

[Getup and Dance]

Chris, Active the old Personal life chat threads

[Chris Fallon]

Chat threads mean I have to keep up, which is too much work!

[Getup and Dance]

Chat threads mean I have to keep up, which is too much work!

Fine, I will drive to E-burg tonight and do it myself, then we can get drunk.

[lovely864md]

NONSENSE! The world loves Mary more than you know. Watch - you're gonna be turning heads at the pool.

Just watch out for those old guys with hairy backs wearing bathing suits that fit them when they were 100 pounds thinner

I didn't know you were in Rochester.

[Chris Fallon]

Fine, I will drive to E-burg tonight and do it myself, then we can get drunk.
Haha oh boy, I think after this weekend, I'll have to take a break for the week haha - you have a good 4th man?

I didn't know you were in Rochester.
M-(

I'm sensitive about my weight problem and hairy back.

While I'm here, can I crash on your couch?

[lovely864md]

Haha oh boy, I think after this weekend, I'll have to take a break for the week haha - you have a good 4th man?


M-(

I'm sensitive about my weight problem and hairy back.

While I'm here, can I crash on your couch?

Suuuure I won't get you drunk and stuff you in my closet for laughs.

[thedondeluge]

my dad's girlfriend was racist towards my girlfriend who is half and half which pretty much ended in her moving out.

[Getup and Dance]

Haha oh boy, I think after this weekend, I'll have to take a break for the week haha - you have a good 4th man?


Drank heavily in Marysville, the liquor store on the reservation is a weird one, everyone was there buying a crapload of booze.

[drewziph]

racism... so outdated.

[Tyler Revolution]

My parents and all of my grandparents are racists. It really sickens me that I have to share a bloodline and that I"m even related to these people... It's sad. So I was just wondering if anyone else had this problem and how they deal with it.


If you have a racist friend
Now is the time, now is the time
For your friendship to end...

Kill your family, and have sex with each of their corpses. Afterwards, eat them. That'll show them.

[grabyourguns]

my guitarist is black, and his (now ex) broke up/had to break up with him because apparently her dad has a problem with black people. Its really unfortunate to see this still present in society.

Also, i work construction as a summer job, and one of the guys i work with has "white power" on the inside of his biceps, a swastika on his knee, and a fully decked out in sheet ku klux klan member tattooed on the back of his calf. sickening

[Chris Fallon]

Suuuure I won't get you drunk and stuff you in my closet for laughs.
Don't take advantage of a good, innocent and pure Christian boy like me.

Drank heavily in Marysville, the liquor store on the reservation is a weird one, everyone was there buying a crapload of booze.
Did you party at the huge casino up there? Buy any fireworks? It can be fun to go to the Sound and party on the beach up there.

[Getup and Dance]

Don't take advantage of a good, innocent and pure Christian boy like me.


Did you party at the huge casino up there? Buy any fireworks? It can be fun to go to the Sound and party on the beach up there.

We bought some cheap fireworks, Boom city was to crowded it would of took us an hour to get to the parking lot. We partied at my friends girlfriends house. They had about acre of land, beer bonged alot and drank a fifth of Jim Beam.

What did you do man?

[theguy77]

Kill your family, and have sex with each of their corpses. Afterwards, eat them. That'll show them.

jeffrey dahmer alert

[SLoT]

tell them they are wrong. move out.

[Burning Star IV]

Murder appears to be the only solution.

[sowrongitsryan]

Back when I was living in NOVA, there was no racism.
But if you went only 30 minutes or so south, people talked shit about other people and it drove me nuts.

[Bites the Dust]

why are black peoples eyes always red after sex? because of all the pepper spray

[shit stroll]

why are black peoples eyes always red after sex? because of all the pepper spray
not funny.

[Burning Star IV]

why are black peoples eyes always red after sex? because of all the pepper spray
You want this (http://www.absolutepunk.net/showthread.php?t=313961) thread.

[Mskillet90]

I'm surprised by her audacity to post something like that in a therad clearly against racism. Newayz...racism = childish and immature.

[Bites the Dust]

I gaurentee you tell anyone that joke from new jersey or the 5 boros in new York and they're bound to chuckle. I'll put money on it. Also just to put this out there, you have no idea how many town there are here where if you're not black or Spanish you'll get stabbed or shot. You could be minding your own own business one minute and being rushed into a hospital the next. And you wanna take about foolish racist jokes.

[thesafeword]

By hating them for it, you're making yourself just as bad because your singling them out because they are different than you or have a different belief than you. Did you ever think about that?

