Meeting People

[mondeoman]

Not really a problem but...
You guys know how I am on here and it's not that much different than I am in real life. But I have a real problem going up to people and meeting them. It was a lot easier the first weeks of last semester because it was common and everyone was doing it. But to do that now is awkward but I really wanna meet more people because I'm tired of spending most nights in my room doing nothing.
Plus I wanna get a girlfriend and there's this cute girl two dorms over and I have no idea how to approach her either.
Long story short, how do you make new friends and talk to members of the opposite (or in some cases the same) sex?

[Mercy Medical]

I'm not much help, but I typically don't. haha

I don't usually initiate conversations with new people. If I meet anyone new, they typically come up and talk to me. I'm usually a pretty shy person at first.

I was fortunate enough to be involved in soccer so I had pretty much instant relationships with people the moment I got to this school, although I don't really hang out with many of them.

I've always been shy and somewhat of a "loner" spending most of my time by myself at home. I need to change that however for my own sake and for the sake of my situation and being able to deal with stuff. :/

I'm sorry I'm not help...

[aolsux]

after MLK Jr. Day on Monday, I'm going to start meeting some new girls

[mondeoman]

I'm not much help, but I typically don't. haha

I don't usually initiate conversations with new people. If I meet anyone new, they typically come up and talk to me. I'm usually a pretty shy person at first.

I was fortunate enough to be involved in soccer so I had pretty much instant relationships with people the moment I got to this school, although I don't really hang out with many of them.

I've always been shy and somewhat of a "loner" spending most of my time by myself at home. I need to change that however for my own sake and for the sake of my situation and being able to deal with stuff. :/

I'm sorry I'm not help...
Yeah for your situation you defiantly need to get out and meet more people. Maybe you can meet cool people at shows? I dunno how many shows come to the Fuckin Fort. hahahaha I'm the one who needs help and I'm giving advice

[mondeoman]

after MLK Jr. Day on Monday, I'm going to start meeting some new girls
Yeah I heard about the break-up Aaron, I'm sorry.

[mondeoman]

Well, I'd just try to start a conversation with her. Catch her off guard one day or something and talk about anything. I don't really know how else to approach anyone, but I am a bit shy myself. I guess the hardest part is starting the convo.. Just chew a piece of gum and go talk to her :D Anyways, best of luck to what will happen!
hahaha that's better than my plan of going around asking for duct tape. I acutally dunno where she lives just that she lives in my block of dorms.

[aolsux]

Yeah I heard about the break-up Aaron, I'm sorry.
it's ok, thanks

[EnderDove]

Just start talking to her about something random, if she's wearing a shirt you like or anything like that just go up and start talking to her about it. Its easier said than done but wondering what if is the worst thing after you wait to long and dont do it.

[SK_mo]

i dunno, i used to be kinda shy around new people when i was in high school, but even back then whenever i'd go out with my friends i was always that goofy,annoying but lovable guy you'd see doing stupid stuff at the bowling alley or the movies or whereever. hence my user title...that guy.... anyways, i think that probably why i act like i do, if you can make someone laugh before you even get ttheir name, you're in. So just try to be funny I guess. But don't make it obvious. Just be yourself. I dunno, stand out in the hall and hand out bagels or waffels, something everybody loves and then if you don't see her, maybe the next time you run into her you could be like "hey, have you seen that guy who's handing out free bagels?" ....i dunno,haha, just try your scott weber pose again. that'll work.

[punklet2101]

I'm really, really shy too.... but I guess you just go up, introduce yourself kinda thing, general conversation... and then say hi and talk to them when you see them around and it'll become a regular thing and you'll become more comfortable with having a conversation with them

I dunno.. haha

[sleepygrlgreen]

Yeah I heard about the break-up Aaron, I'm sorry.

break-ups suck a lot.

[aolsux]

break-ups suck a lot.
yeah the do, but now i have new people to look forward to meeting and being with

[richter915]

band shirts = chick magnet.

[sleepygrlgreen]

yeah the do, but now i have new people to look forward to meeting and being with

enjoy.

