The hard thing about being shy

[boogygirl17]

I started college monday, but fnding it hard to make friends. THe problem is that i'm really shy and i have no idea what to say to people besides "hi, whats your major?" or "where are you from?" i basically can't get past that and start a decent conversation.
I'm trying! If that counts for anything.
The point is: What are some good way to meet people and start a conversation?
Pretty much any advice would help.
Thanks to anyone who helps!

[Fallinto_rhythm]

Here's the only question you need to ask someone that's important enough to make a lasting impression.


So you like to party?


It will open all the right doors for you my friend! Alllllllllll the right doors!!

[spansen]

good luck. i can acquire friends pretty easily, i just suck at getting into relationships.. but i'm getting better.

[remedyeli]

Here's the only question you need to ask someone that's important enough to make a lasting impression.


So you like to party?


It will open all the right doors for you my friend! Alllllllllll the right doors!!

hahaha that's great advice.
But some people like me doesn't like to 'party' or even go to them. uhhh

[Fallinto_rhythm]

hahaha that's great advice.
But some people like me doesn't like to 'party' or even go to them. uhhh


shiiiit son, You willl when you go to school. I was never a party animal until like recently. I love to party now.

[remedyeli]

shiiiit son, You willl when you go to school. I was never a party animal until like recently. I love to party now.

haha I have my GED and not planning on going back to school.
It's just not my thing :shrug:

[YeahRiight]

Are you living in the dorms? If you are, just walk in to people's rooms when they have the door open and say whats up. Go to the dining hall with different people. And though it may be the college cliche, go to a party. Drunk people are usually friendlier and you will probably open up a bit once you get a couple drinks in you. Beer pong partner = instant friend.

[swt_catastrophe]

during the first few days, everything is:
"so, where are you from?"
"what year are you?"
"so what's your major?"

not that anyone actually remembers any of this ish, let alone your name, five minutes later.
i don't know..
i guess just be friendly.
i've been hanging out in the campus coffeehouse/lawn/fountain area (depending on my mood)
and i've met quite a few people that way, so..
oh, and the laundryroom ;-)

[AP_Punk]

during the first few days, everything is:
"so, where are you from?"
"what year are you?"
"so what's your major?"

not that anyone actually remembers any of this ish, let alone your name, five minutes later.
i don't know..
i guess just be friendly.
i've been hanging out in the campus coffeehouse/lawn/fountain area (depending on my mood)
and i've met quite a few people that way, so..
oh, and the laundryroom ;-)

:-0

[swt_catastrophe]

:-0
what?

[StreetSurgery]

That's why they invented facebook sugar. ;-)

[smogs]

oh, and the laundryroom ;-)

Foooo sho. except all the guys I met in the laundry room during 1st quarter, i had to teach how to do laundry. it was pretty funny.

[remedyeli]

Foooo sho. except all the guys I met in the laundry room during 1st quarter, i had to teach how to do laundry. it was pretty funny.

a guy in college who doesn't know how to do his laundry? holy shit.
I knew how to do my laundry since middle school at least.

[immorehxcthanu]

I usually scope out people who are into the same things as me. If you see someone wearing a shirt of a band you like strike up and conversation about that, or try to get to know some of the people in your classes with similar opinions to you. That's basically how I've met most of my college friends and it hasn't failed yet.

[updownleftright]

shiiiit son, You willl when you go to school. I was never a party animal until like recently. I love to party now.
man so true. peer pressure is like ten fold higher in college, which is a good thing.

[SoggY ThE OnE]

Being shy is like a disease.
I hate it.
But to overcome it, I just walk up to random people and say random things
"hey what period are we in"
"do you know the time"
"whats for lunch"
it works.

[DaveZeroZero]

put on a french accent and say "hey, I'm french - do you want to learn how to french kiss?"

[swt_catastrophe]

Foooo sho. except all the guys I met in the laundry room during 1st quarter, i had to teach how to do laundry. it was pretty funny.
hah. yeah, this past weekend, i was talking to some freshman about it.
it was funny.
I usually scope out people who are into the same things as me. If you see someone wearing a shirt of a band you like strike up and conversation about that, or try to get to know some of the people in your classes with similar opinions to you. That's basically how I've met most of my college friends and it hasn't failed yet.
hah exactly.
also, it guaraentees that you have concert buddies in the future.
man so true. peer pressure is like ten fold higher in college, which is a good thing.
oh yeah, doing things just because other people are doing it is a GREAT thing
/sarcasm
put on a french accent and say "hey, I'm french - do you want to learn how to french kiss?"
dave, you are a whore.
also... surely you could at least say that in a cute way.

[DaveZeroZero]

dave, you are a whore.
also... surely you could at least say that in a cute way.
naww, I just stole the line from my french exchange student haha - he never stopped.

[smogs]

a guy in college who doesn't know how to do his laundry? holy shit.
I knew how to do my laundry since middle school at least.

I can't tell if that first part is sarcasm or not, hahaha.
But yeah, my bro and I had to do our own laundry since middle school too. So I guess it was just a surprise for me that people didn't know how to do laundry.
It's only now when I come home from school that my mom does my laundry cause she "feels bad" and wants to give me a break. Haha, ohhhh mothers.

[spansen]

shiiiit son, You willl when you go to school. I was never a party animal until like recently. I love to party now.
i still don't party.. but it's still pretty easy to have a good time without alcohol.