[Ruki Katiakicz]

*hugs forum for having a fine option such as multi-quote*

i know what it's like on both sides. one of my best friends' parents are racist. mind you i'm well spoken, well-mannered, well-educated, and just plainly dont act or even look like a thug, but i went to her house once and they said "get that n***** out of my house, what would your grandparents think?" and she got into a huge fight with them because of that. i was fucking pissed and just dumbfounded by their ignorance and judgement but i mean her parents are great parents to her, very supportive, love her entirely, have always kept a good relationship, and i cant expect her to sever any ties with them for me. its just something you have to try to avoid as well as you can.

at the same time, most of my friends and especially my dad are homophobes, like my dad would probably disown me if i was gay and doesnt get the concept of a gay joke etc. etc. im not homosexual myself, but i mean whenever their prejudice comes up i do try to talk to them about it, about how homosexuality is not a choice or a rebellion or a fashion statement, its the way they turn out. and to my religious friends i tell them if it even is a sin and not just a clause put in the bible by a human, its no greater of a sin than lying which they are undeniably guilty of from time to time, and its not their place to judge anyway. but its not at all something im willing to readily give up every other part of my friendship with them about, especially considering im not even really friends with any gay people theyve come in contact with.
Man.. I'm sorry about that. You could always get her to come to your house, or make her sneak out if you want to hang out. And that's such a good point, about the sinning and lying... shows how hypocritical the world is sometimes.

I'm sorry to hear this. Fortunately I don't have this problem, but I would jsut ignore it and move on with life. THEY need to make the conscious decision to change themselves, and until they do that, there's not much that you can really do.
Thanks for the support :-)

My dads a pastor and he's always frowning upon homosexuality because the Bible says it's a sin I think it's bulllllshiiiit. I however never skip a chance to broadcast to everyone how much I care about gay rights and how much I support them. I told my dad once I move I'm going to march in a gay rights parade and then come back home and tell everyone in his church when they ask me what I had been doing. I'm not racist, and none of my family is. I know a lot of racist people though and I have a jewish friend who went through hell in high school. Do any of you know people who are like really intolerant of other religious views besides their own???
That's awesome! I would love to protest and go into marches for gay rights or against racism... good luck with that, really! I hope it goes well. And, kind of, I know most of my speech class last year were probably all right-wing christians who hated the thought of seperation of church and state and atheism, if that counts.

Nah, you're popular. You have more of a life than I do! I want to go swimming, that sounds nice. Sounds like a fun day to me!
Swimming is fun, although it can be awkward when people you know from school or college or work are there... our city pool is pretty cool.

my dad's girlfriend was racist towards my girlfriend who is half and half which pretty much ended in her moving out.
That's awesome! Especially since sometimes parents can care more about their girl/boyfriends than their children... assuming his girlfriend is the one that moved out.

Kill your family, and have sex with each of their corpses. Afterwards, eat them. That'll show them.
You know what's funny is I had a feeling there's be a lot of joke replies, because of this forum... but hopefully in jest only, since racism is lame.

my guitarist is black, and his (now ex) broke up/had to break up with him because apparently her dad has a problem with black people. Its really unfortunate to see this still present in society.

Also, i work construction as a summer job, and one of the guys i work with has "white power" on the inside of his biceps, a swastika on his knee, and a fully decked out in sheet ku klux klan member tattooed on the back of his calf. sickening
URGH... that sucks hard... I'm sorry about that, really. especially if they were really in love or anything..

By hating them for it, you're making yourself just as bad because your singling them out because they are different than you or have a different belief than you. Did you ever think about that?
I don't really hate them, although I guess I'm "singling" them out... My grandmother on my dad's side, I always loved her and thought she was a real nice lady, but when I hear her talk about "those damn yankees!" or how arabians and "non-american indians" are dirty, it's kind of a downer. It's kind of sad too because you think you know someone, and I never really knew she thought this way until this year. So how I feel about her has kind of went from "nice lady" to "nice, racist lady"... I guess. What's your view on racism? And haven't you ever hated, disliked or felt uncomfortable around someone because of their views?

also I noticed your the same guy from the sell out thread.. sorry if this sounds creepy, but I just think it's awesome someone basically put into terms how I felt about that.

[thesafeword]

I don't really hate them, although I guess I'm "singling" them out... My grandmother on my dad's side, I always loved her and thought she was a real nice lady, but when I hear her talk about "those damn yankees!" or how arabians and "non-american indians" are dirty, it's kind of a downer. It's kind of sad too because you think you know someone, and I never really knew she thought this way until this year. So how I feel about her has kind of went from "nice lady" to "nice, racist lady"... I guess. What's your view on racism? And haven't you ever hated, disliked or felt uncomfortable around someone because of their views?

also I noticed your the same guy from the sell out thread.. sorry if this sounds creepy, but I just think it's awesome someone basically put into terms how I felt about that.
Yeah, I kind of know everything.