[aolsux]

enjoy.
i shall, it'll be fun

[Skatetopunk]

Dude i used to be so shy.... but i finally realized that nothing i can do will make someone like me...all i can do is be true to myself and hope they like who i am...so just say fuck it and talk to her...what do you have to loose....besides you won't ever get anywhere if you avoid social situations...wether is's another guy or a girl just be confident in the fact that you were made the way you are and you will still be that way if they turn u down... I learned this cause i was way shorter than most throughout middle school and the start of high school... but i accepted how God assembled me and once i did that being confident and talking to strangers was easy

[Mad Caddie]

My problem is not knowing where to go after the conversation has started! Recently I've been catching up with a few people I met on MySpace at concerts and stuff, which is cool, but they are usually girls and seems to have a problem continuing conversations. I'm an open, welcoming guy, always with a smile and stuff, I do my best not to be threatening and I think I pull it off. I'll use an experience from the other day as a kind of scaffold to help illustrate: So I will walk up, say "Hi" and something about the situation we are in, like "how are you enjoying the concert". All is well. They will say "pretty good" and stop talking. Where do I go from there?? She doesnt seem disinterested (and later says you were funny and cute, but on the internet) but doesnt try very hard to continue. I'll scower my brain for things to bring up, but its usually just an awkward silence. Is it because they are shy? I just want a half decent conversation, but i need SOMETHING to go off. If i get effectively no respone i dont really have anything else to add. Any tips to help get the ladies to open up??

[Lueda Alia]

I'm way too shy so yeah, I have the hardest time meeting people. I always worry about what the conversation is going to be about. And I HATE silences, so yeah I sort of fear them.

I need to meet new people... BADLY. :(

[Mad Caddie]

Girls need to be less shy and more interesting. That would make my conversations ALOT easier! But I cant really blame them, I just wish male-female interaction was easier. People need to care less about what they say and what the other person might think. Take a risk and be yourself, the payoffs from that are always alot better than trying to hide your true personality. Please girls! It needs to be easier!!

[mondeoman]

Yeah I also have problems talking to my friends sometimes. For example, last night me and two friends went to Wal-Mart and then Border's and I barely even talked to them. It was kindof lame but I had no idea what to talk to them about. It also helps they weren't talking to me.

Suggestion about what to talk to the ladies about is after you talk about how you like the concert say something like "yeah this is my first time seeing them but I've heard a lot of good things about them" or something to that effect. Elaborate. Talk about music.

[Lueda Alia]

man, why do you two live so far away? It'd be awesome if you lived near here!

[sleepygrlgreen]

Yeah it is weird. It's my senior year and my famiy moved to another town so... new school as well. I don't like initiating conversation so I just sort of observe everyone. Two girls befriended me so that was nice. We hung out a few times, but I was pretty shy and really reluctant to say much. I don't say much at all at school or the people that these girls are friends with, but I'm beginning to open up to them at least... so, bottom line...it just takes time to warm up to people I guess.

[Skatetopunk]

My problem is not knowing where to go after the conversation has started! Recently I've been catching up with a few people I met on MySpace at concerts and stuff, which is cool, but they are usually girls and seems to have a problem continuing conversations. I'm an open, welcoming guy, always with a smile and stuff, I do my best not to be threatening and I think I pull it off. I'll use an experience from the other day as a kind of scaffold to help illustrate: So I will walk up, say "Hi" and something about the situation we are in, like "how are you enjoying the concert". All is well. They will say "pretty good" and stop talking. Where do I go from there?? She doesnt seem disinterested (and later says you were funny and cute, but on the internet) but doesnt try very hard to continue. I'll scower my brain for things to bring up, but its usually just an awkward silence. Is it because they are shy? I just want a half decent conversation, but i need SOMETHING to go off. If i get effectively no respone i dont really have anything else to add. Any tips to help get the ladies to open up??

dealing with stuf like that just requires you to be compleatly comfortable....rather than standing in ackward siclence...offer to get her a drink or something...if you can talk to someone online you can talk to them in person...the key in life is not to give a fuck and just do it

[deathgrin]

I'm really, really shy too.... but I guess you just go up, introduce yourself kinda thing, general conversation... and then say hi and talk to them when you see them around and it'll become a regular thing and you'll become more comfortable with having a conversation with them

I dunno.. haha
what she just said

[deathgrin]

Talk about music.
word up

[richter915]

I help people do their hw...if their not total assholes...we end up being friends...

chicks dig guys with cash and cars. you know...like that song...how's it go...oh ya...girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money...

so true. so true.