[spansen]

Being shy is like a disease.
I hate it.
But to overcome it, I just walk up to random people and say random things
"hey what period are we in"
"do you know the time"
"whats for lunch"
it works.
maybe that works in high school.

[Tyler Revolution]

hahaha that's great advice.
But some people like me doesn't like to 'party' or even go to them. uhhh

You're going to have one boring ass college experience.

[Tyler Revolution]

haha I have my GED and not planning on going back to school.
It's just not my thing :shrug:

Edit: Boring ass life.

[Fallinto_rhythm]

Being shy is like a disease.
I hate it.
But to overcome it, I just walk up to random people and say random things
"hey what period are we in"
"do you know the time"
"whats for lunch"
it works.
and they're going to tell you to go to the 5 different cafeterias and you could get anything and everything.
maybe that works in high school.
exactly what I was thinking.

[remedyeli]

You're going to have one boring ass college experience.

Edit: Boring ass life.

thanks future teller.

[Tyler Revolution]

thanks future teller.

That'll be $5.79.

[a7xrockerangel]

I understand how you feel. I happen to be shy too and it sucks. The best advice i can give you is to just try to strike up a conversation with people. Like maybe if there are a few people that are several of your classes. also when you go to the caf to eat, find some people that are in you classes and sit with them. start out by talking about class and then the convo should shift to other things and just ask them questions and such. that is kinda how i made my friends when i got here. just talking to people that i had several classes with

[nostalgia]

i'm a senior in college and i still have no friends.

now THAT'S shy.

[swt_catastrophe]

i'm a senior in college and i still have no friends.

now THAT'S shy.
that's not shy, that's pathetic.

[Tyler Revolution]

Loser.

[updownleftright]

oh yeah, doing things just because other people are doing it is a GREAT thing
/sarcasm


without my friends I would have never had my first drink which means I would have never made so many other friends/met girls/had fun etc. i just never had anyone offer me a drink in high school, but yeah. i'm thankful.

[SoggY ThE OnE]

that's not shy, that's pathetic.

lol

[SSLYBY]

Meh, Just pretend to get drunk. Just empty your cup half way and pretend to drink it and act silly.

[deathbatgurl]

I started college monday, but fnding it hard to make friends. THe problem is that i'm really shy and i have no idea what to say to people besides "hi, whats your major?" or "where are you from?" i basically can't get past that and start a decent conversation.
I'm trying! If that counts for anything.
The point is: What are some good way to meet people and start a conversation?
Pretty much any advice would help.
Thanks to anyone who helps!
well, complement somebody on something, then tell them ur name and jsut take it casual. don't worry, i was shy, too. u just gota be friendly.

[eHaMpToN]

I started college monday, but fnding it hard to make friends. THe problem is that i'm really shy and i have no idea what to say to people besides "hi, whats your major?" or "where are you from?" i basically can't get past that and start a decent conversation.
I'm trying! If that counts for anything.
The point is: What are some good way to meet people and start a conversation?
Pretty much any advice would help.
Thanks to anyone who helps!

my best advice would be to host a giant bukkake party.

[DaveZeroZero]

my best advice would be to host a giant bukkake party.
qft.

[atticus1492]

Smoke or do drugs. Alcohol is awesome, too.

[spansen]

and they're going to tell you to go to the 5 different cafeterias and you could get anything and everything.

exactly what I was thinking.
you know what they say.. great minds think alike.

[Fallinto_rhythm]

you know what they say.. great minds think alike.

you know what, you're right. They do!

[stilltheoptimst]

I'm out of college now, but when I went in I was really shy too. I was lucky that two of my best friends from home went to school with me, but I still went off on my own a bit. The best thing to do, like others have been saying, is to look for others who are into the same stuff as you. Look for club meetings like the radio station or something.

The best thing to remember is that everyone is in the same position around you and everyone is looking to make friends and talk. You'll do fine.

[spansen]

even though you spelled optimist wrong, good advice. kudos.

mmm.. kudos.

[TMartin442]

I have the same problem, I have been shy my entire life, but it was never really a problem until I got to college. My freshman year turned out to be socially the worst year of my life because I had no idea how to meet people. I eventually learned that pot made me socially awkward, so I quit doing that all together, and then I made like 2 friends, and then I met their friends, and then I met their friends, and it was basically the snow ball effect from there. But still, Im still shy and I still feel awkward around strangers, and I have found out that I am happier with a couple good friends that I can count on rather than knowing a ton of people that I am cool with who I could never depend on or open up to.

[stilltheoptimst]

even though you spelled optimist wrong, good advice. kudos.

mmm.. kudos.

well i have the same name for aim, and when i went to make it, "stilltheoptimist" was already taken. I just decided to take out the I and went with that same spelling for user names as well.

[Esrb99]

im having the same problem, as Im living at home so its a bit difficult to meet people... jsut meet 1 or two people, it WILL snowball.. it has for me.

[DaveZeroZero]

well i have the same name for aim, and when i went to make it, "stilltheoptimist" was already taken. I just decided to take out the I and went with that same spelling for user names as well.
why didn't you just put in a space or two?

[stilltheoptimst]

why didn't you just put in a space or two?

i guess it just didn't bother me that much.

[spansen]

or 3's for e's.. or an underscore..

[DaveZeroZero]

or 3's for e's.. or an underscore..
don't you mean an und3rscor3?

[spansen]

good point, dave.