My ex just told me she got an abortion right after we broke up.

[brentkid]

My head is considerably fucked with as of now.

[4N6 science]

wow sorry to hear that dude..

[swt_catastrophe]

omg.
that's horrible.
she never said anything to you while you guys were dating?

[TheSkyline]

EDIT: Never mind, I just went back and reread the thread, I didn't realize you had no clue she was even pregnant. Sorry dude.

[brentkid]

omg.
that's horrible.
she never said anything to you while you guys were dating?
The only time I can remotely say she could have gotten pregnant was about a month before we broke up. We broke up about ten months ago, mind you, so this is coming out of nowhere.

[brentkid]

Here's a totally unoriginal answer,

rape her.
Get the fuck out of my thread.

[swt_catastrophe]

Here's a totally unoriginal answer,

rape her.
are you for real?
the guy finds out about an abortion, and you say this.
grow up.
NOT funny.
The only time I can remotely say she could have gotten pregnant was about a month before we broke up. We broke up about ten months ago, mind you, so this is coming out of nowhere.
10 months? wow.
that really sucks.
i can't even imagine how you're feeling right now :/

[brentkid]

I would have never expected this. It just tears me apart because I never knew and that it was my own kid. I can't even begin to imagine how it was for her either. This seriously is going to stick with me for the rest of my life.

[sjb2k1]

she's not the type who would say things just to hurt you/fuck with you, is she?

[infamous_alias]

she's not the type who would say things just to hurt you/fuck with you, is she?

+1

[tomakebelieve]

Wow, that is so shitty. Personally, I could never get an abortion without telling the boy who knocked me up first and ask him his opinion on it.

[brentkid]

she's not the type who would say things just to hurt you/fuck with you, is she?
The part that sketches me out is that we haven't spoken in about three weeks because we got in a pretty big argument. Randomly about a day after I had kids over one night for a party she said how she was pissed that she was originally invited and then not invited. I never said she couldn't come it's just we stopped talking. Then today she says this.

It just seems weird how it's coming completely out of left field. The thing is, I've known her for four years and I honestly can't say she'd ever sink that low to hurt me. She could say thousands of other things than this.

[Fallinto_rhythm]

Maybe she was lying about the abortion to make you feel bad

[DRUMMERGIRL121]

Maybe she was lying about the abortion to make you feel bad


Possiblity. You'de be surprised at the things people will say when they feel scorned.

[Ailite]

That sucks man, that's really horrible that she never told you. I really hope this situation gets better.

[DRUMMERGIRL121]

I would have never expected this. It just tears me apart because I never knew and that it was my own kid. I can't even begin to imagine how it was for her either. This seriously is going to stick with me for the rest of my life.


:pet:

[scmaley]

That's really sad that she never even told you about the child before having the abortion.

[lauren<3s music]

it sucks because she should have included you. it is the decent thing to do in the process, but i'm sure she felt scared and didn't want to burden you (and maybe get talked into going down a different path). As awful as this sounds at least you know now and can move on. Clearly if she couldn't talk to you about something this big, then the relationship wasn't too stable to begin with so think of it as the final nail. that said i'm sure if you wanted to talk to someone about it you could call planned parenthood. a lot of guys have a really hard time coping with the fact their partner had an abortion

[lauren<3s music]

she's not the type who would say things just to hurt you/fuck with you, is she?

if she is seriously she needs to have her legs broken. where's kyle when you need him

[sjb2k1]

The part that sketches me out is that we haven't spoken in about three weeks because we got in a pretty big argument. Randomly about a day after I had kids over one night for a party she said how she was pissed that she was originally invited and then not invited. I never said she couldn't come it's just we stopped talking. Then today she says this.

It just seems weird how it's coming completely out of left field. The thing is, I've known her for four years and I honestly can't say she'd ever sink that low to hurt me. She could say thousands of other things than this.Well you obviously know her better than all of us do, but some girls do really fucked up shit. Then again maybe it's true and she never planned to tell you, and the party thing, dumb as it may be, set her off on a really bad day. Some girls are just crazy. Either way, I'm really sorry.
if she is seriously she needs to have her legs broken. where's kyle when you need himTruth. This is not a subject where anyone should play games, for any reason.

[Fallinto_rhythm]

Possiblity. You'de be surprised at the things people will say when they feel scorned.

oh I know.


What part if Brooklyn are you from?