[Skatetopunk]

NOT TRUE....girls like nice, funny, carring guys......who drive pimp cars and buy them spinkley things.....

[Lueda Alia]

I help people do their hw...if their not total assholes...we end up being friends...

chicks dig guys with cash and cars. you know...like that song...how's it go...oh ya...girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money...

so true. so true.
hahaha.

well I have to admit.. I really did like my ex bf's car (but that's not why I dated him). I waaaaaaant it.

[Skatetopunk]

besides u dont wanna b frinds with anyone who is only with u for material reasons

[r0flc0pt3rz]

Not really a problem but...
You guys know how I am on here and it's not that much different than I am in real life. But I have a real problem going up to people and meeting them. It was a lot easier the first weeks of last semester because it was common and everyone was doing it. But to do that now is awkward but I really wanna meet more people because I'm tired of spending most nights in my room doing nothing.
Plus I wanna get a girlfriend and there's this cute girl two dorms over and I have no idea how to approach her either.
Long story short, how do you make new friends and talk to members of the opposite (or in some cases the same) sex?


i have the saaaame problem at my college. but the dorms around me are filled with people who i normally arent interested in (and vice versa) so it's harder to find things in common.

[punklet2101]

My problem is not knowing where to go after the conversation has started! Recently I've been catching up with a few people I met on MySpace at concerts and stuff, which is cool, but they are usually girls and seems to have a problem continuing conversations. I'm an open, welcoming guy, always with a smile and stuff, I do my best not to be threatening and I think I pull it off. I'll use an experience from the other day as a kind of scaffold to help illustrate: So I will walk up, say "Hi" and something about the situation we are in, like "how are you enjoying the concert". All is well. They will say "pretty good" and stop talking. Where do I go from there?? She doesnt seem disinterested (and later says you were funny and cute, but on the internet) but doesnt try very hard to continue. I'll scower my brain for things to bring up, but its usually just an awkward silence. Is it because they are shy? I just want a half decent conversation, but i need SOMETHING to go off. If i get effectively no respone i dont really have anything else to add. Any tips to help get the ladies to open up??

Note to self..... talk a lot to Ben when meeting him at shows

[mondeoman]

man, why do you two live so far away? It'd be awesome if you lived near here!
haha yeah we'd tear the town a new asshole.

[mondeoman]

I help people do their hw...if their not total assholes...we end up being friends...

chicks dig guys with cash and cars. you know...like that song...how's it go...oh ya...girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money...

so true. so true.
Oh dear god Richter just quoted Good Charlotte.

[Lueda Alia]

haha yeah we'd tear the town a new asshole.
seriously.

[SK_mo]

...the key in life is not to give a fuck and just do it

Now that's the truth. Doesnt matter what you're trying to do, just do it. And once ya try whatever it is at least once it'll get easier as you go along. It's true for talking to people, getting a new job, training for a triathalon. The main thing is to just expect the worst and hope for the best, that way if you get shot down oh well you expected it and if ya do get what you're going after then ya got what you hoped for. It's a win-win no matter what happens if you can learn to look at life like that.

[Skatetopunk]

Now that's the truth. Doesnt matter what you're trying to do, just do it. And once ya try whatever it is at least once it'll get easier as you go along. It's true for talking to people, getting a new job, training for a triathalon. The main thing is to just expect the worst and hope for the best, that way if you get shot down oh well you expected it and if ya do get what you're going after then ya got what you hoped for. It's a win-win no matter what happens if you can learn to look at life like that.

It sounds so simple...but living like this really will make everything easier...now thats not to say you won't ever be nervous or embarased....but u can deal with it.....it is like riding a rollercoaster or jumpin in to a cold pool....just close your eyes and fuckin jump..let God sort out the details

[Skatetopunk]

Oh dear god Richter just quoted Good Charlotte.

I think that is a sin....

