HIS mother ruined our relationship.

[FallenFaerie013]

I cannot belive that I just lost the love of my life and it was all his mother's fault. You see I ahd a really bad summer in learning that my friends couldn't except the fact that I was different (punk) and they were all preppy so they basically abadoned me and told weverything about me in the process. I thought that I had no one and no one cared and that when I met Matthew. He made me feel again, and he actually made me feel like ther was someone else there for me. We had everything in common and he had even tried suicide because of the situation at his home. I felt bad and felt like I had a guinue connection with this person. Everything was perfect, except for the fact that he lived and hour away and I never could see him because his mother didn't like the fact of him having a girlfriend. Well we snuck around on the phone and tried planning metting but his mom always said no. So finally one week he calls and tells me that he's grounded and can't talk on the phone which is fine I can deal but right when the four weeks are up he calls and tells me that he got suspened from school for 2 days. His momthe went physco and went through his room, read his jouranls, and my letters I sent him along with my pictures and she destroyed them. She said I was trash becasue I cursed in my letters and she beat the shit out of him. She also kicked him out of his house, and said the only way he could get back in the house was if he promised never to talk to me again. So i am left here with nothing. I don't know what to do. She has disconnected his internet and his cell phone there's no way to talk to him. I want to scream. It's all so much to handle. Do any of you have any advice?

[richter915]

uhm. It's ok. You're going to get flamed...I won't flame you cause I can sympathize with matt...I have to break up with my gf because my parents don't approve...life is gay.

uhm...don't kill yourself...ya.

[Juliet R Delta]

i think you have to sit tight for now... if you try to see him or call or whatever things will get worse for him... his mum will punish him for that, you know it. however, to avoid losing him you need to let him know that you care and that you'll be there no matter what... try getting a message to him somehow... through a mutual friend, or even get someone to tell him. i'm thinking even getting a stranger or so to go to his house as a door seller or something, provided he answers the door they can pass on your message. he has your details, you should let him know you still want to see him but understand if he needs to sort his mother out first, then let him contact you. you'll know if you really want this, cos you'll wait. on the other hand, his mother is prolly just over protective and insecure about losing him... she needs to know her little boy is safe and with 'good influences'. (pfft, but that's how they feel). don't discount her opinion, but maybe try to show her you're honourable.

[Lueda Alia]

How old is Matt?


uhm. It's ok. You're going to get flamed...I won't flame you cause I can sympathize with matt...I have to break up with my gf because my parents don't approve...life is gay.

uhm...don't kill yourself...ya.
what, why? :(

[punklet2101]

wow, parents really suck sometimes. my parents did something similar, except not in this kind of situation...

I agree with what Juliet R Delta said.

[FallenFaerie013]

Yeah thank for the advice. Oh and about his mother being overprotective, I really don't think that's the case because a few years ago she was in a mental institution and now like if he puts a dish in the wrong place or if he doesn't wash out a can before he throws it away she goes balistic. I mean this is like a seriously disturbed lady. And about asking a mutal friend to give him a message he is banned from talking to all of the people he knows who know me. Because my best friend Pete hooked us up at the beach and Matt stays with his grandparents when he goes, he's not even allowed to go to the beach in fear of seeing Pete. He's basically disconnected from the world. It's worse than prison.

[kimosabe]

To quote my all-time favourite music artist (will smith);
parents just don't understand!

[punklet2101]

How old is he?

[FallenFaerie013]

15