View Full Version : Guys: Why are you afraid of committment?
onetwobree
09/19/08, 03:28 PM
I just graduated college
and along the way I have noticed many different instances
of guys falling in love with their girl
and the wigging out and breaking up with her
because he's "not ready to commit"
what is that all about??
is it just an excuse?
We don't want one vagina for the rest of our lives.
Smash Adams
09/19/08, 03:44 PM
cooties mostly, if you keep changing girls there's less of a chance of one girl's cooties morphing and attacking you
a_money
09/19/08, 03:45 PM
^ I don't think girls in college want them same penis for the rest of their lives either. That's no excuse. A majority of girls are not looking to get married while they're in college.
swt_catastrophe
09/19/08, 03:59 PM
or maybe they just don't like/love you enough to be with you forever.
besides.. it's college. chill out.
onetwobree
09/19/08, 04:00 PM
Well, setting the people who want to whore themselves aside...
I am not necessarily talking about marriage.
From what I've seen, even if a guy has strong feelings for a girl
He runs.
It can't really JUST be about the monogamous sex, can it?
ReadyForAction
09/19/08, 04:11 PM
The more important question is why can't girls just be happy with where they are?
Every time I talk to a girl she always ends up saying "so does this mean were dating?"
no it fucking doesnt
billyboatkid
09/19/08, 04:32 PM
I'm not afraid of commitment... I like that a lot more than just hooking up.
WFUJerseyJon
09/19/08, 04:35 PM
I prefer relationships to random hook ups personally, and I don't think I'm afraid of commitment, though I haven't been in a relationship for a while.
onetwobree
09/19/08, 04:38 PM
The more important question is why can't girls just be happy with where they are?
Every time I talk to a girl she always ends up saying "so does this mean were dating?"
no it fucking doesnt
i think its because most girls want to feel important
i agree that most girls are too worried about it
but to answer your question- its normal for a girl to wonder that
if youve been talking for a while
or hooked up consistently for a while
if not, then i dont know
shes probably been burnt before
JimmyIymmiJ
09/19/08, 04:50 PM
I'm married, so I'm fairly certain that I'm not afraid of commitment.
swt_catastrophe
09/19/08, 05:30 PM
I'm married, so I'm fairly certain that I'm not afraid of commitment.
well you're also 28.
onetwobree
09/19/08, 05:55 PM
well you're also 28.
ok we all get your point
you dont have to be 28 to have the capacity to be monogamous
a_money
09/19/08, 06:02 PM
I think it just comes down to acceptance. If you and this other person hang out and have fun and do stuff together, then things will work out and you can declare it a relationship eventually.
Who knows.
Jessooker
09/19/08, 06:04 PM
i never plan on getting married.
Chris Fallon
09/19/08, 06:07 PM
I just want to get AIDS :shrug:
Pro-choice
swt_catastrophe
09/19/08, 06:09 PM
I just want to get AIDS :shrug:
Pro-choice
i applaud you for your choice in an INCREDIBLE avatar :thumbup:
Chris Fallon
09/19/08, 06:10 PM
i applaud you for your choice in an INCREDIBLE avatar :thumbup:
:bow:
Fallinto_rhythm
09/19/08, 06:42 PM
ain't to proud to beg.
Everything below 30 is all foreplay. It's not that after that guys become courageous in that they aren't afraid of commitment anymore--they just decide to give in.
bobby runs
09/19/08, 08:25 PM
because the chase is a lot of fun
Cheshire_Buddha
09/19/08, 08:33 PM
Because once you commit, the chances for anal slim down.
Then the chances for sex all together slim down.
Then everyone is just fucking miserable.
wewascontenders
09/19/08, 08:35 PM
Girls: Why do you refuse to let me stick it in your ass?
bobby runs
09/19/08, 08:39 PM
Girls: Why do you refuse to let me stick it in your ass?
make that a thread please.
thespearkid
09/19/08, 08:43 PM
Girls: Why do you refuse to let me stick it in your ass?
Good question.
every time im in a relationship, i feel like there's someone better so i start acting detached till we break it off, i do realize what im doing but i still can't stop it .
XPunkxRockxDeeX
09/20/08, 07:49 AM
okay i'm in high school and my boyfriend is the one looking for commitment. i am way into hook ups, he wants me to say i'll stay atleast through school. insane, right? apparently i've been the guy in the relationship i'm told. emotionally speaking.
thespearkid
09/20/08, 08:52 AM
okay i'm in high school and my boyfriend is the one looking for commitment. i am way into hook ups, he wants me to say i'll stay atleast through school. insane, right? apparently i've been the guy in the relationship i'm told. emotionally speaking.
Whore.
spansen
09/20/08, 09:23 AM
i'm not afraid of commitment, i'm afraid of a relationship. if it fails it sucks; if it works than great.
mattmatumbo
09/20/08, 09:27 AM
i enjoy being single too much to enjoy commitment, and i dont enjoy hook-ups either.
CrenshawPunch
09/20/08, 09:45 AM
i never plan on getting married.