[yeknom]

Not really a problem but...
You guys know how I am on here and it's not that much different than I am in real life. But I have a real problem going up to people and meeting them. It was a lot easier the first weeks of last semester because it was common and everyone was doing it. But to do that now is awkward but I really wanna meet more people because I'm tired of spending most nights in my room doing nothing.
Plus I wanna get a girlfriend and there's this cute girl two dorms over and I have no idea how to approach her either.
Long story short, how do you make new friends and talk to members of the opposite (or in some cases the same) sex?

im guessing you attend OU? im going down there to visit some friends in about 3 weeks, if u want to party with us maybe i c an introduce u to some people or something

[sleepygrlgreen]

Oh dear god Richter just quoted Good Charlotte.

What's wrong with that? They're awefuly spiffy.

[Unreasonable]

if the girl is in your class or something and that's where you've seen her talk to her about that or sit by her in class, if you guys eat at the dining halls go to one you think she goes to most of the time. eye contact is really a good effective way to intrigue girls... some guy in my class today kept glancing over at me today and i really want new friends as well so i'm thinking i might go sit closer to him the next class...and just gradual. Just pick whatever style you're more comfortable with, slow and gradual or just walk up and be like hey im ____. But if she's with friends it's kind of weird. Catch her when she's alone, if you pass her on the sidewalk make eye contact and smile. there are lots of ways, it's just painful to do things like that when you're shy, believe me i know. but you just have to, especially if you're lonely and don't like it.... so change it and get out there and get her tiger!

[mondeoman]

im guessing you attend OU? im going down there to visit some friends in about 3 weeks, if u want to party with us maybe i c an introduce u to some people or something
Yes sir. That'd be cool.

[mondeoman]

if the girl is in your class or something and that's where you've seen her talk to her about that or sit by her in class, if you guys eat at the dining halls go to one you think she goes to most of the time. eye contact is really a good effective way to intrigue girls... some guy in my class today kept glancing over at me today and i really want new friends as well so i'm thinking i might go sit closer to him the next class...and just gradual. Just pick whatever style you're more comfortable with, slow and gradual or just walk up and be like hey im ____. But if she's with friends it's kind of weird. Catch her when she's alone, if you pass her on the sidewalk make eye contact and smile. there are lots of ways, it's just painful to do things like that when you're shy, believe me i know. but you just have to, especially if you're lonely and don't like it.... so change it and get out there and get her tiger!
haha thanks man. Yeah one of the girls is in my Psych class but she's always with her friend and I feel weird talking to them because I'm myspace friends with her friend. I know that sounds really stupid but idk. I will talk to this girl soon tho.

[selftitled85]

Not really a problem but...
You guys know how I am on here and it's not that much different than I am in real life. But I have a real problem going up to people and meeting them. It was a lot easier the first weeks of last semester because it was common and everyone was doing it. But to do that now is awkward but I really wanna meet more people because I'm tired of spending most nights in my room doing nothing.
Plus I wanna get a girlfriend and there's this cute girl two dorms over and I have no idea how to approach her either.
Long story short, how do you make new friends and talk to members of the opposite (or in some cases the same) sex?

haha im basically the same way man. its hard for me. but in rare occasions when i grow balls and go up to girls and talk to them, a good starter is "im sorry you look really familiar, were you in one of my classes?" and then go on from there. it seems really sketchy but it works and all.

[Signals Corrupted]

i have big hair, and girls seem to like it, so they touch it, and then i touch their hair, and then we talk. :lol2: its cool.

im better at meeting girls when im alone, cos if im with my friends i dont because i dont wanna be rejected in front of them and then get made fun of lol.

[richter915]

i have big hair, and girls seem to like it, so they touch it, and then i touch their hair, and then we talk. :lol2: its cool.

im better at meeting girls when im alone, cos if im with my friends i dont because i dont wanna be rejected in front of them and then get made fun of lol.
I pick chicks up by doing their hw for them...it's genius.

I also seem to "work" better alone...if my friends are around like...things suddenly become really competitive...guys totally act different when there's a woman around...personally, I hate it...

but I've made friends literally by talking about books and school (sounds loserly but that's what I like in a girl)...you

[mondeoman]

Bump.

Yeah so I've talked to some cool people at my school through AIM but that's not going anywhere.