[fulltiltxb00gie]

holy crap. have you gotten a friend to confirm this? i agree with the people who have said she might be trying to get back at you.
i would never be able to live with myself if the guy wasn't at least aware of what i was doing to his kid.

[timbedinosaur]

The part that sketches me out is that we haven't spoken in about three weeks because we got in a pretty big argument. Randomly about a day after I had kids over one night for a party she said how she was pissed that she was originally invited and then not invited. I never said she couldn't come it's just we stopped talking. Then today she says this.

It just seems weird how it's coming completely out of left field. The thing is, I've known her for four years and I honestly can't say she'd ever sink that low to hurt me. She could say thousands of other things than this.
It kinda seems like she wants you to know you hurt her, and she wants to hurt you all at once. Look at this way, even if you had a kid, even though you would love it, you wouldn't love her and you would be miserable every day of your life, maybe it was all for the best. Who knows?

[ForeverInADay]

She was probably fucking someone else before you broke up.

[ablueskytragedy]

She was probably fucking someone else before you broke up.

Blunt way to put it, but a possibility, nonetheless.

[price2pay4glory]

girls are fucking crazy... sux that you don't know if she is being honest with you or just fucking with u

either way, its fucked up

[sandra92]

She was probably fucking someone else before you broke up.

Yes .. That's bad but possible ..
Really sorry to hear that :S

[thespearkid]

Whoa. That's freaky.

[brentkid]

It kinda seems like she wants you to know you hurt her, and she wants to hurt you all at once. Look at this way, even if you had a kid, even though you would love it, you wouldn't love her and you would be miserable every day of your life, maybe it was all for the best. Who knows?
She definitely succeeded in hurting me. I feel like this past year has forced me to mature too fast.

it sucks because she should have included you. it is the decent thing to do in the process, but i'm sure she felt scared and didn't want to burden you (and maybe get talked into going down a different path). As awful as this sounds at least you know now and can move on. Clearly if she couldn't talk to you about something this big, then the relationship wasn't too stable to begin with so think of it as the final nail. that said i'm sure if you wanted to talk to someone about it you could call planned parenthood. a lot of guys have a really hard time coping with the fact their partner had an abortion
It just blows my mind that I was responsible for another life and now it's gone. I won't even begin to imagine how she must have felt if this is how I feel almost ten months later.

[CrenshawPunch]

Fuck that bitch. I feel for you man.

[DRUMMERGIRL121]

oh I know.


What part if Brooklyn are you from?

Crown Heights. Im basically somewhere in between Park Slope and Flatbush.

What part of Jersey are you from? I was born there, but raised in NY.

[drewziph]

this is bad news?

[TK]

this is bad news?

Not all that of a joking matter.

[drewziph]

personally i'd be pleased.

sounds like he was saved from being in an awful situation?

not to mention the dude is 19.

[SLoT]

Happened to me too man. I'd have a 5 year old boy or girl right now. Shit is crazy. You'll think about it everytime a birthday would've taken place.

[4N6 science]

there's nothing to be pleased with..this is just something you'd never want to happen.

[4N6 science]

Happened to me too man. I'd have a 5 year old boy or girl right now. Shit is crazy. You'll think about it everytime a birthday would've taken place.

I've had two scares...

[SLoT]

I've had two scares...
I'm not quite sure anything I've experienced since then has been that bad in comparison.

[4N6 science]

I'm not quite sure anything I've experienced since then has been that bad in comparison.

yeah.. I agree.

[Wildflower61388]

i think she is lying personally..especially if u just had a fight and then she tells u that.. but if she isnt lying she is stupid and your lucky you are not with her anymore..
ps your a cutie ;-) go out there and find another woman! get that girl off your mind

[bigblue2015]

I can't even begin to imagine how I'd feel in that situation. Sorry to hear it dude.

[4N6 science]

why do girls act like this?

[bigblue2015]

why do girls act like this?

Another similar question: Why is the sky blue?

[Billy Da Mute]

damn man thats rough, ive had scares but nothing that bad. at least you didnt break up and she told you she was HAVING the kid...

[brentkid]

this is bad news?
Yeah. It's shitty to find out I had a kid that was never born and learned about it then months after the abortion was done.


Happened to me too man. I'd have a 5 year old boy or girl right now. Shit is crazy. You'll think about it everytime a birthday would've taken place.
It just blows my mind. I can't even describe it.

