The Sex or No Sex Debate

[the_bmoc]

I saw that alot of people on this forum are either all the way on have sex before marriage and some people are "iffy". Me? As long as its safe have fun.

How about you?

[open mind]

i used to be a total man-whore,one week i had sex with six different girls, i used to be proud of that fact, not so much anymore though.
nowadays i'm pretty conservative when it comes to my dick, i'll still have sex before i get married, but now i've gotta be with someone i give a damn about before i do.

[mirtizzle]

if a girl is doing it because she wants attention from a guy, or if a guy wants to look cool about a "number", then i think it's lame.
but if it's what you want to do and you're smart about it.. then hell. why not.

[punklet2101]

Hmm yeah. I pretty much agree with Mirtizzle.

But personally I wouldn't before I get married. But that's just me. haha

[ohlookitspaul]

i don't think premarital sex is bad. i think it's ok as long as both people know what's going on...i'm very against guys taking advantage of drunk girls and shit like that. that shit disgusts me.

[Love As Arson]

My philosophy is if you meet someone you care about then have sex with them and if you meet someone that is hot
then have sex with them.

[failedbullets]

I think it's alright if twop people love each other that much. Marriage isn't that big a deal anymore. And I totally agree with Paul, taking advantage of a drunk chick is seriously wrong.

[staylikethis]

eh...ima wait till marrige gal...

[Mercy Medical]

Well, here's where I stand. I not really down for the whole sex before marriage thing. I just see it like this...as safe as you could possibly be, there's always that slight chance of getting pregnant and I don't want to risk that. For one, I don't want kids even if I were to get married, so there's no way in hell I'd want to risk having kids before I was really capable of taking care of them. Another reason is, I just don't shell out my body like that and all those types of things are really personal to me, so I want to keep them that way for the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. So...there's basically where I stand. :)

[SC0926]

I only have sex with guys that im in a relationship with. im not for the one night stands, or just the casual thing. if im gonna have sex with someone, i want to be completely comfortable with that person, and vice versa. plus i want them to like/love me as much as i like/love them.

[im_random]

i don't think premarital sex is bad. i think it's ok as long as both people know what's going on...i'm very against guys taking advantage of drunk girls and shit like that. that shit disgusts me.

good answer, as was mirtizzle's

[The Bled 13]

I have already have sex, and I love sex.

BUT I know who I am having sex with, so it's not like I'm dating a slut, because well that is just gross.

[the_bmoc]

I might sound like a dick, but I would rather have a one nighter than do it with a significant other an have to deal with all those emotions...

ewwwww emotions

[mwhpunk]

I saw that alot of people on this forum are either all the way on have sex before marriage and some people are "iffy". Me? As long as its safe have fun.

How about you?
i've already had sex but not safely which is not cool at all. and its a terrible feeling afterwards, not knowing whats gonna happen. but if ya got somebody ya actually love then....... :wink3:

[boysdontcry]

i've made a concious decision not to stick my penis in someone's vagina. i'm only 17 and i don't need the baggage that comes with it at this point. that's not to say my little buddy hasn't experienced the joy of the opposite sex, it just hasn't explored the mystical valley of love.

edit-
i'm an idiot. :wink3:

[Mercy Medical]

i've made a concious decision not to stick my penis in someone's vagina. i'm only 17 and i don't need the baggage that comes with it at this point. that's not to say my little buddy hasn't experienced the joy of the opposite sex, it just hasn't explored the mystical valley of love.

edit-
i'm an idiot. :wink3:
You may be an idiot James, but I still love ya. :) lol

[Love As Arson]

Guys, remember that a good substitute for condoms is pulling out. Also from what I hear it turns women on when you ejaculate all over them.

[nud0]

of course sex, drugs and rock and roll

what would life be without them?

[PairADiceLost]

honestly i don't see a problem with having sex before marriage, as long as you're prepared for the consequences of that. and whether you are in a relationship or not, oh well. as long as it is what you want. i'm not one to knock on someone's beliefs. and even if someone you know goes against your beliefs by having sex, just don't knock on them for it.

