how much does it really matter so someone... [Archive]

brentkid

07/07/08, 09:47 PM

Assuming they don't know how you feel? It depends.

If you're friends I can see how it'd be hard considering you wouldn't want to fuck up the friendship. At the same time, it'd suck to have to suppress how you really feel. This is assuming you mean telling someone you have feelings for on a romantic level.

I'm stuck in this situation at the moment.

LastPlaceRocks

07/07/08, 09:49 PM

I have no clue what you are asking.

Miss Heartcore

07/07/08, 10:14 PM

Telling people how you feel about them, only enables them use it against you in the future.

ThemChains

07/07/08, 10:16 PM

If you have AIDS, lie about everything.

chronomic

07/08/08, 08:02 AM

Could you re-word the question? I'm kinda not sure what you're asking.

i dont think the question even makes sense.

I have no clue what you are asking.

if you tell someone you have feelings for them, how much does it really matter to that pereson? like will it change anything?

i always hear other people say things like "dude, just tell her how you feel", and i always wonder if that even makes a difference or not.

saysmydoctor

07/08/08, 08:08 AM

Anal!

lovely864md

07/08/08, 08:35 AM

It does.

chronomic

07/08/08, 08:42 AM

It does.

so if you kinda liked a dude, and you knew he kinda liked you..and then he tells you that he actually REALLY likes you, would you then really like him?

Miss Heartcore

07/08/08, 08:49 AM

so if you kinda liked a dude, and you knew he kinda liked you..and then he tells you that he actually REALLY likes you, would you then really like him?
I've had this happen to my several times. I wouldn't say that I would then "really" like him but I'd definitely be more inclined to make time for him and hang out with him to see where it goes. I never tell the guys that I really like how I feel...I don't want to get hurt.

lovely864md

07/08/08, 08:51 AM

so if you kinda liked a dude, and you knew he kinda liked you..and then he tells you that he actually REALLY likes you, would you then really like him?

I don't like guys based on whether they like me. But if I knew that there was something to pursue then I would definitely have more interest.

disco.tetris

07/08/08, 08:55 AM

Of course it does.

Roboman

07/08/08, 09:00 AM

chronomic

07/08/08, 09:03 AM

I've had this happen to my several times. I wouldn't say that I would then "really" like him but I'd definitely be more inclined to make time for him and hang out with him to see where it goes. I never tell the guys that I really like how I feel...I don't want to get hurt.

or fuck up something that would be really bad if fucked up.

I don't like guys based on whether they like me. But if I knew that there was something to pursue then I would definitely have more interest.

yeah that's pretty much how i've always felt about it too.

chronomic

07/08/08, 09:05 AM

I told a friend of mine (who I've had a crush on for over four years on and off now) in person that she was beautiful, smart, unique, that I'd do anything for her...and she responded with, "I'm glad I'm your friend too". I took that as a rejection, but then she passed it off as if nothing had ever happened and our friendship is still fine. I don't understand this girl.

yeah that shits no good. and that's the exact situation that i would never want to happen. so i'm kinda in the same boat as you.

lovely864md

07/08/08, 09:08 AM

I told a friend of mine (who I've had a crush on for over four years on and off now) in person that she was beautiful, smart, unique, that I'd do anything for her...and she responded with, "I'm glad I'm your friend too". I took that as a rejection, but then she passed it off as if nothing had ever happened and our friendship is still fine. I don't understand this girl.

Does her name happen to start with an S?

or fuck up something that would be really bad if fucked up.

yeah that's pretty much how i've always felt about it too.

I'm one for being truthful about feelings though.

heyzombiehitler

07/08/08, 09:11 AM

Hard fucking?

Roboman

07/08/08, 09:20 AM

Does her name happen to start with an S?

Yep, and her phone is still off.

Miss Heartcore

07/08/08, 09:20 AM

or fuck up something that would be really bad if fucked up.
Exactly. I mean, once they know my true feelings, they could easily use them against me.

Besides, most relationships are only fun for the first 6 months-1year then everyone gets too serious and all the fun flirting and long conversations die out.

brentkid

07/08/08, 09:29 AM

I'm in this position right now. I don't want to make things awkward or lose a friendship because things would be too weird if this girl found out how I feel about her.

Burning Star IV

07/08/08, 09:35 AM

Pfft... women.

chronomic

07/08/08, 09:48 AM

I'm in this position right now. I don't want to make things awkward or lose a friendship because things would be too weird if this girl found out how I feel about her.

do you have any clue how she feels about you?

sandra92

07/08/08, 09:54 AM

it does .. and sometimes it's really complicated because things can change between you and that person , but it depends on the relationship of course ..

chronomic

07/08/08, 10:19 AM

i hate the 'it depends' answer cuz it answers things without really answering them haha.

althought the 'it depends' answer is usually always true...which is why it sucks.

brentkid

07/08/08, 10:28 AM

do you have any clue how she feels about you?
I can only go by the vibe I get around her. Lots of eye contact and she seems to enjoy talking to me. Beyond that I'm clueless. I could be kidding myself considering she's been hooking up with this other guy occasionally. However the three of us were at a party last night and she was giving me way more attention than him.