[Ruki Katiakicz]

Yeah, I kind of know everything.
So I'm guessing you're just apathetic to racism, right?

[thesafeword]

I don't really care, as long as your not taking away somebody's rights or hurting them, then I could give a fuck about somebody's views.

[AlternateToLife]

Also, i work construction as a summer job, and one of the guys i work with has "white power" on the inside of his biceps, a swastika on his knee, and a fully decked out in sheet ku klux klan member tattooed on the back of his calf. sickening

That's disgusting.

[Burning Star IV]

Hot shower!

[The_kok]

I'm related to Adolf Hitler

no joke

[Chris Fallon]

We bought some cheap fireworks, Boom city was to crowded it would of took us an hour to get to the parking lot. We partied at my friends girlfriends house. They had about acre of land, beer bonged alot and drank a fifth of Jim Beam.

What did you do man?
Went to a BBQ with a bunch of friends from work. I drank a lot, something I have not done in a while. So it felt really good to let loose and just have fun. The fireworks stands here didn't open, no clue why, so my buddy bought some and we lit a couple off - nothing too extravagant, but it was his last weekend in town for awhile so we partied hard until last night haha

Good times.

[Fallinto_rhythm]

I gaurentee you tell anyone that joke from new jersey or the 5 boros in new York and they're bound to chuckle. I'll put money on it. Also just to put this out there, you have no idea how many town there are here where if you're not black or Spanish you'll get stabbed or shot. You could be minding your own own business one minute and being rushed into a hospital the next. And you wanna take about foolish racist jokes.

that joke wasn't that funny, but I did smirk a little. It's sad about people shooting other people because it is true. You definitly do not want to be in anywhere from Elizabeth up to the Orange's at night. Camden and Trenton aren't as bad as everyone cracks them up to be, well maybe Camden. Then again I've never been in the heart of Trenton at night really.

[sandra92]

They can't forbid you for not being racist ..
Try not to talk with them about racism .. If you really have to , just show that you have your opinion and your mind made up ..

[ThemChains]

They can't forbid you for not being racist ..
Try not to talk with them about racism .. If you really have to , just show that you have your opinion and your mind made up ..

What the fuck?

[thesafeword]

They can't forbid you for not being racist ..
Try not to talk with them about racism .. If you really have to , just show that you have your opinion and your mind made up ..
Portugal. The Man

[ThemChains]

haha.

[F.O.C.U.S.]

yeah you can't change them, as sad as that is. really the best you can do is try to help the younger ones in your family understand that racism is wrong but that you can still love your family in spite of their views.

my grandma is racist, i'm not white (like her, or the rest of my family), and yet, i think that i may be the favorite grandchild. (but when she says blatantly racist things i do try to correct her and explain things to her) :shrug:

[sandra92]

What the fuck?

what ?

[Roboman]

My grandparents and dad came here from Argentina about 45 years ago, yet they complain about illegal immigrants, my grandmother hates the Chinese (she ALWAYS has to make a remark when she finds out something is made in China...she also called Chinese food "chinky food" and laughed), and I've heard my aunt complain about "spics" before, despite her parents speaking Spanish to each other 60% of the time. Oh, and my dad would probably clap if the entire Middle East erupted into a giant mushroom cloud. At least my uncle (and mom, for the most part) doesn't seem to harbor such prejudices. I love them all, but sometimes I just want to shake my head and walk away.

[HelpMeSleep]

My parents and all of my grandparents are racists. It really sickens me that I have to share a bloodline and that I"m even related to these people... It's sad. So I was just wondering if anyone else had this problem and how they deal with it.


If you have a racist friend
Now is the time, now is the time
For your friendship to end...
my family's totally racist too. and homophobic, among other things. it sucks. a lot of times i leave the dinner table feeling extremely pissed off.

[ThemChains]

If your family is racist, tell them how ignorant they are.

[thesafeword]

yeah you can't change them, as sad as that is. really the best you can do is try to help the younger ones in your family understand that racism is wrong but that you can still love your family in spite of their views.

my grandma is racist, i'm not white (like her, or the rest of my family), and yet, i think that i may be the favorite grandchild. (but when she says blatantly racist things i do try to correct her and explain things to her) :shrug:
Your grandma is racist and plays favorites? Tsk, tsk.

[ThemChains]

Your grandma is racist and plays favorites? Tsk, tsk.

I've decided that your avatar makes everything you say correct.

[thesafeword]

Nice.

[MyNameIsRoss]

Racism is still riding strong?!