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[MaybeOneDay]

Alright here we go. Time to get emo for a few minutes:

There's this girl I know who I am totally in love with and I have been in love with her for like 6 months now or something like that. And yes, i'm sure i'm in love with her and it's not just love. Well, anyways, she doesn't feel the same way about me. And that kills me to know. She just wants to be friends, but I feel so small when i'm around her. I mean, I don't even know how much of a friend she considers me. She called me her "best guy friend" a while ago, but that night was the night I told her I liked her. And, to top of the fact that she doesn't like me back the same way I love her, she is currently falling head over heels for one of my best friends. And my best friend likes her as well. So, in a matter of time they'll be hooked up, and I will still be madly in love with her. Seriously, shes all I ever think about, shes the only person I ever want to be with and I just get so down thinking sometimes that i'll never have a chance with her. Shes all I want in life and shes all I need, and I can't have her. Life just sucks. I really don't know what to do anymore. I've tried so hard to get over her just because I know that would make life so much easier and take away so much pain, but I just can't move on. I try to hang out with her as much as possible, and we have a great time together and stuff (or at least, I think we do). It seems like things have changed ever since I told her I liked her and stuff, and she just felt the need to tell me on that very same day that she wanted my best friend. I cant ever stop thinking about her and i'd give my life for her. She means the world to me. Well, yeah, thats all I have to say. Thanks for listening. And I didn't expect anyone to read all this, so if you did, I appreciate it.

[cristal]

aww...you poor thing!! sorry that this had to happen to you.

but, i think maybe you should put some distance between you and this girl b/c it will make getting over her so much easier (even though i'm sure that you don't want to get over her). but situations that involve good friends and girls def. spell trouble, so try to steer clear. as cliched as it sounds, time heals pain and i can promise you there'll be another girl. hope things get better!

[MaybeOneDay]

thanks.

but to be honest, i REALLY do not want to get over her. i mean, when we're together and talking and stuff, she makes me feel so happy its incredible. thats just how i know shes the right one and stuff. i've liked a lot of girls in the past, but i've NEVER felt this way about one before. she just means so much to me. and i dunno if i mentioned this before, but we're very good friends, and i just want to be more than that. she's amazing.

[nards228]

Brandon -

I'm going to be terse, because that's how I roll. Get over it. You're in high school - in three months, you will be "in love" with another girl, and she'll break your heart all over again. I suppose there isn't much you can do right now but suffer, as you probably see it, but you will look back on your life in a few years and chuckle.

You can't be in love without really knowing somebody. And I've only met a few people who knew what "love" was in high school. Also, if she's given you the "best guy friend" line - you're toast.

Move on.



Rennard

[MaybeOneDay]

Brandon -

I'm going to be terse, because that's how I roll. Get over it. You're in high school - in three months, you will be "in love" with another girl, and she'll break your heart all over again. I suppose there isn't much you can do right now but suffer, as you probably see it, but you will look back on your life in a few years and chuckle.

You can't be in love without really knowing somebody. And I've only met a few people who knew what "love" was in high school. Also, if she's given you the "best guy friend" line - you're toast.

Move on.



Rennard
I knew this girl for 3 years before I fell for her. She's probably my best friend of the female gender and we're really close.

[worldstheory]

Brandon, I'm going to try to be as supportive as possible when I say this, but I think that your biggest problem is your insistence that you are in love with her.

And yes, i'm sure i'm in love with her and it's not just love. Well, anyways, she doesn't feel the same way about me.If she doesn't feel the same way about you, then it is NOT love. No two ways about it. I understand the way you feel (though probably to a lesser extent), because I've gone through that whole struggle before. But it's important for you to understand that it's NOT love, it's a deep infatuation.

Another thing you need to understand is that you can get over ANYONE, no matter how strongly you feel for them now.

I knew this girl for 3 years before I fell for her.That doesn't change the fact that you CAN get over her. Think about marriages that last for 20 years, then end in divorce. Of course there are always painful memories, but eventually the divorcees get over each other and move on with their lives. This proves that anyone can get over anyone, no matter how long they've known each other, or how deeply in love they thought they were.