[pUnKrOcKgIrL917]

Guys, remember that a good substitute for condoms is pulling out. Also from what I hear it turns women on when you ejaculate all over them.
dude, i hope you weren't being serious. on both accounts.

i'm all for sex before marriage. i'm not saying go out and try to fuck as many people as you can, but i figure it's like this. dating is trial and error, right? in order to find the person you're looking for, you have to experience as much as you can with them to be sure. you can arrive at this conclusion through comparing and contrasting. that includes sex. and if you're with someone for a while, oral sex and things of that sort can only be so fulfilling. so if you love them, then why not have sex?

[nards228]

Sex should be the physical manifestation of a loving relationship. As it usually turns out, it's self-destructive, abusive, or so full of consequences that it ends up hurting at least one person involved.

Your best bet is abstaining from sex until you're mature enough to deal with it. You may think you're "in love," but how in love will you be when it turns out that despite all your precautions with condoms, your girlfriend is pregnant?

Sex - by its nature - complicates things. You can become obsessed with sex in your relationship or you may simply move things along so fast that you become bored with your partner because you've reached "that point." I started having sex at sixteen and had a few pregnancy scares. Generally, it isn't worth it.

For the record: I'm a freshman in college right now and I still have sex. I'm not condemning people who engage in pre-martial sex to hell, I'm simply saying that I don't think many people are prepared for the consequences.



Rennard

[thexflamesxburn]

I saw that alot of people on this forum are either all the way on have sex before marriage and some people are "iffy". Me? As long as its safe have fun.

How about you?
i agree

if you're being safe, and you know you want to, then why not? if you're hungry and you want to eat a bag of chips, do you have to think about it all that much? i mean hey, it isn't healthy for you, but you don't think about it too much. i think that's how it should be for sex. as long as you are safe, and two (or more) people want to, then fuck away!

[thexflamesxburn]

dude, i hope you weren't being serious. on both accounts.

i'm all for sex before marriage. i'm not saying go out and try to fuck as many people as you can, but i figure it's like this. dating is trial and error, right? in order to find the person you're looking for, you have to experience as much as you can with them to be sure. you can arrive at this conclusion through comparing and contrasting. that includes sex. and if you're with someone for a while, oral sex and things of that sort can only be so fulfilling. so if you love them, then why not have sex?
true that homegirl :wink3:

[engravedinstars]

Save sex until you're married. It's more intense that way; both physically and emotionally. Then, you won't get an STD and if you get pregnant, you can be more prepared.

[mirtizzle]

Save sex until you're married. It's more intense that way; both physically and emotionally. Then, you won't get an STD and if you get pregnant, you can be more prepared.

yeah, if you want to get married at like 22 or something.

[swr_ben]

sex before marrige???? you could be dead long before you get romotely near marrige so just go out n have a fuck loada fun n be safe!

remember condoms can n will split lads though!

[open mind]

Save sex until you're married. It's more intense that way; both physically and emotionally. Then, you won't get an STD and if you get pregnant, you can be more prepared.
what if the sex sucks?say it turns out your wife is frigid or your man can't last more then 30 seconds then your screwed.(hey that has a double meaning :) )

[thexflamesxburn]

sex is fun

[richter915]

I agree...sex is fun. Just don't be stupid about it...that's all.

[Bishop]

Guys, remember that a good substitute for condoms is pulling out. Also from what I hear it turns women on when you ejaculate all over them.

Pulling out is not near as fun. Especially if you don't really have anything to clean up with.

Also maybe the girls in porno movies enjoy when guys ejaculate all over them, but I've never met a girl who admitted to liking that kind of stuff.

Also for the subject, I believe in being safe and such. But then again I don't want a girl who's been around the block a couple of times. And I don't believe that males should be congratulated for sleeping with lots of women, I just don't find it to be something to be proud of.

[Mr.Amphetamine]

I saw that alot of people on this forum are either all the way on have sex before marriage and some people are "iffy". Me? As long as its safe have fun.

How about you?
i can't think of anything in the world as good as sex, i can't think of a more stupid thing than getting married, it cost loads of money to get married then loads of money to get divorced, it's nothing but a fucking scam. and i'm sure god want mind if your having sex and your not married, don't listen to the bible bashers they just want people to be as unhappy as they are, my god says...."party hard people,and for fuck sake enjoy the life i have given you" yeah ...right on man !