Not everyone plans on it. Sometimes it just happens. It's why a lot of my friends are already married. It's odd.
theguy77
09/20/08, 10:22 AM
I'm not afraid of commitment... I like that a lot more than just hooking up.
this
any girl who makes assumptions like this about all guys, really needs to open her eyes, stop lusting after the wrong types, and realize there are probably several nice guys right in front of her face, likely at least one of her closest friends is one of them. because they're not as rare as girls tend to think.
KidRobot
09/20/08, 10:48 AM
Because you probably aren't good enough.
.invisible ink.
09/20/08, 11:08 AM
this:
any girl who makes assumptions like this about all guys, really needs to open her eyes, stop lusting after the wrong types, and realize there are probably several nice guys right in front of her face, likely at least one of her closest friends is one of them. because they're not as rare as girls tend to think.
and this:
Because you probably aren't good enough.
it's because you act fucking wonderful until the first fight about absolutely nothing. then it's time to say goodbye.
Heart-A-Tact
09/20/08, 11:44 AM
any girl who makes assumptions like this about all guys, really needs to open her eyes, stop lusting after the wrong types, and realize there are probably several nice guys right in front of her face, likely at least one of her closest friends is one of them. because they're not as rare as girls tend to think.
Pretty much what I came in here to say.
fadedmemories
09/20/08, 12:28 PM
because the chase is a lot of fun
Truth
spansen
09/20/08, 01:41 PM
this
any girl who makes assumptions like this about all guys, really needs to open her eyes, stop lusting after the wrong types, and realize there are probably several nice guys right in front of her face, likely at least one of her closest friends is one of them. because they're not as rare as girls tend to think.
seconded.. to the original quote and to you.
mattmatumbo
09/20/08, 02:25 PM
i dont think its a fear of commitment, more a fear of not being with that perfect person for an extended period of time. at least thats how i have come to explain my reasoning for dumping my girlfriend of 2 1/3 years.
parallelism
09/20/08, 02:36 PM
I'm not really scared of commitment right now. I like the way things are going for me. It sounds super dumb but I'm totally in love and pretty sure I'm just going to stick with what I've got. If that changes for whatever reason, it's a life experience.
In the past though, it started to get scary and I guess it felt like by abandoning my relationship, I was putting an end to something that seemingly would get inevitably worse and more painful as time went on. Girls do the same thing. When you get really attached the whole situation can get freaky and intimidating.
But that was a long time ago and I think I changed a little since then.
chronomic
09/20/08, 03:15 PM
cuz the last time a dude committed she broke his heart and he doesn't want that to happen again.
timbedinosaur
09/20/08, 03:23 PM
I'm not afraid of commitment... I like that a lot more than just hooking up.
true. its a stereotype. the guys that don't like it are the jackasses that girls often want.
timbedinosaur
09/20/08, 03:23 PM
this
any girl who makes assumptions like this about all guys, really needs to open her eyes, stop lusting after the wrong types, and realize there are probably several nice guys right in front of her face, likely at least one of her closest friends is one of them. because they're not as rare as girls tend to think.fact
onetwobree
09/20/08, 07:25 PM
i never said that EVERY guy fell in to this category.
if it didnt apply to you, then it wasn't directed to you
it was a question for those who were afraid of commitment
and not a stab at all men
JimmyIymmiJ
09/20/08, 09:52 PM
well you're also 28.
Yeah, but I wasn't when I got married. I was 24, actually, which is 1 year older than the original poster. My main point was and is that all guys are not afraid of commitment -- just some.
HelpMeSleep
09/21/08, 12:08 AM
Yeah, but I wasn't when I got married. I was 24, actually, which is 1 year older than the original poster. My main point was and is that all guys are not afraid of commitment -- just some.
your username's a palindrome. I like it :]
Chris Fallon
09/21/08, 01:57 AM
this
any girl who makes assumptions like this about all guys, really needs to open her eyes, stop lusting after the wrong types, and realize there are probably several nice guys right in front of her face, likely at least one of her closest friends is one of them. because they're not as rare as girls tend to think.
Good answer.
I have been exceptionally close to my girlfriend for 4 years now and I don't plan on going anywhere. I think most girls tend to pick the wrong guys on purpose, generally douchebags who they know won't commit - then they complain about the lack thereof. Honestly, it's not a rarity ... plenty of decent guys are up for commitment, just don't go after that typically good-looking bro who charms you with compliments, because it's usually false advertising.
DaveZeroZero
09/21/08, 04:48 AM
we get herpes and we can't help but want to spread it.
HelpMeSleep
09/21/08, 05:02 AM
we get herpes and we can't help but want to spread it.
and it's so nice of you men to do that. I know I appreciate it.
I thought I might have a cold sore last week but luckily it wasn't and I texted my ex asking him if he might've gotten herpes from some skank before the last time we'd hung out. and then I was hanging out with my friend and her boyfriend and I was telling them about it and he was just like you should tell him that you got tested and that it did turn out to be herpes and that he's the only guy you've even kissed in the last few months. I'm kind of debating it. I can't decide if it's too mean or if his reaction might be good for a few lolz.
I just graduated college
and along the way I have noticed many different instances
of guys falling in love with their girl
and the wigging out and breaking up with her
because he's "not ready to commit"
what is that all about??
is it just an excuse?
Because we'll probably find someone better somewhere down the line.
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