SLoT

07/08/08, 10:37 AM

you should always tell people how you feel about them. i tell at least four to five people an hour how much i hate them.

chronomic

07/08/08, 10:40 AM

I can only go by the vibe I get around her. Lots of eye contact and she seems to enjoy talking to me. Beyond that I'm clueless. I could be kidding myself considering she's been hooking up with this other guy occasionally. However the three of us were at a party last night and she was giving me way more attention than him.

well if def sounds like she's interested. but to what extent it's hard to know, some times a girl just likes to flirt with a guy with no attachments. eye contatct is always good tho. i guess i can say i'm in a similar situatoin as well, i'm just praying for an opportunity to make a move. i'm kind of in the 'if i do something to hasty i might ruin it'. patience blows.

chronomic

07/08/08, 10:41 AM

you should always tell people how you feel about them. i tell at least four to five people an hour how much i hate them.

haha

brentkid

07/08/08, 11:18 AM

you should always tell people how you feel about them. i tell at least four to five people an hour how much i hate them.
I chuckled.

well if def sounds like she's interested. but to what extent it's hard to know, some times a girl just likes to flirt with a guy with no attachments. eye contatct is always good tho. i guess i can say i'm in a similar situatoin as well, i'm just praying for an opportunity to make a move. i'm kind of in the 'if i do something to hasty i might ruin it'. patience blows.
Yeah, I'm hoping there's some interest since she didn't move the whole night. She could have gone and talked to someone else if she really wanted to. But that whole fear of ruining what you have sucks - I can totally relate. Hopefully in the next week or two she gives me some sort of go-ahead. Probably not though, haha.

scmaley

07/08/08, 12:36 PM

so if you kinda liked a dude, and you knew he kinda liked you..and then he tells you that he actually REALLY likes you, would you then really like him?

If I don't like a guy and he says he likes me, it makes everything awkward. If I already like him and he clarifies that he likes me too, it's he best thing ever. There is almost nothing worse than that limbo of "does he like me or doesn't he?"

chronomic

07/08/08, 12:43 PM

If I don't like a guy and he says he likes me, it makes everything awkward. If I already like him and he clarifies that he likes me too, it's he best thing ever. There is almost nothing worse than that limbo of "does he like me or doesn't he?"

see i know the girl likes me to an extent. but i'm not sure if i'd get the 'makes everything awkward' response or the 'best thing ever' one. and yes, that limbo sucks hardcore.

or she knows i like her and is why we've been able to keep up what we have, but she doesn't know HOW much i like her, which unfortunately is a lot. haha. i could write a fuckin essay on how complicated my situation is right now.

statonscarlet

07/08/08, 12:48 PM

so if you kinda liked a dude, and you knew he kinda liked you..and then he tells you that he actually REALLY likes you, would you then really like him?

I think generally when you find out a person really likes you then you start to like then more, because then instead of thinking to yourself "I think they like me", you are like, "I know they like me". And generally when the person you like for sure likes you, you start to open up more, try harder, and go for it more.

scmaley

07/08/08, 12:54 PM

see i know the girl likes me to an extent. but i'm not sure if i'd get the 'makes everything awkward' response or the 'best thing ever' one. and yes, that limbo sucks hardcore.

or she knows i like her and is why we've been able to keep up what we have, but she doesn't know HOW much i like her, which unfortunately is a lot. haha. i could write a fuckin essay on how complicated my situation is right now.

That sucks. The guys whom I've had the awkwardness with are guys who I have known as more acquaintances than good friends, so I didn't care (but I guess it was bad for them). If she's a friend and she likes you, clarifying things should probably help. It could be a relief to know that you're interested, too. Just don't go all creepy on her (which I am sure you wouldn't, since you are friends with her).
I swear I once had a guy write me a note in high school (9th grade) asking me "out" and he sent it through one of our mutual friends, but I didn't even know who he was.

chronomic

07/08/08, 02:01 PM

my situation is hightened because there is more than one girl invlolved. sometimes being a stud sucks.

i hate girls and my need to have one.

argg_xo

07/08/08, 02:06 PM

of course it matters!

Miss Heartcore

07/08/08, 02:11 PM

my situation is hightened because there is more than one girl invlolved. sometimes being a stud sucks.
:highfive: That's awesome.

chronomic

07/08/08, 02:13 PM

:highfive: That's awesome.

not when you're actually NOT a stud and don't know how to handle things

Miss Heartcore

07/08/08, 02:16 PM

not when you're actually NOT a stud and don't know how to handle things
It's easy...just go with the one who's more likely to put out.

chronomic

07/08/08, 02:19 PM

yeah booze always helps you make decicions easyer too

Miss Heartcore

07/08/08, 02:26 PM

Exactly. It makes me say the gosh darndest things.

sandra92

07/08/08, 02:27 PM

i hate the 'it depends' answer cuz it answers things without really answering them haha.

althought the 'it depends' answer is usually always true...which is why it sucks.

Ahah .. that's true .. But you know .. :P

MyNameIsRoss

07/08/08, 04:47 PM

I used to be friends with a girl I liked.

madelynn

07/08/08, 10:53 PM

I'm best friends witht the guy i like and i will never tell him i like him because the it depends thing. I mean he could like me back and we could be together or it will ruin our relationship and i would never want to fuck that up. If you tell anyone how you really feel it will change how they view you which is screwed up.

OdeToTheSun

07/09/08, 06:55 PM

now who's a fuckfag?

REVENGE!

sunuv

07/09/08, 07:18 PM

yeah booze always helps you make decicions easyer too

That's why you get HER boozed up. You want to be stone sober so you are a smooth talker, and she should be drunk. When she is sufficiently impaired, make a move on her. Have sex with her. No matter what happens from this point you are in a winning situation. If she is pregnant she is trapped with you, and if not, she will feel a closeness to you because you have had sex. Problem solved.

chronomic

07/09/08, 08:21 PM

now who's a fuckfag?

REVENGE!

haha damn you personal life forum!

That's why you get HER boozed up. You want to be stone sober so you are a smooth talker, and she should be drunk. When she is sufficiently impaired, make a move on her. Have sex with her. No matter what happens from this point you are in a winning situation. If she is pregnant she is trapped with you, and if not, she will feel a closeness to you because you have had sex. Problem solved.

hahah your thinking is unmatched by mere men.