Fucked

[Jim Morgan]

There was a thread about a situation like this before with me, and it settled out a little, but it got more fucked up.

1. There's this girl Vanessa who I'd do anything to go back out with her. I seriously have told her how I feel and how much I missed her and how noone could replace her. And I thought she felt the same way, because when we hung out she kissed me and held my hand. Now though it's like nothing, like she writes it off as were just friends (See "Muffin" in the Your Lyrics Forum, its about her). I totally don't know how to deal with it, and I've never fallen this hard before.

2. I started to see this amazing girl named Amanda, shes beautiful, talented, and just overall nice person. But I'm still completely for Vanessa. Amanda makes me feel so much better about everything, and we've talked about Vanessa and moving on and shit, and Amanda and I have been hanging out and making out etc etc. But I'm starting to feel fucked up. Like I'm pushing her away. I don't want to push her away, but I don't want to get involved with anyone and end up hurting them, cause of my mess.

What the fuck should I do?

[The Bled 13]

Haha, I'm in your situation buddy.

And when I'm with the other girl, all I do is compare/ and think about my previous girlfreind, it sucks. Your just not ready for the new girl, but it doesn't mean you sit around and think about the other.

[The Bled 13]

I'm not ready either. But I can't just leave the girl I'm with now, I do like her and everything. I'm just in love with my previous girlfriend.

[The Bled 13]

So it sucks.

[Jim Morgan]

dude totally know how you feel. It's the exact same way.

I just dont get girls. Never will understand them.

[The Bled 13]

Yeah, well.. what sucked is that I kind of blew my last relationship. At first I thought she was just being a huge bitch, but when I sat down and actually thought it out, I was really fucked up to her. And I mean she did a lot of mean things to, but I guess mine were just worse. Oh well, it's over now.

[The Bled 13]

I see why you have 5k+ post.

Haha, that's a good one.

[Throwback]

I'm smack dab in this situation right now. Sucks so bad, becuase you can't resist setting standards for your new ladyfriend. Its horrible becuase my new girl is totally awesome, but the one before was....perfect.

[Mercy Medical]

dude totally know how you feel. It's the exact same way.

I just dont get girls. Never will understand them.
Don't worry, I'm a girl and I don't get them either. :)

[Mercy Medical]

My advice is not get involved like you are with this other girl until shit has been figured out with the previous girl, it just makes things harder on yourself and the other two people involved.

I'm somewhat in a similar situation, however I'd be equivalent to the two girls in the situation. I'm the one on the side, not the middle.

[Jim Morgan]

i just kinda broke it off with Amanda... leaving my ex girlfriend left... and emptiness.

i think im better off alone anyway.

[Mercy Medical]

i just kinda broke it off with Amanda... leaving my ex girlfriend left... and emptiness.

i think im better off alone anyway.
I don't think anyone is better off alone, but that's just me...I've somewhat turned into a hopeless romantic (I guess that's what you'd call it) in the past couple years.

I've really learned that relationships are hard, it's great when it's good, but it can be bad when it's really bad. :(

[Bishop]

I don't know man, Amanda sounds like a pretty cool chick and it seems like she likes you and is willing to listen.

So let's weight the options, you have an old infatuation who doesn't really act like she wants you. And you have a girl who is good looking, funny and likes good music (or I'm assuming that she does) I almost feel like slapping you upside the head and just saying to forget about Vanessa and go with Amanda.

[BloodTornTears]

I dont think any of us can help you on this one. Since we dont know the girls and all. Its all up to you on this one, follow your gut.

[Juliet R Delta]

you can't be a martyr for this Vanessa... your definition of a perfect girl should include the fact that she loves and wants to be with you... which Vanessa doesn't seem to. Why should you play the victim for that bullshit? Amanda does sound cool, and if she's willing to hang with you and listen to you and offer support and someone to make out with... then she's definitely worth more than Vanessa is right now.
what's amanda's take on all this?

[The Bled 13]

What he or she said is smart.

[Tyler Revolution]

I was in this same situation... I had a girlfriend who I was like in "love" with... and she broke it off and I was upset for the longest time... it hurt bad and it took forever to get over, but while I was getting over it another girl started liking me. She was nice and cool and very attractive, but I still liked my ex so I wanted nothing to do with this new girl, so I told her that. But now it has been a few months since the break up and I called the girl that liked me and now we are together and I am happy with her. So I'd say give it time and you will get over your ex, and stick with the new girl.

[IfuDieiDieToo]

cant just let it go on and get people hurt....

[Juliet R Delta]

What he or she said is smart.

she, and thank you. :)

[Jim Morgan]

as cool as Amanda is, I just dont feel right about it.

[Tyler Revolution]

as cool as Amanda is, I just dont feel right about it.

Maybe you'll come around later on down the road... I did. Just stay friends with Amanda and explain to her how you feel right now, and tell her maybe you could try again in the future, if she really cares for you, then she'll understand.