[Raychel]

i dont believe in the whole no sex before marriage.

i dont think that sex is a huge deal. i think that the first time, there should be some feeling involved and that it should be done with someone close to you. but after that, i dont know, its just not the same.

that totally sounds bad, and maybe someone agrees with me, personally i think that people should do what they feel is right when it comes to sex.

[Ifoughtthelaw]

I strongly believe in sex before marriage, i believe you have to go out and date other people, get some experience before you marry someone, i speak almost from experience because with my first boyfriend i thought things were perfect and he wanted to marry me - but there was no chemistry between us - i would not want to go through life thinking that was the best it could be - since then i have had alot more experience and i know there is alot better out there - aslong as you are safe, then go out and find the right person

fini

[mondeoman]

My friend took this frisbee or something that said Sex can wait and added masterbate onto it. It might sound silly or immature but I'm being serious. It's a safe(r) alternative. I'm not huge into no sex before marriage but I think people should think about it before doing it. And always use protection unless you're married.

[savestheday]

I don't know about the whole sex before marriage thing. Members of the opposite sex tend to steer clear of me anyways, I've never had a relationship in my almost 18 years on this earth and only once came close, so I suppose I won't be needing to worry about it anytime soon.
One night stands and all that seem extremely unappealing to me. MMM herpes. No thank you. But if you're in a serious relationship and you're smart about it I suppose it might be worth while. I think I want to wait for someone really special, so it'll be worth while. I want sex to show someone how much I care about them, not how horny I am.

[antigirlygirl]

i think premarital sex is ok..i just kinda wish i waited alittle longer to loose my virginity..but thats really only cuz the guy i lost it to..was immature about it afterwards and told EVERYONE what we did..and i think that things liek sex should be kept private... but thats me

[starstruckposer]

I'm not a big fan of waiting until marriage but that's a personal decision that everyone needs to make. I'm not a virgin but I'm about as close to it as possible because I have only had sex one time in my entire life. We weren't dating but we were friends and I knew him really well so it wasn't a bad experience. But now that I got it out of the way and I know what to expect, I don't plan on doing it again until I'm in a relationship or at least, until I feel comfortable. It just isn't as important to me as other things, and I would rather have other aspects of a relationship established rather than focus immediately on sex. But if I feel it's right, I'll do whatever I want to do (safely). It's my body, and all the parts are functioning, so why shouldn't I enjoy myself if I feel comfortable and it's safe? It's my life :thumb:!

[charly horse]

My philosophy is if you meet someone you care about then have sex with them and if you meet someone that is hot
then have sex with them.
completely agreed. If they are hot and want to have sex with you, why not eh?

[charly horse]

i dont believe in the whole no sex before marriage.

i dont think that sex is a huge deal. i think that the first time, there should be some feeling involved and that it should be done with someone close to you. but after that, i dont know, its just not the same.

that totally sounds bad, and maybe someone agrees with me, personally i think that people should do what they feel is right when it comes to sex.
sex is not really a huge deal, its just a good deal. Sex is good, you have to admit. It really is. I believe that if you have sex with someone because you want to have sex with them, then its okay. Girls shouldn't do it to make the guys want them, do it because YOU want to.

[savestheday]

completely agreed. If they are hot and want to have sex with you, why not eh?

Herpes? AIDS? Pubic lice?
But if they're HOT then I guess that doesn't matter huh?

[Revenant]

I'm almost 18, and I waited for the right girl before I considered having sex with someone. To me, sex is is pretty much the closest you can get to another person, physically and mentally. If this sounds lame, then I guess im lame....But I'm happy with my decision, I lost my virginity to the most amazing girl in the world and didn't have to get up the next morning wondering why my cock itched, or if I got her pregnant...but to all those who love sex, do what you want. If hes cool with it, and shes cool with it,than it's sweet.

Sorry about my little ramble ^_^

[inanechild]

I'm speaking from a distant point of view here; I will probably never have sex. But I am fine with it. As long as everyone's consenting (i.e. no rape) whatever you do is fine by me.

Just remember to use protection, because AIDS isn't cool.