[hockeyguitar99]

I personally think I wouldn't object to the idea of one because he's so young, but I would have liked to have known about it before it happened

[#WhiteFender#]

*huge hug*

wish i had something to say that could help...

[thesafeword]

I think that she might be fucking with your mind, to get back at you in some sort of twisted way.

[billyboatkid]

Watch out girls can play some fucked up games.. Just saying.

Any actual proof besides her telling you?

Sorry, I can't trust girls as far as I can throw them... Which I don't by the way. Figure of speech.

[quarterhorse101]

egh thats tough.
she's obviously had a lot to deal with- think about when you were dating and she found out what she must have been going through
thats horrible, catching you off guard and not even giving you any say

[Billy Da Mute]

Watch out girls can play some fucked up games.. Just saying.

Any actual proof besides her telling you?

Sorry, I can't trust girls as far as I can throw them... Which I don't by the way. Figure of speech.

haha im with you on the trust thing..it could be a fucked up revenge stunt

[billyboatkid]

haha im with you on the trust thing..it could be a fucked up revenge stunt

Yeah especially after being at the end of the many fucked up things ex's can do, I know exactly what they're capable of.

[Hamlet]

Maybe she was lying about the abortion to make you feel bad

Yeah.

Don't let it get to you if it might not be true.

Medical records or it didn't happen.

Even then, it might not have even been your kid.

Until then, stick with the three Ds:

Deny, deny, deny.

[thesafeword]

Medical records or it didn't happen.
Nice.

[June_Bug]

Ouch. Thats something I could never do to somebody. Sorry to hear that, I hope you feel better soon, thats just horrible. She should have asked you what you thought. Sorry.

[Fallinto_rhythm]

Crown Heights. Im basically somewhere in between Park Slope and Flatbush.

What part of Jersey are you from? I was born there, but raised in NY.

For real. I was born in Brooklyn, but moved to Jersey. I'm from Monmouth County

[pilot_light_out]

boooo on this thread

[Billy Da Mute]

Yeah.

Don't let it get to you if it might not be true.

Medical records or it didn't happen.

Even then, it might not have even been your kid.

Until then, stick with the three Ds:

Deny, deny, deny.

:nod:

[Mirrorsandfevers]

Shame, sorry man.

[kaycey]

i am so sorry to hear this , tough break man , but what are you going to do now.....will you get back together with her........have you spoken to her since you got the news.

[crookhawk]

i am so sorry to hear this , tough break man , but what are you going to do now.....will you get back together with her........have you spoken to her since you got the news.

i would never talk to her again if she aborted my kid without consulting me first........thats really fucked up dude...................DAMN!

[kaycey]

i would never talk to her again if she aborted my kid without consulting me first........thats really fucked up dude...................DAMN!
i still think you should talk to her though

[brentkid]

I can say that I'm about 90% percent sure she lied to me. The one time we didn't use a condom she was on birth control and I didn't even finish that night. She had her period later that month too. Before breaking up we had sex maybe three times and always used a condom.

Really fucked up if my assumptions are correct.

[Mirrorsandfevers]

I can say that I'm about 90% percent sure she lied to me. The one time we didn't use a condom she was on birth control and I didn't even finish that night. She had her period later that month too. Before breaking up we had sex maybe three times and always used a condom.

Really fucked up if my assumptions are correct.

Kill her?

[sandra92]

I can say that I'm about 90% percent sure she lied to me. The one time we didn't use a condom she was on birth control and I didn't even finish that night. She had her period later that month too. Before breaking up we had sex maybe three times and always used a condom.

Really fucked up if my assumptions are correct.

I think you should talk to her .. Even if that's really hard ..
If she lied to you ... Fuck , never talk to her again !

[brentkid]

Kill her?
Too messy.

I think you should talk to her .. Even if that's really hard ..
If she lied to you ... Fuck , never talk to her again !
Too dramatic.

I'd rather just avoid her entirely.

[Hamlet]

Kill her?

Yeah. Call it a "living abortion".

[Machu505]

If she lied to you about this, sign her up for the military.

[thesafeword]

I can say that I'm about 90% percent sure she lied to me. The one time we didn't use a condom she was on birth control and I didn't even finish that night. She had her period later that month too. Before breaking up we had sex maybe three times and always used a condom.

Really fucked up if my assumptions are correct.
Knew it.

[brentkid]

Knew it.
I could never lie about something of that magnitude.

[thesafeword]

I know, some people are just crazy.