I just want some reasurence

[zach]

So on friday night I was haning out with some friends at Trent (for those of you who don;t know its a university). We smoked a bit (a lot) of weed and went around to the various rez's to meet some new people. We got invited to a party in some girls dorm room. I was clearly baked, and a very very drunk girl propsitioned me. The conversation went like this:
"Whats your name"
"I'm Zach"
"High Zach I'm ____" (I wont give her name. I'm not sure how much it would be apreiciate)
"Its nice to meet you"
"Anyway, if you wanna end up in my room later, It'll definetly happen"

Now my first instinct was to accept her proposition, but then I began to think a bit, and I realized this is probably this girls first time away from home, so naturally she's going a bit wild. It would be wrong of me to take advantage of the situation. I also hate it when guys take advatange of drunk girls. I din't tell her no because I didn't want to be a dick. I just told her that I was visiting a friend and didn't want to bail on him. She was pretty cool with that, and told me that if I wanted to get laid to come back later. I was pretty comfortable with my decision untill I woke up on saturday morning and realized that I didn;t iniate anything, it was all her. I argued with myself about weather it would have still been taking advantage and decided that it still was, but for some reason I'm still kicking myself for not doing it. So baisiclly I just want you all to tell me that I did the right thing, maybe relate some simmilar expirences.

[Coronary Parasite]

girl here

you did the right thing, even though the guys might disagree

[Mercy Medical]

girl here

you did the right thing, even though the guys might disagree
I agree with CJ...frankly, it makes you a better guy and you'll probably get more girls for making a decision like that. I respect it a lot more then deciding to get with her.

[MrChainsaw389]

I'm going to be the asshole who says that sure, you did the nice guy thing, but what bad would have come from you just going with it?

[mirtizzle]

i don't think you would have been taking advantage of her. she was initiating it, and i think that people tend to overestimate someone's inability to think when they're drunk... if she could make a coherant sentence, she most likely knew what she was getting herself into

but i think that you made the better decision, it's always good to go with your conscience

[FallingOut]

I definitely think you did the right thing there. I dont think anybody should just get together like that without at least KNOWING each other or having some sort of relationship. You probably would have regretted doing it later.

[_astheruinfalls]

Right thing.

Even though the other choice would have been funner. ;)

[Bishop]

My head says it was the right decision.

But if my penis had a hand, it would be giving you the finger.

Besides it wasn't like you were sober and she was drunk. You were pretty baked, she was pretty drunk and she propositioned you for it. Now if you would've said that you had given her a roofie I would be forced to kick your ass.

[13th hour]

Dude, theres nothing wrong with random sex in college, people are experimenting with their lifestyles in college, because for alot of them, its their first time away from home. Look at it this way, since you said no to her, she probably fucked some other guy. Now, if shes gonna fuck someone anyway, why not have it be you?

[Coronary Parasite]

Dude, theres nothing wrong with random sex in college, people are experimenting with their lifestyles in college, because for alot of them, its their first time away from home. Look at it this way, since you said no to her, she probably fucked some other guy. Now, if shes gonna fuck someone anyway, why not have it be you?
and i think random sex is always bad actually, but i'm not a guy...

in california and a few other states, drunk sex is rape under the law since alsohol impairs judgement

no i'm not saying drunk sex is rape, it's just a fact

[zach]

I'm not opposed to random hook ups at all. I just didn't want to exploit the situation.

[to say we End]

Now my first instinct was to accept her proposition, but then I began to think a bit, and I realized this is probably this girls first time away from home, so naturally she's going a bit wild. It would be wrong of me to take advantage of the situation.

for some reason i doubt that this was the first time this girl had said that to anyone... shes probably was slut in high school and whatever... so its good that you said no because she was probably dirty as hell.

[zach]

Of course it wasn't her first time saying it, thats really not the point. And theres also really nothing wrong with being somewhat slutty as long as your smart about it.

[Tyler Revolution]

You did the right thing.... and even if the point isnt that she is a slut, its better that you didnt sleep with her. Because she obviously was slutty, she could of had some std's or anything like that... and maybe its just me, but I HATE slutty girls.

[_astheruinfalls]

And I just wanted to say...

Girls, please stop lying. Do you ever really care about things like this? This is nothing you ever ask about. Look at the boys you date.

Bad mood.

[open mind]

i probably would've gone with it if she was someone i knew a bit (complete strangers aren't my thing) and was attractive, but i'm a asshole.

[13th hour]

You did the right thing.... and even if the point isnt that she is a slut, its better that you didnt sleep with her. Because she obviously was slutty, she could of had some std's or anything like that... and maybe its just me, but I HATE slutty girls.

I dont mind em.

[to say we End]

And I just wanted to say...

Girls, please stop lying. Do you ever really care about things like this? This is nothing you ever ask about. Look at the boys you date.

Bad mood.

care about things like what?

[Tyler Revolution]

I dont mind em.

I'm sorry.

[sweetsugar]

I'm tired of beeing a nice guy, this one chick told me like 2 weekends ago that I was to nice.....so that kinda ended what little relationship we had because i "cared about her and made her feel good about herself" "girls don't want that kind of shit"

[nards228]

So on friday night I was haning out with some friends at Trent (for those of you who don;t know its a university). We smoked a bit (a lot) of weed and went around to the various rez's to meet some new people. We got invited to a party in some girls dorm room. I was clearly baked, and a very very drunk girl propsitioned me. The conversation went like this:
"Whats your name"
"I'm Zach"
"High Zach I'm ____" (I wont give her name. I'm not sure how much it would be apreiciate)
"Its nice to meet you"
"Anyway, if you wanna end up in my room later, It'll definetly happen"

Now my first instinct was to accept her proposition, but then I began to think a bit, and I realized this is probably this girls first time away from home, so naturally she's going a bit wild. It would be wrong of me to take advantage of the situation. I also hate it when guys take advatange of drunk girls. I din't tell her no because I didn't want to be a dick. I just told her that I was visiting a friend and didn't want to bail on him. She was pretty cool with that, and told me that if I wanted to get laid to come back later. I was pretty comfortable with my decision untill I woke up on saturday morning and realized that I didn;t iniate anything, it was all her. I argued with myself about weather it would have still been taking advantage and decided that it still was, but for some reason I'm still kicking myself for not doing it. So baisiclly I just want you all to tell me that I did the right thing, maybe relate some simmilar expirences.
Ok...it's college. It's all about promiscuous hookups with random people you will never see again in your life. You're going to dream about this kind of stuff when you're 40, unhappily married, and working a job you hate just to feed your ungrateful children.

Kiss as many drunk girls are you want to. Just don't put yourself in any kind of rape/pregnancy situations, and you're golden.



Rennard

[case_of_you]

sorry for being blunt, but sometimes a girl just needs to get some. while i support your decision not to sleep with this girl, it wouldn't have hurt to fool around a bit. i agree that your decision was smart, as you clearly had no way of knowing her sexual history, medical history or intentions with you. and, while that gives you every reason not to have sex with her, it still gives you a little leeway if all she truly wants is some attention and *gag* cuddle time. because, in the end, that may have been more important to her than the act itself.