[Ellie_]

Honest opinion? Fuck it. If you like a girl that much and she doesn't feel the same way back; fuck it. She don't deserve you. if she's so blind sided to see what you have for her, her loss. Plus you'll propbably end up more broken hearted if you go ith her and it ended in tears anyways....

[Love As Arson]

It's not love. It's merely an infatuation.

[richter915]

I don't feel sorry for you cause you made fun of me for loving my gf back in the day.

you can't stay just friends with her...it'll kill you. Either you talk to her and say it's all or nothing...or you just drop outta her life right away...zero contact...go cold turkey...you can't slowly back outta this...you gotta get out as fast as possible. it's the most painful way but it might be the only way it'll work.

[aurora]

Brandon, I know that right now you think we are all crazy and we dont understand, ect... but honestly, you aren't in love with her.

I know she probably means the world to you right now and she's all you can think about right now, but you NEED to move on. And it's not what you want to hear, but I'm not about to give you bullshit advice because it won't do you any good. If you think you can go on being friends with her and still get on with your life then do it because throwing away a three year friendship is a tragedy. However, if you think being around her will make it impossible for you to progress, I'm sorry but I think you need at least a break from her.

You have your whole life ahead of you and while you may think you have it all figured out right now, you dont. Just think about things that you were sure of three/four years ago, hell maybe even a year ago, I guarantee most of those things have probably changed. It's just the way life is. Anyway, this was really long, so hopefully it was semi-helpful and not a waste of your time.

Oh and by the by, if you ever need to talk/vent/whatever, feel free to IM me or PM me here... Best wishes hun. <3

[MaybeOneDay]

Nearly another month has gone by since I posted this thread. And i'm still crazy about her. You guys just don't get it. You can say i'm not in love with her all you want, but I know I am.

I wake up in the morning, she's the first thing on my mind. I go to bed at night, I can't sleep because i'm thinking about her constantly for hours and hours. When I do sleep, she's in my dreams. Every single one. I go to school, can't focus on my work because I can't stop staring at her in class. When I talk to her on the internet I cancel all my other plans just so I can continue conversations with her. I don't get any homework or other work done now because I want to spend time with her or talk to her instead. It makes me sick when I eat because I know how hopeless this whole thing is, yet I can't let go of her. Even this exact second, i'm thinking about her. All day, everyday, she's all that's on my mind. Ever. I can't even remember the last time I thought about another topic. When i'm away from her I feel like i'm going insane and I feel all depressed and everything. I can't stand being away from her. Like right now, I feel sick to my stomache because she's not around. I make excuses 5 times a day to send emails to her. I can't focus on anything. She's become my life. And I can't help it. I love this girl.

[ohlookitspaul]

dude...i honestly know exactly what you're talking about. exactly. and i haven't gotten over it either yet, nor do i want to...so i'm not really sure what to say to make you feel better because, shit, i would have done it for myself a long time ago. but yeah i just wanted to let you know, you're not alone. trust me.

[MaybeOneDay]

thanks man. good luck with your situation eh.

[Bishop]

Brandon, I know that right now you think we are all crazy and we dont understand, ect... but honestly, you aren't in love with her.

I know she probably means the world to you right now and she's all you can think about right now, but you NEED to move on. And it's not what you want to hear, but I'm not about to give you bullshit advice because it won't do you any good. If you think you can go on being friends with her and still get on with your life then do it because throwing away a three year friendship is a tragedy. However, if you think being around her will make it impossible for you to progress, I'm sorry but I think you need at least a break from her.

You have your whole life ahead of you and while you may think you have it all figured out right now, you dont. Just think about things that you were sure of three/four years ago, hell maybe even a year ago, I guarantee most of those things have probably changed. It's just the way life is. Anyway, this was really long, so hopefully it was semi-helpful and not a waste of your time.

Oh and by the by, if you ever need to talk/vent/whatever, feel free to IM me or PM me here... Best wishes hun. <3


What she said.

[FishAlotNBePunk]

oh well, just be thankful she considers you her best guy friend, and have fun with her.

[apoemtothedead]

I've had the same 'problem' as you, just a few months ago in fact. What I did to get over it was I erased her from my life for a week. I blocked her screen name, I didn't answer her calls, I didn't talk to her, or even look at her. Now a few months later, I still have feelings for her, but they are not as strong as they were. Just some advice if want to try and get 'over her.'