[doitquick]

i started having sex when i was 18, i was in love, i didnt really hesitate n even wonder about should i do this when im married or just do it now...so like i said i was in love, to make a long story short we broke up, but we remain friends, n r currently friends with benefits!..fun times...but he remains the one person ive been with..i think it shouldnt really matter if ur married or not it should matter how the feelings are behind it...i def think feelings should be the deciding vote!

[charly horse]

Herpes? AIDS? Pubic lice?
But if they're HOT then I guess that doesn't matter huh?
i was being sarcastic, but okay.

[mediocrgreenday]

Save sex until you're married. It's more intense that way; both physically and emotionally. Then, you won't get an STD and if you get pregnant, you can be more prepared.

bad idea. it changes some people, dont marry someone before having sex with them, because it seriously changes things, and you want to know what your getting into before your married dont you?

[OnLegendary21]

Sex is fine as long as you're safe about it. I wouldn't ever suggest unmarried sex without a condom or some form of contraceptive. Not only because of STDs, but an unwanted child is like dropping a nuke on your entire life. Anything you ever wanted to do, forget it. I also have to agree with the advice of waiting until you're mature enough to handle sex. But all and all, there's nothing like getting completely lost in someone you love.

[SwingingMics]

i think premarital sex is ok..i just kinda wish i waited alittle longer to loose my virginity..but thats really only cuz the guy i lost it to..was immature about it afterwards and told EVERYONE what we did..and i think that things liek sex should be kept private... but thats me
Why the fuck are you having sex at 14?

[open mind]

i lost my virginity (or since i'm a guy i guess i got rid of it) when i was 14, wasn't that big a deal.

[.Infinite.]

I tell myself that if I feel like I am "in love" with someone and feel that it is right then I guess I will have sex with them, but I think that I will wait until I get married. I want it to be special.

[azuredreams]

I might sound like a dick, but I would rather have a one nighter than do it with a significant other an have to deal with all those emotions...

ewwwww emotions

I just got out of a 8 yr emotional spinning wheel,, Im all about the one nighters nowadays

[x LP fan x]

my boyfriend wanted me to have sex with him but i said no everytime he asked me and i thought he would be supportive since im a strong christian and i am totally against premarital sex even though me and my boyfriend were going out for a while...so he invited me to his house and said he has something special planned to apologize for nagging me and when i got their and him and his older brother raped me...so i hate guys..they suck

[(FallFrom)Grace]

i lost it after an unfortunate "take advantage of the underage drunk girl" event by someone i thought was actually an awesome guy that i got on great with. after that, i just had very little self esteem/respect and went through a bizarre whoring around stage for a few months. but i havent had sex since i came to my senses.

i have no objection to sex before marriage, and i will if i meet someone i feel its right with. but i've learned from my past mistakes and i'm so much more sensible now.

[venus/bacchus]

my boyfriend wanted me to have sex with him but i said no everytime he asked me and i thought he would be supportive since im a strong christian and i am totally against premarital sex even though me and my boyfriend were going out for a while...so he invited me to his house and said he has something special planned to apologize for nagging me and when i got their and him and his older brother raped me...so i hate guys..they suck
wow, if this is true that's one of the most disgusting things I've ever heard

did you report him?

[MrChainsaw389]

For a long time I thought that I really wanted to have my first time with "someone special" but I know that in ten years, maybe even five years, the person I first had sex with will only be a name. I think that if she's hot, and I've known her more than a week or two, it's all good to go.

[CROMagnon]

my boyfriend wanted me to have sex with him but i said no everytime he asked me and i thought he would be supportive since im a strong christian and i am totally against premarital sex even though me and my boyfriend were going out for a while...so he invited me to his house and said he has something special planned to apologize for nagging me and when i got their and him and his older brother raped me...so i hate guys..they suck
i'm sorry

if you had put a hit on him, i would have gladly taken it for free, since scum like that deserve nothing better than the maggots gorging on their internal organs

[burntpaper]

Guys, remember that a good substitute for condoms is pulling out. Also from what I hear it turns women on when you ejaculate all over them.

I think you were joking but i've heard this a lot on these forums YOU CAN GET PREGNANT IF THE GUY PULLS OUT! don't fall for that one.